What nobody tells you about losing weight
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Your body will become less squishy but somehow more comfy to live in! 😊15
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elmusho1989 wrote: »Your body will become less squishy but somehow more comfy to live in! 😊
Apart from when it comes to sitting down on hard surfaces. - I'm going to miss that natural cushion when it dissapears again.
Small trair-off against increased stamina, better breathing even when going up stairs, and more comfortable sleep, though.13 -
What nobody told me I would hear on repeat once I reached a healthy weight, and typically from people who didn’t know me 50 lbs heavier: “you’re thin, you’re lucky!” or “you have a fast metabolism, you wouldn’t understand how hard it is” and my favorite “you have good genetics, you can eat anything” when I’m eating bread or something forbidden in their diet.
I never got mad, heck it was a compliment in my book. I guess I’ve always looked this size haha. But once the weight is lost, it’s hard for people to imagine your journey and that’s okay.31 -
I've actually struggled with self-confidence more, or in a different way, since losing some weight. I was 300 lbs. I lost about 65 lbs and was noticibly smaller to most people. But at that point I was very torn with my image vs reality because the skin was starting to sag in a few places. That really kind of depressed me and made me feel just, ugly. And, simultaneously, that was about April, 2020. Between that and sadness/anxiety/mild depression from '2020' itself, I've gained back 25 lbs.
Right now, I'm 'feeling' the weight again. My clothes are getting tight and shirts a little too short, and I'm at the point that I must get a hold myself or I'm going to have to buy new, bigger clothes and will probably get back to 300.
I never really thought about weightloss extra skin would be a deterrent for me. It didn't bother my husband. And it really wasn't noticible to other people, but it was flabby and actually uncomfortable with wearing pants or even sitting in some positions. I'm not sure what to do. I know that, medically, I'm healthier at less weight. I breathe better, sleep better, and generally feel better. At 300 lbs I was pushing into diabetes and high blood pressure. At 235 those seemed to be normal levels again. I was nearly halfway to my goal weight range of 150-160.
I'm not losing weigh to get attention. I want to be healthier and not a glutton. I want to be a good example for my children and to have more energy and stamina to live daily life, of which I was certainly gaining.
I'm rambling a bit now - I apologize.
I'm not sure that I've ever heard that after losing a significant amount of weight that I would feel less confident and uglier. But knowing that I'm healthier is probably going to be the prime motivation for me if I can get a hold of this. I crossed up over to 260 this morning.
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StephanieLWS wrote: »I never really thought about weightloss extra skin would be a deterrent for me. It didn't bother my husband. And it really wasn't noticible to other people, but it was flabby and actually uncomfortable with wearing pants or even sitting in some positions. I'm not sure what to do. I know that, medically, I'm healthier at less weight. I breathe better, sleep better, and generally feel better. At 300 lbs I was pushing into diabetes and high blood pressure. At 235 those seemed to be normal levels again.
I'm not looking to be sexy or get attention. I want to be healthier and not a glutton. I want to be a good example for my children and to have more energy and stamina to live daily life, of which I was certainly gaining.
I'm rambling a bit now - I apologize.
I'm not sure that I've ever heard that after losing a significant amount of weight that I would feel less confident and uglier. But knowing that I'm healthier is probably going to be the prime motivation for me if I can get a hold of this. I crossed up over to 260 this morning.
I hear you about the loose skin! I have some too and wouldn't like it if it were worse. Loose skin does recover after a while, especially after more fat disappears and there is less to continue stretching it. It's wonderful that your health is better! Slower weight loss tends to help reduce the loose skin issue as does weight training. My main point here is, it DOES get better. So you have that to look forward to.
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@StephanieLWS - I lost 125 pounds. I have a turkey neck, dimpled thighs and something that looks like flubber in my lower abdomen. (It's actually very entertaining to play with!). Bodies are imperfect. You will never have a perfect body, because none of us do. But you will have a stronger body, a more resilient body, a healthier body, and yes, even a beautiful, though imperfect body when you get back on track. The loose skin is real, it does get better over time, and if it causes discomfort, there are surgical solutions. For myself, I plan to see what happens after 2 years in maintenance. I'm hopeful it will get better. I'm also learning to appreciate it.
Learning to love and appreciate your body at every weight is an important tool that will help you on your weight loss journey. I know it's not easy - it takes work and requires you reprogram the negative self image you've carried with you for so many years. But you owe it to yourself to find things you love about your body and learn to love its many imperfections.49 -
Everyones comments seem to be positive ones, my answer when reading this was "how much money you'll have to spend on surgeries afterwards". I get it, there are hundreds of positives I guess I just thought of the downside first probably because I am one surgery down and about to spend 12,000 on another.. it hits hard sometimes!
For a positive... umm.. nobody told me I'd have such cute high cheek bones after loosing weight. 100lbs+ in total.27 -
I didn't expect to have to need a new desk chair. I didn't get an especially big one or anything, but now I can't seem to comfortably use both armrests (arms are too far apart to be comfortable) and I'm not sure where to go to buy a comfortable chair that's narrower? Idek. Me and my cat can comfortably share the chair so that's been great for cat snuggles! Which is always a plus.
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your average calorie burn is significantly less when you weigh less.
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A lot of "mystery" aches, pains and physical glitches go away or get better. I'm more comfortable just laying in bed.16
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StephanieLWS wrote: »I never really thought about weightloss extra skin would be a deterrent for me. It didn't bother my husband. And it really wasn't noticible to other people, but it was flabby and actually uncomfortable with wearing pants or even sitting in some positions. I'm not sure what to do. I know that, medically, I'm healthier at less weight. I breathe better, sleep better, and generally feel better. At 300 lbs I was pushing into diabetes and high blood pressure. At 235 those seemed to be normal levels again. I was nearly halfway to my goal weight range of 150-160.
I'm not losing weigh to get attention. I want to be healthier and not a glutton. I want to be a good example for my children and to have more energy and stamina to live daily life, of which I was certainly gaining.
I'm rambling a bit now - I apologize.
I'm not sure that I've ever heard that after losing a significant amount of weight that I would feel less confident and uglier. But knowing that I'm healthier is probably going to be the prime motivation for me if I can get a hold of this. I crossed up over to 260 this morning.
I know what you mean. I'm finally past the halfway mark to my end goal and at around the same point you started struggling with that, so did I. I have a friend who wanted some updated nudes of me (totally fine, he's not a creep) and at first he had a hard time understanding why I was so uncomfortable and self-conscious, when that wasn't the case at a notably higher weight.
It's so easy to expect that the good points of losing will always outweigh the bad, but it just isn't true. It's hard. Nothing feels quite right anymore. Plump (overly so) flesh replaced by smaller flabby sag is rough to adjust to.
One of the best things I've seen posted in threads like this is that there's very very commonly a period where you do look worse before you look better, and you just have to hang on and see it through.
Easy to say, harder to internalize.23 -
That because I'm a 50 year old woman, I would feel like I'm in a skin elasticity/weight loss race!15
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Your earlobes get wrinkles...12
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That you would shell out 10 grand on a tummy tuck and 1200$ on a rad tattoo to cover your scar13
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The wife and I still like to play "slug bug" when we see a Volkswagen Beetle. This week she got a "slug bug" in and gave me a bruise!5
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- That you will suddenly have the energy and enthusiasm to do things you've always wanted to do but hadn't gotten around to - like go to grad school.
- That going to grad school represents a dramatic life change that will require a change in the eating and exercise habits that brought down your weight.
- That you will then gain more weight than you lost.
- That losing that weight again will be harder than losing it the first time.
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- That you will suddenly have the energy and enthusiasm to do things you've always wanted to do but hadn't gotten around to - like go to grad school.
- That going to grad school represents a dramatic life change that will require a change in the eating and exercise habits that brought down your weight.
- That you will then gain more weight than you lost.
- That losing that weight again will be harder than losing it the first time.
But you are doing it. - And grad school! Honestly, I did not know if I should press the "Hug" or "Inspiring" button.12 -
Just because you're lighter doesn't translate to faster running/jogging speed and that you need to still do VO2 training to get faster.
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That maintenance is it’s own journey and just as challenging...37
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