WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR APRIL 2021

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  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,701 Member
    Hi All
    Just starting my weight loss journey. I gained 30lbs when I quit smoking a year 1/2 ago. It's time to get it off. I am learning about calorie deficit but heard may be more difficult to lose this way due to being in menopause. Is this true or has anyone experienced this? I am not big into exercising. So looking for something to help me shed all this weight and belly
    Any advice would be much appreciated 🙏

    Calorie deficit is the only way to lose weight.

    However, how you accomplish calorie deficit can be different from one person to the next.

    Welcome here!

    M in Oz
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Just watched Smokey & the Bandit on TV. I hadn't seen it in quite a few years and enjoyed it. Burt Reynolds, & Sally Field were doing a good job. Jackie Gleason as the Sheriff was my favorite character. He provided lots of grumpy humor. After watching the news for the past week or two I appreciated the opportunity to laugh.
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,701 Member
    GodMomKim wrote: »
    Hi Gals,
    Michele – Ok I know we all have different homes and life styles, but when you said your bedroom was 17x23, I was so surprised, that seemed big…. So the tape measure came out and my bedroom which is the master bed room is 11.5 x 11, and my living room the biggest room in my home is 17x12. I would like my bed room to be just a tiny bit bigger maybe 12 x 13 I would be able to rearrange the furniture a bit. But my room has a queen bed, a simple book case, a dresser, a nightstand and my desk. I honestly can not imagine what I would put in a room as big as yours.

    Smiles, Kim in Northern California

    I had to do a conversion from metric to imperial.

    Our sleeping room is 11' x 8'9" (336.7 cm x 267 cm). We can fit our king-sized bed in there. Just. But it makes a cozy sleeping den.

    Our dressing room is just shy of 11' x 8'8" (335 cm x 265.5 cm) - not including the closet. It holds a fairly big wardrobe and 3 dressers plus a blanket box in the middle for us to sit on when we dress or put the laundry basket on.

    Our office is 11'2" x 7'8" (340 cm x 235 cm) - not including the closet. It contains a desk, three book shelves and a filing cabinet. It has a small closet and when I get it organised, I might put a shelf in there too.

    I wouldn't mind if these rooms were slightly larger so that I could put a futon in the office or dressing room, but as we never have overnight guests, that's not really necessary.

    Our bathroom (without a toilet) and toilet room are relatively large. If I owned the place, I'd move the toilet into the bathroom (lots of room in there for it) and push the laundry room over, and create another closet or make a large walk-in closet. But I don't own the place and it is OK as it is. I use the bathroom as an exercise room sometimes. I've often got a basket of weights in there. :)


    I don't like the big fluffy pillows either ... not enough support for me. Mine is quite firm and works well for me when I sleep on my side. If I roll over to my stomach, I push it out of the way and I've got a very thin thing (I think it is actually a flat seat cushion for a patio set) under my sheet which keeps my head up just a bit like your thin pillow does.


    M in Oz
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,802 Member
    edited April 2021
    Kim - i am a front sleeper too, so I deliberately ordered a soft down and feather pillow for sleeping on. It stated 'suitable for front sleepers'. I slept on it last night and it was great! It really crushed down , but was very comfortable. I am incredibly fussy about pillows too. The second pillow is firmer, synthetic, to be used for propping me up for reading.
    DH has the same synthetic pillow, but I bought him a medium firm down and feather to put on top. He likes two to sleep with. In the night I saw he had fallen off both and his head was sideways on the bed! :D I haven't asked him yet if it helped the wheezing at night.
    I now have four pillows in the garage to add to the pile of stuff to take to the dump. He won't go on his own and I hate getting in the car. I think I will have to go with him though. We have a mountain of stuff.

    Katla - I'm sad for you that you live so far away. I hope the vaccine will give you both confidence to go on a visit soon. I know how difficult it is when a spouse has poor health. If I go away for a night or two on my own in the future I will have to make some arrangement to check on DH. (Worry about falling in the night) I thought I could ask him to WhatsApp my son each morning to say he was fine. Or he could stay in their guest room for a night. It's difficult, because pride is involved. But he has lost a lot of confidence since he banged his head. I won't let it stop me though, as he can make some sensible arrangement.
    When he was having anxiety attacks I asked his sister to stay with him, but she has physical difficulties of her own now, plus a boyfriend.

    Tracey - I do love to see them. When Max was around two we asked him how old he thought his friend Johnny was was. He thought for a bit and said, "I think he's eight." !!!!!!!! The other grandchildren equally adore him, but I think the two boys thing is special.
    When Max was born DH told me he was a little bit worried about feeling out of it as they weren't his biological grandchildren. He thought my son and DDIL might not feel the same way about him. But it's been quite the opposite. They were the ones who asked DH to help Max through his difficult times recently. She told him they were very privileged to have him. :D<3
    I hope to do the same for the girls as they grow up. But I think nobody sees me as a sensible person. :o:p

    Picking up Bea at 11.30, complete with Marmite sandwiches and pain chocolat. I expect she will want to ride her new scooter.
    This evening we have the painter coming for an estimate. Got to think of a meal I can work around that. Not a soufflé then.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,164 Member
    edited April 2021
    Good morning all. It looks like another lovely day here so I am hoping that I can have some exercise outside.

    Love all the beautiful pictures of spring flowers and the grandchildren.

    Heather: 😍 The relationship between Johnny and the grands. I love watching DH interacting with our grandchildren, even though they are adults now. Enjoy your outing with Bea.
    Pillows: We replace our pillows every couple of years or so. I used to be a side sleeper and had one firmish pillow which cradled my head. I have four or 5 pillows on my bed now and I normally sleep on my back as it’s much too difficult on my knees to find a comfortable sleeping position.
    Kim inNC: I sympathise with you about the critical mother. After my marriage I had to distance myself from mine because of her attitude to my DH. She did everything she could to try and split us.
    Tracey: I’m the exact opposite to you. I love cooking, but see housework as a necessity. Not a pleasure. Love the story about your youngest.
    Kylia: 😍All the cabin stuff. You seem to be having a lot of fun kitting out your little hidey hole.
    Lisa: I know what you mean. You would think that they would have a dress code for their presenters.
    Nicole and other new people. Welcome to our group. It’s a busy group but do not feel that you have to reply to every post. Just jump in when something sparks your interest. Calorie deficit is the only way to lose weight. I use exercise to increase the number of calories I have available. I have found that you have to permanently change your habits if you want to lose the weight and keep it off.

    DH has just informed me that the weather is due to break after lunch today so I must get up and have my breakfast so that we can go out for an early walk.

    My second pot of amaryllis is in full bloom this week.
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    ☘️ Terri
  • spikeyhair
    spikeyhair Posts: 2,078 Member
    Welcome newbies, drop in and chat when you want or need to.

    I didn’t have a good week eating wise but getting back to it got to lose those pesky last few pounds.

    Worry a bit about DH his memory is definitely getting worse, I mentioned that we hadn’t reimbursed his brother for the part he’d put in the boiler in Feb he said he didn’t remember. They worked on the boiler for a couple of days and I showed him the receipt for the part, I couldn’t understand why he couldn’t remember. I was so frustrated that I had to leave the room nearly in tears. Fear this will happen more but not sure how I cope. He doesn’t seem to be bothered but maybe he is, just not showing it.

    Sunny here but we are getting heavy frosts at night, have stuff that needs planting out. Hopefully it will warm up a little by the weekend.

    Hairdresser appointment next Monday 👍👍

    Stay safe

    Kate UK ❤️
  • auntiebk
    auntiebk Posts: 2,623 Member
    edited April 2021
    "Get to do"s and "chose well"s
    Chose well: Shadow to powerline, found locksmith-only makes keys on Fridays from 1-4, delivered keys and invoice to fire hall,
    Bonus: 2+ hour Riverview trail hike.
    Get to do: take BP, dogs to powerline, find those torture bands, call Wild Rivers (541 247 3514) for dog wash/nail trim appointments, follow up with Chetco Medical re: labs not approved, bank to turn in pennies, ask Nick or Traci about revised escrow statement and refi, call D re: sticky keyboard, Norton and windows updates, call S, ongoing: fire district: find locksmith to copy mailbox key, input 2019 call sheets into NFIRS, work with chief on equipment letter, substance abuse policy, NFIRS mutual aid and other missing details, call Credit union re: credit card, ask for boots donator contact info, appreciation letter or certificate to boots donator, index mutual aid files; watch STAS Day 20, declutter sideboard, practice new dances (Do Your Thing, Pure Movies to Wine, Beer, Whiskey, I ain’t never gonna love nobody but Cornell Crawford (Alley cat), A Little Less Broken, One Margarita, I’m so used to being broke, All Night, Nothing but You, Blame it on my beating heart, Homesick); finish mulching flowerbed, invest another 10 minutes in prepping living trust, Freddie’s for complete series TDAP <$48, get Shingrix vaccine, find and configure a screen time popup, figure out where to plant the last of the naked lady bulbs, and soon as it warms up above 50 and dries out below 60% humidity I’ll tape and spray paint those rusted areas of Aunt Elsie’s stove. Reconcile Joe’s EOB’s Thrivent shows only 2263.48 so far, next BGBS ask Terry about GB’s FD firetruck tax levy – contacts, media, advocate???, Reward: inventory seeds, plan this spring’s garden, wishlist replenishments (Milena F1 orange peppers), Wednesday: county planning office neighbor’s plans, district board meeting, Thursday: Chiro, Friday copy mailbox key.
    Active April:
    13: Move as much as possible, even if you’re stuck inside:

    Absolutely gorgeous day. Blue skies, sunshine, mid-sixties, mild breeze. Riverview trail hike with T got so warm I had to remove my sweater, the Chetco effect winds along the river made it into the mid seventies at least. I am so grateful for T, she doesn’t seem to mind going slowly with me. We notice different flowers, mushrooms, rock formations, views, all while chatting. Just read a blurb interviewing Dr. Sanjay Gupta:” So, what is the best thing you can do for your brain? Per Gupta, "Take a brisk walk, with a close friend, and discuss your problems." Sure felt good! Then afterwards it really felt good to sit down :laugh: Knees are a little achy from dancing on concrete Sunday, then long hike today, but that feels good in a way too, like I really did something…

    Machka the instant gratification you mention of clean floor after vacuuming lasts only moments until the dogs come back inside. Cleaning is effort that just must be made over and over and over again. Think Sisyphus. The satisfaction is so brief, the dissatisfaction so immediate, I’m happier ignoring the spruce needles and dog hair until they stand up and demand eviction :laugh: You look so happy cycling! You’re right about the right mattress and pillow making me reluctant to get up in the mornings.
    Heather Eeuwwww! https://www.ehso.com/dustmites.php makes me glad I don’t sleep on Joe’s grandma’s pillows, but hope those feces don’t migrate to my chiropractic foam neck pillow :laugh: Think I’ll spritz mine with peppermint oil just in case. Your DDIL’s mot was juste. “… not a soufflé then” :laugh:
    Barbie thanks for your Gretchen Rubins, especially explaining the “make the positive argument.”
    Welcome back Meg. Deep breath. We can do this!
    Allie “…the company is always a laugh…” the very best medicine is laughing (and sometimes crying) with friends.
    Kylia looking forward to pics of your Kentucky place in progress.
    Julie what is the “eskimo” you mentioned? Some kind of non-dairy ice cream bar? Doing the happy dance for your new washing machine.
    Annie relieved to hear the roast is gone. Well done!
    Welcome @NicolePulverStritesky and con VERY gratulations on quitting smoking. The number one most important choice you can make for your health. Well done!
    Lisa ditto everyone’s :laugh: at your rant. More than possible I’m a cranky old woman too!
    Tracey sure hope you will be well compensated for having to work Sunday. Your and Vicki’s new systems sagas just reinforce my choice to retire when I did. The company was on the brink of new industry-specific software, new email, cloud based productivity software and a merger. It would have been H E double toothpicks. I was so very very very lucky to be able to leave when I did.
    Kim “…I do not need to be invested in their life choices…” Wise words!
    Katla Smokey and the Bandit definitely qualifies as fun to me… :laugh:
    Kate ((hugs))

    Time for another aspirin (pesky knee) and bed.

    Lighter, lovelies!
    f8qt1s098sxm.gifBarbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
    April: leaner/stronger/kinder than March.
    daily: sit with Joe: 12, weigh/wii: 12/0/0; steps>5627=9772 :flushed: vits=12, log=12, CI<CO=11, CI<250<CO=10, Tumble=17, Shadow=15, mfp=12, outside=16 up hill=16
    wkly: BB&B,T’ai Chi or SWSY x3= rx=2 dance=1, clean 30 mins=5.33, packwalk=4, wt=1/31:141.3 2/28:142.4 3/31:145.3 4/4:140.3 :grin: 4/11: 140.9 4/18: 4/25:
    mnthly: board mtg=, grant=1, 21 plan= bonus: AF=8 play= sew= waist=
    2021: choose to be leaner/stronger/kinder NOW
  • kymarai
    kymarai Posts: 3,740 Member
    :)
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    edited April 2021
    Barbara

    Lovely weather here too, but coooold, (around zero for low). i get repeated satisfaction from cleaning, within degrees. however i don't have dog nor kids so it lasts longer. i do not how every day there is new dust regardless. :D
    Julie what is the “eskimo” you mentioned? Some kind of non-dairy ice cream bar? Doing the happy dance for your new washing machine.

    yes, a non-dairy non cane sugar icecream bar. thank you for the washing machine. it's to arrive in next hour and a half or so.

    Kate,
    Worry a bit about DH his memory is definitely getting worse, I mentioned that we hadn’t reimbursed his brother for the part he’d put in the boiler in Feb he said he didn’t remember. They worked on the boiler for a couple of days and I showed him the receipt for the part, I couldn’t understand why he couldn’t remember. I was so frustrated that I had to leave the room nearly in tears. Fear this will happen more but not sure how I cope. He doesn’t seem to be bothered but maybe he is, just not showing it.
    sorry about that. that must be truly hard. maybe he is not so aware he is forgetting. not that it's a save all, but there must be lots of online literature about spouses and others losing memory. It seems to me like many are dealing with memory loss - relative to when 20 years old, at faster or slower rates. w my 2 colleagues who seem quite sharp we all admitted we all have memory issues at some moments, and how it's disturbing sometimes. one colleague is very sharp but he said he doesn't remember things much and so he takes copious notes, and it still managing quite well.

    Nicole, welcome !
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    after sooo busy weekend and half day of working yesterday, i made a plan to take today light/off-ish;
    i went for my coffee 15 min round trip from home, then worked on getting an appointment for my mac computer which has always been defective from day one. first they denied it. then years later they admitted and repaired when it stopped working. but the repair was lame and it is sometimes no longer chargeable. (there are 2 usbC ports for charging and other, and after "repair" one still didn't work and now the other one doesn't. i had to spend a good half hour on the phone to get an appointment likely recognizing their error.(hopefully). i have to save my hard disk again. I was feeling not totallhy relaxed and after that time on phone i felt so angry. i can feel so angry when on long online tech calls. i'm no model of patience in that context. :| So then i went to my 4 x 15 min cleaning ritual. Feel somewhat better.
    -Scrubbed almost half of the wooden old revarnished floor in 2 rooms. (about 200 sq meters done- needs to be done with a sponge really every few months really - a mop doesn't get the bits of dust or whatever that eventually sticks into the grains- it's an old parquet floor.
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    (about 2 and half 15 min sessions). I'll do the rest of the floor in one or two other sessions, since that involves moving furniture, and i was afraid the washer would come, and it's a bit tiring. i once got a lumbago (back went out seriously for several days) on the morning of my birthday, just before a trip involving many stairs and walking, on an energetic cleaning session, so i try not to overdo it now.

    - finished totally cleaning out main area of main closet. whoa! great! made so much space and order! i love it. i wonder why i didn't do that eons ago!


    Bed and other stuff already moved early in the morning to make path for washer.
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,701 Member
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  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,158 Member
    Sitting here waiting for Dan ,he is getting first vaccine,im guessing either moderna or Pfizer ,they are curtailing the J and J because of possible blood clots.. when i went for mine,they have it like a well oiled machine and i am guessing they are doing the same thing here.. im sure they will have him sit for 15 minutes to make sure there are no reactions...
    After dropping him off will go.see the boys and take them.for a walk ,go home do some laundry and do some picking up..
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    i was writing a nice response to several comments in past hours and poof! computer went dead;

    grrrr
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    washer in, finally!

    god i'm sooo tired with all this tech stuff. i feel reeeeaaally stressed out.
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    a colleague with whom i work often, nearly 60, (but with whom i have only distance contact except for maybe 1x a month, and not in past weeks) went to his GP for a jab on saturday, and found out late last night that his GP has covid- so my colleague has become a contact due to his jab!
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    i'm in poor humour today - i feel stressed and angry - i think it's partly the tech stuff.

    it is nice to have working washer again. they are so efficient! in with the new, hooked up, out with the old, in minutes.

    in a couple days or so i'll have all clean clothes, sheets, towels agian. what a treat!

  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,268 Member
    :'( Jake's computer crashed yesterday afternoon and after a friend walked him through what should have fixed it, it still said something really negative. He is considering the possibility that he acquired some terrible deadly computer virus as the result of playing an online game. He is reaching out to another friend to find a solution and I am doing my best to stay out of it. I told him that I am not concerned with the cost of solving the problem but am concerned about his state of mind. He said he was OK but he stayed up really late last night watching TV.

    :) A friend of mine who lives on a small social security check and bartering, once told me "Money isn't the game, it's just a way to keep score". She inspires me with her gratitude for what she has and he lack of complaint for what she doesn't have.

    :) I spent an hour yesterday pulling weeds and spreading bark. I don't like cleaning my house, but I do like cleaning my yard.

    <3 Barbie in NW WA
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,371 Member
    Xxxxxx
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,802 Member
    <3:p Lovely scooter walk with Bea. We met up with Edie and her friend in the park, where she is on football camp. It was their lunchbreak. We celebrated yesterday's unlocking of outdoor cafés by having tea and ice cream at the park café. Great to sit in the sun at an actual table. :)
    Got back to say hello to Max, who had been out for lunch with his dad. <3 Nice man to man thing.
    On our walk home i picked up frozen dim sum, frozen artichokes, za'atar, and other spices. DH ordered 4 bottles of rosé wine two white, and Brittany cider.
    What a good day.
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    Love Heather UK xxxxxx

    Plus my brother and his wife celebrating the unlocking. They sent this pic.
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    :p<3

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,701 Member
    Poor little Tassie is about to be swallowed up! Blustery day tomorrow - they are predicting winds up to 100 km/h. Think I will wear long pants to work instead of my usual dress or skirt.

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  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,701 Member
    Peach1948 wrote: »

    Michele
    Do you have a definite date for visiting Denise? It seems like she was hesitant when you asked. I think you would enjoy your visit more if you stayed in a hotel close by so you could all have some space. But, just my humble opinion! The last time my brother in law and his wife visited for almost a week, i think we were all miserable.


    Carol in GA


    That is a very good idea!

    When we visit family we usually don't stay with them. We will spend time there .. and spend some time away sightseeing. But nights are usually elsewhere to give us all a break.

    M in Oz
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,802 Member
    So sorry for those of you with spouses with cognitive issues. Kate UK, it must be a real worry for you and it may be time to start looking for support and help. Doctor, charities and the like. The more information you can get the better prepared you will be. Have you done your LPAs for example. I have started mine and hope to persuade a reluctant DH to do his.
    It is very frightening and frustrating to be facing this, but you are not alone and you can reach out for help.
    My DH is having very bad nights and getting anxious about it, but he is fine in the daytime and not showing mental deterioration. I try to reassure him about the night problem. Doctors here are overwhelmed with post covid log jams, but if you don't apply for attention you can't move up the queue.
    Love to all , Heather UK xxxxxx
  • spikeyhair
    spikeyhair Posts: 2,078 Member
    HEATHER I downloaded LPA stuff a few years ago but got bogged down so left it. I’ve sorted all the paperwork now and it’s up to date. Think I will do the Living Will first as that helps clarify what you want to happen health wise. We’ve got wills and money is in joint accounts, our house isn’t worth much and kids both have their own homes. Wether I can get DH to do his is another matter.

    Kate UK ❤️
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,913 Member
    Meg, welcome back!

    Nicole, we're glad to have you - just drop into a conversation anywhere.

    Weird rant for the evening, upon watching the meteorologist who is dressed in a skin tight, white dress that literally showed the contours of her belly button, and if she had turned far enough, probably shown the brand on her underwear:

    If you are announcing the weather or the news, I do NOT want to know that you are anatomically correct. I really don't. I don't care whether you are a man or a woman or of a differing gender. I just turned to your channel to find out how long I can expect the thunder-boomers outside, and if there are damaging winds accompanying it. Your belly button is not germane to this discussion.

    Rant over.

    Sigh.

    It's possible I'm a cranky old woman.

    Later, y'all,
    Love,
    Lisa

    Ah no Lisa, weather women annoy me too! I know they have a legitimate job and all, but do they have to be visually so distracting! Some times its a "you picked out these clothes and jewelry on PURPOSE" deal. Ours out of Seattle seems to be on the verge of a laugh, thinking her tone is meant to keep us in a happy mood. It just sounds weird to me. Most of the time they talk of weather all around our island and we just guesstimate what the temperature should be. When it is posted be hoot and holler like they just discovered us! I do feel like we're aliens out in Puget Sound.
    Hugs!
    💖 Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Washington