WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2021

Today after exercising and working up a sweat, I checked my blood pressure. 116/83. BPM 115
I am happy about that.
👍

I’m at a 3380 day streak. I need 3652.43 motto get to 10 years. 272 more days to go

Debbie in Napa Valley: I sit here in awe of all the work you and your mom have done and propose to do. I hope she takes care not to overdo it. If I was her neighbor I would definitely step up to help out.

Allie: Agree, it sucks how your brother and SIL are treating you and Alfie. I totally get the need to get out of your condo, and hope that the right opportunity presents itself.

I have a short trip planned beginning Sunday. I am in possession of DH's cremains, and my plan is to scatter part of them in the ocean off Santa Barbara. It is where we met, and he had some of his best diving and surfing experiences. I leave Sunday for three nights, and though I wish I could extend and travel around the coast for awhile, I can't leave my sick brother or board the cat for too long. Just the prospect of being alone for a little while to reflect and recharge has me very excited. A friend from high school lives in the next city, and she will come join me for dinner one night. Otherwise, it's a totally solo adventure.

The cremation society also included a lovely heart-shaped pendant which has a tiny chamber for a smidgen of his ashes. I'll never wear it, but have added it to the memorial I have set up in the living room. I look at his stuff and still have to pinch myself to realize 'yes, this is my husband we are talking about.' We were attached at the hip for the last three years. There is still so much of his presence here in the house despite my effort to clear a little bit every day. When you lose someone to dementia, you grieve twice: once for the ambiguous loss when the disease takes away their personality and memories, and then again when they leave this world. 😭

Other than occasional deep pangs of nostalgia that send me into a gusher of tears, I'm doing okay. I continue to swim, exercise, eat decently and get lost in sports and Netflix. We have unusually hot weather for this region, so staying inside is just fine for now. Stay well, friends.

Rori
Still going with the FLOW
Colorado Foothills

Poerava14 wrote: »

Debbie in Napa Valley: I sit here in awe of all the work you and your mom have done and propose to do. I hope she takes care not to overdo it. If I was her neighbor I would definitely step up to help out.

Allie: Agree, it sucks how your brother and SIL are treating you and Alfie. I totally get the need to get out of your condo, and hope that the right opportunity presents itself.

I have a short trip planned beginning Sunday. I am in possession of DH's cremains, and my plan is to scatter part of them in the ocean off Santa Barbara. It is where we met, and he had some of his best diving and surfing experiences. I leave Sunday for three nights, and though I wish I could extend and travel around the coast for awhile, I can't leave my sick brother or board the cat for too long. Just the prospect of being alone for a little while to reflect and recharge has me very excited. A friend from high school lives in the next city, and she will come join me for dinner one night. Otherwise, it's a totally solo adventure.

The cremation society also included a lovely heart-shaped pendant which has a tiny chamber for a smidgen of his ashes. I'll never wear it, but have added it to the memorial I have set up in the living room. I look at his stuff and still have to pinch myself to realize 'yes, this is my husband we are talking about.' We were attached at the hip for the last three years. There is still so much of his presence here in the house despite my effort to clear a little bit every day. When you lose someone to dementia, you grieve twice: once for the ambiguous loss when the disease takes away their personality and memories, and then again when they leave this world. 😭

Other than occasional deep pangs of nostalgia that send me into a gusher of tears, I'm doing okay. I continue to swim, exercise, eat decently and get lost in sports and Netflix. We have unusually hot weather for this region, so staying inside is just fine for now. Stay well, friends.

Rori
Still going with the FLOW
Colorado Foothills

Thank you.
My mom is going through the same thing- so many times she has to stop and remember that dad isn't there any more- some of the pictures she has around are so life like, like he is still sitting there.
His remains are in one of the bird houses that he built- he LOVED the birds and building houses for them(this was the suggestion from the funeral home who could have easily sold mom an urn but thought this was a better fit which mom loves) He will be buried, not sure when, in the front yard, under the crab apple tree, where my aunt, uncle and cousin are already buried and where mom wants to be buried.
After being married for just months shy of 65yrs and her never being on her own before, this is a new challenge for her. She is doing good most of the time but really struggles other times.
She has given away a lot of his stuff, like clothes that others can use and some tools that he had just too many and things she will never use- pocket knives that he had a lot of, she gave most to one nephew- I did get one for my son and I got three of the little ones that dad used often- always said he needed on in case he got a splinter in his finger.
I really wanted to wear his straw hat that he wore all summer(to protect his forehead from the pre-cancerous spots he kept getting) while I was out in the field- we can't find it. Not sure where he put it. Hopefully it will turn up, would be nice to have it to wear when planting or picking, things I used to do WITH him.

Debbie