Please, my Friends, don't lecture me

I've not read the other threads where you've got such advice.
I just wanted to say: you are SPOT ON! You already know what to do.
Cut down (sensibly and sustainably) on calories and move as your body and energy levels allow.
The rest of the advice is just noise.
You've got this. Keep going.

Not a lecture but a suggestion: save the URL to this thread.

That way, the next time someone offers you unsolicited advice your only reply is a link that leads them here.

You'll quickly whittle down friends to get to the most constructive interactions you need at that point in time.

25 pounds loss is an awesome start!! (sometimes when I feel like, "well, I only lost 5 pounds this month" or whatever the timeframe ...I grab a 5 pound weight and say..you know..5 is a lot! .. and then I leave it on the counter as a trophy, lol. Imagine picking up a 25 pound weight..that's a victory!) Celebrate your victories. Stay strong, stay positive, and believe in yourself ...sounds like you're on the right path

Your post gave me a big smile, OP. Sounds like you know what you’re doing. And really, who wants unsolicited advice? Kick that to the curb and press on!

yirara wrote: »

Well done on losing 25lbs!
Other than that: if this advice is coming from ' friends' here then just unfriend them. If people send you private messages even though they aren't your friends and you don't ask for it then ignore them. Maybe ignore messages in general. Social media doesn't mean we need to read everything.

OR --you can block people that send you messages you don't like. People trying to sell you things should be reported--it's against the rules.

Earlier I think I read in your thread someone giving a common perception the balance between calorie restriction/food intake against exercise required for weight loss.

Some time ago I found an article about an approach taken in some care home to help residents with mobility issues. (I used to work in care which is why my interest) The findings were, where less mobile persons were encouraged to simply work on their muscle tone/posture helped their mobility immensely. And as a bonus It seems, one uses more calories to sit up or stand well than one does slouching into a pile of cushions. So some find things can be helped by seemingly little changes. Its just a thought which you may find heartening.

Over many years I've had difficulties with my shoulders and neck. I'd not realised how it had changed the way I stood. Long story short, after some help, I've been able to change my posture more back to how it should be and I feel better in myself. I would like this for you. Doing what works for YOU, no one else matters.

I was also reading something in the New Scientist. The short burst of activity programs often work better than protracted hours at the gym. Again, as ever, its what suits the person.

I'd like you to feel better in yourself. Do what you feel able, what ever it is, make sure you enjoy the feelings of achievement, even if they are the, I managed that today or what ever. In time you may realise just how far you have come. Not to mention, probably find another pound or two gone to go with the previous 25. You achieved those 25 without my thoughts, go for what you want how you want.

Congrats on the weight loss. Has a doctor tested your thyroid function? Low function and can increase hunger and reduce activity. It's fairly common with women.

Because I've worked with a BANT Nutritionist, UK only, the organisation take a more, why is the body doing this and not that, what does it have too much or too little of to function properly, I strongly suggest its not just one's thyroid which often needs looking into its the full endocrine system. Particularly the pituitary and associated glands.

My reason is, the thyroid is the gland which reacts to the imbalances in other glands and because of the potential for issues in these feed back loops in my view its essential, it was in my situation and I'm not on my own. The only way to ensure your t3 levels, its the active form of thyroid hormone is sufficient for your needs, without selenium the t3 can be made the wrong way round, which means, it will not work, so total t3 is not enough to know either, you need to know you are creating t3 in the useful form rather than the reverse form. Many medical systems do not test t3 at all, the NHS does not. Its assumed you always have the ability to convert. If you do not have the ability to convert the t4 to t3, which means removing one iodine atom from the t4, rarely one can be born without the ability but as one gains maturity one can loose the ability for so many reasons, you can end up in a very sorry state.

Trust me, the endocrine system is not as simplistic as our NHS makes out. I'm in my 70's now, been on various supplements which includes tissue to provide t3 and minerals to support conversion for may be 9 years, no more. I'm living, I have a life deigned me since my 30's, causing me to require some serious surgery because it did not have the best treatment for me. I was told this by a local Immunology Professor. low thyroid function caused the neck/shoulder/back pains, acupuncture is relieving the distortion.

Being hypo effects ones muscle tone and muscle functions, digestion, circulation, respiration, reproduction of cells and species. I can't understand why it is considered so very trivial. Most hypo persons are/also have Hashimoto's Thyroiditis, which erodes ones thyroid, its one of many autoimmune conditions but is generally treated as if its the same as being low in iodine, which is all levothyroxine is, iodine in the synthetic form. (This unnecessary pain as in restricted quality of life, really gets to me. Why its reasonable to let women principally suffer, it occurs in men but not as often)

I've been really active today. Behaving like someone half my age, its wonderful. Together with my husband we have been child minding, principal back up for two little boys, one 3 1/2 the other 18 months, sometimes its bordering on full time. I could not have done it in my 40's. Anyone do your own reading and learn.

I'm sorry you're dealing with advice that is unhelpful.

My experience on MFP has been that most people mean well, and I try to remember that when I get comments that aren't particularly helpful or useful to me. They might be useful for other people who are reading, or seeing a post might remind them of something else or a personal experience that they want to share, even if it isn't really relevant. Sometimes it might be a little tone deaf (and I've been guilty of this myself), but except in the case of clear trolling, I choose to accept most contributions as well-intended, which makes shaking off the unhelpful stuff much easier.

I think there's also an ignore function, and you shouldn't feel bad about using it if that's what you want to do. You can screen calls and refuse to answer the door at home, and I treat the ignore function like the online version of that without guilt.

TheWaistBasket wrote: »

Fuzzipeg wrote: »

Because I've worked with a BANT Nutritionist, UK only, the organisation take a more, why is the body doing this and not that, what does it have too much or too little of to function properly, I strongly suggest its not just one's thyroid which often needs looking into its the full endocrine system. Particularly the pituitary and associated glands.


I've been really active today. Behaving like someone half my age, its wonderful. Together with my husband we have been child minding, principal back up for two little boys, one 3 1/2 the other 18 months, sometimes its bordering on full time. I could not have done it in my 40's. Anyone do your own reading and learn.

Are you serious? I make a post about not lecturing me and you post a novel about your thyroid problems and ask me to get mine tested? I have been overeating for years. Ate wrong and too much.

Cheesy567 wrote: »

Cherimoose wrote: »

Has a doctor tested your thyroid function? Low function and can increase hunger and reduce activity. It's fairly common with women.

👆🏻 Add this one to the list up top 😉👍🏼

I just did. Funny!

I don't think Fuzzipeg was responding directly to you but to the post above you which mentioned thyroid function.

You might want to consider asking this thread to be moved to another forum, for example, Motivation and Support. We tend to be all about offering advice in this forum. If what you are looking for is "You got this!" type feedback, Motivation and Support is a better place for this thread.

That’s a lot of “don’t’s” for one post. You are not alone. We are all here to support you. Sounds like you’ve already done some research. Congratulations on making the decision to make a lifestyle change. As time goes on, you will lose weight, you will become more mobile, you will be able to exercise. Patience is key.
I wish you the best.