Do your friends have a right to judge you….and you, them?

My friends are all adults. They can put up whatever they want, not my business.



Now if it's an unflattering pic of me, they had better not put it up.

I think "judge" may be the wrong word. My friends are allowed (and encouraged) to call me out on any and all BS.

I would be upset... this is a place for support, not judgement.

Telling someone you think their profile pic is unflattering is not judgment,its an opinion.

^^^This. You're not judging a friend; you're telling them that you know they look better than what they do in that particular picture.

Except, if it's someone you've never actually met face to face, maybe this pic is the best they can look. Then, what you're telling them is "you can't possibly really be as ugly as you are". At least, that's how they might hear it.

I have a blanket policy on such traps--spring them.

SO how do you like my profile pic hahahahaha I find it very flattering

I would say you're making great progress. Your zombie transformation is almost complete.

SO how do you like my profile pic hahahahaha I find it very flattering

I would say you're making great progress. Your zombie transformation is almost complete.

Its the newest fad diet just eat lots and lots of brains,and you get lots of cardio chasing down those pesky brain containers

Ummm....yeah. I completed the 7th grade LONG ago....which is around the age most people get over this petty kind of bs.

Especially on an internet forum, if someone that you've really never met said something and you take it personally, then I think you have thin skin and are too wrapped up on cyberspace. Wasting energy and time on people's opinions who really have no impact on your life should be the least of your worries.

100% agree and don't really give a ***** what anyone on a Public Forum thinks of me or my pic :ohwell: I'm not into Cliques (sp) and don't NEED to be in anyone's Group.

BTW, Great Topic! :flowerforyou:

If you have a profile pic posted, (this goes for any social networking site, not just MFP) and your friend told you it was “unflattering”, would you be upset? Obviously YOU think the pic is fine, which is why you posted it, but what if you hear from your friend(s) that the pic isn’t the best representation of you?

Or, flip the script. Would YOU tell a friend if they had a photo that wasn’t right? If so, then how would you say it without offending them?

To answer your Topic: YES, anyone has a RIGHT to judge whomever they choose. Judgment, SOUND Judgment is one of the most important factors we have in our lives; it helps us make good or bad decisions and choices, it help us determine what our Values are, and it helps us stay Safe or Not. Judgment is super important, and most of those judgments center around people in-or who come into our lives. NOW, to Judge someone to Hell (what the Bible is talking about) is a whole different matter...No one has the Ability to do that...ONLY the ONE who can discern the heart and actions.

Relative to a picture...to Me that seems such a "trivial" matter. If YOU like the pic of yourself, go with it. People usually say and do what they feel "BIG" enough to say and do (as My Grandmother would say.) Heck, the other day I cut my hair and my Sister said, "Never cut your hair like that again..." I just looked at her and smiled; I LOVE my hair short, and have NO INTENTIONS of listening to her. But why should I start a BIG "Conversation" over What I Control! I am confident enough and Independent enough to make my own choices without defending or feeling that I have to defend them to anyone. If you feel that YOU have sound judgment on certain matters then go with what you feel or know. And yes...I might comment on someone's hair, dressing, photo, lover, partner, child...to them or to someone else. But that's MY Opinion and it's My Right..."WE" do stuff like that as Human Beings; I'm sure You do too.

and winner for most controversial poster goes to........ drum roll, please................................................ OP!!! :drinker:

(stands at podium waving and blowing kisses) I would like to thank all of you....I do this for YOU! :laugh:

I love that you got it. Thank goodness YOU have a sense of humor. Big hugs and props to you!!! :smooched:

I don't really believe in "rights" in that sense. People say what they say, how you take it and whether you want to be friends with people who say certain things is up to you. Friendship is about give and take and mutual respect. Not rights.

and winner for most controversial poster goes to........ drum roll, please................................................ OP!!! :drinker:

(stands at podium waving and blowing kisses) I would like to thank all of you....I do this for YOU! :laugh:

I love you, Kesha!

I don't care about pictures. If I'm not in them or no one is having sex, then who gives a *kitten*?

I think you meant 'into them' as in attracted to them...but I'm going to take what you said as you said it since that phrase is WAY funnier.

No, I meant exactly what I said.

SO how do you like my profile pic hahahahaha I find it very flattering

.....at least you're not flipping me off anymore!

I never had a profile pic where i was fliping the bird..lol i think you have me confused with someone else usally my pics are my shoes

You're so right.....I was thinking of someone else. (and it was an inside joke). Sorry!

Well its not like it would be all that shocking if I did have one,I just figured I wouldnt be able to get away with it here

i wouldnt tell people their picture isnt good unless they ask, cause its THEIR profile, not mine, therefore if they think it looks good then more power to them

now if you dont like my pictures, thats cool if you tell me...but im not gonna change them.