Do your friends have a right to judge you….and you, them?

I would be upset... this is a place for support, not judgement.

Telling someone you think their profile pic is unflattering is not judgment,its an opinion.

^^^This. You're not judging a friend; you're telling them that you know they look better than what they do in that particular picture.

As for pictures, if someone tells me I'll re-evaluate the picture. If I agree it'd get removed, if not I'd keep it. People like different things, I expect people to be honest to me.

I don't have any friends that are easily offended. I just tell them. "Dude, your profile picture suuuuuuuuuucks." I don't hang out with people that find drama necessary.

LOVE this!

If you have a profile pic posted, (this goes for any social networking site, not just MFP) and your friend told you it was “unflattering”, would you be upset? Obviously YOU think the pic is fine, which is why you posted it, but what if you hear from your friend(s) that the pic isn’t the best representation of you?

Or, flip the script. Would YOU tell a friend if they had a photo that wasn’t right? If so, then how would you say it without offending them?

the reason i joined mfp and tried to change my lifestyle was because of jokes about my weight and appearance from friends, who i laughed with at the time but deep down it cut into me so bad i couldn't sleep at night. ironic thing is, they weren't in anywhere near great shape themselves...but I'll have my day in the sun because we will meet again soon ( we meet every year as we are all in different countries around the world), and i know for sure it will be ME thats making the snide remarks to THEM...and they won't have a leg to stand on when I do. I'm counting the days until that can happen.

To answer your question: if we all took offence to what people say, then you have to ask yourself who you really want to please..if they don't matter then why punish yourself unnecessarily?

Yes, my friends do have the right to judge me, have an opinion and express that opinion to me if they so wish. Being my friends I hope they would provide their views in a positive and constructive way even if it wasn't what I wanted to hear.

Everyone "judges" all the time. How you express or convey that judgment is an entirely separate matter.

and winner for most controversial poster goes to........ drum roll, please................................................ OP!!! :drinker:

You contributed nothing here.

My bad. NO, I would not be offended and I would only tell someone if they asked for a brutally honest opinion.... And, I still think this, like many other posts made by the OP was pretty controversial (but fun, too). There. Happy now?

SO how do you like my profile pic hahahahaha I find it very flattering

Saying a picture in not flattering is another way of saying "You really look better than that picture makes you appear".

If you disagree I think it's about time for you to admit that "Does this make my butt look fat?" is not an honest question,.... it's a trap.

GOOD ONE

I don't care about pictures. If I'm not in them or no one is having sex, then who gives a *kitten*?

I think you meant 'into them' as in attracted to them...but I'm going to take what you said as you said it since that phrase is WAY funnier.

As for the pictures, I think you're making something out of nothing. If someone tells you that, and you care about their opinion (if you don't I don't care I don't expect you'd be posting this) take a good look at your picture and decide for yourself. At that point either change it or don't and move on. With telling other people, again, look at the circumstances. Do you honestly think changing the picture to something more flattering would improve the person in any way (be it make them more confident, have less people talk negatively about them, whatever). If yes, consider the person you want to tell. If that person can take criticism constructively, then say something. If not...let it go.