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There's growing unrest in my department, and my boss' boss is asking for individual meetings with each of us to discuss said unrest. For context, my boss is the head of the department, and his boss is #2 in the division.
What it comes down to is us talking poorly about the boss and about the division, but I'm not sure she realizes that. So, what to do... Talk honestly and potentially burn bridges, or keep my mouth shut but enable the bitterness and resentment.
Ten years ago I was in this situation. Since I was going to be leaving anyway, I decided to tell the truth and burn bridges.
I still regret it actually. Nothing I shared changed the overall climate in the office for the people who stayed. And after leaving, I had a much clearer perspective on who the truly toxic people actually were, and those people were not my boss that I complained about.
Five years afterwards I felt so horrible about it still that I emailed my old boss and apologized. She said she had tried to implement my suggestions and apologized that she had been such a poor mentor. She thanked me for reaching out and said it made her tear up to hear from me as she had felt terrible that I had been so unhappy at work. She and I had worked very closely together up until the day I left and she had been completely blindsided by my biting exit interview.
Needless to say I felt like a garbage person for how I had handled it6 -
The gas station where I get my nightly soda is sometimes locked up so the person working can take a little break. Last night it was locked when I got there but the lock was flimsy or loose and the doors moved easily and the had they sign on the door apologizing and saying they'd be back.
I usually do laps around the gas station until the cashier comes back from break and I see the sign gone or someone going in or out of the convenience store. After a few laps, I saw a couple people going in and followed.
The cashier wasn't there.
The sign was still on the door.
(No, this isn't a murder mystery.)
There were 3 of us in the store, two getting gas and me getting my soda.
I'm there every day so I feel like it's ok for me to go where people aren't supposed to go so checked in the back room after one of the guys knocked on the bathroom door to see if she (or he...sometimes there's a guy cashier) was in there.
Nope!
We still waited around for a bit but, honestly, the main girl is always telling me to just take the soda because I'm doing the drink a day for $5.99 per month deal so I really was good to go if I wanted. One of the guys kept saying that I'm only getting the soda and I was ok (meaning I could leave) and I eventually did.
But now I'm a tiny bit worried that I'll find the place burned down or completely ransacked or at least find out money was taken or something when I stop off tonight.
I had a taser. I could have taken those boys down!
(I probably could have gotten away with taking a Twix too but I'm too honest for that.) 2 -
The gas station where I get my nightly soda is sometimes locked up so the person working can take a little break. Last night it was locked when I got there but the lock was flimsy or loose and the doors moved easily and the had they sign on the door apologizing and saying they'd be back.
I usually do laps around the gas station until the cashier comes back from break and I see the sign gone or someone going in or out of the convenience store. After a few laps, I saw a couple people going in and followed.
The cashier wasn't there.
The sign was still on the door.
(No, this isn't a murder mystery.)
There were 3 of us in the store, two getting gas and me getting my soda.
I'm there every day so I feel like it's ok for me to go where people aren't supposed to go so checked in the back room after one of the guys knocked on the bathroom door to see if she (or he...sometimes there's a guy cashier) was in there.
Nope!
We still waited around for a bit but, honestly, the main girl is always telling me to just take the soda because I'm doing the drink a day for $5.99 per month deal so I really was good to go if I wanted. One of the guys kept saying that I'm only getting the soda and I was ok (meaning I could leave) and I eventually did.
But now I'm a tiny bit worried that I'll find the place burned down or completely ransacked or at least find out money was taken or something when I stop off tonight.
I had a taser. I could have taken those boys down!
(I probably could have gotten away with taking a Twix too but I'm too honest for that.)
So you’re saying you’re definitely NOT the Great Twix Bandit, then?0 -
Sophisticatted_Gentlemanz wrote: »The gas station where I get my nightly soda is sometimes locked up so the person working can take a little break. Last night it was locked when I got there but the lock was flimsy or loose and the doors moved easily and the had they sign on the door apologizing and saying they'd be back.
I usually do laps around the gas station until the cashier comes back from break and I see the sign gone or someone going in or out of the convenience store. After a few laps, I saw a couple people going in and followed.
The cashier wasn't there.
The sign was still on the door.
(No, this isn't a murder mystery.)
There were 3 of us in the store, two getting gas and me getting my soda.
I'm there every day so I feel like it's ok for me to go where people aren't supposed to go so checked in the back room after one of the guys knocked on the bathroom door to see if she (or he...sometimes there's a guy cashier) was in there.
Nope!
We still waited around for a bit but, honestly, the main girl is always telling me to just take the soda because I'm doing the drink a day for $5.99 per month deal so I really was good to go if I wanted. One of the guys kept saying that I'm only getting the soda and I was ok (meaning I could leave) and I eventually did.
But now I'm a tiny bit worried that I'll find the place burned down or completely ransacked or at least find out money was taken or something when I stop off tonight.
I had a taser. I could have taken those boys down!
(I probably could have gotten away with taking a Twix too but I'm too honest for that.)
So you’re saying you’re definitely NOT the Great Twix Bandit, then?
I can neither confirm nor deny.1 -
Went to a family funeral today. 😢
Funerals are so darn sad.
I don’t want one when I go, there’d be no one there except family.
I went to a funeral where my ex and I were the only non family there, it was so depressing.5 -
This is so random but I saw a post on the internet about how a lady uses 6-8 containers of 20lb cat litter a month for four cats and I think she must be insane.0
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I have to place a call to Medicare today. I detest calling places. Unless they're my family.3
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Took my son to the ER yesterday due to ongoing and painful stomach issues. Looks like he has stomach sensitivity issues that mean I need to put him on a strict diet and start eliminating all sorts of foods to try and identify what is making him sick.
I am so glad it's nothing more serious, and yet feel nervous palpitations when it comes to what I need to do now. Food prep / diet management - especially for my teen son - is one of my weakest areas. He's so picky when it comes to food that's GOOD for his body, and yet has no problem consuming all sorts of spicy, high sugar foods.
I'm sure this will be a good thing in the end for all of us.. it's just...one more thing to manage. One more thing in an area I struggle with. sigh.6 -
KickassAmazon76 wrote: »Took my son to the ER yesterday due to ongoing and painful stomach issues. Looks like he has stomach sensitivity issues that mean I need to put him on a strict diet and start eliminating all sorts of foods to try and identify what is making him sick.
I am so glad it's nothing more serious, and yet feel nervous palpitations when it comes to what I need to do now. Food prep / diet management - especially for my teen son - is one of my weakest areas. He's so picky when it comes to food that's GOOD for his body, and yet has no problem consuming all sorts of spicy, high sugar foods.
I'm sure this will be a good thing in the end for all of us.. it's just...one more thing to manage. One more thing in an area I struggle with. sigh.
Can they refer you to a nutritionist that can help make up a plan for him and his needs?? And have they addressed his stress and how that might be affecting his stomach issues as well?
We all know what stress can do to a body.
Hugs to you dear lady and hoping you can get some support with this. One more thought, he's a teen, maybe get him 100% on board with it all as far as making a food plan. They must've given you some idea of what kind of foods can be the worst culprits, which ones to eliminate first? Good luck!!0 -
The poor little chickadee that bounced off my windows and was still laying out there later. I placed him in a bush and put some sunflower seeds with him. But something was definitely broken. 3
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The poor little chickadee that bounced off my windows and was still laying out there later. I placed him in a bush and put some sunflower seeds with him. But something was definitely broken.
Often, if you can get to them right away, with a little bit of water... dip your finger in the water and put it to their beak. Sometimes a few of those are enough to wake them up and snap them out of the shock. Sometimes it's the shock that kills them.
Big hugs. It's so hard to see their tiny little perfect bodies.3 -
Negative pull-ups are so much fun, can't evenimagine the rush I would get doing real pull-ups.2
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happimess01 wrote: »Negative pull-ups are so much fun, can't evenimagine the rush I would get doing real pull-ups.
Getting that first one done is sooooo huge! It's an awesome feeling!1 -
KickassAmazon76 wrote: »happimess01 wrote: »Negative pull-ups are so much fun, can't evenimagine the rush I would get doing real pull-ups.
Getting that first one done is sooooo huge! It's an awesome feeling!
haha I had a feeling you would chime in. I am waiting till I can do 5 sets of 15-20 sec negatives and then I am gonna go for it 1 -
happimess01 wrote: »KickassAmazon76 wrote: »happimess01 wrote: »Negative pull-ups are so much fun, can't evenimagine the rush I would get doing real pull-ups.
Getting that first one done is sooooo huge! It's an awesome feeling!
haha I had a feeling you would chime in. I am waiting till I can do 5 sets of 15-20 sec negatives and then I am gonna go for it
Haha! Glad I didn't disappoint!
I don't know if I can even do a single now. But the thing that really got me there was doing weighted negatives. Add 25lbs and take ten seconds to drop. It was a game changer.1 -
Stuff...but one of them is wine. I tried a new wine last weekend and it's been on my mind all week. I think a bottle or two will make it inside my fridge tonight.5
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KickassAmazon76 wrote: »happimess01 wrote: »KickassAmazon76 wrote: »happimess01 wrote: »Negative pull-ups are so much fun, can't evenimagine the rush I would get doing real pull-ups.
Getting that first one done is sooooo huge! It's an awesome feeling!
haha I had a feeling you would chime in. I am waiting till I can do 5 sets of 15-20 sec negatives and then I am gonna go for it
Haha! Glad I didn't disappoint!
I don't know if I can even do a single now. But the thing that really got me there was doing weighted negatives. Add 25lbs and take ten seconds to drop. It was a game changer.
damn, that is badass! I am definitely going to try it one day. Also, this
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@Pennyloafers How are you doing? How is everything going?? Just been thinking about you.2
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oh reenie, are you talking to your shoes again@Pennyloafers How are you doing? How is everything going?? Just been thinking about you. 1 -
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its like in the movies where you see the geriatric version of your parents through some large bay windowsDees_Apples_ wrote: »Is anyone else experiencing issues with this new MFP design? I managed to get into this thread somehow, but literally every chat room I try looking at comes up completely blank:
and you wave to them with giddy excitement but they don't see you
then you run over to a mirror and the person looking back at you is a complete stranger
you are in the nightmare that is your life1 -
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more_oomph wrote: »Dees_Apples_ wrote: »Is anyone else experiencing issues with this new MFP design? I managed to get into this thread somehow, but literally every chat room I try looking at comes up completely blank:
[ then you run over to a mirror and the person looking back at you is a complete stranger
you are in the nightmare that is your life
I dunno, that sounds okay to me.
*shrug
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I started a consistent healthy lifestyle about a year ago. I started out being lazy and no motivation, suffering from major depression on the verge of taking it all away, living day to day in constant pain from back issues. Essentially my life was miserable.
Then I buckled down and got into fitness training and better nutritional health which helped my mental health improve tremendously. It was hard at first and I really questioned if it’d do me any good. I’m here to tell you, if you’re doubting it, stop. Getting into this lifestyle saved my life!
I no longer live a stagnant life, I take each day by its horn and work to progress my growth to the best person I can be. I no longer live in pain or constant depression. I find value in every breathe I take! So, take it from me, if you’re thinking this way won’t improve every aspect of your life? Get it out of your head, because it will save you too!6 -
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oh reenie, are you talking to your shoes again@Pennyloafers How are you doing? How is everything going?? Just been thinking about you.
I do have a soft heart toward leather. Even fake leather. 0 -
brandondanieley wrote: »I started a consistent healthy lifestyle about a year ago. I started out being lazy and no motivation, suffering from major depression on the verge of taking it all away, living day to day in constant pain from back issues. Essentially my life was miserable.
Then I buckled down and got into fitness training and better nutritional health which helped my mental health improve tremendously. It was hard at first and I really questioned if it’d do me any good. I’m here to tell you, if you’re doubting it, stop. Getting into this lifestyle saved my life!
I no longer live a stagnant life, I take each day by its horn and work to progress my growth to the best person I can be. I no longer live in pain or constant depression. I find value in every breathe I take! So, take it from me, if you’re thinking this way won’t improve every aspect of your life? Get it out of your head, because it will save you too!
Way to go!! I agree that our eating, exercise, etc., can affect our self esteem, confidence, depression, etc., etc. Even though we say it shouldn't it's awfully damned hard to not go there, ya know? I'd love to get off my anxiety/depression meds and I know I could if I could stay in control of the physical part of my life. For almost 2 years I did amazing. Oh I'd have a bad day or week but always got back on track and felt good. Good physically, mentally, about myself, and others, much more positivity all the way around. Better sense of humor, reached out to others easily. Just a whole reset actually. But now, after 3 months(minus 8 days)of losing that control again, I feel like I should be doubling the pills to stay on an even keel.
So yes, it's all inter-related and I'm glad to hear of your positive turn around!!2 -
Someone (not mentioning any names here @slimgirljo15 ) sharing unwanted pics of her googol… somethings you can’t unsee it’s burned in my mind!!! 😵💫1
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Icy
I wanna go west and I wanna go east.0 -
The poor little chickadee that bounced off my windows and was still laying out there later. I placed him in a bush and put some sunflower seeds with him. But something was definitely broken.
I've had that happen where they appear to be dead for what seems like a very long time, then are gone a few hours later. Hopefully he recovered!
@KickassAmazon76 -- I didn't know that about the water. I tend to let nature do it's thing (I think people generally make things worse, not better), but I'll make a mental note of this for the future. Thanks!1
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