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@callsitlikeiseeit Your comment about giving your demons names made me lol. Maybe because I immediately thought of goofy names like "fluffy" and internal dialog like this: "Fluffy really wants a cookie. Well Fluffy can just wait until tomorrow!!" Haha...
Anyway, thanks for that.
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Re-reading the OP, are the foods you eat during non-placement periods different from the foods you eat at home? Does the 'nobody is watching me' illicit factor play in? Most importantly, are the foods you eat when at home actually tasty? Or does slimming mean boiled brock, tofu and other uninspired fare?
If certain foods are truly too tempting, schedule them for some future date. Tell yourself you'll pass on this shopping trip - but if you still really want it next time, you can buy it then. The food will still be available one month or one week from now- and you may well change your mind by then.
I've lost 6 stone since 2020 and upping the quality and taste factor of my meals has really helped keep the binge-y cravings at bay. I love to cook and there aren't many convenience foods that rival my own creations. However, once in a great while I will devour an entire frozen pizza (1500 cals) because that's exactly the flavour experience and quantity I want.
But that's one day out of many. I satisfy my desire for a particular food and move ON. I also don't let overeating become an excuse to skip my daily workout. The trick is to not to let a less-than-stellar day's calorie count turn into an excuse to give up.7 -
Dang, now I want some Butter Butter cookies.
ETA: wth is up with the disagrees? These people are making valid points and coming from their own POV, how can a person disagree with that?
I even BOLDED the 'hey this works for me, it might not work for you' bit LOL
some people are just disagreeable. or perhaps they disagree because for THEM it wouldnt work. which.... isnt the point of the button. but, whatever, it doesnt bother me.
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I'll eat it if it's here, too. I've moved almost wholly to online grocery shopping/pick-up, because it's not as tempting to impulse buy. I'm not sure if that's as readily available in the UK, though.
Just to say, of course online grocery shopping is widespread and absolutely readily available in the UK! It boggles my mind that you think it may not be!
We even have electricity - imagine that! 😂5 -
BarbaraHelen2013 wrote: »I'll eat it if it's here, too. I've moved almost wholly to online grocery shopping/pick-up, because it's not as tempting to impulse buy. I'm not sure if that's as readily available in the UK, though.
Just to say, of course online grocery shopping is widespread and absolutely readily available in the UK! It boggles my mind that you think it may not be!
We even have electricity - imagine that! 😂
paved roads, too?????
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frannieshack wrote: »I can relate. If I have it, I will eat it. Follow the instincts that you obviously have, and do not buy it next time. Don't beat yourself up about the past behavior, but learn from it!
This is 100% me. If I buy it or have it in the house I will eat it because that's just the way I am. So I tend to buy 'treats' that are packaged individually now and that really helps me because I'd feel greedy having more than one. That's just the way I do it.
If you're concerned about your eating and behaviour around food I'd definitely see your doctor. There's nothing to be ashamed of and they will be able to advise you best
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Re-reading the OP, are the foods you eat during non-placement periods different from the foods you eat at home? Does the 'nobody is watching me' illicit factor play in? Most importantly, are the foods you eat when at home actually tasty? Or does slimming mean boiled brock, tofu and other uninspired fare?
I eat the same foundation of food when I'm back home, but add in more things and will snack more.
Basically when working on placement I don't have time to pop out to the shops so it's one big shop once a week, with a list that I stick to and a budget as my clients are paying the food bill. And in the evening I stay in my room so as not to disturb my client - so no impulse evening snacking then lol. At home, I can trot down to the local supermarket that's only a 10 min walk away whenever I like, and I'll also have a takeaway once a week. And I love to bake and cook.
On placement, I don't feel hungry or deprived. I'm just very busy, active and tired by the evening. And I usually lose 4lbs without even trying to diet over that month. At home I sit a lot more, and have more time to prepare and enjoy food.
I would say that part of the problem is also stress as I'm now also providing palliative care for my mother. The local hospice provides carers who come in twice and day and are brilliant, but in the end I'm watching my mother slowly deteriorate and it's heart breaking and stressful.
Once again, thanks to everyone for their responses and thoughts. I'm still reading the thread and I'm now more relaxed about screwing up, due to the perspectives being given. Appreciate your time!
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One of the secrets to the success of the human race is that we can eat a very wide variety of foods, carrying many days worth of of energy in our bodies as fat for when food is scarce. How ironic that this superpower-- critical for getting us where we are today-- now sometimes turns against us. And, it only turns against the lucky few of us who have easy access to food-- a great blessing not shared by all.
So, nothing is wrong with you at all, you are just doing what worked so well for your forbears. Yes, we all know that there are risks to being overweight, so there are good reasons for us to consciously override our own nature and try to restrict our consumption. But that isn't natural, and something inside us resists it to one degree or another, depending on the individual.
Probably the oddest part of human nature is the negative association with body fat. But body fat is our superpower, so why don't we celebrate it? It's a puzzle! We can start a trend by appreciating our own bodyfat for the miracle that it is.2 -
Dang, now I want some Butter Butter cookies.
ETA: wth is up with the disagrees? These people are making valid points and coming from their own POV, how can a person disagree with that?
There was a thread in the former Forum Feedback section about reordering the Disagree button, which would solve the problem of accidental disagrees when people are scrolling. I tried to post this thread as an example, but that discussion is not on the first few pages, and apparently the last "improvement" has made the search feature even more difficult to use >.<
If any one has better search skills or had it bookmarked, please link me.0 -
BarbaraHelen2013 wrote: »
Just to say, of course online grocery shopping is widespread and absolutely readily available in the UK! It boggles my mind that you think it may not be!
We even have electricity - imagine that! 😂
No no no! We all know that everyone in the UK lives in chocolate box cottages in the Cotswolds, wears tweed year round and commutes to work on a pre-WWII bicycle across cobblestone pathways. Fact! 😉
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I'm sorry. This is very difficult. Don't beat yourself up about food. You are dealing with a lot. *hug*susanUK1969 wrote: »I would say that part of the problem is also stress as I'm now also providing palliative care for my mother.4 -
OP, you have a stressful and ever-changing job. AND you're watching your own mother disappear
This time you have with her is precious. Be kind to yourself. Give yourself some leeway. I absolutely understand what your challenge is, and believe me, if I was in your line of work, I'd be in the same position. I need the structure and routine to stay on track. If it's at all possible, maybe slowly try to create a routine around some better habits when life isn't so structured with a current client. BUT, treat yourself the way you would if a friend came to you with this same thing. This time won't last forever. Maybe right now it's a good time to maintain, or just try to lose ever-so-slowly. Focus on treating your body well so that you're able to be fully present and healthy for your mom: good rest, time doing things you enjoy, movement each day if it feels good, nourishing food, goodies or treats when you need them (even when you fall absolutely overboard). Life is short. You sound like someone who has her head and heart in the right place. Maybe you won't lose as fast. It might not be at this very point in your life. But you'll get there. Life is just putting some really challenging obstacles in your path.
P.S. Thank you for being in that line of work. My husband had help when he was losing his mother, and those people were priceless 6 -
BarbaraHelen2013 wrote: »I'll eat it if it's here, too. I've moved almost wholly to online grocery shopping/pick-up, because it's not as tempting to impulse buy. I'm not sure if that's as readily available in the UK, though.
Just to say, of course online grocery shopping is widespread and absolutely readily available in the UK! It boggles my mind that you think it may not be!
We even have electricity - imagine that! 😂
Sorry - it's been a while since I was there. I should have realized. No ill intent meant.2
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