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19shmoo69 wrote: »

Lady_ofthee_lakes wrote: »

I struggle every day and night with a neurological condition effecting my whole body and my consciousness…that’s undiagnosed, the doctors just treat the symptoms best they can fighting to keep me alive. I’m just going with the flow trying to be happy, do everything I can to be as healthy as possible and pretend I’m fine. 👍😜

I pray you get healed soon and you live a long prosperous life.

Thank you 🤗

I almost always feel out of place in social situations.

Alinouveau2 wrote: »

I realized today that I'm not intimidated by people or their status or situation, maybe that's why I generally make friends anywhere I go. I like talking to people and listening to their stories.

I wish this was me but I feel like the exact opposite. People usually intimidate me, no matter what, so to make it simpler and less stressful for myself, I stay inside my own head and very seldom talk with others, let alone make new friends.

ReenieHJ wrote: »

Alinouveau2 wrote: »

I realized today that I'm not intimidated by people or their status or situation, maybe that's why I generally make friends anywhere I go. I like talking to people and listening to their stories.

I wish this was me but I feel like the exact opposite. People usually intimidate me, no matter what, so to make it simpler and less stressful for myself, I stay inside my own head and very seldom talk with others, let alone make new friends.

Awww I was kind of shy until I was about 18 when I decided that I have a voice that's just as important as everyone else's and most people you see in passing so why do I care what they think of me. I think I just have a soft spot for lonely older people or ones with some sort of challenges that isolate them or makes others overlook them.

But really I think I just have an abundance of self confidence. Just start faking it and eventually it'll feel normal. I mean really if someone takes your friendliness uncomfortably that's really their issue not yours

WTH is wrong with me? The house next door has been sold. New neighbors moving in very soon. I *want* to be a good welcoming neighbor but am ridiculously stressed about introducing myself. And it doesn't help that the deceased neighbor's dd 'sang my praises'(as she put it) at the closing yesterday. Now the neighbor's expectations will be high. Once again people will assume I'm a snob compared to an extreme introvert.

'Get a grip. You're an adult. Fake it till you make it.'
My ^ inner ^ conversation. Oy.

Alinouveau2 wrote: »

ReenieHJ wrote: »

WTH is wrong with me? The house next door has been sold. New neighbors moving in very soon. I *want* to be a good welcoming neighbor but am ridiculously stressed about introducing myself. And it doesn't help that the deceased neighbor's dd 'sang my praises'(as she put it) at the closing yesterday. Now the neighbor's expectations will be high. Once again people will assume I'm a snob compared to an extreme introvert.

'Get a grip. You're an adult. Fake it till you make it.'
My ^ inner ^ conversation. Oy.

Can't you simply leave a welcome note in their mailbox? Say something like I know moving is a busy time but wanted to welcome you to the neighbourhood and hope to see you around when you're settled in

Then you're not a snob or too introvert you put the ball in their court

Thank you. It's weird because as much as I don't think I care anymore about what people think, I guess I still do.
I'll probably suck it up when they look like they've settled in and bring them a plant or something. I can cut it as short as I feel the need to.
I don't understand how my sister and I have the same genes but are so different in that respect. She's got a bazillion friends and talks to everybody, I'm the exact opposite. Give me my cave and I'll be happy. :)0

ReenieHJ wrote: »

Alinouveau2 wrote: »

ReenieHJ wrote: »

WTH is wrong with me? The house next door has been sold. New neighbors moving in very soon. I *want* to be a good welcoming neighbor but am ridiculously stressed about introducing myself. And it doesn't help that the deceased neighbor's dd 'sang my praises'(as she put it) at the closing yesterday. Now the neighbor's expectations will be high. Once again people will assume I'm a snob compared to an extreme introvert.

'Get a grip. You're an adult. Fake it till you make it.'
My ^ inner ^ conversation. Oy.

Can't you simply leave a welcome note in their mailbox? Say something like I know moving is a busy time but wanted to welcome you to the neighbourhood and hope to see you around when you're settled in

Then you're not a snob or too introvert you put the ball in their court

Thank you. It's weird because as much as I don't think I care anymore about what people think, I guess I still do.
I'll probably suck it up when they look like they've settled in and bring them a plant or something. I can cut it as short as I feel the need to.
I don't understand how my sister and I have the same genes but are so different in that respect. She's got a bazillion friends and talks to everybody, I'm the exact opposite. Give me my cave and I'll be happy. :)0

Hey we're all different that's what makes this world fun!

Lady_ofthee_lakes wrote: »

I struggle every day and night with a neurological condition effecting my whole body and my consciousness…that’s undiagnosed, the doctors just treat the symptoms best they can fighting to keep me alive. I’m just going with the flow trying to be happy, do everything I can to be as healthy as possible and pretend I’m fine. 👍😜

Wish you could find that one doctor who can diagnose your condition and actually help you. Don't give up!!
{{hugs}}

@honey_honey_12 I get it. I used to enjoy National Geographic shows until those wild animals would chase down an unsuspecting......ugh, I can't even think about it. Or those animal shelter commercials on TV that used to have background music by Sarah McLachlin(sp?). Or coming upon pictures of emaciated abused animals online. Breaks my heart.