Let me know you a little better
Finishiitnow
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For who you are and not for the way my eyes believe the person you are.
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I don't literally look like Oscar the grouch.22
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I never grew up dreaming of a big princess wedding, babies or white picket fences.19
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I don't understand financial security.
Outside of one committing all
of one's independent effort to making lots of money, I don't know how on earth people casually get there. Especially I don't know how people afford single family houses with all the unecessasary stuff they fill the houses with.
Plus two vehicles, vacations, nice clothes, restaurants, tuitions for the kids schooling, latest audio/visual and electronics, etc.
I strongly suspect most financially secure people are helped along by inheritance or some other form of bequeathment which is never discussed or outright denied.
I can explain mine. I worked hard, very hard, to change my life. 4:30 am to 9pm workday hard. Taking horrible and demeaning jobs hard. Sacrificing my body hard. And yes, people noticed. And yes these were people of influence. I have never taken out a conventional loan in my life. I was given a loan from an investor of $125,000 with nothing more than a handshake based on my character and work ethic. I paid that loan off 100% with 8% interest in 2 years. I don't think everyone has an equal opportunity for financial security. But that doesn't mean it's impossible. I think it's way harder for some, that makes it very easy to just survive. There is a saying if you are just surviving you ain't thriving, and it's true. I have no easy answers for those that are stuck in survival mode. Just fight for more. Refuse to accept that which you can change. And if you are still upright and breathing, you can change it. It's not easy obviously, otherwise financial hardships would not exist. Education is a great place to start, but for some, like myself at the time, it wasn't an option. My security came way before money did, it came in knowing everyday I had a dream and a plan. And as long as I woke up with that every single morning, I willed myself to believe i would succeed.51 -
I’m secretly a video game nerd lol21
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I don't understand financial security.
Outside of one committing all
of one's independent effort to making lots of money, I don't know how on earth people casually get there. Especially I don't know how people afford single family houses with all the unecessasary stuff they fill the houses with.
Plus two vehicles, vacations, nice clothes, restaurants, tuitions for the kids schooling, latest audio/visual and electronics, etc.
I strongly suspect most financially secure people are helped along by inheritance or some other form of bequeathment which is never discussed or outright denied.
Most people are financially comfortable because they work hard or make choices to be financially secure. That's a good thing.
Some people work multiple jobs, pinch, save, etc.
No silver spoon here.
I take great pride in my work ethic and to be a productive person who takes care of herself.9 -
I don't understand financial security.
Outside of one committing all
of one's independent effort to making lots of money, I don't know how on earth people casually get there. Especially I don't know how people afford single family houses with all the unecessasary stuff they fill the houses with.
Plus two vehicles, vacations, nice clothes, restaurants, tuitions for the kids schooling, latest audio/visual and electronics, etc.
I strongly suspect most financially secure people are helped along by inheritance or some other form of bequeathment which is never discussed or outright denied.
I can explain mine. I worked hard, very hard, to change my life. 4:30 am to 9pm workday hard. Taking horrible and demeaning jobs hard. Sacrificing my body hard. And yes, people noticed. And yes these were people of influence. I have never taken out a conventional loan in my life. I was given a loan from an investor of $125,000 with nothing more than a handshake based on my character and work ethic. I paid that loan off 100% with 8% interest in 2 years. I don't think everyone has an equal opportunity for financial security. But that doesn't mean it's impossible. I think it's way harder for some, that makes it very easy to just survive. There is a saying if you are just surviving you ain't thriving, and it's true. I have no easy answers for those that are stuck in survival mode. Just fight for more. Refuse to accept that which you can change. And if you are still upright and breathing, you can change it. It's not easy obviously, otherwise financial hardships would not exist. Education is a great place to start, but for some, like myself at the time, it wasn't an option. My security came way before money did, it came in knowing everyday I had a dream and a plan. And as long as I woke up with that every single morning, I willed myself to believe i would succeed.
I knew you were going to say something. I know you didn't inherit, marry up, benefit from a divorce settlement or benefit from parental or extended family generosity. I know you're self made due to drive, ambition, solid planning and discipline.
At my stage in life as an unmarried woman with a vocational trade diploma by way of education who pays market rent, financial security is no longer a fantasy of mine. I'll qualify for a subsidized senior apartment in less than ten years so I don't really care anymore.
There are worlds within worlds as I see it. And although the financially secure think these worlds meaningfully intersect, I don't think they really do.
As long as you describe financial security as fantasy, it will remain that. And security is subjective. I may seem rich to some and poor to others. It's just about having to worry less about your financial well being. I think that is a goal anyone could look to if they wanted. Not necessarily rich but in a less stressful situation. You obviously know how to make a living and pay your bills so you have the tools already. There is a motivational story that gets told a lot in my gym and in seminars and stuff like that. It basically is, if someone was holding your head underwater and you had to fight for your life, would you be willing to fight that hard to be successful? If your situation in life represents that person holding your head underwater, would you die? Or would you be willing to fight like hell to live and change that situation?17 -
I don't understand financial security.
Outside of one committing all
of one's independent effort to making lots of money, I don't know how on earth people casually get there. Especially I don't know how people afford single family houses with all the unecessasary stuff they fill the houses with.
Plus two vehicles, vacations, nice clothes, restaurants, tuitions for the kids schooling, latest audio/visual and electronics, etc.
I strongly suspect most financially secure people are helped along by inheritance or some other form of bequeathment which is never discussed or outright denied.
I can explain mine. I worked hard, very hard, to change my life. 4:30 am to 9pm workday hard. Taking horrible and demeaning jobs hard. Sacrificing my body hard. And yes, people noticed. And yes these were people of influence. I have never taken out a conventional loan in my life. I was given a loan from an investor of $125,000 with nothing more than a handshake based on my character and work ethic. I paid that loan off 100% with 8% interest in 2 years. I don't think everyone has an equal opportunity for financial security. But that doesn't mean it's impossible. I think it's way harder for some, that makes it very easy to just survive. There is a saying if you are just surviving you ain't thriving, and it's true. I have no easy answers for those that are stuck in survival mode. Just fight for more. Refuse to accept that which you can change. And if you are still upright and breathing, you can change it. It's not easy obviously, otherwise financial hardships would not exist. Education is a great place to start, but for some, like myself at the time, it wasn't an option. My security came way before money did, it came in knowing everyday I had a dream and a plan. And as long as I woke up with that every single morning, I willed myself to believe i would succeed.
I knew you were going to say something. I know you didn't inherit, marry up, benefit from a divorce settlement or benefit from parental or extended family generosity. I know you're self made due to drive, ambition, solid planning and discipline.
At my stage in life as an unmarried woman with a vocational trade diploma by way of education who pays market rent, financial security is no longer a fantasy of mine. I'll qualify for a subsidized senior apartment in less than ten years so I don't really care anymore.
There are worlds within worlds as I see it. And although the financially secure think these worlds meaningfully intersect, I don't think they really do.
As long as you describe financial security as fantasy, it will remain that. And security is subjective. I may seem rich to some and poor to others. It's just about having to worry less about your financial well being. I think that is a goal anyone could look to if they wanted. Not necessarily rich but in a less stressful situation. You obviously know how to make a living and pay your bills so you have the tools already. There is a motivational story that gets told a lot in my gym and in seminars and stuff like that. It basically is, if someone was holding your head underwater and you had to fight for your life, would you be willing to fight that hard to be successful? If your situation in life represents that person holding your head underwater, would you die? Or would you be willing to fight like hell to live and change that situation?
Not really looking for Montel Williamesque motivational tips or a Charles Schwab pep talk. If your post quoted above wasn't directed at me personally, please pardon the references. Like I said, I live within my own modest means honorably and I'm fine with it at this point in my life. My comments on this topic are/were general observations.
Too bad....you quote me in your post and you will get my opinion whether you like it or not.12 -
I am still learning about myself. I am a very surprising creature13
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I don't see the big deal in taking pride in having a good work ethic. Some people pride themselves on being lazy deadbeats. LolI don't understand financial security.
Outside of one committing all
of one's independent effort to making lots of money, I don't know how on earth people casually get there. Especially I don't know how people afford single family houses with all the unecessasary stuff they fill the houses with.
Plus two vehicles, vacations, nice clothes, restaurants, tuitions for the kids schooling, latest audio/visual and electronics, etc.
I strongly suspect most financially secure people are helped along by inheritance or some other form of bequeathment which is never discussed or outright denied.
Most people are financially comfortable because they work hard or make choices to be financially secure. That's a good thing.
Some people work multiple jobs, pinch, save, etc.
No silver spoon here.
I take great pride in my work ethic and to be a productive person who takes care of herself.
I'm also a completely self supporting person who has worked full-time since the age of 15. I never got into a prideful identity concerning all this. Kitten happens and peoples' earning capacity can be yanked away in a heartbeat due to various events beyond their control. I'm still employed and employable so I thank the Most High God and His Son for that blessing every day.
God isn't responsible for my hard work. I am.
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I don't understand financial security.
Outside of one committing all
of one's independent effort to making lots of money, I don't know how on earth people casually get there. Especially I don't know how people afford single family houses with all the unecessasary stuff they fill the houses with.
For my sister and I, our American Story had us starting from the bottom. Granted, we could have easily tapped our paternal grandfather's friends within the first week of our arrival to ease things for us, as NY wealthy as they are - we chose not to. There is a sense of satisfaction when you reflect on everything you have, a blessing, was a direct result of your own blood, sweat and toil.
Our saving grace, God gifted, was jumping on the Bitcoin train in the early years. Our long bet, supporting that Bitcoin was going to hit $5000 at the end of 2017. We bet short on oil between 2015-2017. Luck? Yes. Blessings? Definitely.Plus two vehicles, vacations, nice clothes, restaurants, tuitions for the kids schooling, latest audio/visual and electronics, etc.
Some of these aren't bought. My god son receives gadgets we're gifted with from rewards programs and other like perks. Work related skills upgrading seminars and workshops today avails Apple items. We take our products to the Award shows, other vendors gift us too with products ... The very same ones the stars get.
We're also not opposed to purchasing gently used Motocross bikes, riding gear for him either. We have neighbours who can renew and rebuild just like new, so we don't see why not, most especially if we don't have to pay labour, just materials, if necessary.I strongly suspect most financially secure people are helped along by inheritance or some other form of bequeathment which is never discussed or outright denied.
My mum still controls everything. We refuse to give her the satisfaction, as much as we love her, to take credit for ANYTHING we achieve. We've attended better schools and had dream jobs, without her contacts intervention. It's a different kind of bliss.3 -
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Some people honestly think something is wrong with me because having children was never my top priority. .17
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Moon_Stone wrote: »I have a fighter spirit and inner strength that is much stronger than even I realize sometimes.
Ditto. Friends have always lamented that if one of the most devastating elements of our lives happened to them, no level of military training wouldn't stop them from wanting to end it all.
I give credit to our faith for implanting that impenetratrable indomitable inner strength, call it what you will. Rise. Surpass. Overcome. Regenerate. Soar.5 -
Exactly! My mammaw was the worst! Lol2
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asuroxychick wrote: »Some people honestly think something is wrong with me because having children was never my top priority. .
Ask them what is wrong with them for thinking that foolishness!
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I pretty lazy on my lazy days.3
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I'm not actually anywhere near 29 and my name's not Chris.7
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Will_Workout_for_food wrote: »Will_Workout_for_food wrote: »Try affording a place in NYC...:(
I looked into it in the late 80s, mid 90s and in 2001 prior to 9/11. It was a travesty then and even worse now. Restaurants, museums, celebrity sightings and theatrical productions no longer call me like they once did. The rest of the NYC stuff can be found in any other city.
My friend just recently bought a 1 bedroom apt 800 square feet for 700k. The prices here r insane
I need to gtfo of here
I was your age when I moved up to Westchester....it took a while to adjust, but it is a decision I don't regret. I can still easily commute into the city by car or train, but far enough away that I feel like I'm in paradise when I walk out the door of my house that doesn't cost like 6 million dollars if it was just 35 miles south.4 -
I can be tough and unyielding when the situation calls for it and I don't suffer fools easily.
My gut instinct has always served me well.4 -
I’ve never lost a fight or an argument
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Will_Workout_for_food wrote: »Will_Workout_for_food wrote: »Will_Workout_for_food wrote: »Try affording a place in NYC...:(
I looked into it in the late 80s, mid 90s and in 2001 prior to 9/11. It was a travesty then and even worse now. Restaurants, museums, celebrity sightings and theatrical productions no longer call me like they once did. The rest of the NYC stuff can be found in any other city.
My friend just recently bought a 1 bedroom apt 800 square feet for 700k. The prices here r insane
I need to gtfo of here
I was your age when I moved up to Westchester....it took a while to adjust, but it is a decision I don't regret. I can still easily commute into the city by car or train, but far enough away that I feel like I'm in paradise when I walk out the door of my house that doesn't cost like 6 million dollars if it was just 35 miles south.
I have a bunch of friends who moved to westchester and dont regret it. I dont think i can ever do it to be honest. I have a place here already but i was lookin to get a second. I doubt ill be able to pull it off anytime soon. Going back to ur earlier talks about working hard for if, i dont think it would be enough lol. Id be seriously drained and probably cant enjoy my life
I think our situations were vastly different, although maybe you did grow up in the projects in the Bronx as well....I don't want to assume anything. But I was a ghetto kid that had no family. I had to work like I did or I would have had no quality of life at all. You seem to be a very happy dude with a stable family and a great outlook. I just wanted a better life and to be happy.....you seem to be already there, so from where I'm sitting you are doing damn well.8
*put ya dukes up* 
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