WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR NOVEMBER 2023

Hello all..
Homie is at peace.
We were all a blubbering mess,but the vet who we have all been going to for years,said that it was definitely time,that he had a heck of a good run..a private cremation and wood urn was 321.00 im glad I didn't have to pay for that..
Alfie been sniffing around at my jacket when I came home..

Heather - I am keeping my head together in regards to DH. I know I can’t fix it for him and I can see he’s trying to be more involved. I think that alone is a relief for me.

Ginny - thanks for the insight. I know my DH will never go to counselling and over all he is not an angry man. He was an angry teen though. I think one of the things really playing on him and his sister actually, is how his father was treated (or untreated actually) during the last few weeks. An ambulance was called and he was taken to the hospital 10 times, but they weren’t looking at the big picture just the symptom. DH and I both believe his father was much sicker than anyone knew for longer than we knew, I think that is playing a part in the anger too.
Death and the grieving process is complicated. I don’t think anyone is ever prepared for it and I’ve learned that the death of one person can be a different process than another too.

My thoughts and experience with palliative care:
Lanette - I am going to attempt your exercise plan. I had started walking in the house again until my foot started aching. Hopefully that can clear up soon. I have New Balance shoes that I just started wearing when I’m going to be doing a lot.

Lisa - your words just take me right into your house with you. (How creepy does that sound?) 😂

Allie - I’m sorry. Poor Homer has had a good life you will surely miss him.

Rita - sorry you didn’t have better news yesterday. Hopefully the doctor in January can provide some help.

Rebecca - I have my grandmother’s jewelry and have been wanting to do one for the girls and I for a long time. I keep putting it off and I need to stop that.

Like you, I didn’t have benefits for a long time so didn’t see a dentist. When I went for a cleaning I was also nervous, but was pleasantly surprised when they used a water jet type thing to clean them now. Allie can probably give us the proper name.

I think a piggy bank is a great gift. My friend buys all newborns an ATM “piggy” bank. It teaches them all about depositing and withdrawing. Love the candy trains.

Joy - I have some friends with gout, such a painful malady.

Lisa - that was fast work on the roof. It will be so nice to have the room completed and be able to enjoy it. Will it be insulated for 4 season use? Are there 4 seasons there?

Margaret - stress sure does do a number on memory. Glad you were able to talk.

Interesting day.
I woke up to a text from our Grandson, “Grammie I want to use the they pronoun”. I don’t have a problem with this, but would like to understand why. I think he’s doing it because his friend is. He is a very masculine boy, likes girls and is interested in all things boy. I told him that I would support and love him in whatever he chose, but felt that this should be a conversation not a text. His response was, Mom said I should tell you. So at least he’s talked to her too. His Dad and that side of the family will not be pleased.

Then my nephew texted me and asked if I would be willing to make cups for the Search and Rescue team like I made for him. I told him I would but would have to check into pricing and shipping. He wanted to know if it was ok to bring it up at their next business meeting. How did he get old enough to be attending business meetings! I don’t really know him well he was born after we left NB so we don’t have a close bond.

Received a text from youngest daughter, she blew a tire while driving. I have never seen a tire shred like this. Fortunately, she was able to get pulled over to a safe place and began changing the tire. She had to call her friends husband to rescue her though as the lug nuts were too tight. She had two new tires put on today. Will get the other two in two weeks. This is her third flat tire on a third vehicle since June.

I spent most of the day working on a homework assignment due tomorrow. I am not happy that the assignment was something we have not even been taught to do yet. Frustrating!
This afternoon I brought my Christmas totes in and started unpacking them and packing them back up with regular decor. Kaitlyn and Michaela are coming on Friday to help me decorate.

My cousins son that was in the accident in October received a call from his big boss today. They normally make a donation to a local charity at Christmas but wanted to know if they could donate to them instead. He told him that he had gone past a new road and knew that it wasn’t his work. He is going to pick him up next week to take him to the pizza party for the staff.
That speaks volumes about what kind of employee he is.

Well I’ve rambled on and on, I should go read my homework and take a shower. I have my bedding in the dryer so I should be clean when I get it made and crawl into it tonight.

Tracey in Edmonton

Annie-tough decisions for you and sister. I was following wishes of mother and DH-we talked freely about final wishes. When I stop and think about it, hospice was keeping mom comfortable while her body shutting down. It is reverting to how people handle things during most of our existence. Modern medicine can technically keep the body functioning without regard to quality. You need to be at peace with whatever decision you and sister make-and of course your dad will have a major say if the medical folks view him as competent. I support you in whatever your choice. Just because I am sharing my experience doesn't mean it is for everyone!

Allie-sad times but Home was loved more than many people I know.

Rita-sorry your kidney function is not improving. I don't know a lot about that health issue. Keep trying to watch diet as much as possible and hopefully renal docs will have some answers.

Lisa-your descriptions of all things digestive crack me up!

Well, I got distracted by a work call last night and never got back to finishing this. I had a train of thought I left somewhere!

Tracey-I haik you had a good response to your grandson. I can't remember how old he is, but I think it is good he is talking to his mom and you about things. I don't completely understand all of the pronoun protocol (there is a lot of it in the social services world now). My main take away is that it is important to remember that all people are different, you don't know exactly what goes on for anyone, and we just need to respect others and treat them with kindness. I will try to remember to refer to anyone by any name or label as long as they are not hurting others.

Latest on the foot in spoiler

Annie-I think your horseback riding for today is an excellent idea. It does sound like with what other things your mother has going on, treatments may be limited-some of the cancer treatments are pretty ragged for younger people without other health issues. But all you can do is listen to the options. I understand what you mean about Alzheimers-I was very happy my mother had her thinking until the end, and it is sad watching the curtain come down on my brother. Going through what you are, maintenance is a perfect goal. Glad sister was able to help with bills (maybe she can help get accounts set up so you and she can access them in addition to dad?)

Take care of yourself-it is the only way you can help others.