What if your friend at work told on you?

I wouldn't tell her or anyone else that you have been cleaning up her errors-just start making a regular note of it and notifying your supervisor just as she did from this point forward. She didn't hesitate to toss you under a rolling wheel.

But...don't harbor any ill will because that is the worst thing you could ever do. Forgive and move on, but change your process

I agree with this.

Also if the person followed the proper procedure then you can't be to mad, but you would think a friend would give a break *shrugs shoulders*

I've had this happen and I took the high road and didn't tell on him. But when he left the office I rubbed my junk on his phone. I spent the next week calling him a ****face. since we're friends he thought i was just messing around.

haha this is why youre awesome

Seriously... dont stoop to her level and tell on her. Dont keep a list of her errors. Dont harbor any ill feelings. This will do nothing but harm to your friendship and your coworker relationship. I know its money.... but at the end of the day its not more important than being able to go to work and have a decent environment to work in. If she does it again - that changes things. Just talk it out and move forward.

Well, correcting your friend's errors without telling her does nothing for your friend's ability to do the job correctly. You should have let her know all along. She followed correct procedure by letting the boss know about your errors. You have no case against your friend, no reason to be upset with her.

LOL

I have a file of errors my cowroker has done in my office. I don't tell on her, but if I were put in this situation, I have some ammo to use.

And crap like THIS is why so many marriages don't work. Seriously, why can't most women forgive and forget? (I realize this was a coworker, but its the same type of thing)

To the OP: TALK to her. Getting snarky doesn't help anything. If she stabs you again then its time to rethink the friendship.

I think that you are misguided about why "so many marriages don't work," and regardless of how I feel about keeping track of coworker mistakes, it seems silly to me to decide that that is how "most women" behave.

Considering you're friendly in and out of work, I'd talk with her. Explain you're hurt and frustrated, explain that you've been doing your share of corrections without reporting them and your surprise when she reported you without a second thought. Give her the chance to apologize and try to open a discussion on how to mutually handle found errors in the future. It sucks she F-ed with your bonus $$ that way. I'm sorry.

And depending on the outcome of your discussion, I'd seriously consider scaling back the friendship to simply a friendly co-worker relationship and leave it at that.

A) what would YOU do or have you done? regardless of what she did to me, I would bring it to her attention to give her a chance try to sort out, rather than rat her out.

My first instinct would be to give her a piece of my mind, :laugh: but I wouldn't. Going forward I would not correct the errors anymore. As it stands, the errors being corrected give the impression that she's at 100% on her quality...she'd be in for a rude awakening!

smart. I like how you hold back. Shows that you have class and maturity. Kudos to you!

Here’s the scenario:

You’re close with a person in your department. You’re good friends outside of work; know each other’s families, etc. At work, you work closely together, your work effects theirs and vice versa. One day you’re reviewing something your friend did, and it’s wrong. It’s not the first time you’ve come across this, you find errors all the time. You don’t say anything, you just correct it. The time comes for your friend to review something of yours, they find an error and they don’t do what you did, they actually tell the boss. You end up getting reprimanded which takes away from the amount of quarterly bonus you get. Would you be mad? Would you then go back and tell on them for the things you let slide? Would you confront them about it? What would you do?

This is why I don't make "friends" at work. I make "acquaintances". Having been a manager at 2 previous jobs (Toys R Us and Circuit City) I've found it easy to even say something about other managers to RS because my job is just that, my job.

Straight up *****slap them back to reality.

'Nough said.

A) what would YOU do or have you done? regardless of what she did to me, I would bring it to her attention to give her a chance try to sort out, rather than rat her out.

+1

I'd talk to her first, ask why she told the boss. Explain that you've been finding her errors and fixing them, but not saying anything to the boss. See what she has to say. It may or may not change how you feel. At least, don't let it be a source of strain for you.

Then, for my own peace of mind I would talk to the boss. Explain that you understand errors create a problem, but you had expectations that you were part of a team that worked together. You had been correcting errors as you came across them, but not reporting individual incidents. If it is important that these corrections need to be reported, then you need to change your process. Make sure you understand what the boss's criteria is too.

I think this makes the most sense. Definitely talk to your friend even though it's obviously upsetting that they've done this. But, as has been said by some others, they didn't know you were correcting their mistakes and they maybe didn't know how to handle it. You've not said anything to them, presumably because you're friends, and they've possibly had the same thought process but handled it differently.

Um. If she is jumping at her first opportunity to throw you under the bus at work.. without even speaking to you about your mistake.. and she knows this is going to cost you money, she works there, she knows how bonuses are distributed.. then, I would think long and hard about bringing her into your home around your family. You might just go to the bathroom one day and she climbs on your husband's d*ck.

Well if it was in fact my error I'd have to take the hit. It would change my relationship with that friend. I would think she'd warn me instead of throw me under the bus but it happens. I couldn't assume just because I'd correct her mistakes and move on that she'd do the same for me. I'd just keep her at arms length after telling her in my angry voice that she helped mess up my money....lol

I wouldn't tell her or anyone else that you have been cleaning up her errors-just start making a regular note of it and notifying your supervisor just as she did from this point forward. She didn't hesitate to toss you under a rolling wheel.

But...don't harbor any ill will because that is the worst thing you could ever do. Forgive and move on, but change your process

Agreed,

If she knew she'd get in trouble for for changing your stuff, then she was trying to do the right thing I think.

At this point, any error you brought to your boss' attention would look like you were trying to get even with her. It's too bad that she did that to you. I agree with some of the other posters here... she is NOT your friend, she has her own agenda where she is #1. Going forward, I would find a new friend (outside of work), be cordial and professional with your ex-friend (now co-worker only), but keep her at arm's length, where you can watch her... Spend the time that you previously spent correcting her errors on double checking your work, so you don't have any more errors. If you find one of hers, well, I don't know what you do and how an error impacts that. If it is something that is not life threatening... let it go. If it absolutely needs to be corrected... return it to her or give it to the boss. Just say it needs to be corrected, not whose it is or anything like that.
Crappy thing to have happen to you. I'm betting you are more hurt over the damaged trust and friendship then you are about the money.

i would say focus on doing your job and let her bury her self with mistakes .i wouldn't be the one who pointed it out to the boss about her mistakes but i would make it noticeable to them. by you helping her your hurting your performance and making mistakes .