Flirting

That's an issue with yourself. You need to find the self-love and confidence in yourself you deserve. It's human nature to look...to compliment...to "flirt". Love yourself, be comfortable in your skin, and you won't see this bothering you as much.

Honestly... there is nothing wrong in a little playful flirting... however, what he is doing isn't flirting it is just disrespectful to you. Have you spoken to him about it? He needs to know its bothering you.

Men are visual creatures (so are women if you want my opinion). As long as your boyfriend is coming home to you, don't sweat it!

He should keep the comments to himself. He can mentally say and think whatever but as respect twords the woman he is with (you) then those flirtatious comments shouldnt even happen and maybe you shouldnt either because maybe it makes him feel the same way and since you do it he probably thinks its ok to do.

Think of it this way...if he gets all turned on by some hot piece of *kitten* he LOOKS at, you can reap the benefits later. Catch my drift?

Truly, my hubby never comments about another female in front of me! What a great guy!

My husband feels perfectly safe and secure telling me how beautiful another woman is. He is a great guy too. Truly.

Flirting is hurting if you are in a committed relationship, and it is disrespectful of the person you are in a relationship with even if they don't see you do it.

It's normal. It's natural...and I'm sure everyone does it.

So why does it make you feel like absolute dirt when your partner does it? Or is that just me.

When I see my partner ogling facebook photos of other women, or making complimentary posts about their photos...it makes me want to curl up into a ball and die.

This can't be healthy, normal behavior. What can I do to overcome it?

Hum, my husband doesn't do this infront of me. Not to say we don't talk about our preferences, but he's just not the type. He doesn't have a fb, but if he did he wouldn't be the person who's friends with every hot picture out there, kwim? Not to say he doesn't enjoy a little magazine or video here or there, but the other stuff just isn't his style.

My husband doesn't flirt, and neither do I. It may be natural but I personally find it disrespectful. Looking is one thing but making comments is unnecessary, to me anyway. Saying nice dress or something like that I don't consider flirting, I'm thinking more like dang you're hot is the type of flirting you're meaning.

Think of it this way...if he gets all turned on by some hot piece of *kitten* he LOOKS at, you can reap the benefits later. Catch my drift?

I honestly don't think any woman wants seconds... like he has to settle for you after he wants to be with another woman... You would be an idiot to think he's not thinking about her while he's doing you. THat is just sick and I refuse to be used like that.

Really? OK, then...good luck getting him to stop looking. And just because he looks, does not mean he prefers that someone over you.

Are you flirty, close with your hubby? Maybe he needs more attention.

That's an issue with yourself. You need to find the self-love and confidence in yourself you deserve. It's human nature to look...to compliment...to "flirt". Love yourself, be comfortable in your skin, and you won't see this bothering you as much.

But I love the way I look, so I don't get why I'm so bothered...

I feel you, OP. I'm hot, drop dead sexy fine as all get out smoking hot (hahaha, in MY head, ok) and have serious self confidence around any and everyone else, but if HE doesn't compliment me the way everyone else does and then he points out how hot every other girl is, I throw temper tantrums. Yea, I'm a brat. Its him, I mean, my issue, but he is the only one that can make my confidence go from sky high to zilch in 2 seconds flat. he is the only one that matters what he thinks of me, so he is my only insecurity.

I can only talk about this from the other side, really.

I need to flirt. It's important to how I feel about myself. Plus, when I actively try not to, I find myself avoiding my (mostly male) friends. It makes my relationship healthier, that I don't rely solely on my partner to bolster my self-esteem, and make me feel good. It keeps me from becoming clingy, needy, resentful, or simply lonely.

It'll never go any further of course, and what I do is...I don't tell him.

It's normal. It's natural...and I'm sure everyone does it.

So why does it make you feel like absolute dirt when your partner does it? Or is that just me.

When I see my partner ogling facebook photos of other women, or making complimentary posts about their photos...it makes me want to curl up into a ball and die.

This can't be healthy, normal behavior. What can I do to overcome it?

Sorry I do flirt a lot with my wife.....

I make it a game, if we are out I pick out a pretty girl and say to my hubby "she looks so pretty" or "look at those shoes" or "look at that lovely dress" or even "boob alert" This way it becomes something you do together, as opposed to something he feels he has to do secretly. Sometimes I just whisper things like "careful you don't snap your neck" or "watch your blood pressure"

Turn it into a joke and it becomes much less threatening. If women say to me don't you mind him looking at other women? my reply is "Every man needs a hobby" and that is all it is. He often points out good looking men to me and says do you want me to go and get him for you. Although the other week he said "theres one for you" and when I looked it was a big fat guy bending over and showing a lot of hairy butt crack. Hubby thought this was hilarious.

I would give the same advice toward his porn stash (if he has one) make it part of your life as a couple.