WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MARCH 2024
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So sorry, Pip.
I missed your post, as I was posting, so didn't see it. Saw the comments this morning, so scrolled back to see you got there in time to say goodbye.
I know your relationship with her was complicated, so grief will be too. I thought I didn't feel much when my mother died, but I have been thinking about her much more recently. That's over 17 years since she died.
They are calling it 'ambiguous grief' these days. A good enough name for it, I think. I think we do not know what to feel, but that's OK. Can be everything, or nothing, or all different things at once. I can still be angry at my mother, but I also think I understand her much better now she's not here, and therefore can find love. Most of my life it was hard to love her.
So, I just want to say, no feelings are 'wrong'. And they will change, from hour, to day, to week, to year. My deepest sympathies for all your feelings.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx8 -
Pip: Deepest sympathy on your mom’s passing. It’s good that you decided to go visit when you did. I know your relationship was complex, so the grief will be, too. 🤗 🙏🏻
Heather: My mother had a hard life, and we didn’t get along. Age has given me much compassion for her.
Lisa: I do hope that the aggressor gets what he deserves.
🤗🤗🤗 and 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 for those who need them.
🙋♀️ Miele failte to the newbies.
☘️ Terri
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Couldn't resist this photo which was on my Facebook. A red moon behind the two piers. Apparently there are cormorants roosting..
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Love Heather UK xxxxxx6 -
PipWishing peace as you work through the loss.
Michele-sorry you had to put Loki down but it sounds like right decision. Glad eye has healed. Lovely quilt.
Tracey-I have had two herniated discs repaired in my neck that were quite painfully (surgery was maybe 25 years ago). Arthritis moved in and started bothering when sleeping. I ordered this pillow
https://a.co/d/ghOH2q6 It actually works quite well for sleeping. Good job on course score. Hard to believe you only have two more sessions to go-good job!
Glad Friday is here. Didn't do foot stretches for two days and it is beginning to be more bothersome-let's me know what is necessary. I also have noticed that the day before it is calling for high or extreme weather for arthritis it starts acting up.
Going to stretch then pull some numbers together for 10 am Teams meeting. I am getting things done "just in time" due to staff shortage but it is getting done.
Take care all,
Ginny in Ohio5 -
Ginny - Office working on Good Friday? !! Even our pharmacy is closed. Most office workers here have a four day holiday. Monday is a Bank Holiday.
All supermarkets shut on Easter Sunday here. It's the only day in the year that they are compelled to shut by law, though most shut on Christmas Day.
We've decided this afternoon should be a cuddle afternoon. Hasn't been much space in my life for cuddles recently.
Love to all, Heather UK xxxxxxxx7 -
Good morning ladies!
Pip I'm sorry to hear about your mother passing. I'm glad you got to see her.
Michele so sad that Loki is gone. Sounds like it was time, although it's always rough.
I'm up half a pound from last Friday. I had a couple of nervous eating days. Emotional eating is a challenge for me.
I have mixed feelings about holiday eating. I bought a cheesecake for Easter. I hope it doesn't ruin the whole week. My dad will eat most of it. I can eat one serving to celebrate the holiday. But I won't go overboard. I thought about roast lamb, but the store only had frozen legs. Too much meat for two people.
Tracey you are getting closer and closer to your new career! So exciting!
Allie, we are all concerned about Tracy and Kyle. Hugs for them in this difficult time.
Have a great day ladies! Make good decisions! May you be happy, healthy, safe and free!
Annie in Delaware
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Hugs especially for Pip and Michele.
Healing thoughts for those ill or in pain.
I am good just super busy at work. Hopefully more time this weekend.
Much love,
Kylia in Ohio where it was 24°F yesterday morning and 45°F this morning!5 -
Pip - sounds like your mom waited for you to get there. My sympathies to you and the rest of her family. (((Hugs all around.)))
Michele - also sorry to hear about Loki, you and Vince did a good job of extending his 9 lives as long as you could. Glad to hear your eyes are doing better and Dr. Scholl seems to be helping your foot.
Tracey - sorry to hear about your neck and shoulder pain when you are trying to sleep. Sometimes laying on a heating pad turned on low for a little bit when I go to bed calms things down if my neck is sore. Also maybe Rodger or Kaitlyn could give you a little back and neck massage. Bob & Brad on YouTube might have some stretches to help you.
Wonderful that the end is in sight with your classes.
And what a gorgeous quilt, thanks for posting that photo. There's something about hand sewn blocks that really stand out.
I had a good visit with Dr. Lisa yesterday.She wants me to go back to Dr. D the ortho surgeon again about my foot to see about new orthotics and my out of alignment toes again. Even tho Dr. D said the old orthotics were fine - I am thinking I need to just come up with the $$ and get a second pair for my outdoor shoes- that's why I went to see him in the first place last month.
He was pretty frazzled when I saw him due to the clinic being torn up due to frozen/broken pipes.
Also will go back to her in early June for lipid panel and A1C to see how this lower carb way of eating is working. I had lost four pounds since I saw Dr. Paul there a couple weeks ago and my blood pressure was down quite a bit. Evidently this is a benefit of avoiding the "white carbs" and not snacking in between meals, letting my pancreas rest from popping out insulin all the time. So far it's been pretty easy keeping net carbs under 100, not much different than I had been eating except for the snacking especially after supper.
This way of eating is sustainable if that's what it takes - I can do it the rest of my life, no sweat, it's just changing a habit. Dr. Lisa said keep doing what I'm doing.
Medicare pre-diabetes classes- the Director of the program at the hospital called me back yesterday and left a message. She said Medicare pays for it all, no co-pay even though their billing program will show there IS one! She has me scheduled for the info session on April 9th at 10 am. That's Collette day so she gets to come and leave half an hour early.
Or just have a short day.
Planning a short walk with my neighbor this morning.
Happy Good Friday to those who observe it.
Lanette
SW WA State
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Good Morning,
PIP: No I can understand no work out today. Today is a day for rest and contemplation. Maybe a walk.
I am up and ready for yoga class. Also will do 40 minutes on the treadmill. I was quite short of breath doing this yesterday. And the shortness of breath lasted for hours. This morning I am fine.
Lisa: Yesterday I couldn't imagine how you laid the brick for four hours. Today I feel like I could do it..but would get short of breath once I tried.
My Nutrisystem food arrived. I am really looking forward to having it!
I am pleased with the decluttering I got done!
I am reading along with the posts. I will post more tomorrow afternoon! Expecting my son and DIL this morning!
Best,
Rosemarie from Georiga
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I am on page 67 and catching up on posts, but I need to jump in and chime in on the news re: Tracy's unborn baby.
Allie- Such sad news; and a child missing an arm will bring extra expenses. BUT, keep in mind, as people with two arms we view this child as "not normal" or having a "birth defect" and envision a very difficult life for her/him. This baby will not view their life like that, unless someone tells it that its life is hard. This baby's brain will wire itself to accomplish all of its tasks with the use of one arm. It will compensate and learn different ways to do everything. This is the baby's normal. And this baby will lead a full life because it knows no other way to do things. Just my two cents and something for others to think about.13 -
Rosemarie from GA: Have you tried FlyLady? It’s a great program to help with decluttering and cleaning. It breaks rooms and chores into manageable bits. I find it helpful in keeping up with my house. http://flylady.net/
Pip: Sorry for your loss. It’s good you got to be there in time.
Terri: I love that you say miele failte. I started a Scottish Gaelic course on Duolingo a few years ago, but life took over and I stopped. Maybe I should pick it back up again!
Michele: Always rough to say good by to the fur babies. Hang on to the good memories. Those are special treasures.
Okay, went through today and took notes! I’m getting the hang of this!
Yesterday after work, my son, Tim, and I went for a walk with one of our dogs, Marsali. We both work from home, and even though he has different hours, he could squeeze 40 minutes during his lunch break. I really wanted to go an hour, but it was good to get him out of the house. He’s 34, history of injuries from a major trauma, but he’s pretty content to be behind his desk working or gaming all day. Some recent lab work has motivated him a little bit to make some changes, so I’m encouraging when I can.
Scale this morning showed -2 pounds. WEEE! I know this is just an initial loss and that I won’t see numbers like this every week, but it is so motivating to see the numbers get lower.
Going to International Night today at my daughter’s school. Stevany is a lead teacher in a preschool infant room. She chose Germany, but not many of the parents jumped in to help. I made a couple of strudels to take in to help her out. Once she is set up, I’ll take her son, Jack, around to the other rooms. All that yummy food! Thankfully, it will just be tasting bites.
Make it good day!
Linda
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Kelly- thats why I love ya girl always so upbeat...
Another night of not sleeping well..but isn't that the way it is..
I hope everyone has a spectacular Easter weekend!!
Pip- so glad you got to be with your mom when she needed you most. I know you didn't have the best relationship with her.but got God Bless you and your family at this time !!5 -
Pip- Sorry to hear of your mom's passing. Sounds as if she, like your sister, was waiting for you before she passed. Relationships are complicated. Life is a winding road most times; up and down like a roller coaster. Thinking of you and sending peaceful thoughts your way.
Michele- Sorry about Loki! (((Hugs)))
It is Good Friday. My childcare is open. We are ALL dealing with colds, so the kids are extremely cross and whiny. Two of the babies came down with pink eye. I hope today flies by; but I have a feeling it will crawl slower than a turtle. On the upside; my son has been in Idaho for the week, for work. He flies back tonight. I will be picking him up from the airport, late. It will be nice having him home again.
Aside from work this week, all I have gotten done (exercise wise) is my squats. I think, with the every two hour dosing of elderberry tonic and a saline rinse (nose and throat), I have kept the cold under control. DH came down with it on the same day and his has gone to his chest. I made a big pot of chicken soup on Wednesday, so hopefully that will help a bit.
Love and hugs to all! Kids are needing me, so I better scoot. ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)7 -
I did twenty minutes on my bike and fourteen minutes walking! Yay!
I'm thinking about how to increase on the first of the month. I'd like to do intervals on the bike, but that's thirty minutes. It might be too much increase too fast. I guess I will have to try it to have some data.
Annie in Delaware4 -
cityjaneLondon wrote: »So sorry, Pip. I missed your post, as I was posting, so didn't see it. Saw the comments this morning, so scrolled back to see you got there in time to say goodbye.
I know your relationship with her was complicated, so grief will be too. I thought I didn't feel much when my mother died, but I have been thinking about her much more recently. That's over 17 years since she died.
They are calling it 'ambiguous grief' these days. A good enough name for it, I think. I think we do not know what to feel, but that's OK. Can be everything, or nothing, or all different things at once. I can still be angry at my mother, but I also think I understand her much better now she's not here, and therefore can find love. Most of my life it was hard to love her.
So, I just want to say, no feelings are 'wrong'. And they will change, from hour, to day, to week, to year. My deepest sympathies for all your feelings.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
Thank you all for your kind words. If you are friends with me on facebook, pls don’t mention it on that forum. I’ll explain at a later date6 -
Pip Be kind and gentle with yourself giving yourself the space you need to feel and to process the passing of your mom in your own terms. It is your time to grieve your mom.
I admire the strength you give to us here. We are here for you if you need any of ours. Margaret 5 -
Pip - It sounds like your mother passed peacefully. I found a lot of peace in my father's passing, and 20 years later I remain glad that he did not suffer and was being cared for in his ending hours. What he was in life can't be changed, but it doesn't mean I wanted him to die in pain or distress.
Michele - I'm sorry about having to let Loki go. Not an easy decision, I'm sure.
Linda - As you've already realized, you don't have to respond to every post, and a lot of people use notes to keep it straight who said what. Well done on the two-pound loss!
April - Thinking about you and your son, hope he's progressing well, and hope your tests are going/have gone well.
Heather - That image of Brighton Pier brought back some really good memories from my year in the UK. The coast trips were always the best, from Wales to Cornwall to the Isle of Wight, Brighton and Yarmouth. Loved the beauty of Scotland, too, but it was a camping trip and rained the entire time. I was never fond of being both cold AND wet. 😳🙃 Wow, that wandered a long way from my first sentence, huh.😀
Vicki - Hope your tests go well.
Annie - Take or leave the advice I'm giving here, but "intervals" can be whatever you say they are on the bike. Any movement is good, but time should always be left to YOUR tolerance, not what someone says they should be. Shape the exercise to fit your body and your life, not the other way around.
Rosemarie - Back in February, four hours wouldn't have even been possible. Yoga+ is really doing wonders for my overall ability to move and work with things like bricklaying. If you look at what I've got listed in the spoiler, it looks complicated, but none are for more than 30 seconds or 30 repetitions. As I said to Annie above, I'm shaping this to what I can do, and I'm aware this isn't how yoga is usually done, with short spans. It's what my body will tolerate.
I've decided I"m calling it "country girl yoga," 🤠 as I also have country music going to help count the beats. Each pose or stretch leads me into the next pose easily, including getting down to the floor and getting back up again. This takes me from 25 to 30 minutes all told, but I started five weeks ago doing part of these, and only for about ten minutes at a time, and have added on over time.
Yoga+ = Yoga poses highlighted, the rest are stretches or calisthenic.
And... off we go, last night's dishes are swooshing, time to get some of Corey's work clothes in the laundry and get my knees taped up for the day ahead. Not necessarily in that order! 👀😀
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR
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Well, she’s gone mom went at 12:30 pst today, she was out so I guess you could say it was a peaceful passing. My sister had called me yesterday saying they were going to take her home under hospice care in a couple of days and she was thinking I might want to wait until they brought her home to see her. I told her I was going to drive up tomorrow because I wasn’t sure (based on what they were saying) that she would make it home. I’m glad I did. Funny, last time I was there was when I came up from Washington to see my sister there and she died when I was in the room too.
So sorry PIP. Sounds like she had a peaceful leaving. Take care of yourself.
Hugs,
RVRita4 -
Just want to let you all know that if I disappear for a while, it’s because of the panic attacks I’ve been having. Since Sunday’s trip to the ER, I’ve had another mild one Monday which I handles with breathing exercises and Meditation app (Balance) that I have. Had another a little worse on Tuesday and worse on Wednesday. Yesterday, was another bad one like Sunday, but I caught it, calmed it some with breathing and my app and added wine and walking until I went to bed at 7:30. Stayed with me through the night whenever I woke for whatever reason (dog, bathroom, just restless), and still am shaky this morning. I know this is what is happening but can’t see a doctor until the 4th. All the tests the ER did and the meds they gave me made it go away much faster. So anyway, keep me in mind. You all have worse things to deal with, so just remember me. I will try to get on here at least every day. Maybe more. You all seem to comfort me!
I can say DH is begging very good about this and worries. He wouldn’t let me out of his sight when I walked yesterday. I did use a walking stick to help me if I fell go down easier. I haven’t been on the ground since Sunday, but sure do come close lately with dizzy and no balance. At least the camper is small so I don’t have to walk without hanging on to something.
Breathe!!
RVRita13 -
Pip ... I too am sorry to hear you've lost your mom. Very glad that you were able to see her before she passed. Hugs.
Michele ... sorry for the loss of your fur baby ...
Rosemarie ... kind of concerned that you were still out of breath hours after using the treadmill ...
Rita ... thinking of you and hope that all is calm ...
Beth near Buffalo
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Rita ... We cross posted. I'm doing more than thinking of you ... will be praying as well
Beth5 -
Today is:
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Today’s gratitude: sense of taste, fuji apples, edge of Joe’s pancake and the warning that that cheese is “off.”
Popping in to scan a couple of pages before puppy tummy time.
To all who had bad early experiences with dentists, we are singing the same song. Four permanent teeth pulled before I was nine “to make room”. So afraid of the dentist I vomited, so he gave me a shot to calm me. That was sure to work as I was not at all terrified of needles… not! At seventeen the classic hand on forehead, knee on chest extraction. Small wonder I insist on being sedated. Like Rita I go faithfully every six months to minimize future trouble.
Lanette glad you’ve found a good take away from the house disappointment. Kylia, Machka, Vicki, Rosemarie, Ava, Allie, Margaret, Lisa, Heather, Tracey, Tina, Annie, Sue, Betsy, Barbie, you are all in my thoughts, but it will take me days to catch up.
Only thru bg 55 but time to take the dogs to Gold Beach for nail trims.
Later, lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
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((((HUGS)))) Rita.
I don't know if you ever listen to podcasts, and everyone has their own favourites, but I was thinking of you when I was listening to the latest "Barb knows best", especially the second half. Episode 110. "Hard but powerful truths."
As I said in my book, 'The universe supports you - listen to your feedback. ' Lots of love.
Much love to all, Heather UK xxxxxxxx3 -
Michele sorry about Loki. You gave him a wonderful life.Pip, sorry about your mom. 3
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Pip - (((((((hugs))))))))))) loss is hard but sometimes allows for a different perspective. Thinking of you.
Rita - thinking of you, take good care and I am glad DH is concerned.
Michele - sorry to hear of the passing of Loki, pets are part of family too.
Kim in N. California4 -
Rita - Thinking about you, sending many warm hugs, holding you up virtually, dear heart.3
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Rita, thinking of you. Hope these spells pass away soon. They sound so scary! Take care of yourself! Do you have notes about what happened? That might be useful in an emergency. And consider the ER again if this keeps up.
I've got henna on my hair. It's like runny mud. It has to sit for an hour, then rinse off. And my dingy brownish grey hair will be sort of shiny mahogany, and the few white hairs will turn brighter red. It's a mess to do, but cheap, and I really like the effect.
Annie in Delaware5 -
Michele- the quilt is beautiful.
Sorry you had to put Loki down- It is hard but when the quality of life just isn't there anymore, it is the thing you need to do. Been through it a few times, never gets easier.
Pip- sorry for your loss. I know it wasn't the best relationship but the grief is still there. Take time for yourself to go through it at your pace.
Tracey- hope you can get some rest- maybe try sleeping in the recliner for a few nights.
It is not what you are used to but if it gives you even a bit of relief, it is worth it.
Heather- the picture is amazing. I am sure even better to see in person
Debbie
Napa Valley,
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Afternoon all..3
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