WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MARCH 2024

So sorry, Pip. I missed your post, as I was posting, so didn't see it. Saw the comments this morning, so scrolled back to see you got there in time to say goodbye.
I know your relationship with her was complicated, so grief will be too. I thought I didn't feel much when my mother died, but I have been thinking about her much more recently. That's over 17 years since she died.
They are calling it 'ambiguous grief' these days. A good enough name for it, I think. I think we do not know what to feel, but that's OK. Can be everything, or nothing, or all different things at once. I can still be angry at my mother, but I also think I understand her much better now she's not here, and therefore can find love. Most of my life it was hard to love her.
So, I just want to say, no feelings are 'wrong'. And they will change, from hour, to day, to week, to year. My deepest sympathies for all your feelings.

Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

Couldn't resist this photo which was on my Facebook. A red moon behind the two piers. Apparently there are cormorants roosting..
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Love Heather UK xxxxxx

Ginny - Office working on Good Friday? !! Even our pharmacy is closed. Most office workers here have a four day holiday. Monday is a Bank Holiday.
All supermarkets shut on Easter Sunday here. It's the only day in the year that they are compelled to shut by law, though most shut on Christmas Day.

We've decided this afternoon should be a cuddle afternoon. Hasn't been much space in my life for cuddles recently.

Love to all, Heather UK xxxxxxxx

Hugs especially for Pip and Michele.
Healing thoughts for those ill or in pain.
I am good just super busy at work. Hopefully more time this weekend.

Much love,
Kylia in Ohio where it was 24°F yesterday morning and 45°F this morning!

Good Morning,

PIP: No I can understand no work out today. Today is a day for rest and contemplation. Maybe a walk.

I am up and ready for yoga class. Also will do 40 minutes on the treadmill. I was quite short of breath doing this yesterday. And the shortness of breath lasted for hours. This morning I am fine.

Lisa: Yesterday I couldn't imagine how you laid the brick for four hours. Today I feel like I could do it..but would get short of breath once I tried.

My Nutrisystem food arrived. I am really looking forward to having it!

I am pleased with the decluttering I got done!

I am reading along with the posts. I will post more tomorrow afternoon! Expecting my son and DIL this morning!

Best,
Rosemarie from Georiga

Rosemarie from GA: Have you tried FlyLady? It’s a great program to help with decluttering and cleaning. It breaks rooms and chores into manageable bits. I find it helpful in keeping up with my house. http://flylady.net/

Pip: Sorry for your loss. It’s good you got to be there in time.

Terri: I love that you say miele failte. I started a Scottish Gaelic course on Duolingo a few years ago, but life took over and I stopped. Maybe I should pick it back up again!

Michele: Always rough to say good by to the fur babies. Hang on to the good memories. Those are special treasures.

Okay, went through today and took notes! I’m getting the hang of this!

Yesterday after work, my son, Tim, and I went for a walk with one of our dogs, Marsali. We both work from home, and even though he has different hours, he could squeeze 40 minutes during his lunch break. I really wanted to go an hour, but it was good to get him out of the house. He’s 34, history of injuries from a major trauma, but he’s pretty content to be behind his desk working or gaming all day. Some recent lab work has motivated him a little bit to make some changes, so I’m encouraging when I can.

Scale this morning showed -2 pounds. WEEE! I know this is just an initial loss and that I won’t see numbers like this every week, but it is so motivating to see the numbers get lower.

Going to International Night today at my daughter’s school. Stevany is a lead teacher in a preschool infant room. She chose Germany, but not many of the parents jumped in to help. I made a couple of strudels to take in to help her out. Once she is set up, I’ll take her son, Jack, around to the other rooms. All that yummy food! Thankfully, it will just be tasting bites.

Make it good day!

Linda

Pip- Sorry to hear of your mom's passing. Sounds as if she, like your sister, was waiting for you before she passed. Relationships are complicated. Life is a winding road most times; up and down like a roller coaster. Thinking of you and sending peaceful thoughts your way.
Michele- Sorry about Loki! (((Hugs)))

It is Good Friday. My childcare is open. We are ALL dealing with colds, so the kids are extremely cross and whiny. Two of the babies came down with pink eye. I hope today flies by; but I have a feeling it will crawl slower than a turtle. On the upside; my son has been in Idaho for the week, for work. He flies back tonight. I will be picking him up from the airport, late. It will be nice having him home again.

Aside from work this week, all I have gotten done (exercise wise) is my squats. I think, with the every two hour dosing of elderberry tonic and a saline rinse (nose and throat), I have kept the cold under control. DH came down with it on the same day and his has gone to his chest. I made a big pot of chicken soup on Wednesday, so hopefully that will help a bit.

Love and hugs to all! Kids are needing me, so I better scoot. ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)

cityjaneLondon wrote: »

So sorry, Pip. I missed your post, as I was posting, so didn't see it. Saw the comments this morning, so scrolled back to see you got there in time to say goodbye.
I know your relationship with her was complicated, so grief will be too. I thought I didn't feel much when my mother died, but I have been thinking about her much more recently. That's over 17 years since she died.
They are calling it 'ambiguous grief' these days. A good enough name for it, I think. I think we do not know what to feel, but that's OK. Can be everything, or nothing, or all different things at once. I can still be angry at my mother, but I also think I understand her much better now she's not here, and therefore can find love. Most of my life it was hard to love her.
So, I just want to say, no feelings are 'wrong'. And they will change, from hour, to day, to week, to year. My deepest sympathies for all your feelings.

Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

Thank you all for your kind words. If you are friends with me on facebook, pls don’t mention it on that forum. I’ll explain at a later date

Pip - It sounds like your mother passed peacefully. I found a lot of peace in my father's passing, and 20 years later I remain glad that he did not suffer and was being cared for in his ending hours. What he was in life can't be changed, but it doesn't mean I wanted him to die in pain or distress.

Michele - I'm sorry about having to let Loki go. Not an easy decision, I'm sure.

Linda - As you've already realized, you don't have to respond to every post, and a lot of people use notes to keep it straight who said what. Well done on the two-pound loss!

April - Thinking about you and your son, hope he's progressing well, and hope your tests are going/have gone well.

Heather - That image of Brighton Pier brought back some really good memories from my year in the UK. The coast trips were always the best, from Wales to Cornwall to the Isle of Wight, Brighton and Yarmouth. Loved the beauty of Scotland, too, but it was a camping trip and rained the entire time. I was never fond of being both cold AND wet. 😳🙃 Wow, that wandered a long way from my first sentence, huh.😀

Vicki - Hope your tests go well.

Annie - Take or leave the advice I'm giving here, but "intervals" can be whatever you say they are on the bike. Any movement is good, but time should always be left to YOUR tolerance, not what someone says they should be. Shape the exercise to fit your body and your life, not the other way around.

Rosemarie - Back in February, four hours wouldn't have even been possible. Yoga+ is really doing wonders for my overall ability to move and work with things like bricklaying. If you look at what I've got listed in the spoiler, it looks complicated, but none are for more than 30 seconds or 30 repetitions. As I said to Annie above, I'm shaping this to what I can do, and I'm aware this isn't how yoga is usually done, with short spans. It's what my body will tolerate.

I've decided I"m calling it "country girl yoga," 🤠 as I also have country music going to help count the beats. Each pose or stretch leads me into the next pose easily, including getting down to the floor and getting back up again. This takes me from 25 to 30 minutes all told, but I started five weeks ago doing part of these, and only for about ten minutes at a time, and have added on over time.
Yoga+ = Yoga poses highlighted, the rest are stretches or calisthenic.
And... off we go, last night's dishes are swooshing, time to get some of Corey's work clothes in the laundry and get my knees taped up for the day ahead. Not necessarily in that order! 👀😀

Love y'all,
Lisa in AR

Just want to let you all know that if I disappear for a while, it’s because of the panic attacks I’ve been having. Since Sunday’s trip to the ER, I’ve had another mild one Monday which I handles with breathing exercises and Meditation app (Balance) that I have. Had another a little worse on Tuesday and worse on Wednesday. Yesterday, was another bad one like Sunday, but I caught it, calmed it some with breathing and my app and added wine and walking until I went to bed at 7:30. Stayed with me through the night whenever I woke for whatever reason (dog, bathroom, just restless), and still am shaky this morning. I know this is what is happening but can’t see a doctor until the 4th. All the tests the ER did and the meds they gave me made it go away much faster. So anyway, keep me in mind. You all have worse things to deal with, so just remember me. I will try to get on here at least every day. Maybe more. You all seem to comfort me!

I can say DH is begging very good about this and worries. He wouldn’t let me out of his sight when I walked yesterday. I did use a walking stick to help me if I fell go down easier. I haven’t been on the ground since Sunday, but sure do come close lately with dizzy and no balance. At least the camper is small so I don’t have to walk without hanging on to something.

Breathe!!
RVRita