LESS Alcohol ~ OCTOBER 2024 ~ One Day at A Time

I screwed up. Driving down the main street of our suburb on the beach, which we moved to 18 months ago, I was pointing out the new things that were opening, or reopening for the summer. In this, I pointed out the bar that's expanded, the new bar that opened where the burger shop was, and the 2 new bars where the ice cream place was, and where the cafe was expanding. We do this all the time, the "look how things are changing!" because we bought in a bit of a dogy area, but it's rapidly improving. But now partner is craving beer, and in a foul mood. I didn't even think about it, I wasn't suggesting we go there or anything, but pointing out new bars was NOT helpful and was really thoughtless.

So now he's mad, and I'm sad and worried. But there's no booze in the house (that he knows of), so there will be no drinking... today.

forestdweller1 wrote: »

@NonnieDoiron ...such a sweet day you and yours are having. You DO NOT LOOK HORRIBLE IN THAT PHOTO !! Cute as a "bug in a rug" as my grandpa would say, and son & girl friend are adorable. Please excuse my ignorance, but what is the uniform, ROTC perhaps ??
Guess today is another AF day, at least til after 11pm.
Iwillnotcryiwillnotcryiwillnot....

Yes, the uniform is Jr.ROTC. He looks so dashing! 😉 I’m just naturally biased though. The kids had a blast last night at the dance. GF got to hang out with her friends (she doesn’t dance), my son danced like a fool, and GF allowed 1 slow dance.

Thank you for the compliment! I don’t normally step into photos when I haven’t fixed my hair (no need to immortalize my lazy disheveled-ness), but I was overwhelmed at work that morning and didn’t get to do anything with it. And, I just HAD to get my picture with him. I was too happy for him not to do it!

Thank you @MissMay. I see the Dr this Friday for my blood work. That will be 1 month AF. I am hoping it is improved as my liver enzymes were concerning the last time I had it done.

Yay!! Happy for you!!

Big HUG for all of you working at it!!! I am so impressed. I love it that folks are thinking about their plan of what will work for them.

@NonnieDoiron what wonderful news and congratulations!! I am so proud of you and your son.

So, guess what today is? Day 50 AF! And yes of those 50 days, TEN were vacation days. I can't believe I did my first AF vacation since I was a kid AND I HAD A REALLY GOOD TIME WITHOUT WINE!! I wanted to drink some of those days, but chose a soft drink instead or if after dinner, it was a chocolate and an NA beer. I love feeling rational and being emotionally on an even keel and not having the wine devil in my head controlling my thinking and practically forcing me to drink. He's like a controlling abusive partner. I really hated that feeling and now I wonder if the risk of trying to drink a bit here or there is worth it since I really don't want that wine devil coming back to control me. I feel strong and good without him.

Day 29 AF

I have been so productive... cleaning, organizing, reading a lot. It's like I found several extra hours in the day! It's a gift. Went to a party yesterday. Everyone drank normally but lots of beverages there: great varieties. I skipped them and had Perrier in a wine glass. I brought my own Perrier. That's my new thing "BYOP" because not everyone has Perrier at a party!

@NonnieDoiron how exciting for your son!!!! You must be over the moon. Congratulations to him!!

@Alatariel75 you didn’t do anything wrong- it’s not your fault that all the old businesses turned into bars. You are not responsible for your SO’s moods. Yes, it must have been a huge challenge for him, but you clearly have his back.

@SurferGirl1982 congrats on your AF day!!!!! That’s fantastic.

To all of you with huge AF streaks, you are so inspiring- especially the amount of energy you have and the ability to just get stuff done!

In addition to this past Friday, I also blew my LA goals on Saturday. We sailed up to a friend’s dock and had two glasses of champagne on the boat-then inside for another drink, then back at the dock for one more. My poor liver. I really could have gone AF yesterday, but at the last minute I caved. So, only one glass.

A friend turned me on to an AF sparkling rosé that is supposed to be really good. I need to order it online, will report back. Meanwhile time to pick up some LA wine to wean myself off.

Ok, nice Monday reset for those who need it. Thanks for the much needed inspiration, AF warriors!

@globalhiker Wow!! 50 Days!! Just 10 more days and you'll reach 60 days 👍

Keep it up!

I wish I could have just one drink .... around this time of the day, right after work and before dinner, the wine witch calls my name very loudly. Sigh. I know it serves no purpose, but the habit is so ingrained in my brain. I'll make a fake G&T and pretend. I still struggle sometimes. I hope I can feel like Xbow one day, where I don't even want it.

@MissMay ....the Nov 5th Chianti involves donkeys and elephants. End of story. Until then, 👿🍷 / 😇☕

AF tonight! Woo hoo! I didn’t even really want it-I wanted my dinner more. Had a great conversation with DS2, which is worth so much to me. Better than talking to him while chugging alcohol!

AF - 15
A - 6

I didn’t add my days right or something. But, these are correct now.

Anyway, the HOCO hype has died. We are back to reality.

Last night, at dinner, my husband could no longer stand the sound of my MIL chewing, grinding her dentures, breathing, gulping, and choking as she ate. So, he got up and turned on the stereo playing Trans Siberian Orchestra loudly. It drowned her noises out and made dinner much more tolerable.

We know she’s having troubles breathing deep enough, so she always sounds like she’s about to breathe her last breath. When she has mentioned it, we’ve asked her if she’s talked to the doctor about it. She did, they did a scan, found nodules on her spine, and now those have taken priority over her breathing. My thoughts are if she can’t breathe then why are they worried about the darn nodules? She’s going to flipping suffocate before they do anything to help her breathing.

We are trying to spare her feelings and have empathy for her, but we are struggling because her noises are like nails on a chalkboard to use. We can’t have guests eat with us anymore without a full warning and apology issued about the disgusting sounds that will occur at the table. It’s that bad!

I wish I could impress upon her doctors how big of an issue this is because I know she doesn’t tell them everything and attempts to self-diagnose A LOT! They need to know, but it’s my husband’s responsibility not mine. And, he’s not interested in dealing with it.

@NonnieDoiron that sounds like a tough situation and it sounds like you're doing what you can to give your MIL grace. Will she allow you to advocate for her with the doctors?

@SurferGirl1982 Keep going! I knew you could get started!!

Monday night football sucked. We lost and lost 2 of our key players...1 for the rest of the season to a gruesome injury. I didn't drink and I really didn't even want one despite that.

Next test, weekend casino trip. I'm planning to uber to church and hang by the pool one day. I really do think I'll be fine, but fingers crossed.

AF = 21
A = 0