Ladies: Why so catty?

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  • bry_all01
    bry_all01 Posts: 3,100 Member
    namecalling is a form of jealousy in that regard.
  • myofibril
    myofibril Posts: 4,500 Member
    The answer is obvious.

    It's cos women are nuttier than a squirrel's fridge. Men still love you nutjobs though. That's probably why we die sooner...
  • Iamfit4life
    Iamfit4life Posts: 3,095 Member
    "Hey Generalisation, why so generalisation?"

    well that's kind of a catty way to not answer this question. ;)
  • ilookthetype
    ilookthetype Posts: 3,021 Member
    I'm going to go with:

    Until recently women couldn't throw down and hash out an issue, women were taught how to be passive aggressive and how to be politely pointed and cruel. It's not our fault, men wouldn't let us dual, let's blame them.
  • skittybang
    skittybang Posts: 1,525 Member
    If I can sense a thread is going in the "catty" direction, I don't participate. I shall participate if there are intelligible debates, funny threads, success stories, sound advice, or if it can be construed into something perverted.
  • amelia_atlantic
    amelia_atlantic Posts: 926 Member
    Defense mechanism.
  • myofibril
    myofibril Posts: 4,500 Member
    The yeast infection is to make women realize what its like to live with an annoying c-u-n-t

    I am so stealing that...

    Why do men fart more than women?
    Because women can't shut up long enough to build up the required pressure.
  • SkateboardFi
    SkateboardFi Posts: 1,322 Member
    not all women are like this, and i do believe that it has something to do with self-esteem and bringing others down to make one feel better about themselves, but i also think it's just a personality thing with some women. i'd have a homegirl who i'd hang out with, and she wasn't a small women by anymeans, (but beautiful nonetheless) but had something to say about every big woman that came into the room. and most of it wasn't even well thought out insults so much as she just had to say SOMEthing..idk.. my self esteem leaves a lot to be desired at times, but i get down on myself not others. just depends i guess.
  • iAMaPhoenix
    iAMaPhoenix Posts: 1,038 Member
    Men do it too. I hear my husband trash talking people ALL THE TIME. I also have a male coworker who rarely speaks, but when he does, it's usually filled with juicy bits of gossip. It's rarely anything relevant to his own life.

    I'm not going to lie and say women aren't catty, but to pretend that it's an issue that is exclusive to us is naive.

    And I do have to agree with this. The men in my office are gossip queens. Wanna know something? Ask them. Women will knit pick at things all the time, but men can be just as catty and gossip driven as women.

    Yep...we do.
  • maab_connor
    maab_connor Posts: 3,927 Member
    i think that you all fail to see the point here. that b!tch is WRONG and i am RIGHT.
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    I prefer not to draw a line between genders in terms of behavior, because I don't believe that personality traits are dependent on gender. Some women are catty, as are some men. It stems from insecurity sometimes, but it is also a way to express dislike of somebody without confronting them.

    People are weird and flawed. All of us.
  • SkateboardFi
    SkateboardFi Posts: 1,322 Member
    it stems from insecurity sometimes, but it is also a way to express dislike of somebody without confronting them.


    yes! passive aggression for 500 alex!
  • Iamfit4life
    Iamfit4life Posts: 3,095 Member
    And I totlaly agree not every woman does it. It's just so dissapointing ot se at all.
  • shanolap
    shanolap Posts: 1,204 Member
    i worked in a workshop of over 60 men before and ive never met such a bunch of b*tches in my life.

    the idea that its a female thing is a myth.
    some women do it, some men do it

    lots of people dont


    YES...THIS^^^^^^!!! The biggest b8tch in my life is a male co-worker!
  • skinnywithin
    skinnywithin Posts: 1,392 Member
    Its simple....WE ARE *****ES! WE DO NOT LIKE COMPETITION OF ANY KIND. We love attention, BUT NOT TO MUCH BECAASUE THEN THATS smoothering US...WE LIKE TO BE TOLD WE ARE SEXY AND PRETTY BUT DONT GET TOO MUSHY...WE WE HAVE A KIND SOLE BUT DONT LET IT SHOW because that would mean we are weak . WE CAN FIX THINGS OURSELVES BUT AT LEAST HELP US AND MAKE AN ATTEMPT > SEE WE ARE JUST A CONMPLETE MESS AND EACH AND EVERY ONE US ARE THAT WAY AT SOME POINT IN TIME!

    We are just a different breed!
  • MFPAddict
    MFPAddict Posts: 2,069 Member
    We are just a different breed!

    Want to make some mutts together? :wink:
  • Jbstumpe
    Jbstumpe Posts: 6
    I never insult my own dignity by willingly throwing myself at a woman lesser than myself. I'm a smart alec, yes, and I could be a bit less blunt-but when it comes down to it a lot of people just can't pick their fights right. My solution is to look them straight in the eye (knowing I learned Kenpo from my Cousin) and ask them to hit me; they'll either realize how childish they are, they'll know how confident you are and begin to like you, or they'll hit you (in which case I usually own them anyway). I'm no Cat...'cept at parties ;)
  • SuperScrabbleGirl
    SuperScrabbleGirl Posts: 310 Member
    "Hey Generalisation, why so generalisation?"

    well that's kind of a catty way to not answer this question. ;)

    I prefer 'sarcasm' ;)
  • MFPAddict
    MFPAddict Posts: 2,069 Member
    I never insult my own dignity by willingly throwing myself at a woman lesser than myself. I'm a smart alec, yes, and I could be a bit less blunt-but when it comes down to it a lot of people just can't pick their fights right. My solution is to look them straight in the eye (knowing I learned Kenpo from my Cousin) and ask them to hit me; they'll either realize how childish they are, they'll know how confident you are and begin to like you, or they'll hit you (in which case I usually own them anyway). I'm no Cat...'cept at parties ;)

    That will go over great in the workplace. Good luck. :laugh:
  • Jbstumpe
    Jbstumpe Posts: 6
    I never insult my own dignity by willingly throwing myself at a woman lesser than myself. I'm a smart alec, yes, and I could be a bit less blunt-but when it comes down to it a lot of people just can't pick their fights right. My solution is to look them straight in the eye (knowing I learned Kenpo from my Cousin) and ask them to hit me; they'll either realize how childish they are, they'll know how confident you are and begin to like you, or they'll hit you (in which case I usually own them anyway). I'm no Cat...'cept at parties ;)

    That will go over great in the workplace. Good luck. :laugh:

    I would never work with people I would ever need to get smart with, so it's not an option ^_^
  • Iamfit4life
    Iamfit4life Posts: 3,095 Member
    "Hey Generalisation, why so generalisation?"

    well that's kind of a catty way to not answer this question. ;)

    I prefer 'sarcasm' ;)

    And my response was somewhat similar! lol
  • jenscot25
    jenscot25 Posts: 124 Member
    I think it has to do with jealousy and low self esteem. When you're ok with yourself and your world, you just don't care as much about what others look like/do/say.

    So true.. I know when I've caught myself being like that it is because of my low self esteem. Kind of like, get them before they get you. I'm really trying to work on my whole being, not just my weight.
  • getitamb
    getitamb Posts: 2,019 Member
    :smile:
    Perhaps they are less likely to just throw down because of their manicures? :laugh: :tongue:
    Best profile pic ever.
  • getitamb
    getitamb Posts: 2,019 Member
    I never insult my own dignity by willingly throwing myself at a woman lesser than myself. I'm a smart alec, yes, and I could be a bit less blunt-but when it comes down to it a lot of people just can't pick their fights right. My solution is to look them straight in the eye (knowing I learned Kenpo from my Cousin) and ask them to hit me; they'll either realize how childish they are, they'll know how confident you are and begin to like you, or they'll hit you (in which case I usually own them anyway). I'm no Cat...'cept at parties ;)

    That will go over great in the workplace. Good luck. :laugh:
    Don't know if I said that comment to the right place. But I was talking about yours.
  • MFPAddict
    MFPAddict Posts: 2,069 Member
    I would never work with people I would ever need to get smart with, so it's not an option ^_^

    Not trying to insult you but your age is really showing. Unless of course you plan to own your own business and can fire annoying people.
  • Sh1tsRainbows
    Sh1tsRainbows Posts: 1,227 Member
    Perhaps they are less likely to just throw down because of their manicures? :laugh: :tongue:

    I thought OMG this guy look like LL! Was drooling! LOL!!!

    I used a picture of someone less attractive than myself so I don't get hit on too much

    hahaha...so what do you REALLY look like??
  • meerkat70
    meerkat70 Posts: 4,605 Member
    OK, so to summarise the thread:

    Not all women do it. (Indeed, I know very few women I'd describe as either catty or *****y. Most of the women I know, professionally and socially, are supportive, inclusionary and kind.) And as has been pointed out on this thread, many men behave in catty, *****y and unpleasant ways.

    i.e. some people are catty, and some people are not. I don't see what sex difference has to do with it.

    I'm left trying to work out why on earth this stereotype of the '*****y' woman remains so resilient.

    It couldn't possibly be that we're just basically labouring over the same tired old sexist stereotypes that should have been put to bed a few decades ago?

    Perish the thought!

    And I'm going to lose all respect for anyone who tries to use some Pinkeresque social evolutionary psych nonsense to support what is essentially an ideological position on sex difference. So don't even try, people....
  • MFPAddict
    MFPAddict Posts: 2,069 Member
    Perhaps they are less likely to just throw down because of their manicures? :laugh: :tongue:

    I thought OMG this guy look like LL! Was drooling! LOL!!!

    I used a picture of someone less attractive than myself so I don't get hit on too much

    hahaha...so what do you REALLY look like??

    6'2" 190, slim build (thanks to MFP), short brown hair, blue eyes
  • LilMissFoodie
    LilMissFoodie Posts: 612 Member
    Yeah, I don't agree that it is always the women either. You might be onto something with the self esteem thing... perhaps a lot of overweight people have poor self esteem? Which would perhaps explain why I tend to find that men are as 'catty' if not more catty on these forums than women?

    To be honest in 'real life' (as much as I hate the expression because I am still real and living my life as I am typing this) I do tend to notice it more from women but I think that is because I care more about what women think. For example if a man told me he thought my top looked stupid, who gives a crap? If a woman did, I'd probably think it was a pretty catty thing to say - the difference for me in these 2 situations is only based on me actually caring about the comment they have made, it's the exact same comment!

    Also, ironically I find that usually the most catty people are the first to ask 'why do people have to be so catty?' but of course this is a huge generalisation and I've seen nothing of the OP to make me think this is the case with them :)
  • livnlite
    livnlite Posts: 520
    I never insult my own dignity by willingly throwing myself at a woman lesser than myself. I'm a smart alec, yes, and I could be a bit less blunt-but when it comes down to it a lot of people just can't pick their fights right. My solution is to look them straight in the eye (knowing I learned Kenpo from my Cousin) and ask them to hit me; they'll either realize how childish they are, they'll know how confident you are and begin to like you, or they'll hit you (in which case I usually own them anyway). I'm no Cat...'cept at parties ;)

    Are you saying, that only by intimidation do you get people to "realize how childish they are" or " begin to like you"??? Asking them to hit you, to show THEM how childish THEY are??? Am I missing something here?

    Did you REALLY mean to say that? Hmm .. I never woulda thought confrontational Intimidation and violent tactics would work when trying to get along with people .. I never would a thunk it.

    Huh ... I must be really outta touch for one thing ... I wouldn't even consider that type of behaviour when I'm offering cordial friendship or just simply trying to co-exist with my co-workers AND .. I am kinda still unclear about the term "Woman lesser than myself" .. Does that mean that someone is shorter? I'm baffled.
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