I Think My Husband Wants a Divorce

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  • tomomatic
    tomomatic Posts: 1,794 Member
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    Hi. It sounds to me that he has some insecurities. For whatever reason, it almost sounds like he has something thats telling him that he doesn't deserve you (for me, that was the bridesmaid at our wedding...long story). For whatever reason, it sounds like he's unsure of himself and his place. Mentally, he's in a dark place and I think I felt the same way a couple years ago when I got laid off. I never questioned the marriage, but I was certainly wounded when I wasn't the bread winner for a while. I even thought to myself that I'd be worth more dead because at least I'd be providing financially.

    I wouldn't have gotten through it without my wife and my friends. My kids were pains in the *kitten* that wouldn't stop bothering me when I was trying to do phone interviews but they gave me purpose, too. It sounds to me like he needs re-assurance, validation, and all that good stuff.

    I'm praying for you and your husband.
    (And don't let him sit around. Make him do some P90x or something)
  • sunkisses
    sunkisses Posts: 2,365 Member
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    I think you should call his bluff and give him the divorce.
  • _Timmeh_
    _Timmeh_ Posts: 2,096 Member
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    Agreed with most of what you said, but maybe he is scared of the fact you are talking to an invisible man.

    Agreed, and the invisible man spoke back.
    This is between you and your husband, no one else.
  • ladyhawk00
    ladyhawk00 Posts: 2,457 Member
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