Men, would you think anything of this comment?

i_love_vinegar
i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
edited October 3 in Chit-Chat
I already have a thread about my crush, but it is like a novel now and this was the first "flirty" thing I have ever done (since I suck at being flirty meh). So, there is a guy I like at my school. He is gorgeous, and I feel like maybe he likes me back...but it is difficult to tell. So I posted a comment on his new FB pic of him and a dog, "The dog is so cute~But ___(his name)___ is obviously cuter! x3"

Is the comment obvious enough that I like him? If you took a picture with an animal, posted it online, and a girl commented that, would you think she liked you?

Thanks guys ^^
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  • jmatthews75
    jmatthews75 Posts: 525 Member
    not for nothing, but it is 2011, why don't you ask him to meet you for drinks some night? the days of a man has to make the first move are long over, just go talk to him and see if any sparks fly.
  • chivalryder
    chivalryder Posts: 4,391 Member
    Frankly, if I didn't like you, and you put that on my fb, I'd be like "WTF!?" *run away.* But that's just me.

    If he does like you, then you'll know from how he responds to your comment (remember, actions speak louder than words).

    Just my $0.02. Take it with a grain of salt.
  • CorrieV1976
    CorrieV1976 Posts: 320 Member
    not for nothing, but it is 2011, why don't you ask him to meet you for drinks some night? the days of a man has to make the first move are long over, just go talk to him and see if any sparks fly.
    i agree -- go for it....the worst he can say is i'm sorry i'm not interested ...at that point you realize that you are amazing and there is someone else out there.....Go get em tiger!!! (I know you wanted a man's point of view, but I had to comment :)
  • PBJunkie
    PBJunkie Posts: 652
    To be honest I would not take a comment on FB seriously, better to send him a private message and ask him out for coffee or just spend more time together.

    At your age people are lot more mature and he would respond sincerely whether he wants to date you or not.
  • dgirllamius
    dgirllamius Posts: 171 Member
    Just wait and see what he says.

    Thats the sort of thing I would do to make a guy know that I like him. I wouldn't be direct about it and just ask him out like that (mainly because I'm shy).

    You never know, might be the start of a new relationship for you :)
  • i_love_vinegar
    i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
    Just wait and see what he says.

    Thats the sort of thing I would do to make a guy know that I like him. I wouldn't be direct about it and just ask him out like that (mainly because I'm shy).

    You never know, might be the start of a new relationship for you :)

    I don't want to be direct either, although people are telling me to be. It's not my personality at all ^^;;;
  • i_love_vinegar
    i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
    ps: Thank you for the comments so far everyone! ^^
  • PBJunkie
    PBJunkie Posts: 652
    Just wait and see what he says.

    Thats the sort of thing I would do to make a guy know that I like him. I wouldn't be direct about it and just ask him out like that (mainly because I'm shy).

    You never know, might be the start of a new relationship for you :)

    I don't want to be direct either, although people are telling me to be. It's not my personality at all ^^;;;

    Trust me you will kick your *kitten* if you let the opportunity slip and in a few years find out he felt the same about you.
  • Donners185
    Donners185 Posts: 329 Member
    Just straight out ask him, lifes too short to be messing around, just confidently ask him out and if he says no then close the subject and move on! :)
  • suzycreamcheese
    suzycreamcheese Posts: 1,766 Member
    id say it was a pretty good hint :o)

    let us know if he replies
  • Topsking2010
    Topsking2010 Posts: 2,245 Member
    Just say hello and start a conversation.
  • dmpizza
    dmpizza Posts: 3,321 Member
    I think that was a very nice comment no matter what your intentions are.
    You should try and ask him out.
    Good luck.
  • i_love_vinegar
    i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
    Just wait and see what he says.

    Thats the sort of thing I would do to make a guy know that I like him. I wouldn't be direct about it and just ask him out like that (mainly because I'm shy).

    You never know, might be the start of a new relationship for you :)

    I don't want to be direct either, although people are telling me to be. It's not my personality at all ^^;;;

    Trust me you will kick your *kitten* if you let the opportunity slip and in a few years find out he felt the same about you.

    That's a really good point. =/ Im kinda scared to ask him, in case he rejects me though. Last semester, in a small "group oriented" class two guys asked me out and on both sides of the room, and it made things very uncomfortable...=/ I already have a couple guys from our class who have made it a bit uncomfortable for this same reason, but since I spend most of my time with my crush it's not so awkward. If he rejects me, I think it will be more uncomfortable than last semester because I will also have been rejected by the person who takes care of me =/
  • crobinson53
    crobinson53 Posts: 164
    Are you really 21?
  • myofibril
    myofibril Posts: 4,500 Member
    How he perceives your comment I think is irrelevant.

    What you seem to be suggesting is that if you give him enough hints he will make a move as you do not want to do so yourself (which is perfectly understandable.) Obviously this means that you think on some level he feels the same about you but is simply waiting for reassurance or a green light from you to be able to do so.

    He could very well like you. A whole lot. However, if neither of you are willing to act upon it then all you have is the potential for something great without ever achieving the reality. All this Twilightesque naval gazing or melodrama won't change that.

    He either makes a move or you do. That's the bottom line. If he does like you but can't act on his desires without heavy prompting you have to ask yourself it that is really the kind of person you want to be with. Doesn't sound fun to have to lead someone round by the nose all the time to get them to do something.
  • i_love_vinegar
    i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
    Are you really 21?

    Yes, are you insinuating something?
  • symba67
    symba67 Posts: 23 Member
    I guess it depends on how cute the dog was lol. But yes, I would get the hint. Any response or "like" from him?
  • i_love_vinegar
    i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
    How he perceives your comment I think is irrelevant.

    What you seem to be suggesting is that if you give him enough hints he will make a move as you do not want to do so yourself (which is perfectly understandable.) Obviously this means that you think on some level he feels the same about you but is simply waiting for reassurance or a green light from you to be able to do so.

    He could very well like you. A whole lot. However, if neither of you are willing to act upon it then all you have is the potential for something great without ever achieving the reality. All this Twilightesque naval gazing or melodrama won't change that.

    He either makes a move or you do. That's the bottom line. If he does like you but can't act on his desires without heavy prompting you have to ask yourself it that is really the kind of person you want to be with. Doesn't sound fun to have to lead someone round by the nose all the time to get them to do something.

    You are amazing, and honestly read me like a book! ^^ I don't have much to add, but wow...You truly are amazing! Thank you for the insight not only into this situation, but into my mind!
  • PBJunkie
    PBJunkie Posts: 652
    How he perceives your comment I think is irrelevant.

    What you seem to be suggesting is that if you give him enough hints he will make a move as you do not want to do so yourself (which is perfectly understandable.) Obviously this means that you think on some level he feels the same about you but is simply waiting for reassurance or a green light from you to be able to do so.

    He could very well like you. A whole lot. However, if neither of you are willing to act upon it then all you have is the potential for something great without ever achieving the reality. All this Twilightesque naval gazing or melodrama won't change that.

    He either makes a move or you do. That's the bottom line. If he does like you but can't act on his desires without heavy prompting you have to ask yourself it that is really the kind of person you want to be with. Doesn't sound fun to have to lead someone round by the nose all the time to get them to do something.

    Can we please get this guy his own expert section in the forum?
  • i_love_vinegar
    i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
    I guess it depends on how cute the dog was lol. But yes, I would get the hint. Any response or "like" from him?

    hahaha!! That's such a great point haha! He usually doesn't go on Facebook until late (it is banned in his country so it's new to him). Thank you for answering the question btw.
  • i_love_vinegar
    i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
    How he perceives your comment I think is irrelevant.

    What you seem to be suggesting is that if you give him enough hints he will make a move as you do not want to do so yourself (which is perfectly understandable.) Obviously this means that you think on some level he feels the same about you but is simply waiting for reassurance or a green light from you to be able to do so.

    He could very well like you. A whole lot. However, if neither of you are willing to act upon it then all you have is the potential for something great without ever achieving the reality. All this Twilightesque naval gazing or melodrama won't change that.

    He either makes a move or you do. That's the bottom line. If he does like you but can't act on his desires without heavy prompting you have to ask yourself it that is really the kind of person you want to be with. Doesn't sound fun to have to lead someone round by the nose all the time to get them to do something.

    Can we please get this guy his own expert section in the forum?

    You had great insight yourself, but I have to agree. This guy is a legend! XD
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    one thing i have found about men, is that they dont really get 'hints'. (no offence guys!!) so you need to be OBVIOUS, as in 'do you want to go out' and even then he may think you're joking...

    good luck!
  • CorrieV1976
    CorrieV1976 Posts: 320 Member
    How he perceives your comment I think is irrelevant.

    What you seem to be suggesting is that if you give him enough hints he will make a move as you do not want to do so yourself (which is perfectly understandable.) Obviously this means that you think on some level he feels the same about you but is simply waiting for reassurance or a green light from you to be able to do so.

    He could very well like you. A whole lot. However, if neither of you are willing to act upon it then all you have is the potential for something great without ever achieving the reality. All this Twilightesque naval gazing or melodrama won't change that.

    He either makes a move or you do. That's the bottom line. If he does like you but can't act on his desires without heavy prompting you have to ask yourself it that is really the kind of person you want to be with. Doesn't sound fun to have to lead someone round by the nose all the time to get them to do something.

    Can we please get this guy his own expert section in the forum?

    You had great insight yourself, but I have to agree. This guy is a legend! XD
    I agree....Please predict my future.... :) Honestly GREAT ANSWER!
  • i_love_vinegar
    i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
    one thing i have found about men, is that they dont really get 'hints'. (no offence guys!!) so you need to be OBVIOUS, as in 'do you want to go out' and even then he may think you're joking...

    good luck!

    Thank you!! I guess I can "jokingly" as him ^^ That way it doesn't become awkward either way ^^
  • Adrenaline_Queen
    Adrenaline_Queen Posts: 626 Member
    Send him a private message.... xxxxxxxxxxxx

    He most probably thinks your joking, you have to say it to him for him to get you like him xxx Good luck xx
  • i_love_vinegar
    i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
    So he responded to another girl who posted "hi," but not me, so I guess he doesn't like me after all. I feel so stupid because I thought he liked me too =( *sad*

    Im going to go crawl into a fetal position of rejection now lol...I guess I saw this coming u_u
  • i_love_vinegar
    i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
    In case anyone who has been keeping up with this situation is curious...I think he got annoyed with me since today he told me, "I'm going to the library. What are you gonna do?" And I said, "I'm going home now," But yesterday I went to the library with his friend instead...is it possible he liked me, or am I just wishing he did? I felt like he liked me D'=
  • suzycreamcheese
    suzycreamcheese Posts: 1,766 Member
    id leave him to it. Maybe youre right, if hes replied to someone else, but not acknowledged what you wrote, id probably feel like backing off, but maybe see how he is with you next time you see him and judge from there?
  • i_love_vinegar
    i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
    id leave him to it. Maybe youre right, if hes replied to someone else, but not acknowledged what you wrote, id probably feel like backing off, but maybe see how he is with you next time you see him and judge from there?

    After a bit of encouragement, I sent him a private message asking him if he wanted to hang out sometime and he never responded. =(

    Ouch.

    Here is the message I sent if anyone is interested:

    Hi ______~ I signed up for the JLCs today. Im going to take the tests tomorrow after class since I still want to study more~I am so scared xD

    I was wondering if you wanted to hang out sometime (not in class lol). I think because we see eachother on campus so often, but do not really know eachother, I become awkward and shy around you. I feel bad acting this way, so pls tell me if there is anyplace u would like to go~or any place you would like to eat ^^

    You have been so nice to me, I would like to treat you to lunch or dinner or something anyways =P

    :frown:
  • AndrewTub
    AndrewTub Posts: 86 Member
    I think your dog comment was a great one ! He could have either replied flirtaciously and set up a date easily, or he could have replied with a standard comment and shown that he's not really interested !

    But if he's not even replying to a that or even a private message then that's kinda rude really ! Not worth chasing if he can't even reply to a message. ... Unless he is like extremely shy or something?
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