A mans motivation

You're not a prude.

Maybe I am though because I'd un-friend him. I refuse to be even a superficial part of someone trying to be unfaithful to their spouse.

The only reason a man would ask a woman to go out of state (I'm assuming) is if he intends to sample the goods. Not to mention the "No strings" thing can't be anymore obvious.

gee thats nice! a "prostitute" i must be huh??? This site is for positivity. I did not state "All", I said "most"... i also know a lot of women who would do the same. I wanted to keep my opinion (opinion) short and sweet cause it can get very messy! I wish you the best on you health goals
. I hope everything works out well 4 her im sure it will!

If he is married, he should not even be asking you(a former girlfriend) let alone any other woman to lunch, unless it is purely business. His wife would be devastated if she knew.

So you're saying a married man can't have female friends? That is so stuck in the dark ages! Haven't you had ex's that are you are now friends with? I know i have, and still do. If his wife is devastated that he went for a meal with a female friend, then she really needs to stop being so clingy and possessive.

ahhh hon i feel for you!! I know its temoting cause it is an old flame but geesh I know that this gets messy if entertained! I would just do vague contact like congrats on the new baby and um ya... im so busy ha ha! good luck hon keep me posted!!

gee thats nice! a "prostitute" i must be huh??? This site is for positivity. I did not state "All", I said "most"... i also know a lot of women who would do the same. I wanted to keep my opinion (opinion) short and sweet cause it can get very messy! I wish you the best on you health goals
. I hope everything works out well 4 her im sure it will!

Dammnnnnn homegirl put yo *kitten* in check! xD

If he is married, he should not even be asking you(a former girlfriend) let alone any other woman to lunch, unless it is purely business. His wife would be devastated if she knew.

So you're saying a married man can't have female friends? That is so stuck in the dark ages! Haven't you had ex's that are you are now friends with? I know i have, and still do. If his wife is devastated that he went for a meal with a female friend, then she really needs to stop being so clingy and possessive.

I totally think married men and women can have friends of the opposite sex.
But
1. This guy is a manipulative jerk. It's been 12 years but I remember that.
2. His wife is pregnant, if he tried something I'd hate to have to say something
3. He's recently told me "you were the one who got away" and similar things

I'd love to think there weren't any motives behind this. But I know him.
I'm a single mother in an LDR, I get lonely.
I'd hate to think a glass of wine at dinner could make him think he could try and manipulate me.
He couldn't
But I hate awkward

I had an ex offer to fly 1,200 miles to "visit" with me. He was married also and claimed to be happily married, but less than a year later his wife left him for his best friend. Apparently, they hadn't had sex since their wedding night and she was knockin' boots with his best friend in his house behind his back. So much for the happy marriage pretense. I'm glad I said, "no" and stayed 1,200 miles away from that stuff.

Long story short, you have no idea what's going on there so just don't get all mixed up in someone else's marriage drama.

i agree! next thing u know ull be on jerry springer..!! ha ha

... or Maury.... You ARE the father!

lol no way. I want nothing to do with it. Nothing at all.
I remember him being a jerk. Of the times we did sleep together I remember NOTHING. So clearly even if he wasn't married I'm NOT missing out on anything.


I want to clarify that I posted this not because I was thinking about meeting him for dinner(no way jose!). But because I find it interesting and funny.

As a married man you do not tell a chick(in a relationship) "you're the one who got away" or "ill always be weak around you" and expect her to accept an invitation to dinner. lol

It's sad how many women fall for that crap though, which is why some guys try it. One of my best friends had a 2-year affair with a married man who pulled that line on her along with the "my wife is horrible, but I can't leave b/c of bla bla bla." She's not dumb, but she is really insecure about men. Needless to say, it ended in a lot of heartbreak and lawyers.

can i get a heck ya! thats a girl !! we know ur too good! but it is fun to laugh about!!

Didn't read through the whole thread, but my guess is he is hoping to take you to dinner and if he "accidentally falls, his p***s might "accidentally" accost you.

men are such pigs

Everyone loves bacon.

Sounds like something I wouldn't be surprised to catch my husband doing.... blah men are such pigs and yes I know not all but MOST! I'm happily married can't you tell =D

Ha! To be honest...if I was his wife I'll be tripping out on this! She's acting to cool about it...she probably have low self esteem or something. But not me! "Who's this? And...? Why you talking to her? 12 years ago?!?!? And...? Your point is? Delete her! You're my man! I married you love means sacrifice so uh if you think you're leaving me for some chick from 12 years ago...ha! You think wrong! You better check yourself before you wreck yourself!" PS. She's probably not giving him good head. Lmao! Jk

lol omg hilarious!! n heck no i wouldnt keep anyone in check ! if they wanna go "beat it" ! us grlz dont need to waste time! NEXT!

I couldn't agree more! Why waste all of your time worrying and stressing over what your man is doing... if he is brazen enough to flirt/ try to make a move on other women then F em! Let them go... I could careless, because obviously your relationship will not be any good if he does not want you and only you 100% and trust me any man that strays will do it again and again and again.

Also, ladies don't look though his phone to see who is texting/calling, don't look on his FB to see who his friends are and don't look in his wallet for a condom. Look in the DAMN mirror and ask yourself why are you in this relationship, because once you have to resort to doing those sort of things... the relationship is DONE!