Littlte bit of advice

i grew up in a all white lifestyle and went to my trade school and never talked to black people in real life. now i have been working on my multicultrueal awareness here and i am bridgeing hte gap that i had with black poeple.

dont worry just because a woman have a different color skin doesnt mean they are going to sprout talons, wings, and a tail

No, we woman just do that for fun. :devil:

^^god dont i know that lol, anyway the others are right, just ask her out and have some fun

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why not just talk to her like you would talk to any other girl and then see if there are cultural issues? for all you know she grew up like you and has more in common with you than with people of her own race and this is why she is attracted to you in the first place! just get to know her and don't make any assumptions about her based on her race and most of all be yourself. don't speak in ebonics if you usually don't and don't pretend to like things that you think she will like just because she's black.

My husband is puerto rican, my boyfriend before that was black (which seriously didn't process in my head until he asked if I had dated a black guy before), one before that Egyptian, my brother in law in Arab....should I go on?

. I am also living in my 3rd country right now...

I see in color, but not because I am racist. I have never gone out with a guy and NOT noticed his race/ethnicity~actually, the different appearance/culture is what I find most attractive ^^

So...as for the OP...just because he sees her as a "black girl" doesn't mean he is racist either (Just because he doens't have the past intercultural dating experience like some of us shouldn't matter).

Extremely jealous that you have lived in 3 different countries! And I agree that generally it is the difference that is appealing, it just so happened that with the last guy I dated that I didn't really notice his race.

I also agree that just because he sees her as a "black girl" does not mean he is racist, and I'm not even insinuating that he is racist. HOWEVER the fact that he sees the fact that she's black as something that requires direction/advice is an issue to me. Having been treated differently because I am a woman in a predominantly male field really ticks me off and when someone feels the need to treat another person differently based souly on outward appearance I feel that it is something to be addressed and dealt with.

Someone else said something about not being "blessed" to have an intercoulteral background and that caught my attention. I am blessed to have the background I have, and it is always shocking to me when I am around people who were not raised in the same melting pot as I was raised in. So perhaps I do need to be a little easier on the guy, perhaps being in a melting pot is as much of a shock for him as being part of white suberbia is a shock to me. Either way, I saw so LeeKetty has great advice!

AGREED.

Ok, so the poor guy was never exposed to other cultures. Give him a break, he's trying! He likes her, he's obviously not racist. Everyone needs to stop pretending they are color blind. How many of you who responded has actually ever dated someone of a different race??

My husband is puerto rican, my boyfriend before that was black (which seriously didn't process in my head until he asked if I had dated a black guy before), one before that Egyptian, my brother in law in Arab....should I go on?

Okay, so you had the benefit of being exposed to people of other races, cultures, and ethnic backgrounds, congradulations. Not everyone comes from an area that is diverse and this can lead to insecurities. While I too have dated people with various ethnic and religious background that does not make me suprerior, just more fortunate (imho).

Dear, just talk to her. She's a woman with all the same working parts as any other woman you've met and all the same individualities.

I grew up in a small town and graduated in a class of only 98 students. Of those 98, 1 girl was Indian and 1 guy was black and actually he was bi-racial. In the entire highschool my senior year there was roughly 400 students. 1 Indian, 1 black, 5 Asian, no hispanic ....There are small towns like these EVERYWHERE! I've never dated outside my race because honestly there's really never been the opportunity? I guess.

Honey, women are women. Keep talking to her and best of luck.