she said 'YOU DON'T NEED TO EAT THAT'

I'm optomistic (sp?) thinking she did not want you to sabatoge yourself! A good friend would tell you that - maybe she was not very diplomatic about it. :>/

wow. that's too bad. it sounds like this interaction ruined the trip for you. how long have you been friends? can you bring it up to her and tell her why your pissed and ask what she was thinking?

sensitive. Let that go

ooooohhhhhh :explode:

WTH is wrong with people? She's a HATER!

I hope you can find a way to ignore her comments and enjoy the rest of your vacation.

Say "you don't need to eat those either but you've been stuffing your face with them all day".

I feel the same way when my husband tries to help me. But (as someone else said), he's trying to stop me from sabotaging myself. It's not that he thinks that I need to lose weight...but he knows that i want to lose more weight and hears the complaints when I don't.

I have found myself in situations with certain people who are supposed to care about you saying things that i have found discouraging and offensive like your situation i was unsure if i was being to sensitive or not. As I myself would not say that to someone. As someone else pointed out though, she probably was just looking out for you and didn't want you to ruin your diet however there is no harm in eating a few crisps once in a while.

I have this theory that a lot of people, sometimes ourselves included, think fat people should suffer. You SHOULD be hungry, you aren't ENTITLED to eat. It's infuriating. I'm afraid that I would have thrown those chips back on the table and walked out the door, got in my car, and drove somewhere for dinner.

I don't think you're being too sensitive at all.

brush it off Haters gonna HATE !

I love being your friend!!!! and..... since i've "known" you I have never seen you back down from anything.....tell her how you feel!! then make the decision!

losing 20lbs is GREAT, but I do think you should have planned the trip better for healthy snacks. It's good to lose weight, but doing it the right way with eating through out the day is best. You can't deprive your body of what it needs. Your friend was wrong to blurt that out the way she did, but if you didn't express your feelings about it right then in there, it's best to let it go, but explain you'd like encouragement rather than judgement. Best of luck to you!

Say "you don't need to eat those either but you've been stuffing your face with them all day".

Exactly, cuz they aren't healthy for ANY ONE~!

As we lose weight and start to feel better, do more, etc.....our friends all have their own reaction - stemming from their insecurities and confidence and heart. She may be one to let go. You don't need someone who's gonna say things that make you feel bad - we need supportive friends. she may be trying to be supportive and just not have realized how it came across....give the hurt time to subside and see how you feel. No need to act right this moment.

There is the possibility that she was just trying to be helpful... tone of voice and facial expression as well as how she behaves to you overall make a big difference. Only you can evaluate that. Before you just decide you're being oversensitive, consider whether she's really intending to put you down or if she's just showing what she thinks is tough love.

Sad as it is, there ARE pathetic people out there who are so insecure that they will use humiliation and backhanded compliments to keep you down so that you won't end up skinnier or prettier than them, or whatever it is they're jealous about. I had this one "friend" a few years ago who weighed at least 80 lbs more than me, and she would constantly talk about how fat I was and how I wouldn't ever find a boyfriend because of it, blah, blah. My advice if she is like that... GET AWAY FROM THERE!!! It will only get worse, especially as you start looking even better.

If she is really a friend, you could talk to her about this and tell her that sort of thing is belitting and not ok with you. If you don't think you could be open with her about that or that you would not get a reasonable response, then I'd say she's no friend and you're better off without her negativity weighing you down.

Firstly, breathe. ^_^
I know that when I am hungry (and I can only imagine being ravenous after a trek like that!) I tend to be rather...sensitive, shall we say, to ANYTHING other people say to me that even hints of judgement or reprisal.
Now, I am not suggesting you are nearly s crazy as I can be when not fed properly, but perhaps do take into consideration that factor? She certainly did not need to give you sass about it, esp if that was her all day diet, but some people (myself admittedly included) don't always manage to think about how the words coming out of our faces are going to sound to the recipient.
If this is a person you have had a fair history of enjoyable times with, I'd say take the time to (once in a fairly calm state of mind) talk with her and see if she is aware of how frustrating/infuriating her comment was to you.

Don't let one comment ruin your vacation or your fitness quest), it just is not worth it!

Be strong, and know that you are the boss of you, not her, not the freakin' chips, just you!

It's only as big a deal as you let it be.

If someone made a comment like that, I'd leave and go to a bar and get food much tastier than the chips .

Sorry it impacted your vacation