Cutting off communication with a family member
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Elizabeth_C34
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Have you ever completely cut off all communication from a family member?
If so, do you regret your decision?
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I am asking because I am thinking of completely cutting my dad out of my life. He's become a very toxic person for me. He's a liar, has tried to mooch money off me and his elderly father, takes advantage of me and my grandfather, and only calls when he wants money or on the holidays when his ex wife forces him to. It's difficult for me because we were really close when I was young. I was the first person to finish high school in my family, and after I graduated college, I think he and my aunt got very nasty towards me. Hubby seems to think it's jealousy, but I am not sure. I've tried to talk to him and given him multiple chances to get back in my life, and he's never once apologized.
I was just curious to see who else had to do this.
If so, do you regret your decision?
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I am asking because I am thinking of completely cutting my dad out of my life. He's become a very toxic person for me. He's a liar, has tried to mooch money off me and his elderly father, takes advantage of me and my grandfather, and only calls when he wants money or on the holidays when his ex wife forces him to. It's difficult for me because we were really close when I was young. I was the first person to finish high school in my family, and after I graduated college, I think he and my aunt got very nasty towards me. Hubby seems to think it's jealousy, but I am not sure. I've tried to talk to him and given him multiple chances to get back in my life, and he's never once apologized.
I was just curious to see who else had to do this.
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yes.
and,
not at all.0 -
1. Yes...
2. No.
If she decides not to be a slanderous thundering sow, I'll reconsider speaking to her again.0 -
Yes and not even slightly. Some people are just not worth it.0
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yes I have and it was because our relationship was toxic! I have no regrets I made the choice to live healthy physically and mentally0
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Yes. No.0
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I no longer speak to my oldest brother. He became a holy roller and constantly denigrated everyone around him. I don't regret not speaking to him as it always turned into a religious argument.0
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1. Yes, but I it might have been easier because I was away at college at the time so it was easier to remove myself from her life. This is an immediate family member.
2. Yes. Because while I didn't agree with her decisions, that is when she needed me (and the rest of us) the most.
SIde Note: all is a thousand percent fine now. She is my best friend now.
So every situation is different. Best of luck... {hugs}0 -
Yes.
Absolutely not.0 -
Yes and it took me 10 years to decide that forgiveness is the way to go......Life is too short to be nagry and unhappy, that was my experience.0
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Yes - a brother and a sister
No - but my other sister (who also cut off communication with the same people) died unexpectedly and made for a VERY uncomfortable family gathering...0 -
Yes I have. Personally, I don't regret it, but I do miss the way our relationship used to be and how much fun we had together. Sometimes, though, you can't control how people change, even a family member. I'm sure it will be hard, but if the circumstances are there, and you think you will lead a healthier life (physically, mentally and emotionally) then you need to do what's best for you!0
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1. Yes, but I it might have been easier because I was away at college at the time so it was easier to remove myself from her life. This is an immediate family member.
2. Yes. Because while I didn't agree with her decisions, that is when she needed me (and the rest of us) the most.
SIde Note: all is a thousand percent fine now. She is my best friend now.
So every situation is different. Best of luck... {hugs}
Thanks. The person in question for me is actually my dad. He's a very toxic person in my life. Hubby says I should cut him off and never look back. I'm starting to think he's right.0 -
Yep, it wasn't easy but life has improved. Cut off anybody who doesn't listen to you, acknowledge you, or support you. Get your head right by thinking about how to take care of YOU.
I don't regret it but sometimes I wonder if person X has started getting their own sh** together or if they're still in denial.0 -
have i cut off communication - YES!
do i regret it - very VERY seldom!
some people, they just make life harder. and bring you down. at a MK retreat i was at 2 weekends ago, one of the guest speakers said this:
"You have to break up with the people who bring you down. If someone is always like 'oh i'm having a bad day', you have to be like 'sorry to hear that, I am having a GREAT day!' and eventually your positive attitude will bug them so much because you aren't feeding into their wanting you to be down with them, that they will 'break up' with you!"
what i took from that is if someone can't be happy for you, or keeps bringing you down, "BREAK-UP" with them!
and it has come to a point in my life, that if they aren't going to support me and my family, i'm BREAKING UP WITH THEM! and it will be THEIR loss. not mine!0 -
Yes I have and I do not regret it one bit. I made the decision a year ago and should have done it a lot sooner.0
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Yes, some people...especially family can be way to hurtful and negative to be around!
No regrets, it is way better than dealing with the drama every single time we were all in the same room! Mexico for Christmas is awesome...highly recommend it!0 -
My sister and I didn't speak for 8 years. Why? I still don't know to this day. At first, I was angry and couldn't care less if we ever spoke again. I carried that anger around for years. When I finally realized that I was only hurting myself, by staying angry, I let go of it. It isn't healthy to carry around that kind of anger. Not only was it a strain between her and I, but with the rest of the family as well. Last December, she let go of it as well and contacted me. We've been working on things ever since. It isn't like it used to be and I don't think it will ever be, but I have my sister back to some degree. I did miss her and regret the years lost!0
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Yup. I haven't spoken to my father since I was 20. And that was only because he approached me at my brother's HS graduation. Not including that brief exchange, he's been out of my life for a total of 8 or 9 years. I don't regret it.0
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Yes I have. Personally, I don't regret it, but I do miss the way our relationship used to be and how much fun we had together. Sometimes, though, you can't control how people change, even a family member. I'm sure it will be hard, but if the circumstances are there, and you think you will lead a healthier life (physically, mentally and emotionally) then you need to do what's best for you!
I think I'm still stuck thinking he'll come around to being my dad again instead of this really nasty person in my life.0 -
Yep, it wasn't easy but life has improved. Cut off anybody who doesn't listen to you, acknowledge you, or support you. Get your head right by thinking about how to take care of YOU.
I don't regret it but sometimes I wonder if person X has started getting their own sh** together or if they're still in denial.
This is exactly my husband's attitude about it. I'm starting to think he's right.0
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