Cutting off communication with a family member

yes.

and,

not at all.

Yes and not even slightly. Some people are just not worth it.

Yes. No.

1. Yes, but I it might have been easier because I was away at college at the time so it was easier to remove myself from her life. This is an immediate family member.

2. Yes. Because while I didn't agree with her decisions, that is when she needed me (and the rest of us) the most.

SIde Note: all is a thousand percent fine now. She is my best friend now.

So every situation is different. Best of luck... {hugs}

Yes and it took me 10 years to decide that forgiveness is the way to go......Life is too short to be nagry and unhappy, that was my experience.

Yes I have. Personally, I don't regret it, but I do miss the way our relationship used to be and how much fun we had together. Sometimes, though, you can't control how people change, even a family member. I'm sure it will be hard, but if the circumstances are there, and you think you will lead a healthier life (physically, mentally and emotionally) then you need to do what's best for you!

Yep, it wasn't easy but life has improved. Cut off anybody who doesn't listen to you, acknowledge you, or support you. Get your head right by thinking about how to take care of YOU.

I don't regret it but sometimes I wonder if person X has started getting their own sh** together or if they're still in denial.

Yes I have and I do not regret it one bit. I made the decision a year ago and should have done it a lot sooner.

My sister and I didn't speak for 8 years. Why? I still don't know to this day. At first, I was angry and couldn't care less if we ever spoke again. I carried that anger around for years. When I finally realized that I was only hurting myself, by staying angry, I let go of it. It isn't healthy to carry around that kind of anger. Not only was it a strain between her and I, but with the rest of the family as well. Last December, she let go of it as well and contacted me. We've been working on things ever since. It isn't like it used to be and I don't think it will ever be, but I have my sister back to some degree. I did miss her and regret the years lost!

Could not imagine it. Even if the person would be not so nice, I would have diplomatic peace rather then having war or neglect. I would not feel comfy with that. But I did broke relation with coulpe of my so call friends...And still miss one of them sometimes. Family is diffent for me...

Yes, I quit talking to my mom's brother & dont regret it one bit.

Yes. and Yes.

When I was 18 I cut off all communication with my mother because she was also a very toxic person. For the first year I tried repeatedly to allow her back in my life but finally gave up. I saw her 2 times in the next 17 years and didnt really feel like she was a very different person.

About 5 years ago every once in a while I would do a google search on her name and see if I could find out her address. Every time I did that there would be 5 of them and I wouldnt know really which one was hers and I never got up the courage to call.

Two years ago I did that google search and a link came up for a company that my mother worked at when I was a young child and I thought that was strange so I clicked the link. Sure enough it was a company profile and had my mothers picture on it. For the next 2 hours I sat at my chair with that page up and every few minutes I would go back and look at the page. It took me 2 hours to gain the courage to call that number and ask for my mother. When the receptionist answered the phone and I asked for my mother by name the girl on the phone paused for a good 20 or 30 seconds and then she said my first and middle name. I was a little shocked and I said yes and she said "hold on". About a minute later she came back and said "Sweety where are you" and I replied I was at home. She said "your mother passed away yesterday evening" and I said "thank you" and hung up the phone.

Those last years my mother had changed drastically and had told many stories about me to her co-workers that I found out after her funeral during discussions with them. My mother had even told them she had been a bad parent and that she regretted what all she had done to myself and my brother through out the years. She wouldnt even join people for holidays she sat at home waiting to see if we might show up.

After I found out all of this I felt horrible. Why had I waited so long, why had I not tried earlier to contact her. My mother had a rough time of it the last year as she had been battling cancer pretty much alone. I'm not really sure I will ever really forgive myself or her for putting us both in that position to not be able to enjoy each other at the end.

My mother was a very toxic person, but she was still my mother and I still loved her. Try having less contact with your dad and see if that helps.

this sounds like my life.... my dad and i were pretty close when i was a kid. but he changed or i opened my eyes not sure which. he is a manipulative liar who uses anyone and everyone he can. about 5 years ago he tried to force me to go to court for him during his 3rd divorce and lie about his wife so he would get the kids (i have a brother n sister who r much much younger than i am), simply because he did not want to pay child support. i refused to do it, i am not a liar and certainly would never tell lies that could cause a mother to lose her children. when i refused he disowned me and also turned the rest of my family from his side against me, i have not talked to any of them in 5 yrs. i tried to talk to him about 2 yrs ago i called at christmas time and he asked who i was, i said brandy, he said brandy who.... and then hung up. i have also tried to contact my grandma: his mom, she won't talk to me at all either. so i just let it go. i am really ok with it, he was not a good person. every now and then the thought of him dying and me not evening knowing or being contacted upsets me but i have accepted that too. i moved from cincinnati to la county about 6 months ago and know that there is a very good chance i will never see him or any of my paternal family again.

it is a sorry situation, but u have the think of ur own happiness for once. sorry u r going through this, i hope u make the right choice for u.