For women: "Your husband must be happy..."

If people said that to me, it would make me feel like *kitten*.

But, I think they were doing their best to compliment you?

Do your best to not let it bother you. You know deep down that your man would be happy with you no matter what

Considering the title of the topic is "For Women", then maybe you shouldn't have bothered to come in and call us all stupid. That doesn't help. In case you did not know, women and men do think differently. I promise you that I find it completely insane that my husband can quote sports statistics from before he was even born, yet has difficulty remembering bdays. But I don't call him stupid for it. My only point was, don't be so rude. It's hurtful, and NOT helpful.

I didn't call anyone stupid but this topic is stupid. Again, reading more into a statement than is there.

I think it's people being over sensative and it drive people nuts. All the women here are the same ones that would complain about their husbands not finding them more attractive now that they are fit, if that was the case. "Oh...he hardly notices how much I lost.....blubber, blubber".
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Question. Do you all read this far into every statement people say? If you do, life must be a living hell.

ummmm, yeah...that's what us women do...we overanalyze things and read into them. Its really not our fault - its a girl thing!

Thanks for being honest. That's my point, this is all just stupid. By time this thread is over not only will this be an insult someone's hubby will have been cheating on them as a result.

I kinda think that why the OP started the thread with "For Women:", because there's a huge difference in how women perceive things compared to men....we might be oversensitive, but we know exactly what she's thinking when she hears these things.

With all due respect, I'm sure there are plenty of things guys think that we would find stupid as well....

Thanks for proving the point. So, now, if this is clearly being oversensative and mostly "how women perceive things" then perhaps people shouldn't be making people who are trying to complement them sound like little Hitlers?

Thanks for proving the point. So, now, if this is clearly being oversensative and mostly "how women perceive things" then perhaps people shouldn't be making people who are trying to complement them sound like little Hitlers?

Because she's just venting...that's all, and we've all wondered if there was a hidden message behind these "compliments" (women do that too...make overly sweet 'compliments' that have hidden cattiness behind them).

I'm not sure why you're letting a thread titled "For women..." get you so worked up though. If its all so stupid to you, why do you keep reading and commenting?

My boyfriend is less attracted to me now. He fell in love with me because he has a thing for plus sized ladies, and he's actually disappointed that I've gone down from a size 22 to a size 14. And I'm planning on going down even further.

I refuse to keep the weight on just because he's attracted to it, though. My health was suffering badly, and it was totally the right time to lose weight.

Most of my co-workers assume I'm a lesbian anyway.

After running a dating advice site for a dozen years, women are sooooooooo not the only ones who read too much into things.

"OMG, she blinked twice and touched her hair when I talked to her... WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?!?" :laugh:

People read too much into things. Men, women, both.

But, yes, I find it a little insulting when someone suggests that I lost weight for my husband's viewing pleasure. I don't lose sleep over the comments, but I do roll my eyes at them. On the inside. I wouldn't roll my eyes to someone's face because that would be more rude than their comment, which was likely not intended to be rude.

the wife of a co-worker asked "how does your husband like your new body"
its NOT a new body, it's the OLD one I had before 5 kids & a desk job

No, I've never gotten such comments, but I totally understand you feeling uncomfortable with those comments. It seems as if some people really think being overweight is the worst thing in the world and that everyone thinks like them. It's a bit delusional in my opinion.

the comment I get is 'I bet Bill is happy you didn't lose the boobs/puppies' or things along those lines, always from guys who know him. I just think they are guys and take no notice

My husband IS happy I lost weight, really happy. Thinks I look hot and is proud of me. I don't think it is a bad thing, it's not saying he didn't love me when I was fat, because he did, he married me when I was fat. But he IS allowed to be happy that he has a hot new improved wife, one that is healthier, fitter, looks better in my clothes, can do more with him, gets less tired, less breathless and stands a much lower chance of developing life limiting condition's, what would it say about him if he WASN'T happy?

I have decided that some people who are on this journey are a tad over-sensitive and negative and take even the most well meant COMPLIMENTS as a bad thing, I like to take them as COMPLIMENTS, after all, he bloody should be happy, his wife is looking SMOKIN'

Question. Do you all read this far into every statement people say? If you do, life must be a living hell.

ummmm, yeah...that's what us women do...we overanalyze things and read into them. Its really not our fault - its a girl thing!

We do not all do this! Your statement is a cop out. We should not just chuck rational thought out the window because we have a vagina. It's insulting.

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I guess what they're trying to tell me is by putting "for women" it means don't bother there will be no rational thought going on in here? You are right that would be insulting.

Let me clairfy..I never said "all" women do this, but you can't deny its a woman thing to read more into these kinds of comments. Its also a fact that a lot of women (again...not saying all women) will make comment that might appear to be compliments on the surface, but have an underlying insult that is clear (and men don't necessarily 'get' that message, because they didn't grow up as a girl). It has nothing to do with rational or irrational thoughts...its just that women tend to see through those comments and get the catty message underneath, and sometimes even if a straight out compliment is made, we tend to be 'suspicious' of the message.