i love my bf but.......
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OP~ Are you just venting because he pissed you off this morning, or is he really a jerk most of the time and everything you do bothers him?0
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And why exactly would you make that presumption?there arent kids presumably.0 -
You need to get out of that relationship. I stuck with someone like that for 2 years even though he treated me like **** and cheated on me. Every time my friends or family would tell me to dump him cause he was hurting me so much i would always reply...."but i love him". But one day i just had enough and i decided that i wasnt gona let him knock my confidence any more and that if i wasnt gona get the respect and love i deserved from him than i would at least give it to myself, so i dumped him. Well i tell ya, after a month or 2 he came crawling back sayin how much he loved me..bla bla bla and asked me to take him back but i told him where to go. When i seen him, i felt nothing but pitty and found him really unattractive cause i finally could see him for what he really was. I guarantee you that even though you might think you love him now, you will be so much happier without him. I promise you. Your better off being alone than with someone who doesnt love you and treats you badly. Hope you find the courage to do what YOU KNOW is right!0
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A statement like that usually has 2 truths in the long run.
1) It will never get better,no matter how hard you pretend it is.
2) It will only get worse and end a thousand times unhappier then is right now.
Wow, how to make life seem so simple :-)
Just what I have seen...if anyone knows of a guy that treated a lady like crap and was an *kitten* but got better then good for them.
I have never heard of one that did so all I can go on.0 -
A statement like that usually has 2 truths in the long run.
1) It will never get better,no matter how hard you pretend it is.
2) It will only get worse and end a thousand times unhappier then is right now.
Wow, how to make life seem so simple :-)
Just what I have seen...if anyone knows of a guy that treated a lady like crap and was an *kitten* but got better then good for them.
I have never heard of one that did so all I can go on.
I agree, Carl. When the bell goes off, most people realize they are not really in love with that person, they are really in love with the person they WISH that person was.0 -
A statement like that usually has 2 truths in the long run.
1) It will never get better,no matter how hard you pretend it is.
2) It will only get worse and end a thousand times unhappier then is right now.
Wow, how to make life seem so simple :-)
Just what I have seen...if anyone knows of a guy that treated a lady like crap and was an *kitten* but got better then good for them.
I have never heard of one that did so all I can go on.
I think there are different levels of crap...!0 -
A statement like that usually has 2 truths in the long run.
1) It will never get better,no matter how hard you pretend it is.
2) It will only get worse and end a thousand times unhappier then is right now.
Wow, how to make life seem so simple :-)
Just what I have seen...if anyone knows of a guy that treated a lady like crap and was an *kitten* but got better then good for them.
I have never heard of one that did so all I can go on.
I agree, Carl. When the bell goes off, most people realize they are not really in love with that person, they are really in love with the person they WISH that person was.
Oh good call...0 -
I'm not trying to be cynical here, just honest. It is possible to love someone and still walk away if you're not feeling loved in a relationship. I don't think anyone is foolish enough to say it's easy. It's difficult to stay and work it out if it's not working, it's difficult to make the decision to leave someone behind that you love and move on with your life. My view on it is, why waste your time, your life on someone who isn't on the same page as you. You can try talking but if this is how he is all the time, it's a better use of your time to just move on.0
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It's not normal for relationships to be a one way street. Not with the right person. Without knowing ALL details, I have to assume that they don't have the same definition of what being nice, respectful, inviting, loving, etc., to each-other means. It's a horrible feeling to feel unappreciated, that's what she's sounding like to me right now.
Seriously? Sounds like a one way street to me...He's a jerk, but you like his butt? That's a start.It normally is.0 -
There's always another side...but really, it's so much better to be single than be in an unhappy relationship. Evaluate your priorities, talk to him, but don't be afraid to dump him.0
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I think the OP needs to give us some more details!0
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It's not normal for relationships to be a one way street. Not with the right person. Without knowing ALL details, I have to assume that they don't have the same definition of what being nice, respectful, inviting, loving, etc., to each-other means. It's a horrible feeling to feel unappreciated, that's what she's sounding like to me right now.
I'm fairly certain it was a joke...think about it for a bit
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Thumbs up.It's not normal for relationships to be a one way street. Not with the right person. Without knowing ALL details, I have to assume that they don't have the same definition of what being nice, respectful, inviting, loving, etc., to each-other means. It's a horrible feeling to feel unappreciated, that's what she's sounding like to me right now.
I'm fairly certain it was a joke...think about it for a bit0 -
A statement like that usually has 2 truths in the long run.
1) It will never get better,no matter how hard you pretend it is.
2) It will only get worse and end a thousand times unhappier then is right now.
Wow, how to make life seem so simple :-)
It usually IS that simple. People try to piece together a relationship out of fear of being alone and end up settling for someone they KNOW they aren't right for.
Take it from me on this one.0 -
umm what? :noway: :sick: :grumble: :explode:
:mad: :yawn: 0 -
Am I the only one who wants to beat my head against the wall reading this?!
The OP summed up her relationship in two sentences. How can anyone give her any type of advise based on that?!
Who knows, maybe her boyfriend is married to someone else. Maybe she spews hatred 24/7 and thats why nothing she says or does is good enough.
Whatever...I just don't get it around here sometimes.0 -
Rorschach would be so proud of the OP.0
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boy bye! that is what you say.0
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attention whooooaaaaaakaayy fine i won't finish that thought. but you get my drift, right?0
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Am I the only one who wants to beat my head against the wall reading this?!
The OP summed up her relationship in two sentences. How can anyone give her any type of advise based on that?!
Who knows, maybe her boyfriend is married to someone else. Maybe she spews hatred 24/7 and thats why nothing she says or does is good enough.
Whatever...I just don't get it around here sometimes.
The point is, none of that is relevant. Relationships are all about how you FEEL about someone else.
If she feels he doesn't respect her and is a jerk... thats enough to find a new one, because it wont get better.0 -
You just defied your definition of sarcasm. LOLattention whooooaaaaaakaayy fine i won't finish that thought. but you get my drift, right?0 -
You need to get out of that relationship. I stuck with someone like that for 2 years even though he treated me like **** and cheated on me. Every time my friends or family would tell me to dump him cause he was hurting me so much i would always reply...."but i love him". But one day i just had enough and i decided that i wasnt gona let him knock my confidence any more and that if i wasnt gona get the respect and love i deserved from him than i would at least give it to myself, so i dumped him. Well i tell ya, after a month or 2 he came crawling back sayin how much he loved me..bla bla bla and asked me to take him back but i told him where to go. When i seen him, i felt nothing but pitty and found him really unattractive cause i finally could see him for what he really was. I guarantee you that even though you might think you love him now, you will be so much happier without him. I promise you. Your better off being alone than with someone who doesnt love you and treats you badly. Hope you find the courage to do what YOU KNOW is right!
thanks for sharing your story. its just so hard to let someone go,.. when you love that person.0 -
Lol... I'll just sit here and enjoy my popcorn.0
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sometimes guys get into a funk, for whatever reason. while it's not your job to be super extra nice to him and take all his abuse, wouldn't you like him to be a little considerate if you're having a couple of bad days?? maybe surpise him with his favorite beer and some steaks?
I agree with this. Try to treat him in the way that you would want to be treated. Give him the chance to explain. THEN AFTER the surprise beer and steaks (and maybe some other **fun** things that guys generally LOVE) - if he is still irritated - SEE YA!0 -
Lol... I'll just sit here and enjoy my popcorn.
Right?0 -
You just defied your definition of sarcasm. LOLattention whooooaaaaaakaayy fine i won't finish that thought. but you get my drift, right?
but i REALLY, REALLY wanted to convey my point, even to the simple minded.0 -
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You just defied your definition of sarcasm. LOLattention whooooaaaaaakaayy fine i won't finish that thought. but you get my drift, right?
but i REALLY, REALLY wanted to convey my point, even to the simple minded.0 -
I love this ...
OP: My boyfriend is annoyed by everything I say.
Women of MFP: Have you tried talking to him?
This is why men and women are perpetually at odds.
Again, I refer to He's Just Not That Into You: If a guy treats you like he doesn't give a ****, he genuinely doesn't give a ****.
Do with that information what you will.0 -
He doesn't act like a jerk, he TRULY is one. You may need to kick him to the curb!0
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I love this ...
OP: My boyfriend is annoyed by everything I say.
Women of MFP: Have you tried talking to him?
This is why men and women are perpetually at odds.
Again, I refer to He's Just Not That Into You: If a guy treats you like he doesn't give a ****, he genuinely doesn't give a ****.
Do with that information what you will.
Also stereotyping an entire gender works wonders for your relationships.0
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