emotional struggle

Hey bryan! Welcome to MFP! You are getting on the RIGHT track as long as you have the set of mind in changing yourself I'm sure you'll get to your goal, it's matter of time as long as you don't give up. yes?

Time to get started! ^_^

Good luck ! You def. came to the right place ! The people here are amazing and willing to help! Just set your profile to the right amount of calories and don't give up no matter what! You can do this!

hey bryan. i hope you manage to find some support and hope here on MFP. there are some great success stories around to show you it is possible, as well as *loads* of cries for help which make it very clear that however hard you are finding any given day, it's not necessarily "you failing" and more that changing you whole lifestyle just difficult and that difficulties are overcome-able (and *so* worth it

Welcome! (; You already took the first step, now to follow through! Come on, we're here for you! I know you can do this, BRYAN!! :flowerforyou:

Welcome Bryan, you have come to the right place. I don't have this down pat by any stretch of the imagination, as I'm just back on MFP after a 2 month hiatus. But, I have learned a lot and you will too. So, here's some advice:

-go to the docs and find out what you really weigh, you're going to deserve to celebrate every pound. plus, you'll want to see improvements in blood pressure and cholestrol and other health markers.

-friend at least some people who have similar goals as you and those who have successes you'd like to achieve. then you can't fall into the "but you're so much smaller than me" or "you're so much younger than me" excuses.

-when you fall off the wagon, keep logging and don't do what I did and leave the site. you have to get back on eventually, you may as well do it before you undo whatever good you've done. log every single thing you eat honestly.

-open your diary so your friends can keep a good eye on what and how much you're eating, the good, the bad and the ugly.

-move. whatever exercise you think you can do, try do it 10% harder than you think you can. and when you can do that, do it 10% harder again.

This isn't "easy" Bryan, but it is kind of simple. You have to make up your mind you're committed, understand that you're human and give it all you've got. When you've lost your motivation, find it from your friends. That is what I've learned by being here and leaving here and coming back. I hope it helps you.

^^^ this is really good advice.

welcome to the site bryan, use it the way it was designed to be used and you will do great. i wish you all the best and remember, its a marathon not a sprint

There's some great encouragement and advice here for you! Like others said, this is a long term journey. It didn't take 30 days to put that weight on, so it will take longer than 30 days to get it off. The formula is very simple: calories in vs calories out. Burn more than you consume and you will succeed, little by little. Having been overweight myself (I won't kid you, I wasn't your size) and having felt all the same feelings of "nothing ever works" and "I'll never lose weight", I can tell you that it can be done. I can also tell you that it's very hard at first. Changing your life isn't easy by any means. You WILL stumble, you WILL have bad days, you WILL lose your motivation at times, you WILL hit a wall occasionally. It's all natural and all those obstacles can be obliterated with consistency and staying the overall course. It makes it a lot easier when you're feeling better and better and find healthy foods you enjoy eating and workout programs you enjoy doing, ensuring success.

EVEN if all you do is burn an excess of 3500 calories per week, you will lose one pound per week. That's 52 pounds per year. That's a HECK of a lot better than gaining 52 pounds for that year...and frankly, that's not even close to your potential. Trust me!

One thing that is very important for you to do is not only work to change your life physically, but mentally. I'm sure there's a lot of negative rhetoric going on in your head; a lot of self-doubt. There are multiple ways of getting through this, like talking with people who have been there and learning from their experiences, working with a therapist (definitely recommended), and even self-help gurus like Tony Robbins. This is essential to not only your short-term success, but long-term as well.

If you're serious and want to put in the work (because it IS work) I'd be happy to be your friend here and encourage you on your path. If you're SUPER serious, determined to change your life, and need that extra motivation I'd be happy to text with you and more personally help you along your way. I didn't get to where I am at this point alone, that is for SURE! I have an amazing team of trainers I work with all the time that keep me motivated and working hard as well as family and friends that are on the same healthy living path I am. Surround yourself with those who ensure your success

Congratulations on your very first step of many steps to your "NEW LIFE". Your old life consisted of feeling bad about yourself and letting that emotion motivate you eat and experience the hormone driven pleasure. Every time you think that things are impossable, I want you to know that I-M-Possable. Anything is possable if you believe it. When people achieve their goals, it never even crossed their minds to that it was impossable. Why do you think that it is impossable?

Got the premise.

You will lose fat slowly. It took you how many years to be at the weight you are right now. Don't worry. You will loose the fat faster than you gained it. Since I don't know you, I can't say this is your downfall and this is what you should do. I can say that the food that you eat is the old Bryan and the New Brian must learn to eat what is right for his body or his body will shut down.

Loving food is a beautiful relationship. Food is a intrinsic to the world of life. All living things consume some type of fuel source. In America we are driven to succeed and man/woman has found many ways to succeed. Some people have created Mcdonalds, Jack in the Box, Carls Jr. and many other places to eat. Food is prepaired in a way to keep you comming back and comming back often. Most fast food combinations are Carbs, Fat and then protein. Carbs trigger your pancreas to to store fat. This hormonal process stores fat and you feel hungry. Eating food in the right combinations keep you feeling full and supply you with the nutriants like vitamins and minerals. These vitamins and minerals are nessasary in loosing weight. Your organs need electrolytes. An electrolyte will allow your central nervous system and organs communicate and function.

Taking your Old Bryan eating habits and creating the New Bryan eating habits must be done. Do it slowly and creativly. Ex: Whopper w. cheese and med fries. 1,100 cals. I can fit 2-3 meals in that. I "eat more" of the right foods that give me the nutrients the body needs to function properly. Fill half of your plate with vegetables (prefer green leafy). I eat one dark green salad a day with anything but salad dressing. Make your own low cal dressing. Vegetables will give your the organ boost that your body needs to convert the fat into fuel. Potassium is an electrolyte. You need 3500mg a day. Do you know how much you’re getting? You need every other type also. I personally would rather eat my vitamins. Granted eating an over abundance of vegitables is not going to speed up things. Your body will utilize what it needs. IT WILL KEEP YOU FULL and give your body exactally what it needs.


Fat is approx 3,500 cals per 1lb. The energy you eat as food is stored as fat or stored energy. Don't eat 3,500 cals and you loose 1lb of fat. Eat 3,500 cals and you gain 1lb of fat. That simple. If you want to loose 1lb of fat a week then spread it out at minus 500 cals per day. You will lose 1lb of fat a week. Knock of 1,000 cals a day and you will loose 2lbs per week.

I eat 6X a day. That is my diet. I am NEVER hungry. You don't have to starve yourself to loose weight.

Take one of your daily meals and make it healthy.

Last question and statement:

What do you want. Life or Death? You said it yourself. You are in a pleasure and pain problem. The food you view as tasty or pleasurable is now giving you pain. I love my food. I eat healthy. I love the taste, textures and fullness that I get from my way of eating.

Good Luck and I wish you success and a fit body.

Invest in your future. Invest in yourself.

Alan

Welcome and good luck! :flowerforyou:

Bryan, I can't improve on what many people here have already said, but I did want to welcome you and offer my encouragement as well. MFP is a great place!

Welcome Bryan!!! You've taken the most important step..!!! We'll be here w/you every step of the way!

Bryan....

Welcome to the group. I've found it very helpful just keeping track of my food. I hope that you have a wonderful experience here. ENJOY!!!!


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Hi Brian:

Losing weight has been hard for me also. Don't give up, even if you have a bad day, just start out each day with the same goal of what you have set out to do. Entering my food intake and seeing how high-cal some of what I regular eat has been a real eye opener and has helped me be more aware to try harder. I pray that the emotional part would improve for you and that the right people can connect with you to give you great support.

Gary? Where's Gary? ok well... hope he sees this and jumps on because he is the epitome of inspiration.

yeah. i've been successful. i've seen some other successful people on here. this is the one place where you can actually DO IT. and do it correctly. but seriously, you have to see this friend of mine and realize that exactly what you're trying to do, can be done and HAS been done.

so you can do it too.

AGREED! I am posting this to his wall.