Honest Question - Men & strip clubs

odusgolp
odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
edited October 4 in Chit-Chat
What do you think of Men that frequent strip clubs? Let's say, Guy in question has friends that work at the club, friend's wives/SOs that work at the club. So he goes frequently, stating it's no different than any other bar...

Discuss. This is an honest question. I need an outside perspective to figure out my own feelings about it *LOL*
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  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,453 Member
    Who's the guy? Your underage son or your boyfriend of two months?
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    Neither *LOL*

    A friend's Significant Other. Grown man of fine age *LOL*
  • stampede55
    stampede55 Posts: 474
    What do you think of Men that frequent strip clubs? Let's say, Guy in question has friends that work at the club, friend's wives/SOs that work at the club. So he goes frequently, stating it's no different than any other bar...

    Discuss. This is an honest question. I need an outside perspective to figure out my own feelings about it *LOL*
    Eventually he will pay money for sex...or he already has. Unless he happens to have the strongest willpower on the planet.
  • vim_n_vigor
    vim_n_vigor Posts: 4,089 Member
    I wouldn't care for that situation myself. Occasionaly going is one thing, but o could not handle it as a regular hangout.
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    What do you think of Men that frequent strip clubs? Let's say, Guy in question has friends that work at the club, friend's wives/SOs that work at the club. So he goes frequently, stating it's no different than any other bar...

    Discuss. This is an honest question. I need an outside perspective to figure out my own feelings about it *LOL*
    Eventually he will pay money for sex...or he already has. Unless he happens to have the strongest willpower on the planet.

    I question the veracity of this statement.
  • killagb
    killagb Posts: 3,280 Member
    What do you think of Men that frequent strip clubs? Let's say, Guy in question has friends that work at the club, friend's wives/SOs that work at the club. So he goes frequently, stating it's no different than any other bar...

    Discuss. This is an honest question. I need an outside perspective to figure out my own feelings about it *LOL*
    Eventually he will pay money for sex...or he already has. Unless he happens to have the strongest willpower on the planet.
    I don't think this is the case necessarily, but now we know who has probably frequented strip clubs and paid for hookers....overshared, oops? :drinker:
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    It's funny. I'm a creeptastic perv of at least level 8 status. But I've never much cared for strip clubs. Just too lacking in any kind of subtlety for my tastes..or something..
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,453 Member
    I'd let friend deal with it.
  • Sublimely_Self_Righteousreused
    Sublimely_Self_Righteousreused Posts: 935 Member
    What do you think of Men that frequent strip clubs? Let's say, Guy in question has friends that work at the club, friend's wives/SOs that work at the club. So he goes frequently, stating it's no different than any other bar...

    Discuss. This is an honest question. I need an outside perspective to figure out my own feelings about it *LOL*
    Eventually he will pay money for sex...or he already has. Unless he happens to have the strongest willpower on the planet.

    Interesting. I've been to many strip clubs, and yet, not once have I paid for sex. I guess I possess the strongest willpower on the planet.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    To be clear... She asked my opinions. My thought was "If it doesn't bother you, then it doesn't matter what I think."

    But in my head, I'm wondering if it were my SO, would it bother me?? I'm really not sure...
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I'd let friend deal with it.

    Duh. Ya think? *LOL* That's not the question :)
  • infamousmk
    infamousmk Posts: 6,033 Member
    If he has friends that work there it's probably no different in his eyes than going to the local pub where his buddies hang out. I've known guys that are friends with strippers and dudes that work at the clubs, and really, they're so not in to stripper *kitten*. They're truly just there to chill with their bros.


    If a dude is going to be shady/unfaithful/sneaky ... he's going to do it whether he's kickin' it at the strip joint or not.
  • killerqueen17
    killerqueen17 Posts: 536 Member
    Neither *LOL*

    A friend's Significant Other. Grown man of fine age *LOL*

    Well then I would keep my nose out of it, personally... lol!!

    as for me, my husband does not go to them, has never been, and has no desire to go to one... Our church has a ministry specifically for women who have been on the street and involved in the sex industry, which is not the same thing as stripping, but there is a complex relationship between the two... so because of mt knowledge of the women in this ministry, we've learned a lot about what these situations (strip clubs) can sometimes lead to for the women who work in them.

    ...not to mention the ways in which pornography, prostitution, and human trafficking (including of underage boys/girls) are related...

    So, we consciously avoid supporting any of those industries!! (strip clubs, pornography, etc.)
  • _beachgirl_
    _beachgirl_ Posts: 3,865 Member
    I wouldn't like it.

    Once in a while, especially if I can go too, is ok, but when it becomes a routine thing, not cool.
  • sunkisses
    sunkisses Posts: 2,365 Member
    I wouldn't be accepting of that. It's ok for other people - in other words, I don't think they're up to something or have the wrong intentions, I'm just not ok with some facets of strip clubs in general (socially speaking, so I won't put that here). If he's still into that as a large part of his lifestyle, I wouldn't be interested in being his girlfriend.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    What do you think of Men that frequent strip clubs? Let's say, Guy in question has friends that work at the club, friend's wives/SOs that work at the club. So he goes frequently, stating it's no different than any other bar...

    Discuss. This is an honest question. I need an outside perspective to figure out my own feelings about it *LOL*
    Eventually he will pay money for sex...or he already has. Unless he happens to have the strongest willpower on the planet.
    I don't think this is the case necessarily, but now we know who has probably frequented strip clubs and paid for hookers....overshared, oops? :drinker:


    Ooooh! Nice Pic, Killa!
  • _beachgirl_
    _beachgirl_ Posts: 3,865 Member
    Neither *LOL*

    A friend's Significant Other. Grown man of fine age *LOL*

    Well then I would keep my nose out of it, personally... lol!!

    as for me, my husband does not go to them, has never been, and has no desire to go to one... Our church has a ministry specifically for women who have been on the street and involved in the sex industry, which is not the same thing as stripping, but there is a complex relationship between the two...

    ...not to mention the ways in which pornography, prostitution, and human trafficking (including of underage boys/girls) are related...

    So, we consciously avoid supporting any of those industries!!

    buzzkill
  • wannababyH
    wannababyH Posts: 106
    How frequent is "frequent" in reality. Once a month? 3x a year? This matters.
  • pain_is_weakness
    pain_is_weakness Posts: 798 Member
    If we go together, it doesn't bother me, I use to work at one when I fist met my husband and he hated it, so I stopped. I didn't like the lifestyle after a while. I go occasionally, haven't been in over 3 years though.

    I guess it would bother me if he was going with his guy friends because I know what truely happens in some areas, lol
  • boehle
    boehle Posts: 5,062 Member
    As long as he isnt trying to take them home, or spending all his money there, then who cares is my opinion.
  • AlsDonkBoxSquat
    AlsDonkBoxSquat Posts: 6,128 Member
    I think it depends on your own value and moral structure as well as your own comfort level. Personally, I wouldn't really be comfortable with it, but if he's not buying lap dances . . . which really aren't that different from grinding on a dance floor anyway . . .
  • JennaM222
    JennaM222 Posts: 1,996 Member
    Personally, I LOVE the strip club.

    BUT I think guys who go to strip clubs often, alone, have issues. It is one thing for the guys to get together and go for the sunday happy hour special, or the bach party, but having it be your regular spot means they sit at sniffers row and know the strippers by name.

    OR he has an infatuation with supporting single moms... :laugh: :laugh:
  • _GlaDOS_
    _GlaDOS_ Posts: 1,520 Member
    I have a hard time answering this, because I wouldn't date someone who frequented strip clubs in the first place. I don't have a problem with it once in a while, but I'm not attracted to someone who thinks strip clubs are really *that* much fun.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    How frequent is "frequent" in reality. Once a month? 3x a year? This matters.

    I think it's a couple times/month...
  • DietingMommy08
    DietingMommy08 Posts: 1,345 Member
    If she trusts him then she shouldnt worry about him bein there.

    If she dnt trust him being there then she probably shouldnt be with him in the first place.

    I am a female and I go to strip clubs all the time. Its a place to hangout with your friends, ect. No different then a club except a lil less clothing to be honest.

    & just bcuz you go to a strip club DOES NOT mean u will one day or have in the past paid for sex .Smh...
  • stampede55
    stampede55 Posts: 474
    What do you think of Men that frequent strip clubs? Let's say, Guy in question has friends that work at the club, friend's wives/SOs that work at the club. So he goes frequently, stating it's no different than any other bar...

    Discuss. This is an honest question. I need an outside perspective to figure out my own feelings about it *LOL*
    Eventually he will pay money for sex...or he already has. Unless he happens to have the strongest willpower on the planet.
    I don't think this is the case necessarily, but now we know who has probably frequented strip clubs and paid for hookers....overshared, oops? :drinker:
    Maybe its just the ones in St Louis then. I went for the first time in 10 years a couple of months ago, and if some higher power would not have knocked my drunk a** out, I would have probably done something really stupid. Nice attempt to make me feel silly though. It almost worked.
  • JIsh09
    JIsh09 Posts: 158
    If we go together, it doesn't bother me, I use to work at one when I fist met my husband and he hated it, so I stopped. I didn't like the lifestyle after a while. I go occasionally, haven't been in over 3 years though.

    I guess it would bother me if he was going with his guy friends because I know what truely happens in some areas, lol

    I remember those late night lap dances from you! Oh how I miss them.:tongue:
  • MikeM53082
    MikeM53082 Posts: 1,199 Member
    I find strip clubs to be really depressing. I mean, it's fun at the time and it's surely entertaining. But usually when I leave, I just feel down and depressed. It's like I can't believe I had to pay a pretty girl to see some boobs.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    Personally, I LOVE the strip club.

    BUT I think guys who go to strip clubs often, alone, have issues. It is one thing for the guys to get together and go for the sunday happy hour special, or the bach party, but having it be your regular spot means they sit at sniffers row and know the strippers by name.

    OR he has an infatuation with supporting single moms... :laugh: :laugh:

    Sniffers Row! *ok, hysterical...
  • gwlamb1957
    gwlamb1957 Posts: 3
    It is a good way to unwind from work, and can satisfy the Voyeur in all of us. Girl watching has been something guys have done and will do as long as they have eyes and breath in their body. Just because someone goes to a strip club doesn't mean he is going to "buy sex" and Cheat. "No harm at looking at the Menu, as long as you Dine at Home".
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