Honest Question - Men & strip clubs

What do you think of Men that frequent strip clubs? Let's say, Guy in question has friends that work at the club, friend's wives/SOs that work at the club. So he goes frequently, stating it's no different than any other bar...

Discuss. This is an honest question. I need an outside perspective to figure out my own feelings about it *LOL*

Utter bollocks. Men that go to strip clubs, no matter what their excuse, are there to ogle naked women. Sleazy in the extreme and I for one wouldn't go near oe.

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Eventually he will pay money for sex...or he already has. Unless he happens to have the strongest willpower on the planet.
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We all pay for sex, one way or another.

Yes, a few times a month would bother me.

Neither *LOL*

A friend's Significant Other. Grown man of fine age *LOL*

...not to mention the ways in which pornography, prostitution, and human trafficking (including of underage boys/girls) are related...

So, we consciously avoid supporting any of those industries!!

buzzkill

well, sorry, but that's my honest opinion! if my husband started going, I would have major problems, for the reasons I mentioned before. (shortened the quote to save space)

I personally wouldn't care all that much.

I mean if its a place he likes to go, sure.

and I mean strippers and hookers are 2 different things..


Whats wrong with watching people dance?
Some have a higher sex drive than others.

Some go just to be around friends..


Theres nothing actually wrong with it in my opinion.



I mean heres my example:

All my friends turn 19 - and spend it at the bar.
I turn 19 in a few weeks and Im going to an arcade..

Like its just their choice of fun, I don't see what the problem is.

Every couple is different, but I would have a major problem with it.

If you are doing your best to fulfill your man's "needs," then that ought to be enough for him, assuming he's truly in love with you. If it isn't, him being in a strip club on a regular basis is only going to make that situation worse. This "variety is the spice of life" crap makes me want to punch people in the throat. If you need "variety," clearly committed relationships are not for you, so get get your variety and leave the commitment for people who actually want it.

Now, if you are NOT giving your man what he needs at home, I think you need to be doing something more productive than complaining about him going to strip clubs ... like doing your part in the bedroom, for starters.

I think your friend should be deciding if there is a problem with it, not you or a bunch of random people on an internet forum. *LOL*

bottom line? It's the the friend's comfort level that should be examined here. If she feels uncomfortable in a relationship with someone who frequents strip clubs she should remove herself from the relationship. Whatever the reason, her man does not see a strip club the same way she does and that will cause major communication problems in the relationship.

However, if she feels comfortable with her relationship and his viewpoint then she should stay. If she wants to. If she can handle his viewpoint and his lifestyle then they will not be in conflict over it.

She shouldn't try to change him in an effort to stay in a relationship that may or may not work out. Nor should she expect him to change, only he can make a choice of that magnitude. It isn't fair to her and it isn't fair to him.

It depends on the guy.

Personally, I like going to strip clubs too, so it's only a problem if I'm not invited.

What do you think of Men that frequent strip clubs? Let's say, Guy in question has friends that work at the club, friend's wives/SOs that work at the club. So he goes frequently, stating it's no different than any other bar...

Discuss. This is an honest question. I need an outside perspective to figure out my own feelings about it *LOL*

Eventually he will pay money for sex...or he already has. Unless he happens to have the strongest willpower on the planet.

Interesting. I've been to many strip clubs, and yet, not once have I paid for sex. I guess I possess the strongest willpower on the planet.

You ARE paying, in overpriced drinks and with your reputation.

The drinks part is true. But the reputation? Please. It's not like I'm there every Friday night. I go maybe once a year with some friends.

I think your friend should be deciding if there is a problem with it, not you or a bunch of random people on an internet forum. *LOL*

Clearly, I will make a decision based on everyone's feedback here and force her to adhere to what I have decided.

Good. Smart girl.

(lol)

I've never understood strip clubs. I went when I was 19. Friend bought me lap dance from genuinely "smoking hot" woman. She grabbed me in a certain place and asked why I was so shy and "un-excited." I told her that if she was 10 times less attractive but doing this because she was into me, I would have already jumped her. This is why I hate strip clubs.

Also, this may come as a surprise if you know me, but I dated a stripper. Her profession never bothered me and I had no desire to see her to her work. Granted I knew this relationship was going to last 2 months and existed for one reason, but I wouldn't have honestly cared about the 100 guys paying her for nakedness because she came home to me and gave me that and wayyyy more for free.
/making me look like a jerk.

If he has friends that work there it's probably no different in his eyes than going to the local pub where his buddies hang out. I've known guys that are friends with strippers and dudes that work at the clubs, and really, they're so not in to stripper *kitten*. They're truly just there to chill with their bros.


If a dude is going to be shady/unfaithful/sneaky ... he's going to do it whether he's kickin' it at the strip joint or not.

I love you MK.

I agree with this.

Is your friend specifically not invited?

No! Welcome to go...

I think this could be the most important factor. If she goes too, then it doesn't really seem like a big deal. Then if he goes once in a while without her, it's kind of whatever. If he doesn't want her to go at all, then I think that would be weird.

I'm using them as an example, but I think it's a good general rule.