Friend Requests...

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  • bjbixler
    bjbixler Posts: 253 Member
    I think I'm pretty picky. I don't want t huge friend list to begin with, so if I have friends who I don't know IRL, who requested me and never interacted with me, or sent a message, I'll delete them or not approve their request.
    I don't send out many requests, but when I do I always send a message, because that's what I would want if the table were turned.

    I kinda want to keep my feed personal and be very supportive with a few handfuls of friends, rather than virtually overwhelmed with 300. That's just me though.
  • daves160
    daves160 Posts: 600
    I will send a message along with the request, but i pretty much accept anyone who sends a request. I do like it, however, if those who friend me interact on occasion. I'm not sure why one would friend and not do that.

    With that being said, Anyone here who wants to send a friend request, feel free to do so. I like supporting/motivating others and love it when i get the same.
  • Iwillbemeagain
    Iwillbemeagain Posts: 163
    I accept everyone, why not?
  • _Peacebone_
    _Peacebone_ Posts: 229 Member
    I've yet to decline a friend request... if people end up being jerks, I delete them. I usually send mine with a short message regarding why I'd like to be friends.
  • timothyjkiser
    timothyjkiser Posts: 85 Member
    I make sure there is something in common. Whether it is goal weight or a reason for being on here. I do expect my friends to support me because I make it a mission to support my friends. I've had to unfriend people because they weren't givers...just takers. If I send a request the profile is normally available for public view (picture not necessary). Unless I see a comment and reoccuring comments from someone that I feel will be a good match. This site has a social networking aspect to it, but unlike others, the intent is not to "collect" friends. ok...rambled enough.
  • Mallory0418
    Mallory0418 Posts: 723 Member
    There are standards? We are still on MFP right? Or did MFP change into a junior high or high school?

    *pinches bridge of nose*
  • maramom76
    maramom76 Posts: 8 Member
    Im not picky at all you send i accept......unless the person s profile pic looks like a seriel killer :) haha
  • love4fitnesslove4food_wechange
    love4fitnesslove4food_wechange Posts: 6,897 Member
    ACCEPTING:

    Unless I've been corresponding with someone on a thread then I won't accept someone without a message from them.



    For SENDING a request I guess it varies, some reasons:

    1. the person has an inspirational body
    2. they make wise/healthy/productive comments on threads
    3. they seem cool and healthy (in general)
  • AmberLiscous
    AmberLiscous Posts: 644 Member
    I accept friends requests from anyone....my thought is you never know what that person is going through....and I don't base my decision on if that person is in a certain clique or not....but with that said I will delete there *kitten* if they step out of line....just sayin!!!!
  • Mallory0418
    Mallory0418 Posts: 723 Member
    I prefer when people send a message, but I give everyone a chance. I just know I feel super cool that someone wants to be my friend! I get really disappointed when I sign on first thing and have no notifications (which happens a lot but, eh), truth. If that person turns out to be a douche...it's just as easy to delete them. :wink: I'm here for support and motivation and friendships are nice too!

    As far as sending them...I don't do it often. Rejection is scary and I don't like it. So if you are my friend and I requested you, consider yourself risky business! :laugh:
  • Iamfit4life
    Iamfit4life Posts: 3,095 Member
    my biggest pet peeve is deleleting somebody because they don't interact

    and then they request you again, to do the same thing.


    It's very very very odd
  • complete_tease
    complete_tease Posts: 214 Member
    Give me a small reason why....even if its bull****...just dont leave it blank

    So wow your hot works?
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    I generally accept everyone. I send requests to people I see on the boards or on my friends pages. Sometimes I'll send a message and sometimes I won't. It just depends on how recently I have interacted with that person. If we just sent 3 or 4 messages back and forth to each other on a thread, then I think the reason is obvious why I am sending an FR.
  • DWBoninJr
    DWBoninJr Posts: 7
    I always accept any that are sent to me.
  • SinIsIn
    SinIsIn Posts: 1,865 Member
    I dont normally send out requests... when I do I always forget to type a message... :devil:

    I pretty much accept anyone .. so long as I don't get any creepy messages, I'm good. :bigsmile:
  • kapeluza
    kapeluza Posts: 3,434 Member
    There are standards? We are still on MFP right? Or did MFP change into a junior high or high school?

    *pinches bridge of nose*

    That stench you smell...... it's your upper lip.

    double-facepalm.jpg
  • lazyspice
    lazyspice Posts: 8,258 Member
    I don't send many adds but I have sent messages relating to something specific on a thread and have then been friended by them. Most of my friends have come via various challenges, so we've had something in common, but some of the most supportive have been random adds that had no message attached!

    I don't think I've rejected anyone so far . . . .
  • JeSuisPrest
    JeSuisPrest Posts: 2,005 Member
    I prefer to add people I have something in common with.
  • JeSuisPrest
    JeSuisPrest Posts: 2,005 Member
    I prefer to add people I have something in common with.
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    I don't send many adds but I have sent messages relating to something specific on a thread and have then been friended by them. Most of my friends have come via various challenges, so we've had something in common, but some of the most supportive have been random adds that had no message attached!

    I don't think I've rejected anyone so far . . . .

    I agree with this. I don't reject anyone and I have a great list of supportive, informed, interesting friends. The only time I have deleted people is when they have fallen off the face of the earth.
  • mommared53
    mommared53 Posts: 9,543 Member
    I've never sent any but I always accept if someone sends me one whether they send a message or not.
  • silvergurl518
    silvergurl518 Posts: 4,123 Member
    I'm very hippie-dippy when it comes to accepting friends. If you want my friendship, you got it. No need to discriminate! That's why I have so many, and I may have to get choosy some day. But for now, I accept everyone.

    When I request friendships (very rare), I always send a message.

    just like me!!!
  • skittybang
    skittybang Posts: 1,525 Member
    Nothing less of complete adoration.
  • BattyMama
    BattyMama Posts: 136 Member
    I will give any one a try but I don't need any negativity, I get that from my mother and sometimes my hubby( mostly cause he thinks I'm hot and I think not). I am here to help and everyone needs it sometimes, but I have recently posted some hard things for me that have been a excuse for my eating or refusing to eat since I have said it I have lost inches. I know that some things just have to get vented.
  • Goldenwoof
    Goldenwoof Posts: 535 Member
    What are your standards for a friend request? Both in sending and receiving them.

    Discuss.

    She's gotta have a Golden Retriever. :)
  • BigDaddyBRC
    BigDaddyBRC Posts: 2,395 Member
    Message with or PM is mandatory
  • Mallory0418
    Mallory0418 Posts: 723 Member
    What are your standards for a friend request? Both in sending and receiving them.

    Discuss.

    She's gotta have a Golden Retriever. :)

    Oooo! That's me! :happy:
  • unmitigatedbadassery
    unmitigatedbadassery Posts: 653 Member
    My standards for accepting:

    1: receive request.
    2: accept request.
    3: If new friend pisses me off delete friend.

    My standards for sending:
    1: Based on you posts it seems we have a similar view of things.
    2: send request.
  • mrimike
    mrimike Posts: 139
    What are your standards for a friend request? Both in sending and receiving them.

    Discuss.

    I usually only ask for a friend if we have some sort of common interest. Ie age, kids, goals, etc. I don't get too many requests so I haven't found a reason to say no yet LOL
  • MariFitBody
    MariFitBody Posts: 287 Member
    I really don't send them often at all. I'm too afraid of rejection(such a dork)
    I won't accept them unless they have a message

    It's pretty widely known that it's polite to include a message



    And also for the love of gravy why the hell do you request somebody you won't interact with? This irritates me.

    Lmbo! My thoughts exactly! :)
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