Is it wrong to get pissed at your wife because..........

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  • kb455
    kb455 Posts: 679 Member
    im a ****ing insecure controling boyfriend who gets mad at his girlfriend for going the the bar with all her girlfriends once since she had a baby two years ago. Doesnt get compliments form any guys he just decided to say that **** and is on a **** load of ****ing steriods so he is ****ed in the head!

    I"m assuming this ^^^ was wifey?
  • ktfitzgerald
    ktfitzgerald Posts: 369 Member
    Sorry you and your wife seem to be having some problems. Hope things improve for you!
  • Johnnyswife
    Johnnyswife Posts: 1,447 Member
    No it is not wrong.. And everything everyone else said. Go back to the part where she says she's unhappy.. BIG RED FLAG
    Will she talk to you about why she's unhappy? What she is doing is totaly out of line.
  • BigDaddyBRC
    BigDaddyBRC Posts: 2,395 Member
    shes unhappy,

    Everything else you said is needless...WAKE UP!
  • determinedcrystal
    determinedcrystal Posts: 75 Member
    PISSED MAN!
  • dmplz123
    dmplz123 Posts: 26 Member
    Sounds like it's decision time.
  • mcintyrekn
    mcintyrekn Posts: 55 Member
    You have every right to be angry. I wish you luck.
  • CannibalisticVegetarian
    CannibalisticVegetarian Posts: 1,255 Member
    Uh, you have problems. Wife is doing some way out of bounds crap.

    Yeap ^^^

    yeah^^

    Agreed.
  • RonneyKay
    RonneyKay Posts: 464 Member
    just an FYI on my situation....

    I often go out with my friends, sometimes alone. I have been married for 18 years and have NO intentions on splitting from my husband.

    The bars here close at 2, but sometimes after all the chit chat and good byes we leave about 230-245 then we will go to ihop, dennys or someplace else to chat, which would easily put me home at 5.

    I tell my husband who flirts with me, who buys me drinks etc. I NEVER EVER claim to be single. I would not disrespect my husband that way, even if things aren't the greatest at the moment. I don't do anything that I wouldn't do in front of him. Would she do this in front of you? (just curious)

    I am sorry this is happening to you, and I hope that this comes to a good resolution soon. How often does she go out? (oh and I NEVER give out my personal information for facebook... why?)

    Good Luck!
    ronney
  • littlesis412
    littlesis412 Posts: 314 Member
    1. Counseling.
    2. If she still wants to act single. Make her single.
  • Jeff92se
    Jeff92se Posts: 3,369 Member
    Account is deactivated. No real point in replying.
  • skinnnyxoxo
    skinnnyxoxo Posts: 210 Member
    awww. sad situation.
  • crisanderson27
    crisanderson27 Posts: 5,343 Member
    Your words: "What to tell you about me? I sleep, I eat, I train, I repeat... "

    Maybe you should consider: "What to tell you about me? I focus on my marriage with my wife, I sleep, I focus on my marriage with my wife, I eat, I focus on my marriage with my wife, I train, I focus on my marriage with my wife, I repeat..."

    It's a fitness site, I can understand why he posted that in his profile here. He was looking for like minded friends.

    I'm sure she deleted his account...I hope, if it's worth working out...they do. If it's not, I hope for the quickest, most painless end for him as is possible. Mine was drug out over the course of four years...full of cheating, lies...threats of taking my kids and disappearing, physical and mental abuse, more cheating, more lies, rinse/repeat...and hurt bad enough I completely managed to forget who I was.

    No thanks...I wouldn't wish that on anyone, much less a friend like Euro.
  • zeeeb
    zeeeb Posts: 805 Member
    tell her if she's not interested in you, she may as well leave now... no point in prolonging the pain. rip that band aid off before it starts going moudly.
  • mrsmammahunter
    mrsmammahunter Posts: 221 Member
    sounds like you need a new wife.
  • voluptas63
    voluptas63 Posts: 602 Member
    Hmm. User deactivated their account. Interesting.
  • mrsmammahunter
    mrsmammahunter Posts: 221 Member
    Hmm. User deactivated their account. Interesting.

    wife prolly got pissed
  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
    Hope he gets some counseling, or a divorce, or both :/ Been in his shoes-- wouldn't go back there for anything.
  • honeybadger175
    honeybadger175 Posts: 69 Member
    There's 3 sides to every story. His side, her side and....the truth. I feel bad for both of them and hope they get help.
  • Diesel_Ice
    Diesel_Ice Posts: 19
    Would it be wrong if I caught an OJ..
  • krik84
    krik84 Posts: 47
    Hummm...not sure if it's wrong as I haven't heard her side of the story. But what's right is counseling. Stat.

    This

    There are two sides to every story
  • Fiestie
    Fiestie Posts: 8 Member
    First, you have to analyze the entire situation and ask yourself 'Have you been pissing on her so long that you been telling her it's Raining"? If either the husband or wife don't get attention from the other they will seek it else where be it intentionally or unintentionally. Take your wife out for a nice dinner talk about your concerns.. Let her know up front that you want to discuss your marriage. Be respectable, be polite...I am quite sure you will get answers and you two will be able to solve the issues. Continue to pay compliments to your wife.....Don't let her walk out the door and you are not the first to compliment,hug and kiss her. If you are taking care of her and making her feel warm and you are excited about her weight loss then you should always be her cheerleader.....don't be jealous be zealous......Always listen to what is being said not what is not and only hear what you want to hear.
  • BeeElMarvin
    BeeElMarvin Posts: 2,086 Member
    Hmm. User deactivated their account. Interesting.

    Quit posting here - he's gone.
  • Sublimely_Self_Righteousreused
    Sublimely_Self_Righteousreused Posts: 935 Member
    Nah man. She seems totally legit.
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    but shes telling me im crazy and insecure because i care about how much she cares bout her looks? mind you when she was just putting on makeup and dressing up.. i didnt comment only when i felt like she has too much make up on... but now shes starting to flirt and i guess tell ppl shes single.. so yes.. i care that everyday she gets ready as if shes going to a modeling show.. if she could quit being a flirt i wouldnt care..

    I'm sorry... if she is telling people that she is single, and telling you that she is unhappy, then she has already made up her mind about your relationship. Women don't generally cheat unless they are already emotionally through.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Is it wrong to get pissed off that your wife gets more flattered by other guys complimenting her than you? Is it wrong to get pissed off when ur wife goes to a bar gets home at 5am (bars close at 3am) and then have a guy add her on facebook next day asking her on a date because she told him she was single? is it wrong to get pissed off because a friend tells u that he saw ur wife at a bar dancing very "provocative"? Is it wrong to ask your wife to quit flirting with guys as its embarrassing because a friend points it out to me and asks if i care or not and why wont i do anything about it? Is it wrong to ask your wife to cool off and pay more attention to her family than how many guys hit on her? Is it wrong to get even more pissed when you confront her about it she tells you you are stupid, insecure, shes unhappy, and its retarded because all she got out everything you confronted her about was that you dont want her to dress up n do her make up everday because u told her to quit seeking attetion from other men..

    I think your wife and my boyfriend might should meet each other.
  • pornstarzombie
    pornstarzombie Posts: 297
    Haven't read all the replies. However, I'd be kicking my guy to the curb if this was happening. So disrespectful.
  • _Ben
    _Ben Posts: 1,608 Member
    Yea I think you have every reason to be upset. There is some issues there that need to be adressed
  • loved11
    loved11 Posts: 92 Member
    Is it wrong to get pissed off that your wife gets more flattered by other guys complimenting her than you? Is it wrong to get pissed off when ur wife goes to a bar gets home at 5am (bars close at 3am) and then have a guy add her on facebook next day asking her on a date because she told him she was single? is it wrong to get pissed off because a friend tells u that he saw ur wife at a bar dancing very "provocative"? Is it wrong to ask your wife to quit flirting with guys as its embarrassing because a friend points it out to me and asks if i care or not and why wont i do anything about it? Is it wrong to ask your wife to cool off and pay more attention to her family than how many guys hit on her? Is it wrong to get even more pissed when you confront her about it she tells you you are stupid, insecure, shes unhappy, and its retarded because all she got out everything you confronted her about was that you dont want her to dress up n do her make up everday because u told her to quit seeking attetion from other men..

    All of her answers are simple excuses used to divert the issue away from her. She knows what she's doing is wrong.

    Man...I feel for you...I've been where you are and the hurt caused by it is endless =(. My advice, don't talk to her about the symptoms...which is her behavior (this'll just cause a fight, and give her room to deflect), talk to her about the problem, which is why she feels all these things are ok. Tell her a marriage isn't like that, and you want to be married. Suggest counselling, tell her you'll work to change things on your end as well (they always blame you, if you won't 'work' to fix it...even if you didn't fookin do anything, they won't either)...if she won't do that...get your *kitten* down and file for divorce, because if you don't...she will be eventually, and as things stand, you've got the moral upper hand.

    I wish you luck brother, and if you ever need someone to talk to...message me.

    I agree with chrisanderson. I have actually been there. The behavior is about something else very painful for her, she is looking to feel better in the wrong places. You cant fix it by yourself, and the pain she will cause you will be intense. GET TO MARRIAGE COUNCELING!!!! It's the only way.

    Marriage is such hard work sometimes (sigh)
  • loved11
    loved11 Posts: 92 Member
    Your words: "What to tell you about me? I sleep, I eat, I train, I repeat... "

    Maybe you should consider: "What to tell you about me? I focus on my marriage with my wife, I sleep, I focus on my marriage with my wife, I eat, I focus on my marriage with my wife, I train, I focus on my marriage with my wife, I repeat..."

    It's a fitness site, I can understand why he posted that in his profile here. He was looking for like minded friends.

    I'm sure she deleted his account...I hope, if it's worth working out...they do. If it's not, I hope for the quickest, most painless end for him as is possible. Mine was drug out over the course of four years...full of cheating, lies...threats of taking my kids and disappearing, physical and mental abuse, more cheating, more lies, rinse/repeat...and hurt bad enough I completely managed to forget who I was.

    No thanks...I wouldn't wish that on anyone, much less a friend like Euro.

    aaww that is such a painful thing to go through. What a amazing man you must be to have found your way back and be so great.
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