Going on a date while still legally married....Wrong?

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Ksnoddy87
Ksnoddy87 Posts: 121
edited October 2024 in Chit-Chat
So what do you guys think, honestly....me and my husband are separated and have been since July of this year. We do not communicate in any form or fashion and the divorce papers have already been signed and sent off to the court and have been filed. Its all a matter of waiting until everything is final. There is NO HOPE, let me say this again, NO HOPE that he and I will EVER, EVER, EVER, EVERRRRRR get back together, lol! Hope that was clear. Now, I've met someone and he wants to take me out for a simple freaking cup of coffee. Is there anything wrong with that? While I respect my mommy she is so sacrilegious and believes that me and my husband are still in a "marriage agreement" and I am not allowed to date until my divorce is final. I would think having sex with someone while still legally married would definitely be wrong but a flipping cup of coffee? Come on!!! What do you guys think?
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  • wbgolden
    wbgolden Posts: 2,066 Member
    I did. So, my biased opinion is that it's OK. :)
  • jakejacobsen
    jakejacobsen Posts: 584 Member
    I would go
  • sc1572
    sc1572 Posts: 2,309 Member
    GO for it! :D
  • cdthom
    cdthom Posts: 108 Member
    Coffee would be great have fun enjoy yourself
  • kb455
    kb455 Posts: 679 Member
    If you are divorcing with NO hope or expectation of reconciliation, I don't see what the big deal is. Especially if you're just going for coffee. I'm interested to hear some other opinions though.
  • vespaberrie
    vespaberrie Posts: 86 Member
    It's just coffee... Go for it!
    Plus I doubt your soon to be ex is living a celibate life until the divorce is final.
    Have a great time!
  • kln83
    kln83 Posts: 16 Member
    I started dating while I was still legally married. Go for it!
  • Iamfit4life
    Iamfit4life Posts: 3,095 Member
    my ex and I both did so.
  • lor007
    lor007 Posts: 884 Member
    You are a grown up, do what you want. I would. :)
  • tiptoeketo
    tiptoeketo Posts: 271 Member
    Nothing wrong with a coffee date in my opinion! Have fun!
  • hush7hush
    hush7hush Posts: 2,273 Member
    I'd go!
  • mestupscout
    mestupscout Posts: 82 Member
    Go for it! You don't need a piece of paper to tell you it's over. I will say, that when I got mine with the little gold seal that I was one happy girl.
  • JulieSD
    JulieSD Posts: 567
    I did. If the marriage is over, the marriage is over...a piece of paper does not make a difference.
  • moniquelessard
    moniquelessard Posts: 418 Member
    go! technically I'm still married, but I haven't heard from the jerk in 2 years! Been dating all this time. ;)
  • AZTrailRunner
    AZTrailRunner Posts: 1,199 Member
    I did. So, my biased opinion is that it's OK. :)

    Ditto
  • mizjohnston
    mizjohnston Posts: 196 Member
    I did before my divorce was final. I also knew in my "Chris Tucker" voice that we were never ever ever gonna get back together again. I'd be a fool if I did. I'm sure my mom wasn't thrilled but at the same time I was a grown a** women. Just don't tell her lol.
  • chefgorman
    chefgorman Posts: 45 Member
    It is O.K. and you have every right to be happy regardless of other people opinions.
  • sarahkatara
    sarahkatara Posts: 826 Member
    Enjoy that cup of joe with someone who's (hopefully) better than the last! :drinker:
  • Ksnoddy87
    Ksnoddy87 Posts: 121
    He's too hot for me to pass the opportunity up!! lol! My argument to my mom was why should my life be on hold for my husband when HE decided to leave? I don't think that's fair....of course I'm going to be wise with my choices but coffee is so innocent...thanks for everyone's feedback! :drinker:
  • catwrangler
    catwrangler Posts: 918 Member
    As long as the new guy knows and doesn't mind being your rebound.
  • Ksnoddy87
    Ksnoddy87 Posts: 121
    I did before my divorce was final. I also knew in my "Chris Tucker" voice that we were never ever ever gonna get back together again. I'd be a fool if I did. I'm sure my mom wasn't thrilled but at the same time I was a grown a** women. Just don't tell her lol.


    Dude, I so wanted to say that to my mom but I knew she would back hand me, lol (doesn't matter how old you get with her, lol)
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,137 Member
    Yeah, it's fine.
  • EricNCSU
    EricNCSU Posts: 699 Member
    Just coffee?? Heck no.. no problem. Beyond that could get sticky, but not just coffee...
  • thelovelyLIZ
    thelovelyLIZ Posts: 1,227 Member
    As long as you're comfortable with it, I don't see the problem.
  • grmpy1
    grmpy1 Posts: 462 Member
    I did. So, my biased opinion is that it's OK. :)

    Ditto

    Yep me too. Go for it!
  • 1myfit
    1myfit Posts: 69
    Just make sure you use sweet and low......0 cals. I think then she will be ok with it. LOL
  • mizjohnston
    mizjohnston Posts: 196 Member
    Well I didn't say I said that to my mom LMAO. I knew better than then that. I just didn't tell her at first lol.
  • surfrgrl1
    surfrgrl1 Posts: 1,464 Member
    I say go for it. Your 'soon to be ex' probably already has!!!
  • Ksnoddy87
    Ksnoddy87 Posts: 121
    Go for it! You don't need a piece of paper to tell you it's over. I will say, that when I got mine with the little gold seal that I was one happy girl.

    I totally agree...his absence alone is confirmation for me, lol!
  • OfficialPR
    OfficialPR Posts: 1,578 Member
    If papers have been counter-signed and it's just coffee..it's a no-brainer, go for it. Sorry to hear about everything
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