Going on a date while still legally married....Wrong?

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  • Deathwithab
    Deathwithab Posts: 462 Member
    im still legaly married ( because i cant get him to freakin pay money for a divorce) and ive been dateing the whole time almost we have been seperated till about a week ago when i became single again.
  • julietsingleton
    julietsingleton Posts: 126 Member
    Go for it!
    It is just coffee!
    If there is no hope of you getting back together with your ex, then i see nothing wrong with it x Hope all goes well x
    :flowerforyou:
  • HonkyTonks
    HonkyTonks Posts: 1,193 Member
    DEFINITELY! The reasons why 'cheating' in a relationship have nothing to do with a piece of paper, they have everything to do with betrayal of trust. That doesn't apply here. You are really free agents, the piece of paper is simply a technicality. Life is about living! You need to enjoy every second :)
  • KimmieBrie
    KimmieBrie Posts: 825 Member
    Go for it! Living apart and legally filed I say you are free. When I divorced my X - living apart - it took 6 mos to get a court date (after 5 mos of not being together) and then technically it wasn't "final" till 120 days later.... I knew it was over before we filed, the paperwork was just a legal technicality in my opinion. We did not have a religious marriage and my X was a drunk.

    Go have coffee and enjoy!!
  • AlsDonkBoxSquat
    AlsDonkBoxSquat Posts: 6,128 Member
    If the marriage is over except for the paper work, the marriage is over. Legal divorce has nothing to do with God's law and everything to do with man's laws. Go out for a coke, a coffee, a glass of wine, a meal, a necking session . . . I don't consider it cheating.
  • shakemybooty
    shakemybooty Posts: 681 Member
    Don't kid yourself, Its not 'just coffee'.
    Its the symbolic opening of the door to possibilities.
    Its the realization that its not only over, but you are acutally taking steps to move on.
    That's okay..it has to be done sometime.
    For some people it would be too soon, for others it can't come fast enough.

    If you both signed your divorce papers, the intention is clear. Waiting for some clerk to rubber-stamp it won't change the fact that you both already consider the relationship to be over.

    That was a great response!
  • Iamfit4life
    Iamfit4life Posts: 3,095 Member
    Don't kid yourself, Its not 'just coffee'.
    Its the symbolic opening of the door to possibilities.
    Its the realization that its not only over, but you are acutally taking steps to move on.
    That's okay..it has to be done sometime.
    For some people it would be too soon, for others it can't come fast enough.

    If you both signed your divorce papers, the intention is clear. Waiting for some clerk to rubber-stamp it won't change the fact that you both already consider the relationship to be over.
    Yes it was. Perfect.
    That was a great response!
  • coloradocuppiecake
    coloradocuppiecake Posts: 129
    I dated after I signed the papers. To me the marriage was over and the papers were a technicality.
  • Kandace_Riopel
    Kandace_Riopel Posts: 80 Member
    just ask yourself this. if it was a friend and there was no relationship talk would you go? you cant stop yourself from having a life and having friends. the fact that you might have feelings for this person should mean nothing since you arent in a committed relationship with anyone! hope that helps!
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