Quit telling people to "suck it up"

lexibelk · December 2011

You know, I love MFP because I see so much support, and then every now and then you get a hard *kitten* telling people to get over their problems, suck it up, and lose weight. While they're probably telling the bitter truth, they should know it's not that simple, and it's not that nice.

People have baggage, and the ones who carry it on their tummies or hips are here to try and get better: mentally, physically, and maybe spiritually. No one is perfect, and they are coming to MFP to try and garner support that they may or may not be getting in their home life. Managing weight is not easy for everyone, and if it was, there would be no MFP to begin with!

So when you say things to these people like: buck up, suck it up, get over yourself and just do it..... it doesn't help.

But if you say: you can do it, yes you can, hang in there.... it helps.

I'm sure this has been said before, sorry if it's repetitive, but I've seen it too much in the forums and it's been bothering me a lot.

HerpDerp745 · December 2011

You know, I love MFP because I see so much support, and then every now and then you get a soft *kitten* telling people to yes you can, hang in there, and you can do it. While they're probably not really helping, they should know it is that straightforward, and it's not going to be easy.

People have baggage, and the ones who carry it on their tummies or hips are here to try and get better: mentally, physically, and maybe spiritually. No one is perfect, and they are coming to MFP to try and garner support that they may or may not be getting in their home life. Managing weight is not easy for everyone, and if it was, there would be no MFP to begin with!

So when you say things to these people like: you can do it, yes you can, hang in there..... it doesn't help.

But if you say: buck up, suck it up, get over yourself and just do it... it helps.

I'm sure this has been said before, sorry if it's repetitive, but I've seen it too much in the forums and it's been bothering me a lot.

fridayjustleft04 · December 2011

Not everyone responds to soft, sugar-coated words. Some people actually do better when you tell them to suck it up. You have to know who you're talking to and what works for them. Motivation/support isn't one size fits all.

lovinbutterflys · December 2011

Hi. First off let me say I am new to this site so I have never written any of this posts to tell people to suck it up but I am firm believer in the saying. Maybe it is because my dad is a retired Marine and my husband is currently a Marine that makes me the way I am. Life has it's up's and down's period. Truth be told no one like a person who is always acting like they are the only one's with problems, we all have different things going on in our lives and we all find ways to handle it. Time stops for no one and it is sad if you spend it feeling down and out. i do agree EVERYONE has baggage but it is over due for some people to lighten the load. Mentally of physically it slows you down in life. I really hope I am not coming off mean or anything b/c I am not trying to be I just hope that you understand not all people who say suck it up mean to be mean. Like I said not trying to seem like a jerk but I hope you understand my point of view for being one of those "suck it up" people.

angjindra · December 2011

I totally agree with you! Its different for everyone! I have been struggling for a while and its very easy to get off track, and you dont need those people putting their not so nice, two cents in

SimplyShanRunning · December 2011

Would you care for some cheese??

Sublimely_Self_Righteousreused · December 2011

I agree, partially. Sometimes being a little more sensitive is appropriate. Sometimes, the person needs a kick in the *kitten* and told to just suck it up. For instance, yesterday I got up at 4AM to work out working with less than 4 hours of sleep. I told myself to suck it up. Sometimes, it's just the answer.

agleckle · December 2011

I think it depends on the person. There is a difference between someone who legitimately puts forth 100% effort and is experiencing a plateau and other people who eat garbage and never work out and then whine and try to get pity from the MFP community.

engineman312 · December 2011

Phoenix_Rising · December 2011

WOW. The first response reminded me why I never bother to come on these boards anymore!

MOCKING her? Really? I love how you have expressed your disagreement with her statement.

I don't care which way you believe but outright MOCKING HER?

Immature bullsh|t.

OP: I'm with you. I take encouragement with a pat on the back better than a militaristic GTFO it.

And with that, I'm back off these stupid boards.
... Except I came in to edit and ended up reading more of the same.

MFP years ago had caring individuals invested in helping each other, supporting each other.
Today is appears to be full of trolls.

*smdh*

voguextc · December 2011

You know, I love MFP because I see so much support, and then every now and then you get a soft *kitten* telling people to yes you can, hang in there, and you can do it. While they're probably not really helping, they should know it is that straightforward, and it's not going to be easy.

People have baggage, and the ones who carry it on their tummies or hips are here to try and get better: mentally, physically, and maybe spiritually. No one is perfect, and they are coming to MFP to try and garner support that they may or may not be getting in their home life. Managing weight is not easy for everyone, and if it was, there would be no MFP to begin with!

So when you say things to these people like: you can do it, yes you can, hang in there..... it doesn't help.

But if you say: buck up, suck it up, get over yourself and just do it... it helps.

I'm sure this has been said before, sorry if it's repetitive, but I've seen it too much in the forums and it's been bothering me a lot.

Successful Troll is Successful

Pocket_Pixi · December 2011

Not everyone responds to soft, sugar-coated words. Some people actually do better when you tell them to suck it up. You have to know who you're talking to and what works for them. Motivation/support isn't one size fits all.

This, I would rather have someone tell me to shut up and just do it than someone who pats me on the head and says "hang in there, it will get better."

surgesilk · December 2011

This

TempeB · December 2011

Unfortunately, quite a few people enjoy having an excuse to be vicious and hurtful. It's easy to forget the Golden Rule, that you shouldn't say something to someone else that you wouldn't want said to you.

Elixandra · December 2011

Would you care for some cheese??

Yes please. :happy: I like cheese.

Luv2BMommy · December 2011

I agree with you. There are a lot of really rude posters on here.

Lily_1 · December 2011

Grandmother told me what other people think of you is none of your business. So motivate yourself. Self-motivation and discipline is ultimately one's goal anyway. Your brain actually controls everything anyway! A strong mind leads to strong actions, weak minds lead to weak actions. It all begins with a thought. Everything begins with a thought.

Instead of tearing down and judging others we as people should be united. If we are not, we are only hurting ourselves.

UponThisRock · December 2011

The truth will set you free

HerpDerp745 · December 2011

Immature bullsh|t.

Reported for name calling!

killagb · December 2011

I agree with you. There are a lot of really rude posters on here.

There are a lot of really thin-skinned posters on here. They should suck it up.

lexibelk · December 2011

You have to know who you're talking to and what works for them.

Yup, so if you don't know them, how do you know which they want/need?

You should get to know them before telling them to stop whining, or if they want cheese.

Quit telling people to "suck it up"

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