Anyone else going to be alone Christmas Day - or is it just
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I spent several years alone at Christmas time after my children grew up and I transfered with my company to Houston. Everyone in my office had children and families at home so it became really hard to meet people. Plus it was embarrasing to tell anyone I didn't have any family.. long long story. Just not what you want to share around a wonderful fun season like Christmas. Its not my fondest memorie in life, but I made the best of my "free" time by taking walks and working on side projects that kept my mind busy. I was not comfortable volunteering for food kitchens or shelters because of my disfunctional family background, but I have great admiration for those can
.... Good Luck ... Chin Up and try to focus on what you enjoy doing and make you feel good, not on what others are doing 0 -
None of your friends picked up on your situation to invite you along?
All you can do is make the best of the situation. If it were me, I know I would just make my favourite foods, a little mini Christmas dinner, have some of my favourite wine, and watch a nice Christmas movie... like Home Alone or Love Actually, and snuggle the hell out of my cat! haha
I'm away from home this Christmas, but luckily I am with my boyfriend until we visit family the 27th. Maybe you can just stop in at your mother's for a moment just to say hello/Merry Christmas, etc. That way you can get some family time in and then you might enjoy your alone time even more. Just try to make the best of it and I know someday you'll find someone to celebrate it with. 0 -
I will be alone for much of the day today and tomorrow. My adoptive family abandoned me several years ago and my kids all seem to make other plans that do not include me. I will be seeing my son and granddaughters tomorrow before they rush off to dinner somewhere. My kids never had extended family near by growing up and did not seem to learn that holidays are about family.0
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I too will be alone on Christmas Day. It has become easier to be alone than to pretend I'm okay.
Like many others, this time of year isn't good for me.
I spend most days with my friends, but on Christmas I cannot accept their invites. The day is full of memories I'd rather not face (while around other people).
Nevertheless, Merry Christmas! I hope you all have a blessed and wonderful day.0 -
I will be and it is okay,maybe some year that will change and it would be nice but for now it is kind of just another day.
Wishing all the happiest of Christmas days no matter how they spend it and hope the true meaning of the day is what comes first.
No matter what anyone believes it still can be a symbol of love and giving. 0 -
I'll be alone, I hate Christmas. My fathers family gets together but Im not invited. My sister has her 4 kids she gets together with her friends. My mom works. But its ok.0
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Another year with being with my family 0
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Thanks for all of your replies people - I am not overly sad - just wondering if I was the only person in the world lol :ohwell:
I was looking out for animal shelters to volunteer at - don't get much into humans anymore :grumble:
I think I will be right - I will certainly exercise - that will make me have 'happy thoughts' I am sure.
I guess it is a bit worse because my kids will be going through a cyclone (hurricane) tommorrow too it seems - which was an historical horrible time for where they live now (T. Cyclone Tracey Darwin Australia 1974)
Some of you have lots of stuff to deal with - I wanted to reply to each and every one of you but I think you would all get sick of my volcano pictures at the bottom of my posts soon enuf!!!!
If anyone is lonely and wants to be friends - then just add me - I will be on here - I was beginning to think I would be the only person on here and logging lol :happy:
Hope you all have a wonderful Christmas no matter what you are doing xxx :drinker:0 -
Would rather be with the rest of my family but I plan on sitting on a cliff near the ocean again this year. Only place I feel free, safe. Beats having another Christmas with an extremely volatile/abusive mother who is constantly stoned/buzzed all the time, making her even more vindictive and just mean. I won't be opening a single present from her this year and I am dead serious. I am avoiding the fallout because me not accepting her "gifts" will mean even more volatility/rage/abuse. I am done. I just wish I had someone to give me unconditional love All I want for xmas. 0
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^I will be alone as well. I plan on sweating out my sorrows in the gym0 -
Today it's just the kids and I. most of the kids are older (teenagers) so they would rather play on their iPods or Playstations or the Wii or XBox. Needless to say, they only come out to talk to me when they want something. So, it's just the 2yr old and me. My husband is a locomotive engineer. He went out to work last night. I'm praying he will be home sometime tomorrow. It's a bit lonely, isn't it?0
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not a huge fan of Christmas has become. its not about fam any longer and more about gifts. everything revolves around purchases and promises. ill be with fam but i didnt buy presents, i made all of my gifts ;p
ive been before, i just watched elf like ten times and then turned to the Christmas Story~ thats a full day ;p0 -
I'm sorry to hear that you don't have friends or family to spend Christmas with. But, perhaps this is an oppertunity to make some new friends or help some other people; check out the local soup kitchens or charities and see if they need any help or, if you are inclined, go to a church and talk the minister. Good Luck, I hope you find a way to have a Merry Christmas.
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The best Christmas I ever had was spent alone... I rented a bunch of movies, made myself a special dinner, made my obligatory calls, and watched movie after movie... it was great... and remember you are never really alone... whether or not you are with them, distant friends and family do love you... and if you are Christian, remember God is right there with you...0
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The best Christmas I ever had was spent alone... I rented a bunch of movies, made myself a special dinner, made my obligatory calls, and watched movie after movie... it was great... and remember you are never really alone... whether or not you are with them, distant friends and family do love you... and if you are Christian, remember God is right there with you...0
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I am so sorry to hear that your Christmas is not good. My kids went to live with their dad this past summer so it is going to be hard for me. I do have a husband though. But, I want you to know that the Lord Jesus Christ has a better life for you, as He had for me. I used to blame Him for my problems until He came into my heart and gave me real love. Well, don't want to preach but feel free to add me to your friends list if you want to talk more.. Meanwhile, know this that I will pray for you and I do mean this. Just a suggestion, but maybe there is someone less fortunate that you can help or reach out to today or tomorrow? God bless you. Do things you enjoy and be good to yourself.0
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Until this current Christmas season, I have spent the past 7 alone. My daughter (now 23) goes to her father's family because there's lots of presents, food and company. I finally got past the 'loneliness' by convincing myself the Christmas is just ONE day. If you look at it as just another day in the week, you might be able to accept it- handle it-get over it. Things will be back to normal, possibly, tomorrow. Just turn on tv, get on the computer, take a nap, or change the furniture around, go for a walk.... things you would normally do on a day off from work or a Saturday. I don't mean to make light of the empty feelings... that's hard, but if you keep yourself from thinking about it, the day will soon be over. PS, going to church helps, if you are so inclined. :flowerforyou:
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I too will be alone on Christmas Day. It has become easier to be alone than to pretend I'm okay.
Like many others, this time of year isn't good for me.
I spend most days with my friends, but on Christmas I cannot accept their invites. The day is full of memories I'd rather not face (while around other people).
Nevertheless, Merry Christmas! I hope you all have a blessed and wonderful day.
Me too. TY0 -
I moved 800 miles away from home a couple months ago, and couldn't afford to go home this year to visit my family. It's the first year that I won't be there, and I think the first year that someone will be missing (even when one of my brothers lived 3000 miles away in CA, he showed up on Christmas day. He had a really good job though and could afford to do that...). My boyfriend is going to come by at about 10PM tonight, and spend tomorrow with me so at least I won't be completely alone, but it's just not the same. I also have my little kitty cat here that will keep me company! I'm still pretty depressed though that I couldn't go home for the holidays... I really miss it!0
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I won't be alone, but this is still a frustrating time of year.
Five years ago my wife and I stepped up to help out my sister. We purchased a small farmette in northern Illinois so my sister would have a place to live and could move to this area from Atlanta. She was in sad shape, no job, on disability, divorced with a grown yet irresponsible kid living with her, living in a rundown rental house in a gang and drug invested area. No family around and its challenging for people to stay friends with her.
Now she is closer to family which is what she said she always wanted. But she has also surrounded herself with tons of animals that need daily care. So when the family wants to get together for holidays she comes up with excuses...I can't find anyone to feed the animals so I have to stay home...I can't afford the gas money...I don't think my old car will make it..etc etc. Then she sits there and whines that no one cares and she has no one to talk to. My dad gives her $500 a month. He also gave her the car that only had 28k miles on it when he stopped being able to drive. I subsidize her living expenses by paying for the gas-electric-phone, etc. We do so much for her throughout the year and then she still whines about her situation. She's 57 and should be a grownup by now.
I'd like to have my sister around for Christmas, more for her sake than mine.0 -
My heart goes out to everyone who will be alone and/or is going through a rough time. There is so much hype over Christmas that it is almost next to impossible to NOT feel sad about being alone etc during the holiday season. My Christmas day will be somewhat low key but I will be with my mom, my sister, her bf and my fiance which is certainly a much larger gathering than what some people have. I actually had the nerve to feel sad that my Christmases are no longer what they used to be ( we used to have large family gatherings but most have passed on or don't get together) but reading this thread made me realize how truly blessed I am to have the people around me that I have. I wish each and every one of you the very best Christmas you can have and I hope the New Year brings you all happier circumstances so this time next year you WILL be loved ones. Merry Christmas!0
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It seems to be the same for a lot of us -and I wish for everyone that little "moment" that helps you through the times that are roughest.
This Christmas was supposed to be the first in about 8 years that I wasn't going to be alone. I had met a wonderful person and our relationship was going well. He was a widower, and unfortunately started feeling some intense grief and guilt and broke up with me a short time ago - right before my birthday to top it off and all our plans for christmas and a trip at new years are now off. Every single day is another reminder of what we were supposed to be doing, the people we were supposed to be visiting, and the dates we were supposed to be going on - - and I have never felt this alone.....
I used to be okay by myself, but this has been intensely painful and of course even the lovely invites by my friends to spend time with them instead is just another set of reminders of our plans - plus they are all couples - so my being alone is even more magnified.
I am really struggling right now not to eat myself into oblivion - the bright side is I hate going to the grocery store cause I don't want to hear the holiday music or see all the reminders that I am supposed to be happy right now - -0 -
Yep, husband's deployed second time in a row over Christmas, but this time I couldn't afford the plane tickets back to Texas where my mom lives. Makes me feel like Scrooge!! BAH HUMBUG!0
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just me and my 3 year old but i've spent most of the last 10 christmas's alone - I really don't mind it - massive breakfast - long run or walk then massive dinner all the trimmings and films :-) thats me happy hehehe0
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What a very kind heart you have..such a sweet gesture in between all the other posts, I do hope someone besides myself read this.I wish to invite all of you who are alone on Christmas to our house!!! I think it would be so much fun to meet MFPs! Just know that even though it may not be possible to get together in person, MFPs are always here!
I wish all of you a Merry Christmas! Hugs to you!
To me, it's just another day so, no it's not that big of deal, sorry it has so many of you down. Each day is what we make it, create a nice day for yourself doing whatever you enjoy doing.
Healthy Attitude! Enjoy♥just me and my 3 year old but i've spent most of the last 10 christmas's alone - I really don't mind it - massive breakfast - long run or walk then massive dinner all the trimmings and films :-) thats me happy hehehe0 -
I will be and it is okay,maybe some year that will change and it would be nice but for now it is kind of just another day.
Wishing all the happiest of Christmas days no matter how they spend it and hope the true meaning of the day is what comes first.
No matter what anyone believes it still can be a symbol of love and giving.
ah, carl baby, am on my own by choice, but working as is double pay!!
never mind, it will change for the better soon, am sure, xxx0 -
I'm sorry you all will have such lonely Christmases. I would be alone because my kids are going to their dad's house. But I broke down and invited the ex over to hang out. Actually, I do that almost every holiday. Pretty pathetic, I guess. The friendship is good. We just can't live together.
EDIT: By ex, I am obviously not referring to my ex-husband/children's father. LOL! Just in case that wasn't obvious!
Turns out that I was alone on Christmas after all!! The ex is an idiot!!0 -
Since leaving my 'x' almost 11 years ago, Christmas has had its ups and downs. The first couple, he was invited to - and it didn't go very well. After a few years, we made new traditions.......I have two adult daughters, and one grandson, so Christmas has been kinda cool in recent years.
This year was odd - my youngest daughter's bf had to work, and my eldest had Christmas day with her future in-laws, so I was on my own. I made my OWN Christmas...........joined a friend for a church service on Christmas Eve, went to an Open House for a coworker, and drove 3 hours on Christmas Day to spend time with a best friend and her family. Sometimes, you just have to STEP OUT of your comfort zone, and make it work!
This evening, I am having my "official" Christmas with my girls, their beaus, and my 4.5 yr old grandson...along with my friend-in-law (my 'x's dad, who is one of my favorite people It will be a good time, I know..........because the booze and drugs and dysfunction of my previous life with my 'x' WON'T be there!!! Hallelujah!
Happy New Year to all my MFP friends.........you are awesome people, and I love ya!0 -
I ended up having one of the best Christmas days of my life after all that!!! Isn't it funny how things can turn around?
My cousin that I haven't seen in 30 years + (the whole family) invited me to his gathering. A friend from the other side of the country had phoned me that morning and said I should be contacting another friend of ours that lives here as he was alone also - so he ended up coming over and driving me to my cousins place and we all had the best time ever!!!!! It was so good I suffered a bit the next day - but all good now :-).
Hope you all have a wonderful New Year.
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