Daughter's boyfriend, should I talk?

He may have abandonment issues, because of the life he had as a young teenager. Give it some time, as long as he doesn't tell her that she can't see her friends, talk to male friends, ect, I don't see where the problem is.

He may also just be the type of person who likes to stay home and relax with friends/his girlfriend, or he may not have enough money to pay for your daughters movie or dinner and feels inadequate, so instead of telling her that he suggests they just stay home.

Just be a part of her life and if you notice any warning signs of an abusive relationship, maybe have a chat with her.

You have to play in cool, anything else would be pushing your daughter into his arms.

Sounds like he might have some sort of social anxiety disorder. He's been through more than most people experience their entire lives. I'd be cautious but keep the communication with your daughter open.

I don't think you're seeing the whole story... He doesn't "Do Nothing." He has raised himself, fed himself, clothed himself, managed to work from a young age to afford the bare minimum. He pays rent - at 17 years old. It's sad. He has far too much responsibility and hasn't had an opportunity to be a kid.

It's likely he just loves her company, but may not have the money for the movies and social activities. That he's very socially awkward because of how he's been raised and what he's been exposed to.

I can see how you're frustrated... but I'd let your daughter decide this for herself. If it bothers her, she should be the one to talk to him about it.

Well, that's my rambling of opinions *LOL*

Hello,
I hope this helps your situation a little. I am also speaking from past experience of being on both sides of your daughters positon and her boyfriend's .He sounds like a great kid. He had a very difficult life and he is surviving thebest way he knows how. It sounds as though they do love each other, because they talk on a personal level, they spend quality time together, you have met him ( so they aren't a secret item), and both are still in school; meaning they aren't dropping out and planning to run away together. Now, he probably wants to stay in alot because he has to care for himself as an adult. Between work, bills, school, and no family support, he is exhausted. He is exhausted mentally, physically, emotionally, etc. He probably can't afford alot of extra activities that other kids take for granted. Such as the movies, dinners, clothes shopping. The other kids use their allowance for fun activities, he is using his money to keep a roof over his head and feed himself. With that in mind, your daughter doen't have to be his savior. If she feels she needs more from a relationship that includes more emotional support or just acting like a kid, she shouldn't stay with him. Also, I'm going to be frank and I do not mean to offend you, but they are having relations. Any two young teens in a relationship, where one individual has a place of their own without parental observation is having sex. Thats what teens do whether they are in love or not. They sneak out houses, manipulate emotions, lie about their whearabouts, and cover each other just to have sex with the ones they love. Now, it's great that your daughter is telling you about her relationship, which shows things are not as bad as it can be. You definitely want her to keep talking to you and comming to you for advice. However; you do not ( under any circumstances) want a child comming out of this relationship!!! I do not believe they would to that on purpose, but their are thousands of teenage boys and girls who didn't mean to have a baby. This boyfriend probably doesn't to be around her friends because he doesn't have the money for the activities. He also feels self conscious about his lack of family, clothes, and living arrangements. Teens at that age arentunderstanding to lack of money or amily. You could introduce activities to them that don't cost a lot of money or even free. For instance, seeing a matinee instead of regular priced movie, take walks in the park, go to the beach ( if one is near you), ride bikes, ride skateboard, go to out door concerts, go for pizza, etc.
She is on the border of being in a controlling relationship. Again, I don't think he is doing it on purpose but the signs are starting to show. If your daughter wants out of the relationship and doesn't want to make it dramatic. She can do it slowly. Just stop spending as much time with him. For example, instead of four days a week, lessen it to two days, then one, then break up. She can say her activities and school are taking up too much time for a relationship or say she wants to spend more time with family. As a parent just be prepared for everything.