The rudest thing anyone said to you about your weight?
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I think the worst one I ever got was when I was going out on the ice where we were fishing ( mind you there were trucks out on the ice too) some one said " Maybe you shouldn't go out there. We don't want you to fall through". I was only around 170lb then too.0
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My mother-in-law has given me diet pills, Sensa, and diet books.
Just like... "hey, I'm done with these ... you can have them." She probably weighs 90lbs soaking wet and is constantly dieting. My daughter told me the other day that maybe I have a new baby in my belly. OK - time to do something about it LOL 0 -
It wasn't so much what people said, it was how they looked at me... that part was the worst because their face, expression, and eyes said way more than what they would probably say.
I saw someone I had considered a good friend when we were younger and deciced to go over to say hi and I could see she was looking at me saying do I know you? Then I said who I was she responded with, "Oh ****! I didn't realize it was you under all that fat you've put on. Looks like something stung you and you had an allergic reaction. You're not pregnant or anything are you? I would hate to call a pregnant woman fat you know."
I looked at her and told her she was a ***** and walked away. I left my shopping cart in a different aisle and just walked out the store, went to my car and cried...
I was not pregnant, I was not having an allergic reaction, and yes I was puffy on the outside, but how many different ways can you offend someone in one small convo?0 -
After completing a 1/2 in line marathon - my much thinner friends- and I were celebrating our accomplishment at a local pub and when someone aksed what we were celebrating, I told her. This beeotch looked me up and down for a moment with a look of disbelief on her face and said "really? You finished?" Not only did I finish- I was in the top 50% of my age bracket you nim-wit!0
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one isn't really what they said but i went on a first date and when i was about to order, he actually ordered for me a salad with nothing on it and water.. i was really hurt..
and i got the are you pregnant a few times before i started the weight loss.
But it all made me feel better in the end when i lost it! IN THERE FACES!!
I would have said "Are you sure you can eat that whole salad? Obliviously like I thought he ordered it for himself, then I would have ordered the biggest steak on the menu with potatoes on the side just to show him I didn't give a **** what he thought!". lol. That is SO rude when people who don't know you order your food for you! Or I would have asked for the check right there. What a way to ruin a date!0 -
I remember riding in the car w/ my ex. He saw this girl with a really nice figure walking past and he commented. I, was put off, of course, and I got miffy about his comment. He replied that I was prettier, but a pretty face only goes so far.
I won't say this comment was rude, but more of a reality slap, lol. Weight issues run in my family. I was looking for a nice pair of jeans and wearing my mom's patience thin (I must have been like 28 at the time, lol) and after the 10th pair and asking if my butt looked big in them, she replied, "You know, if your butt is big, no matter what pair you wear, your butt will be big. I think they all looked nice on you. That was her way of saying, Work what you got! She was soooo right, I miss her so!!0 -
my little cousin (he is not little anymore) said to me" go call 1800 jenny instead of bugging us" he was about 10 at the time...LOL ...well i did just that !! that was 10 yrs ago..i did lose about 10lb before getting pregnant with my first ds...i still guilt trip him on this comment....
shorty after that i was at a wedding and people i have not seen for few years kept on looking at me and asking if i was pregnant...( i was always skinny but after finishing uni and getting married i gained 25lb)...
i didnt need to hear more, i started my weight loss journey right after...0 -
Oh, and the only thing worse then being asked if you are pregnant by a total stranger, is being asked if you are pregnant by your Uncle who happens to be an OBGYN!!!!!!!!! I was mortified......I replied...no, just fat....and ever since that day, I vowed I would lose the weight! When I have a day where I start feeling down about myself and thinking this is so hard to lose it, I just think of that comment and it keeps my eyes on the prize! I am 2 pounds away from have an Obese BMI to an Overweight BMI.....Imagine that I am THRILLED to be in the Overweight category!
What's funny is I had to get to the size where that comment was made before I changed my ways! Even when I was in high school, I was bigger then most girls. Not morbidly obese, but overweight for sure. I was a 12 at about 165-170 pounds and I was babysitting my mother's friend's son who was 7. I was playing video games with him when he looked down at my legs and said "Kristine, your legs need to go on a diet"...Thanks Stephen, I will take that into consideration....but I didn't....
Then earlier this year from Emma, my girlfriends 5 year old.."Miss Kristine, why are you so fat?....as she thinks to herself then says like she JUST remembered this.....oh nevermins, that's the way God made you".....so I told her, Emma, GOD did not make me this way! I MADE ME THIS WAY! This is exactly why you need to eat your vegetables and fruits and not eat junk food or McDonalds all the time!
Kids are SOOOO Honest! They have almost NO filter. If you want an honest answer, walk up to a 6 or 7 year old and say, how do I look? They will tell you whatever they think! Just don't take it personally if the truth hurts...lol
I think most of my horror stories are from children making comments more then adults....0 -
Someone told me, like a week ago, that I shouldn't wear skinny jeans because my thighs are too big.
I do have big thighs, sure, they only fit into a size 6 jeans or bigger and my waist is a 4. So I have a difficult time finding jeans. but these thighs have pushed me through countless miles on the pavement, through sprints in the grass, through tire flips, 32" box jumps, all forms of squats from body squats to weighted squats, 205# deadlifts, lunges, and more. A lot more than that girl could have ever done or probably ever will do.
That is crazy. A size 6 is small?0 -
I've been told many rude things about my weight, but luckily I don't remember the rudest thing that someone has said about my weight. Comments about my weight always hurt the most when they came from the people I'm closest with.0
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I am ashamed to say that I did ask a lady in my office when she was due. I was really young back then and she was so thin apart from a very large pregnant looking belly. I am not talking fat but as in just round like she was 8 months pregnant. I also patted it at the same time. She looked really upset, I am just fat. I was crushed and felt so bad. My whole office thought she was pregnant too.
To this day, I think of when I was 9 month pregnant and her belly looked exactly like mine and i have not ever since seen someone with such a pregnant looking belly.0 -
That's why we're all here.I've been told many rude things about my weight, but luckily I don't remember the rudest thing that someone has said about my weight. Comments about my weight always hurt the most when they came from the people I'm closest with.
We all know that being fat sucks. It makes us unattractive and the object of ridicule.
I found myself getting rude with a guy on a flight to Atlanta. He was so fat that his lard drooled over his seat, and he insisted that I raise the divider, and I refused, suggesting that maybe he should have purchased 2 seats.
Sometimes people just ask for it.0 -
Probably my ex husband... after 6 years of marriage and 2 babies...
"Sorry - I just don't find you as attractive as you used to be -- and you know you felt better when you looked better"0 -
The rudest thing was said by the BMI calculator on MFP - at just over 30 I was in the 'obese' category although of course I'm 'big boned' so it doesnt count! Pleased to be now merely 'overweight at a 26.6 BMI........0
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My weight has been up and down the last few years for various reasons, but breaking up with the long term bf towards the end of last year didnt help and i put back on pretty much all that I'd lost. My mother is bigger than me and had the cheek to sit there whilst stuffing her face tonight and tell me (who was having a biccie and a cuppa) that I need to do something about my weight, and to stop eating! Now if it'd been said in a nice way, fine, but it really wasnt :frown:
The fact that my aim for this coming year is to loose 1lb a week until this time next year, or until I hit my goal weight, whichever comes first, apparently means nothing! :grumble:0 -
I really haven't had anyone say anything during the fat part of my life, it is now after losing my weight that I get the comments, looks, and snarkiness!!
I work as a manager at a conveince store in my small town, and today I get this..... Are you on drugs? Meaning like are you on Meth, Crank, or Crack! I am seriously going to punch somebodies face in. I have had this asked to me several times. I have been happily married for almost years, and I also keep getting this-- Are you leaving your husband, you after a new man, you have a boyfriend on the side? etc...!! Customer asks me today-- Hey Sexy you dump your husband? Me- uh no, but I am sure he would be glad to dump you off a cliff!
People can be so rude!!0 -
I had the pregnant comment before too. I'm an apple shape and have never been pregnant. I can remember kids taunting me in school because I couldn't run. I've also been yelled at as I've been walking down the street. Can't believe people can be so insensitive. You are beautiful, don't let anyone tell you otherwise.0
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My mother told me when I was younger, about age 14 or 15, "I was not this big when I was your age" most hurtful thing ever!0
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I was all set up to do the tummy tuck thing but it cost almost $18,000 so instead I decided to walk! I started small , I now walk about 16 miles a week ( 5 on Sat., 5 on Sunday the 2 miles every other day) I just wanted to see if it would work for me. To my shock it did. I no longer need a tummy tuck my belly is flatter than it ever way and I'm 59 years old!
All I had to do is WALK!0 -
My husband said "You're just getting fatter and fatter."0
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My wife told me this very thing."Sorry - I just don't find you as attractive as you used to be ..."
AND I THANK HER FOR IT!
I didn't blame, snivel or make demands. It's just the truth. Fat makes us unattractive, but to hear it spoken out loud crumbled any kernal of denial that I was - as I like to say, "carrying it well"...lol
No, I was not carrying anything but a tub of lard that made me loathsome to look upon.
That's a huge motivator.
When sexual attraction evaporates, love goes out the window.
I would not have blamed her had she cheated on me, yet I am thankful she did not. Eventually, she would have divorced me I know. People should not be expected to just accept what is ugly to them.
Wow, that hurt hearing her say that - so much!
I felt like dying; however, once past the shock, I got to work.
And today? It's BACK ON!
Big Time!0 -
I would have said "Are you sure you can eat that whole salad? Obliviously like I thought he ordered it for himself, then I would have ordered the biggest steak on the menu with potatoes on the side just to show him I didn't give a **** what he thought!". lol. That is SO rude when people who don't know you order your food for you! Or I would have asked for the check right there. What a way to ruin a date!
i didn't even think about it i was so upset..
but if that a**hole could see me now!0 -
My husband said that my weight made him loose ALL of his desire for me...I cried...I got mad. I said a couple of things and now I am out to set things straight...I am loosing the weight and when I look hot again...I am going to remind him of Bobby Browns song "Can't Touch This" and let him keep the dust I leave behind. 0
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After losing 80 pounds, these are my two favorites:
You look great....are you sick?
You look great.....are you getting a divorce?
I just have to laugh.0 -
Mine was from my own mom, i was about 16 and we were having a conversation about how most of my cousins got pregnant really young(still in high school) and she told me that she was happy i wasn't the kind of girl guys liked. Which was her way of saying she was happy she didn't have to worry about me following in my cousins footsteps and getting pregnant young because i wasn't the type of girls guys wanted to get with.0
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I have always struggled with weight, and when I was pregnant with my first child, (now 9), my sister (always skinny, captain of the cheerleaders) told me that I looked better 9 months pregnant than I did pre-pregnancy. That has stayed with me for years.
The only thing that has helped, is that I have lost about 40 lbs since September, and the last time I saw her not only was her *kitten* the width of an ax handle, when she stretched to reach something, a huge fat roll fell out of the bottom of her sweatshirt and rested heavily over the waistband of her jeans.0 -
My husband said that my weight made him loose ALL of his desire for me...I cried...I got mad. I said a couple of things and now I am out to set things straight...I am loosing the weight and when I look hot again...I am going to remind him of Bobby Browns song "Can't Touch This" and let him keep the dust I leave behind.
I'm sorry... But you're husband sounds like an *kitten*. Do this for yourself. For your health. So that you're kids will have a mom around for a long long time... I can't believe he said that to you!!0 -
My wife told me this very thing."Sorry - I just don't find you as attractive as you used to be ..."
AND I THANK HER FOR IT!
I didn't blame, snivel or make demands. It's just the truth. Fat makes us unattractive, but to hear it spoken out loud crumbled any kernal of denial that I was - as I like to say, "carrying it well"...lol
No, I was not carrying anything but a tub of lard that made me loathsome to look upon.
That's a huge motivator.
When sexual attraction evaporates, love goes out the window.
I would not have blamed her had she cheated on me, yet I am thankful she did not. Eventually, she would have divorced me I know. People should not be expected to just accept what is ugly to them.
Wow, that hurt hearing her say that - so much!
I felt like dying; however, once past the shock, I got to work.
And today? It's BACK ON!
Big Time!
I'm trying to gently explain this to my boyfriend. Sex has definitely improved since I have lost weight and so far all I have managed is "Wow! Imagine how awesome sex is going to be when we are both in better shape!" I don't have the heart to tell him that his weight is a problem for me in the bedroom.0 -
I'm a sales rep. and for customers far away I deal withthem over the phone. While at a trade show a man game up to me and introduced himself. He was a customer of mine. He said to me that it's a good thing that I don't visit the store because I wouldn't fit down his aisle. (I was about 220lbs.) What ticked me off the most though was that he must have been about 300.
I did NOT kick him. I told him "Thank-you for stopping by." and walked away. I wanted to puke; I felt so humiliated.
My revenge will be that at the next show, if he dares come, he won't recognize me and I can ignore him.0 -
My wife told me this very thing."Sorry - I just don't find you as attractive as you used to be ..."
AND I THANK HER FOR IT!
I didn't blame, snivel or make demands. It's just the truth. Fat makes us unattractive, but to hear it spoken out loud crumbled any kernal of denial that I was - as I like to say, "carrying it well"...lol
No, I was not carrying anything but a tub of lard that made me loathsome to look upon.
That's a huge motivator.
When sexual attraction evaporates, love goes out the window.
I would not have blamed her had she cheated on me, yet I am thankful she did not. Eventually, she would have divorced me I know. People should not be expected to just accept what is ugly to them.
Wow, that hurt hearing her say that - so much!
I felt like dying; however, once past the shock, I got to work.
And today? It's BACK ON!
Big Time!
I'm trying to gently explain this to my boyfriend. Sex has definitely improved since I have lost weight and so far all I have managed is "Wow! Imagine how awesome sex is going to be when we are both in better shape!" I don't have the heart to tell him that his weight is a problem for me in the bedroom.
Try photography. My husband saw a picture of himself at his heaviest, and was disgusted by his gut and moobs. He joined me at this, and he last lost about 35 lbs too.0
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