So my wife makes fun of this food journal

my hubby makes fun of it too. He always makes stupid comments but I just brush it off of my shoulder because I am happy with it. Soon I am sure he will be when I get below the weight when we first started dating (118 lbs).

i dont use this site to log food, i have a notebook. My fiance rolls his eyes when i write in it. Ive been laughed at for a lot worse. Honestly, i dont get the "unsupportive spouse" posts. Im not in shape for him, and could care less if hes gungho about me writing how much sodium is in an ounce of cheese.

Considering your name is Troll and you take a picture of your Christmas tree with your dogs, your opinion means squat.

That is right!! There is no reason to even be remotely ugly about these posts. While you, Troll, may not get these posts....other people do so either be nice or go back and play under your bridge!!

I don't know how long you've been married...I'm going on 26 years, and I have recently realized (okay, I'm slow!) that if I want something from my husband, I have to explicitly ask for it.

Just a suggestion...when you have 5 minutes and nothing else is going on, ask your wife to sit down and talk to you, that you want to discuss something with her (most wives would love to be asked to talk).

Just tell her you need her support. She is the closest person in the world to you and her support means a lot. Then, maybe spell out what support means. Or if she's helped with the food aspect of your weight loss plan, then compliment her on that. Compliment on anything that's worked well so far, that you feel is authentic. (This approach eliminates the type of "you never" comment or "you always" accusation).

Now, I'm not saying I've done this perfectly myself. I've made a lot of mistakes and accusations over the years, usually not so obvious, but more subtle blaming.

In terms of MFP and weight loss, I would really like my husband to join me, but he's not ready. I'm not always "all in" myself to be honest, but I am committed to trying to stay the course.

Good luck!

Screw your wife. She's a *****.

I originally joined MFP just over a year ago in an effort to get my husband on board. He has put on alot of weight and eats terribly, I worry he'll drop dead someday. I was after the "OH MY GOSSSSSH look how many hours I'd have to run to burn that little snack off, better not eat it then!" effect with him. He did try it at first but he's a service engineer - after one day of eating right and trying to log his fruit salad and diet coke, and getting called all sorts of names by the other guys at work, he gave up. I can tell him the calorie content of pretty much everything he and I eat and anything he picks up in the shops, just off the top of my head now. But he just rolls his eyes and sometimes will purposely eat or buy the high-calorie things to spite me! It's frustrating as I've done so well and I really wish he'd do the same. He complains about all the hot muscly guys I train with, you'd think he'd want to be one too!!! But he's always complimenting me on my progress so that's a bonus

As for friends, I tried to keep it all off my facebook as some people just don't care especially due to my history of anorexia, and I use the forums here to vent and get it off my chest. But when I first joined and did so well I was proud, and made a few facebook comments here and there which I thought no one read until a few friends from various parts of the world wrote to me one day thank me for inspiring them to join MFP and lose X kg. So that was really good, it's nice to motivate others even if it isn't my husband as planned lol.

GOOD LUCK EVERYONE

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My husband laughed at the idea of writing down everything I eat - but he is very impressed with the results!

Hey, my hubby makes fun of it too but he does it in a playful way. He understands why I do it and it was him that put me on to it.

I caught him looking through my laptop before dinner and wondered what he was doing. After dinner it became apparent. He had logged into here and added my dinner for me, I asked why and his response was "I wanted to check that I wasn't going to cook something that would put you over you calorie count, oh and you may have got you exercise time goal met but you are 52 calories burnt short."

My friend on the other hand has issues with her fella. She has lost 5 stone in 8 month and looks fabulous but gets no support from her hubby. Now he isn't exactly skinny either and could do with dieting. She found out he was cheating on her and the reason behind it was she was getting hotter by the day, thought she would lose interest in him now that men are hitting on her so he did the dead first do it wouldn't hurt as much. It crushed her though and made her feel crap for doing so incredibly well.

If spouses aren't supportive I think it has more to do with their insecurities, how they feel in comparison (lets face it, none of us want to be the fat one in a couple do we?)

Maybe in a few weeks, when she sees how great you are doing, you can encourage her to join, show her the benefits.

She may be your wife but that doesn't mean you should feel crap to make her feel better.

Good luck with your journey, I hope to see your success story soon.

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Just speculation, but she may be concerned that if you get fit and attractive then she'll seem larger and less attractive by comparison. My theory is that it has less to do with the food journal, and more to do with her insecurities.

So my advice is to keep your food journal going, and do your best to stroke her ego from time to time

Agree with this post totally