Feeling DOWN. This is HOPELESS.
PrincessLynn2010
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Why bother. My self control sucks. 
I'm never going to get anywhere. I keep screwing up.
I'm never going to get anywhere. I keep screwing up.
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I felt as you did, until about 4 months ago.
Watch Food Inc, Fat Sick & Nearly Dead, Food Matters,
& Forks Over Knives, in that order.
They're all on Netflix.
I really think it will help.0 -
Not to sure where you are going wrong but maybe try a new method
Mon-fri Restrict to what MFP has for you and on the weekends dont worry about it.. and see how you go.. It is possible to be too strict0 -
Pick yourself back up and try again tomorrow. Focus on WHY you want to lose the weight. Take each day as it comes. Don't obsess. Perhaps your goals are too extreme? Cut yourself a bit of slack. We all have blowouts. The trick is to say "ok so I screwed up yesterday, but today I will try harder". Work out what causes you to break and try and remove the temptation if you can. It takes time. You didn't put on the weight overnight or even in a month or two, so it'll take you a long time to take it back off again.0
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Do you have a good support network? I tried in the past to 'watch' my weight and that never worked. Now I have a great support network and my fear of 'letting them down' is what is pushing me on.
Where are you letting yourself down? Is it exercise, food or both?
Do you have the right inspirations and motivation?
If you need/want more online support then feel free to add me. I try to be a good friend.
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I know it's hard, but the only thing you have to change here is your mind. Your self control is there and fully functional. You *can* do this. Choose to have a healthy day tomorrow. And then choose it again the next day. Recommit yourself every morning. Don't worry about yesterday, don't worry about tomorrow. Make today your healthy gift to yourself. And in no time you'll look at yourself and be able to say 'you know what? I *can* do it. I can look after myself. I'm ok. I can be a healthy person'.
No-one is doomed to an unhealthy lifestyle.0 -
We ALL mess up and fall back into crappy eating/exercise habits... mostly because that's what got us overweight in the first place... it's what we know. A new, better routine takes time to learn and impliment. There will be setbacks. Just keep trying and take each day as it comes. Do the best you can THAT day, and try to do a little better each day. If you have a bad day, don't beat yourself up. You're human. :-) The fact you are making the effort is better than not making any effort at all!0
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It isn't hopeless, but it isn't easy either. You need to take really small steps in the beginning. If you have your diary set up to lose 2 lbs a week, move it down to 1/2 a pound a week, do that for a month see what the results are and then bump it up to 1 pound when you are ready. You will do this, you're here and that's a big step.0
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Not to sure where you are going wrong but maybe try a new method
Mon-fri Restrict to what MFP has for you and on the weekends dont worry about it.. and see how you go.. It is possible to be too strict
Sage advice. Don't beat yourself up over not being perfect with your journey, because it is that not a destination. Go read my blog. I've had a lot of obstacles in my way and I did it, and the blog doesn't even go completely into everything. Trust me I had many reasons to just say screw it all.
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/mzenzer0 -
I went through that as well.Why bother. My self control sucks.
I'm never going to get anywhere. I keep screwing up.
You must just decide what is important to you, attaching pleasure to fitness success and pain to being fat.
How you manage this is all up to you. No external motivation will last.
If you can manage to stoke your internal motivation, set goals and take action, anything that brings you closer to your goals will attract you, and anything that moves you away will repel you.
Temptation becomes something you will easily resist.
Why? The fleeting pleasures of gluttony and binge eating is offset by the pain having to live with the consequences.
It's just that simple.0 -
I've not been doing MFP for very long but I find that if I eat a little more than I planned to, a little more than is my allowance for the day, I go for a very brisk walk for as long as it takes to make up the difference. This has been really helpful to me and enables me to feel more in control of the process. I have even done this late an night after an attack of the munchies.
Also, I sometimes input my meals and snacks before I eat them so that I am aware of the calories involved and, if they are foods which are high in calories, I savour them more (or cut down on the amounts by a bit or even decide if I really want them all that much).
Good luck and don't give up.0 -
I went through that as well.Why bother. My self control sucks.
I'm never going to get anywhere. I keep screwing up.
You must just decide what is important to you, attaching pleasure to fitness success and pain to being fat.
How you manage this is all up to you. No external motivation will last.
If you can manage to stoke your internal motivation, set goals and take action, anything that brings you closer to your goals will attract you, and anything that moves you away will repel you.
Temptation becomes something you will easily resist.
Why? The fleeting pleasures of gluttony and binge eating is offset by the pain having to live with the consequences.
It's just that simple.
Wonderful advice! :drinker:0 -
What my problem seemed to be to get going was nothing tying the here and now to the then and there. I have a Heart Rate Monitor and it really helps with this. The HRM tracks my calories burned during exercise.
Funny how I would start my 15 minutes of exercise and it would turn into 30 because I wanted to see a certain number on that baby. 30 turned into 60 and well, you see where this is going.
Keep up the good work. I am older, and screwed up my metabolism with stupid diets for years, so it took a year to lose 36 lbs. I gained some back, but it is better now than ever because I STOPPED..............NOW. Not tomorrow, not Monday (too many of them have passed thus far)0 -
dont give up .....it can be done....i joined about the same time as u did.....and i am not doing so great either...but i am not going to give up...it is a very hard time during the holidays..food is everywhere....now that it is over...i plan to get more serious...i will say a prayer for you ..believe me i need it too....
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If your not failing your doing something wrong !
Dont give up ! You got this! keep pushing mama -xoxo0 -
felt like this....BUT remember u can always start back again! Nothing is lost just continue and even u had a bad day tell urself n motivate urself by sayin that U WILL start again!0
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I know how you feel - I lost 7 pounds before Christmas and have put them back.
BUT you can do it - by making little changes that will add up.
With the food, I am not "on a diet" but I try to make sure I log it all - I am much more likely not to eat between meals if I have to record that I've done it. Keep busy, keep out of the kitchen - most of my snacking is pure habit, not because I'm hungry. I've also found that cutting down on carbs has been very helpful, for my main meal I don't have pasta or potatoes, but make up with extra veg. Try to take a 10 minute brisk walk each day, park at the far end of the car park, use the stairs, get off the bus one stop early. Don't buy the foods that make you want to binge. If you have to buy them for other family members, buy them a named box and put them in there as soon as you buy them (I do this for my 2 sons who love cakes, the guilt of stealing out of their box is too great).
These are all very small changes, but they do add up. Your weight loss won't be spectacular but it's more likely to stay off - unless next Christmas gets in the way of course!
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Possibly the best advice I have seen on this website since I joined. I'm going to write this out and stick in in my purse then read it befor eI put anything in my mouth.
I went through that as well.Why bother. My self control sucks.
I'm never going to get anywhere. I keep screwing up.
You must just decide what is important to you, attaching pleasure to fitness success and pain to being fat.
How you manage this is all up to you. No external motivation will last.
If you can manage to stoke your internal motivation, set goals and take action, anything that brings you closer to your goals will attract you, and anything that moves you away will repel you.
Temptation becomes something you will easily resist.
Why? The fleeting pleasures of gluttony and binge eating is offset by the pain having to live with the consequences.
It's just that simple.0 -
I know how you feel. I have started so many times only to end up again where you are now. You have to try and change your mindset! Be positive! Tell yourself that you CAN do it instead of you can't! A tool that helped me incredibly is Jillian Michaels book "Winning By Losing". It helps you to find a positive attitude towards yourself and your journey! It gives you a help on your diet and exercise. You can get it really cheap on ebay or amazon! It is the best piece of advise I ever had! Go and look it up! 0
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Don't give up! It isn't hopeless. You wouldn't have bothered posting this if it were really, truly hopeless. It's hard, we all agree, and we've all felt exactly the way you feel right now. Don't be too hard on yourself! Take any mistakes and chuck 'em out the window. That's all in the past. Every eating decision and tiny bit of exercise you get is one step in the right direction. Stay focused on the future and use the past as a learning tool.
You're amazing! Don't forget it. :flowerforyou:0 -
I think everyone whether they have 10 bls or 100 feel like this
its not the screw ups you have to concentrate on but the small victories. picking a salad over frys taking the stars over the elivatore (even if you had to stop 3 times)
a lot of the lost of control has to do with the chemicals food has in it and in your own hormones. if your having really trouble it might be time to consult with your doctor. you may have a vitamin deficiency or a hormone problem. If its only been a few weeks its more then likely food related. Try not keeping the foods you crave in your house. or when you really want something take a small amount and leave the rest in the kitchen.
it has been shown if you have a small amount of what you crave you will loss the craving. so instead of eating the whole bag of chips try just a handful.
Don't loss hope we are all int his together 0 -
Why bother. My self control sucks.
I'm never going to get anywhere. I keep screwing up.
Keep at it and DO NOT GIVE UP. Sometimes it takes a minute to kick start the old body. It seems like the effort is useless, but it is not. You are retraining your body and metabolism and hunger and a lot of things. Let it sort out, but be consistent. We're here if you need us for inspiration!0 -
I think everyone whether they have 10 bls or 100 feel like this
its not the screw ups you have to concentrate on but the small victories. picking a salad over frys taking the stars over the elivatore (even if you had to stop 3 times)
a lot of the lost of control has to do with the chemicals food has in it and in your own hormones. if your having really trouble it might be time to consult with your doctor. you may have a vitamin deficiency or a hormone problem. If its only been a few weeks its more then likely food related. Try not keeping the foods you crave in your house. or when you really want something take a small amount and leave the rest in the kitchen.
it has been shown if you have a small amount of what you crave you will loss the craving. so instead of eating the whole bag of chips try just a handful.
Don't loss hope we are all int his together
So true. And I think even if you are trying to lose weight, don't forget to eat. When you don't eat, your body starts going into survival mode and will actually hang on to weight ... eat smallish 'meals' throughout the day. This is a journey, not a sprint. Remember that. We're all walking, running, and hanging out with you. Some have reach their goals, many (like me) have not, but remember this is not a judgement or a test. It's about breaking bad habits, establishing new ones, and feeling good about yourself and being the fittest you can be. Don't give up.0 -
Remember if you keep making the same mistakes, you will repeat your past. Half the battle of losing weight is to keep your head on straight and have small victories. When people say you look great, it gives you more motivation. GOOD LUCK, we are all pulling for you!0
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Mon-fri Restrict to what MFP has for you and on the weekends dont worry about it.. and see how you go.. It is possible to be too strict
THIS! Something (even if it's not everything) is better than nothing. Feel proud of what you've done right instead of beating yourself up about what you've done wrong.0 -
I went through that as well.Why bother. My self control sucks.
I'm never going to get anywhere. I keep screwing up.
You must just decide what is important to you, attaching pleasure to fitness success and pain to being fat.
How you manage this is all up to you. No external motivation will last.
If you can manage to stoke your internal motivation, set goals and take action, anything that brings you closer to your goals will attract you, and anything that moves you away will repel you.
Temptation becomes something you will easily resist.
Why? The fleeting pleasures of gluttony and binge eating is offset by the pain having to live with the consequences.
It's just that simple.
This!! Could not have said it any better........0 -
I went through that as well.Why bother. My self control sucks.
I'm never going to get anywhere. I keep screwing up.
You must just decide what is important to you, attaching pleasure to fitness success and pain to being fat.
How you manage this is all up to you. No external motivation will last.
If you can manage to stoke your internal motivation, set goals and take action, anything that brings you closer to your goals will attract you, and anything that moves you away will repel you.
Temptation becomes something you will easily resist.
Why? The fleeting pleasures of gluttony and binge eating is offset by the pain having to live with the consequences.
It's just that simple.
This!! Could not have said it any better........
100% agree as well.0 -
It is a really tough thing we are all doing - I bet most people here know the feeling you describe. The fact is though, you are still here and looking around the site even a little shows you that it can be done. There is some good advice above. I'd suggest the 1. 'Only today- but I'm sticking to it completely'. Don't plan ahead further - just deal with today. 2.Don't choose a low calorie level. 3.Whenever you feel likely to cave in to temptation, move away and put off eating it until just a little later. (After I've been for a walk... after I've done the job that I'm putting off by eating this... after I've had a drink of water - after I've checked on plans for tonight ... after I've called and chatted to that friend...) Usually just putting things off for a few minutes reduces or removes the craving. It is a sort of mind game but does actually work! I'm trying all these t h ings today. The holiday seems to have thrown me a little!0
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SERIOUSLY??? :noway:
it does not give people like me much hope then does it i was pushing on 400lbs,and i am sure i have some sorta eating disorder(binge)....so basically you just GOT TO MAKE YOURSELF...:frown:
start with baby steps....stuff yourself silly with fruit and veg to fill yourself up! and slowly it really does get easier,do not keep getting on the scales 1 time a week is plenty....the scales can make or break you trust me on that one! :noway:
as the days roll on it gets easier and you have more and more self control ok..
good luck honey x0 -
I truly felt your way for a long time but 5 years ago I realised every day that you are 'good' is better than no days!
Every lb you lose adds up (1 a week = 52 lost) - if you never lost any you'd end up gaining and then THAT would be hopeless.
You've got great support here, but weight loss is a cycle of change - emotionally there are times we can take action, and times we can't. When you have a day when you feel you can't then don't.. just be as good as you can and don't lie to yourself. You're doing this for you, and only you can make that choice of an apple v's apple pie.
Hope your spirits lift and your little one makes you realise you have a lot to keep trying for!
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Life is not perfect, Do you know ANY perfect people? I don't! If you make a mistake it is what you do with that inormation that makes the difference. You can do this - keep on keeping on. It is my little moto, the more you do the more you will want to do, make small changes and make them count and then move on to the bigger ones. You have support - don't all these posts show you?0
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