Does anyone else hate being called vuluptuous?

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  • Kekibird
    Kekibird Posts: 1,122 Member
    I like it and curvacious.

    I think has to do with a few elements like how I feel about myself and the tone in which the person commenting is saying.

    Anything can be made a bad word if the intention is to hurt. But if it's said in appreciation of curves or my natural figure, I don't take offense.

    I love my curves, no matter how much I lose or how defined and firm my muscles get, I will always have a bubbly butt, thick thighs and an itty bitty waist. No amount of working out will make those any less, they'll just be more defined.
  • paigemarie93
    paigemarie93 Posts: 778 Member
    Size 12 is not a plus size, at least not in America. It's FAR from it! Plus size where I buy starts at size 18. Size 12 is actually in the "normal" departments of the stores making it NOT plus size. Maybe where your from it's different, IDK.

    Depends I guess. Size 12 isn't small.

    But where do you draw the line of being overweight? Most people's vision of overweight is grossly wrong. Mine was.

    Anything past US 6 & UK 10 is plus size. That is why anyone over those sizes in the modelling industry is plus sized model.
    To me, anything over 140lbs if they're untoned & flabby is overweight.
  • paigemarie93
    paigemarie93 Posts: 778 Member
    you size 14 is our 12

    It's not, I buy american clothes, I'm a sixteen, I get a US 12, they are always converted to 16.
  • your off on your uk and us size conversions.
  • hcgdarling
    hcgdarling Posts: 1 Member
    I had an old coworker I hadn't seen in awhile say wow I didn't recognize you...your so volupuous. I said really, I didn't think my boobs were that big. That is what I thought she meant. Come to find out she meant wow, your fat. UGH!! How RUDE!!!
  • then look at a size chart. I just looked at three different ones that say the same thing.
  • paigemarie93
    paigemarie93 Posts: 778 Member
    your off on your uk and us size conversions.

    I'm really not, not when I wear those sizes....
  • sylvuz323
    sylvuz323 Posts: 468 Member
    I've never had a problem with being called voluptuous.
  • Kaylee_law_123
    Kaylee_law_123 Posts: 450 Member
    I think men quite often mean it as a nice way of saying curvy, whereas women mean it as a polite way of saying your fat!
  • mrsscullion
    mrsscullion Posts: 5 Member
    No one's ever said that to me, lol. I would love it!
  • Katefab26
    Katefab26 Posts: 865
    Hahaha I used to have a friend who always called me voluptuous. She was always grabbing my boobs too, so I'm pretty sure she meant it as a compliment...
  • I love it!
  • babylemonade
    babylemonade Posts: 250 Member
    The word itself is a good thing, it's the way and kind of person who says it that makes it complimentary or hurtful. Curvy is nice too.

    I like being called voluptuous, but have been called so very few times. I'd rather be called that than rubenesque, or fluffy, or big and beautiful.
  • meltygarden
    meltygarden Posts: 111 Member
    Nah. I'm voluptuous even when I'm not overweight. :) Da butt and da boobs stay put.
  • MrsGreen1985
    MrsGreen1985 Posts: 53 Member
    I've always hated it, although it is a nice way to say fat it does seem like there saying something nasty to you without actually saying it. I already have low self a steem because of the excess weight and that just makes me feel worse about myself
  • I'd rather be voluptuous - brings to mind 40's pinup and Marilyn Monroe to me

    ^^^ THIS!!
  • scubagirl319
    scubagirl319 Posts: 115 Member
    I think how you interpret it says a little about how you feel about your own self image.
  • Kimsied
    Kimsied Posts: 223 Member
    I have mixed feeling about both "vuluptuous" and "curvy". I think mainly because for some people both are a polite euphenism for fat. I do think the true meaning of both is beautiful on women who are healthy (and I also think athletic and willowy builds are also beautiful when healthy). (But since I am a herterosexual woman, I doubt it matters to most women what I find attractive!)

    I do take it as a compliment if I believe the person means it in the classic, "good" way ala Marilyn, Bettie, Sophie Vargas or Beyonce, etc. I do naturally have an hourglass type shape when thinner as I store fat in my chest and hips so they are always about the same with a smaller waist. When heavier, I think I actually look less curvy as the extra weight in my waist makes me more box shaped. So I take curvy as a compliment meaning I am looking less box-like at the moment unless I think the person means it in the "fat" way.

    But when I describe a women as either this "c-word" or "v-word", I mean she has a curvy hip to waist ratio and she might have prominent breasts as well. A women can by curvy and over weight, or she might be slim and curvy, or anything in between. Though I admit, if I use the Volumptuous it usually implies breasts and hips (and usually a small amount of plumpness) and Curvy can just be the hips (and can be slimmer).

    Confusing? :-)
  • google defines it as follows:

    vo·lup·tu·ous / Adjective: 1.Of, relating to, or characterized by luxury or sensual pleasure.
    2.(of a woman) Curvaceous and sexually attractive.

    I think sexually attractive is a good complement. Question is, does the person saying it know what it means?:flowerforyou:
  • InTheInbetween
    InTheInbetween Posts: 192 Member
    HATE it. Hate "curvy" too but that is because my personal perception of the two words is "fat". :ohwell: I realize that's my own problem though so I try not to be offended if i'm referred to that way. . . . Then I hit the gym extra hard that night. :laugh:
  • aliann30
    aliann30 Posts: 291 Member
    All the double figure sizes are plus sized here, apart from size 10.

    If our size 12 is your size 8, I'd really hate to see what your size 18 is... that must be huge & waaaaay over the plus size mark.

    You say you're a US size 12 but at the same time say you'd hate to see what a US size 18 is, "that must be huge"....it's only a few sizes up from yourself. Highly insensitive for someone who has lost 50 lbs and was probably a size 18 when she started. Have some decency, you're on a frackin weight loss website.
  • mctiernan
    mctiernan Posts: 51 Member
    I actually take it as a compliment! I think vuluptuous woman are gorgeous!
  • Kimsied
    Kimsied Posts: 223 Member
    Size 12 is not a plus size, at least not in America. It's FAR from it! Plus size where I buy starts at size 18. Size 12 is actually in the "normal" departments of the stores making it NOT plus size. Maybe where your from it's different, IDK.

    Your size 12 is our Size 16, our size 12 is your 8, I think.
    So your size 8 here is a 12 (the 12 that Kim K is) plus size.
    I'm a US 12 & a UK 16, I'm 179lbs, that makes me plus sized.

    Half my wardrobe is uk sizes and half us. I always hear a two size difference, but for me I really only have a one size difference. I am not sure why, but I thought that UK sizes are cut a little curvier (not meaning fat here) for the same waist/shoulder size. I heard clothes cut for a US market are cut for a B cup and those for a UK market are cut for a C cup. But yes the sizing tend to be a little more generous in the US (smaller number for larger body). It depends on the brand though as I think some use the same pattern for both then just label the sizes one or two sizes different. But with the UK brands not in the US, I only wear a one size difference in clothing and bras (one larger size) and strangely one size smaller in shoes in the UK sizes. (The exception being Marks and Spencers, I think there sizes are possibly the same as American sizes, lol).

    I think plus sizes are the sizes you need to go into "plus size" stores or departments. In most stores in both US and UK, the regular sizes carry up to about size 16. And the plus size stores usually start, is it 16 or 18? I am not saying people that wear those sizes are slimmer or fatter, I think that would depend on the person's height and build whether they appear slim or over weight. At my heaviest, I was overweight for my build, but I never had to shop in plus size stores. I have seen some "plus size" women who look healthy and fit though they are often very tall. It is all relative.
  • dbrink
    dbrink Posts: 6 Member
    Absolutely hate being called this! I know they think it is a compliment, but it makes me feel like they are calling me puffy.

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  • paigemarie93
    paigemarie93 Posts: 778 Member
    All the double figure sizes are plus sized here, apart from size 10.

    If our size 12 is your size 8, I'd really hate to see what your size 18 is... that must be huge & waaaaay over the plus size mark.

    You say you're a US size 12 but at the same time say you'd hate to see what a US size 18 is, "that must be huge"....it's only a few sizes up from yourself. Highly insensitive for someone who has lost 50 lbs and was probably a size 18 when she started. Have some decency, you're on a frackin weight loss website.

    It might be a few sizes up, but it's a BIG difference. ( http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_W6aQh04oJ28/S7tFOiLbAJI/AAAAAAAAApE/6V4i-amIKLM/s1600/Stephanie-Zwicky_galerie_principal.jpg SIZE EIGHTEEN, compare that to my picture, there's a great difference.)
    It's not "Highly insensitive" at all; that person must have known that being that size was huge, otherwise they wouldn't have lost the weight... duh.
  • aprilshowers262
    aprilshowers262 Posts: 96 Member
    I feel like it's just the nice way to say you're overweight.

    Would you rather they say you're overweight?

    I'd rather they didn't say anything.
  • StaceyL76
    StaceyL76 Posts: 711 Member
    I actually like it. = ) It is all in how you frame it in your mind. I think it is a quite a complement. = )
  • msbobbitx
    msbobbitx Posts: 66 Member
    I don't mind it. I was once told I am a plus-sized Barbie. As long as they dont' call me a fatass or lardass and they are meaning it as a compliment I'm okay with it. :-)

    I have finally realized that any size is okay..as long as you are happy and healthy. I don't think a bone-pile with boobs is attractive, but I want to feel comfortable in my own skin.
  • rock127
    rock127 Posts: 369 Member
    Men usually like curvy/voluptuous women and usually don't mean to say it in a offensive manner... it's better to be curvy/voluptuous than a skinny ftv type model.
  • chottyyoung1
    chottyyoung1 Posts: 19 Member
    I dont mind it most of the times!
    I think it is a way of saying you are sexy and bigger. Because media and tv has worked so hard trying to let everyone know that you have to be skinny to be sexy. Unfortunately, that has caused this word to click in when you see a bigger sexy woman.
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