Friend snobs

I keep my FL at a low number so I can truly support all of my friends:) I am super busy with my kids and life in general so I keep it low and I usually have time to comment on everyone’s workouts or diary!! I everyone on my FL

RyanDanielle5 - 'Script Ohio' ... excellent pic !!!!

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also a snob
I only have friends I know IRL. I had a few "friends" early on, but didn't interact with them in any meaningful way. Other than MFP, we just didn't have anything in common.

Well, I'm frelling awesome, so I only want friends that can keep up their end of the awesome.

Your end is frelling awesome...

This has happened to me by quite a few people..i guess im just not cool enough :flowerforyou:

To the OP. Don't take it personally. When a stranger on the internet "rejects" your friend request, it is really not about you.

LOL I actually agree with A LOT of this...my original post was just kind of a spur of the moment thing after I read a post one of my "reject friends" had responded to. I probably will feel the same way when my friend list grows! I don't feel like I have to respond to all of my friends status updates and i respond only when i have time. I am a wife, I have a 6 month old and a 5 year old, I work full time as a nurse and I have little time for myself. As far as being an idiot, well I guess I can be that sometimes too! Thanks to those that friended me and to those that didn't thank you too!

Yep. I hate to decline friend requests too. So now I have a list of over 150 people. Some of whom I never talk to. After a while you learn the benefits of being discerning. It's never meant to be rude or snobbish. There are just so many people that a person can have any kind of meaningful interaction with.

I'm not snobby. I'm shy.

For me personally, I don't care who "friends" me on here. I put that in quotes because I honestly believe you can only have true friends in real life, and while I very much am grateful for the support I get on here, MFP is only for my weight loss life. There are many other facets that I don't and won't share on here (I have no idea why anyone posts anything other than weight specific topics on here but that's just me).

Don't take it personally, if you feel like you want more weight loss friends I would join a running/workout group, weight watchers, something like that, to meet real life new friends!

Hi,
Just wondering why some people seem stingy about who their friend are on this app? I guess everybody is different but aren't we all here striving for the same goals? I love friends, the more the better!
It kind of puts me off when I ask to friend somebody (i always include a message!) and they completely blow me off. These same people are in the community forums over and over again so its not like I am asking people who never log in.
So if you feel the same way and we are not friends yet please friend me, i wont let you down...LOL

I prefere to hear the opinions/observations of those few that I have come to know, respect and share with, rather than acquire hundreds of new friends that become to cumbersome to follow. It's just a steady stream of FB like arbitrary comment streams. Much harder to mine the diamonds out of the sludge.

Quality vs Quantity.

^^^^ This. I can speak from both sides here, I did have a friends list at one time well over 300, a lot of people I never heard from or I never saw post so I could not support or comment. I cut my list dramatically and now am very selective. I enjoy getting to know the people I have. As RD said Quality vs Quanity.

OP, I don't think you've sent me a request but if so, I probably did not accept it. It's nothing personal. I have a few friends that I accepted when doing a Zumba challenge but I rarely have any interaction with them other than an rare "good job". They or I ever ask for advice. I do frequent the boards, but I just don't get the friends thing.

So to anyone that has sent me a friend request, I have not ignored the request out of snobbery or anything against you personally.

As to everyone being here for the same reason, I'd have to answer that with a resounding no. Many people on here have very different goals than mine. I just want to be healthy. Healthy weight, healthy check-ups, energy, stamina, balance, etc. I don't care about dropping my BF very low, I don't care about counting carbs or fat or protein. I don't care about lifting heavy or running marathons. I don't care what cavemen ate or have any desire to eat like one. I don't care about a lot of things that a lot of members care about.

My fitness pals don't have similar goals???? Um......to get fit I thought?

Are you responding to a specific post?

Hi,
Just wondering why some people seem stingy about who their friend are on this app? I guess everybody is different but aren't we all here striving for the same goals? I love friends, the more the better!
It kind of puts me off when I ask to friend somebody (i always include a message!) and they completely blow me off. These same people are in the community forums over and over again so its not like I am asking people who never log in.
So if you feel the same way and we are not friends yet please friend me, i wont let you down...LOL

Honestly, if we're talking about you specifically? I don't know much about you. Your profile isn't filled out, I can't see any wall posts because we aren't friends, and you've posted in the forums 3 times, one of which was this post. You say we all have the same goals but I would argue that we may have all come to MFP with similar and/or related goals, but my goals may not be the same as yours, or my way of going about reaching my goals may not be the same. For example, if you were someone who wants to work out through the power of a specific religious entity, or if you wanted to worship at the shrine of a particular drink shake or diet supplement, that would likely not align with me and my personality, so we probably would grate on each other's nerves. And conversely, my beliefs would not align with yours.

Since there's no information about you in your profile and I can't see anything else about you, I would probably decline a friend request from you.

(You asked why people declined, just giving you an example)

Exactly! Couldn't have said it better. I've denied friend requests from people just like this for that reason alone...
Since I've spelled it all out on my Profile Page, it makes it doubly mystifying to me as to why they are even sending me a request with no info, no similarities to me, etc. I guess they don't read before they send?