Dear Ladies

It's like someone told me, "there will ALWAYS be someone prettier, skinnier, taller, funnier, brighter, and more attractive than you, so it is how YOU see yourself that makes all the difference." It's crazy how we do try SO hard to lose so much weight to look as thin as the other female in the bikini and we starve ourselves to look like that, then someone else comes along and we try to look like them. We will never be happy if we strive for that, we need to re-focus our thoughts and be happy for how we look. Just my two cents worth. :ohwell:

I'm by NO means where I'd personally like to be, but as I re-focus my thought patterns, I find I'm not so hard on myself, and the weight comes off that much faster. No matter what shape or size you are, YOU ARE DROP DEAD GORGEOUS to someone who really matters...all of you!

Good luck.:flowerforyou:

:drinker: Cheers!

Great Post! We appreciate your perspective!

What a thing to say! This definitely made me smile

Thanks for writing all this.. see, there were lots of us who needed it

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and your profile is funny. Do you know Dave?

Thank you for your man's perspective. :happy: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

Thank you for the post, it's nice to hear a guys perspective. It's great to know that their are some men out there that don't expect us all to look like the women in Hollywood or Playboy. You're right confidence is the best accessory for anyone.

Thanks

Refreshing!
You, Sir, are a true gentleman. :happy: :flowerforyou:

Danke!

YOU ROCK!!!!!!!

Healthy is as healthy does.......read a post this morning from a gal who was
frustrated using the Slimfast diet........that's not a diet, that's torture loaded
with sugar!! Life is here to be enjoyed and lived every day to it's fullest!!!
If you're healthy, you'll enjoy it a lot more!
My man loves me and my bumps and rolls, I just want to have a healthy heart
to go with!! LOL :bigsmile:

Also, what us ladies don't realize is that those models are flawed also...........

Ironically, I was watching something last night and they were interviewing Tyra Banks. She said she has cellulite on her butt and her waist is not as thin as she would like it to be..........she is a perfect example of a woman that is beautiful but has her flaws.........

Since she is a public image as a former model, her photos are always airbrushed to portray her as being perfect.

I would have to agree. That's what my husband says. It's more important to have confidence, and one day I'll have it. I had it once when I was 'thin'. I still had about 10 pounds to lose, but growing up overweight I thought I was hot stuff. I'm sure it will be like that once again. However, in a way it is really scary drastically changing your body. I didn't notice it so much when I was gaining weight, but now that I'm trying to get healthy again I notice that I've defined myself as being 'fat'. It almost feels like I'll lose myself if I'm thin. It's really, really weird. Anyway, awesome post!

Now this can be a double edged sword - just ask my wife of 21 years.

She was 240 pounds when I met her,,, Bo-Day-Shus with a capital B, looked like she was smuggling bowling balls Very happy, sexy lady, loved her like the sunshine.

Then she got down to about 150. Lithe, limber, a little willowy. It was nice, she was hot, loved her more than birthday cake.

Some health problems and a bit of inattention and she drited back up to 230-ish. More to love, soft and warm, loved her to pieces.

Now she's on here and back in the sub-200 world and making progress. Different territory to explore, less load on the motorcycle, looking great and feeling better - loving her more than ever.


So,,, at the end of the day I'm crazy about who she is, and the body/appearance is not really that important as long as she feels okie and can get around and do stuff and have fun. Knowing that she could turn into Jabba the Hut without jeopardizing her marriage means that there's no motivation there. If she wants to take care of herself she has to do it for herself - she doesn't have to do it to please me. She's there and doing super and we're happy,,, but except for cooking smarter I'm not a big part of her equation (I do 80% of the cooking).

She has stated a couple times that she wishes I wasn't so accepting, that it might have motivated her to do something earlier. I saw her expanding (as was I), but there was no way to say anything without A - being a hypocrite and B - hurting her,,, so I didn't.

Great words from Casper and Forkdown!

It applies to men, too, you know. I would love my husband regardless if he was overweight or not. I just want him to be healthy and happy and live a long life with me and the kids. And I know he loves me regardless of my weight so the only real reason I do this is for me...not him.

I agree with Becky...we have to do this for ourselves, no matter what our partner says. It just makes it much easier when youre being supported.

Thanks for the post!! It made my day a little brighter. :flowerforyou:

Now this can be a double edged sword - just ask my wife of 21 years.

She was 240 pounds when I met her,,, Bo-Day-Shus with a capital B, looked like she was smuggling bowling balls Very happy, sexy lady, loved her like the sunshine.

Then she got down to about 150. Lithe, limber, a little willowy. It was nice, she was hot, loved her more than birthday cake.

Some health problems and a bit of inattention and she drited back up to 230-ish. More to love, soft and warm, loved her to pieces.

Now she's on here and back in the sub-200 world and making progress. Different territory to explore, less load on the motorcycle, looking great and feeling better - loving her more than ever.


So,,, at the end of the day I'm crazy about who she is, and the body/appearance is not really that important as long as she feels okie and can get around and do stuff and have fun. Knowing that she could turn into Jabba the Hut without jeopardizing her marriage means that there's no motivation there. If she wants to take care of herself she has to do it for herself - she doesn't have to do it to please me. She's there and doing super and we're happy,,, but except for cooking smarter I'm not a big part of her equation (I do 80% of the cooking).

She has stated a couple times that she wishes I wasn't so accepting, that it might have motivated her to do something earlier. I saw her expanding (as was I), but there was no way to say anything without A - being a hypocrite and B - hurting her,,, so I didn't.

loved her more than b-day cake...now that is the darn cutest thing I've ever heard!
I think this is all sounds good in theory...PI but if it was free I would take the tummy tuck and lipo

Thank you for this, a great post.

It is nice to be reminded that looks aren't everything and that it is what's inside that counts :happy:

You are awesome! I think I am in love. Those kind words almost brought me to tears.