My ex left me because I'm fat. :(

I started to lose weight and my husband of 15 years left me for a woman larger than I ever was....some guys like the larger girls I guess. Think that you are doing it for YOUR health and YOUR happiness and that is all that matters.

You do not need to be with an emotionally abusive man. 73 lbs lost is excellent! I think you should focus on your health and your weight loss instead of a jerk! Granted, its hard to let go of someone we love, even if they aren't good for us but we somehow get through it. Its the same as food. We love our carbs, calories, and fat but its not good for us so we move on...no matter how hard it is. Sure, we fall off the wagon every now and then but the important part is that we get back on!

Take it one day at a time. Don't lose focus. If you don't want to eat, drink some milk atleast to keep the calories steady. I know how it is to be with a man who verbally insults your weight. My ex used to do the same to me, i stuck around until I finally had enough. I hope you can find some inner strength to grab a bite to eat and take it one day at a time... no one said it will be easy but try to move forward towards whats best for you. he obviously isn't.
Best of luck
Michelle

OK, I believe he didn't leave you because you're fat...he left you because he got scared. I see by your ticker that you have made astounding progress, so ask yourself why he would wait til now to leave. He is probably a very insecure "@#$ hole" who needed to put you down in order for himself to look big!! He has managed to transfer all this crap onto your shoulders for about long enough. I know it's hard, but pick yourself up, dust your pretty little (yes, little) self right off, and achieve the rest of your goal! Not for him...but for you because YOU are worth it, and some day some guy (real man) will come along and show you just how precious you really are!!

Your ex may have told you that is why he left because it was an easy thing to say, but I do not believe it. The real reason was likely much more complicated and it seems to me he was unwilling or unable to communicate the entire truth. Either way, it does not matter because the whole reason for dating is to find someone whom you want to spend the rest of your life with. Someone who will love you for who you are and who will be your cheerleader and for whom you will do the same. This man is obviously not "the guy" regardless of how much you may still care for him. Try to feel relieved that you are rid of him now before you waste more time. You deserve better!!!

Look how strong you are! Look at what a hard worker you are! Look at what a motivated, persevering person you are! You have changed your life and your health by loosing the weight that you already have and you are almost to your goal!

You will get thru this and when you come out the other side you will be stronger for it, you will be better and best of all you will not be stuck with a fickle man who does not appreciate all the amazing things that you are.

Go have a good, sweat workout! Maybe try one of those classes where you get to kick and punch heavy bags! Beat the poo out of a heavy bag! Sweat, burn calories, clear your mind, fill your body full of good, healthy food and do not let this bump in the road of life get you off course.

Be sure to let me know how you are doing!

Carrie Raia

How fortunate for you. Not only did you get rid of a horrible man, you get to reassess what you want in life and start making healthy changes for YOU, and not for some A-Hole who would have found some other excuse to leave you even if you were skinny. And it only cost you being overweight - which is something you can fix. On the other hand, he will ALWAYS be a douche bag. No diets for that, unfortunately.

I feel sorry for the new woman and now for the child he will surely affect with his presence.

Thank god you have no connection to him. No kids, no family, etc. This is YOUR chance to start over, and most importantly - be aware of the kind of men you may potentially attract.

Good luck! And welcome to the BEST years of your life now that the worst of them are behind you.

I'm sorry to hear that but it sounds like you are better off. You have done an amazing job so far and I don't have a doubt that you can reach your goal!

dude sounds like a ****....you are way better off.

Sounds like you just lost 200 extra pounds (or however much this loser weighs) of added fat.....You do not need someone who makes you feel like you are not good enough. HE is not good enough for YOU. Get angry and lose the weight for YOU!!!! He needs to take a flying leap. You deserve so much better. You have achieved a FABULOUS weight loss! You are my idol!!

Your ex left you and didn't want to take responsibility for his actions. So he is blaming you and using a tender spot - your weight - to try to hurt you.

You don't want to be with someone who tries to hurt you like that.

It looks like you have made great progress and only have a little more weight to lose...you are not fat!

My sister once told me, when I was going through a horrible break up, that I shouldn't want to be with anyone who doesn't treat me like I'm precious to them.

I thought about that and realized I'd NEVER been with anyone who treated me like I was precious!

Trust me when I say that I made a major upgrade to my standards and I've been in a great relationship for 8 years.

Want more for yourself, my friend!

you just dodged a huge bullet!!
*shew*

you ONLY have 27lbs left!! Good for you!!

So sorry! You are doing fantastic. I am jealous!

OK, I believe he didn't leave you because you're fat...he left you because he got scared. I see by your ticker that you have made astounding progress, so ask yourself why he would wait til now to leave. He is probably a very insecure "@#$ hole" who needed to put you down in order for himself to look big!! He has managed to transfer all this crap onto your shoulders for about long enough. I know it's hard, but pick yourself up, dust your pretty little (yes, little) self right off, and achieve the rest of your goal! Not for him...but for you because YOU are worth it, and some day some guy (real man) will come along and show you just how precious you really are!!

^^^She said it perfectly!!!

Wow! What a complete and utter jerk! If that is what is most important to him, I am sure you can do better. Hugs!

You should be happy he left! He was clearly sucking up all of your good energy and wasn't doing anything to encourage you to have a healthy lifestyle. And now that he's gone, you can focus on what's really important…YOU! You can do this. Be sad for a little bit and give yourself time to mourn the relationship…then, back to business. You've already been so successful in your weight loss…you are fully capable of reaching your goals!

WOW...what a wanker! (Sorry..I'm American, but I've decided that "wanker" is a word that should be used in the US more).

It sounds like you deserve much, much better, Sorry you're going through this, and I'm sure it seems like the end of the world right now, but you are young and on the right track to a great healthy future. Keep up all of your hard work and just remember 'looking great is the best revenge" (and please DON'T take him back when he comes sniffing around after you reach your goal).