So Upset...

Don't listen to them. You can't. There will always be immature, stupid people in life.

Or you can yell back "I may be a lard *kitten* but at least I can lose weight. You'll always be stupid." or "At least I didn't reach my peak potential in 3rd grade!" or "At least my parents aren't related!"

Or you can stop your bike, look them directly in the eyes for a minute, than ride away.

Bottom line, ya gotta grow a backbone or people will pick on you, whether you're fat, ugly, stupid or whatever else they can think to call you. So you're overweight. BFD. Stop hiding behind the fat and just be yourself.

Trust me, you were me many moons ago. I wish now, looking back, I could have done things so much differently and not wasted those years on hiding behind my fat and letting stupid people hurt my feelings.

Just read your profile, and you are seriously a cute girl, overweight or not. Boys who don't "like" you because you're overweight wouldn't like you if you weren't overweight either, that's just an easy excuse. There are boys out there who are not shallow like that - but at that age, they're very hard to find! So just be yourself, open yourself up a bit, don't worry so much about what others think.

I feel like I want to go hunt those punks down and peg them with rotten tomatoes for saying that to you. How cruel and utterly unnecessary.

Just remember that people who behave like that are trying to make themselves feel better by putting you down. They see you trying to better yourself, and they don't want you to be better than them (even though you already are :flowerforyou: ). So they call you names and try to make you feel bad and keep you "in your place". But your place is not for them to decide.

My advice is to keep a stiff upper lip and keep doing what you're doing. Don't respond to them, pretend they don't exist. Like children throwing a temper tantrum, once they realize that it's not working, they stop.

And I'll be keeping a good stock of rotting produce for you... you know, just in case :laugh:

I'm so sorry you had to go through that!
It was nasty and unnecessary on their part, and I can totally understand why you are so upset.
I hope you find the courage to stay strong and keep going no matter what!
You are beautiful, and please know that their comments have way more to do with their own insecurities than it does with you.
Feel better, and keep on going!
-OB

I had that happen once, late at night I went for a walk and as these kids were driving by they yelled out fat *kitten* to me. This is while I still lived in Windsor, they have a lot of unintelligent people living there.

It did make me upset a little then when it happened again I gave them the finger and it never happened again.

I'm keeping the one about not my parents being related in mind, that's a good one

I am sorry they did that to you. Use it as your motivation. Ride like the wind and just ignore them. Soon, they will see you again and you will be riding longer, faster and be in better shape. Don't feed into their ignorance by letting it get you down. You are working to make yourself better and by focusing on that instead of their comments you will come out ahead!!:bigsmile:

I know it sounds so cliche but you just don't need to listen to that! I'm only 22 but the problems with these people is exactly what i was going through when i was your age except most of it was coming from my brother...That I think has effected me the most, I couldn't escape it. I can tell you it will get better. High School was the worst part of my life but it doesn't have to be that way for you. Do your best not to take these things to heart. Kids like that are just insecure and are just trying bring themselves up by tearing you down. Ignore them best as possible as think about the rules of Karma, everything they do will come back tenfold!

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Cello-

I read your post, and looked at your profile and I can relate, even though it has been over 30 years since I got out of high school. I had a weight problem in grade school, and jr. hi. In the summer between 8th and 9th grades, I dieted and exercised like a fiend and managed to start my freshman year within about 20 lbs. of my ideal weight, and lost about 15 more lbs. that first year. I attended a high school I LOVED, but then it was destroyed by fire the summer of my sophomore year, and since it was private, they did not re open, so I ended up back in the last 2 years of HS with alot of the same idiots I had to deal with in jr. high.

I gained about 30 lbs over the summer and fall, and put up with their nonsense again. The summer between jr and sr year, I took most of it back off, and started college at the lowest I had been. Unfortunately, I didn't stay at that weight, which is why I am trying to lose 120 lbs.

One thing in your goals was to get a boyfriend. There is nothing wrong with that, BUT, utlimately you should be doing this for YOU, not because of someone else. That way no matter what happens, you can keep your motivation.

I can tell you there are idiots around whether you are fatter or thinner. Just want you to know the best thing I found was to ignore the jerks, though some of those comebacks were good, and there is much to be said for a well-placed rotten tomato:laugh: , but these days, you might get sued or charged with assault:grumble: if you use a tomato on anyone.

I do have one additional comeback for you. " I may be fat, but you are ugly and I can lose weight but you will still be ugly!" (I think this may be an takeoff on an old story about Winston Churchill, whom I am sure you learned in history was the Prime Minister of Great Britain during the time of WWII. He was known to enjoy his alcoholic beverages, and upon being judged harshly by a snooty old bat, who sniffed "Sir you are DRUNK!", he replied. "That's right madame, I am. And in the morning I will be sober and you will look exactly as you do now!!":laugh: This is not a word for word quote, but you get the idea.

Don't let the turkeys get you down.!!!!:flowerforyou: People who put themselves on display in a public park by slobbering all over each other are not people whose opinions matter, anyway.

Good luck, and keep working hard. This site can be a big help. Maybe you should start a thread for members in your age group. It might be very helpful for you and others.

First off ...GOOD for you to get out there and do something for yourself. You are your most important person, be good to yourself now and you will be better to yourself in the furture! Unfortunately there are people out there that have the sensativaty of a bug. I was also made fun of and picked on in school, here is the kicker... those people are still in the 1 stop light town floppin whopper while I have a wonderfully rewarding job, marriage and life. Oh and by the way... I am skinner then them. Just be true to yourself and remember that the saying is true, what goes around comes around. Besides when you are looking like a million bucks in that new outfit who will be laughing then !!

So, it's a beautiful day outside- 75 degrees, a nice little breeze. So, I started riding my bike around the park, I notice a few people there, but I wasn't wearing my glasses, and I didn't recognize them.
Once I rode my bike down to where the people were sitting, I saw it was three couples from school. I only knew one couple, the girl was in my PE class, and the boy was in band with my sister.
As I rode right by them, they were having this huge make-out fest. It was so gross. I just rode by and said to myself "What the heck, I'll just ignore them."
Then, I finished the lap, and passed by them again, and one said "Fat *ss" as I rode by. I braked, turned around and said "Excuse me?"
And the guy was like "Fat *ss" and another guy was like "No, she's a lard *ss." And the girl I knew, the ONLY person who was ever nice to me in PE class started laughing so hard. I just got back on my bike, started riding again, did one more lap, and then right when I was going by, they yelled "LARD *SS" in unison.
I was so embarrassed. My first day out exercising for the summer, and I'm getting called name by people who don't even know me?
I only got to bike for 1.5 miles... and only 13 minutes. I want to go back later, but I hope they aren't there.
Have you guys ever had this happen? How did you get past it?
I'm not one who likes the whole in-your-face motivation. I need gentle reassurance.
The only thing their name-calling did was make me cry when I got home. It doesn't motivate me, it just makes me sad and feel like a failure.
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Have I ever had that happen? You betcha! First... anyone who tells you, "High school is the BEST time of your life"... lies. And quite frankly, I feel sorry for anyone who looks back on high school and thinks of it as the best times of their life. I'm 34 and I gotta tell you.... THIS is the best time of my life... I finally know who I am.
Yes, I've been made fun of for my weight my entire life. When I was in high school, I wasn't even "fat" - I just wasn't a stick. I figure you can do two things... what I DID or what I should have done. I cried, buried my sorrows in ice cream and took everything that they said to heart. I learned to use food as therapy in high school... a dangerous habit. I continued using food as an escape in college... I missed my parents so I ate a sub, I was stressed over a class - I ordered a pizza, my boyfriend broke up with me - my friends and I went to an all night diner and ate ourselves into a better mood - and eventually into the plus size department. I let what others said and did effect my self worth...
What I SHOULD have done was consider the source and used it as motivation. SO WHAT if they called me a fat *kitten*? So WHAT if that guy said that I was too fat to date. I let fear of being ridiculed keep me from playing a sport in high school. I let fear of being ridiculed keep me from using the gym in college. I'm finally losing weight... for me... at 34 years old. But honey - I missed out on a lot of happiness because I gave someone else the power to make me miserable. DON'T make that mistake.
Just remember... time is the ultimate equalizer... no one escapes wrinkles, stretch marks, age spots, etc. indefinitely. Just WAIT until your high school reunion!!!

Be strong... and if you can't be strong right now... fake it until you make it. Throw your chin in the air, stand up straight and think to yourself... "I don't have to take that... I'm worth more than that".

Ok... I just went and read your profile too... I used to play cello! VERY COOL!

Umm... the "mom" in me feels the need to say this to you... don't worry about the darn boys. I know, easier said than done. Really though... the LAST thing you need to be worrying about right now is some boy who likes your personality but wants to date someone he can put his arms around. Next time some jerk says that to you... tell them, "Well, I LIKED your personality... but even if you COULD put your arms around me... it wouldn't be comfortable... you just can't hold this much fabulousness!" You've got all the time in the world for a boy to put his arms around you... and honey - as boys get bigger, their arms get longer!
I met and married my husband when I was 270+ pounds (I'm 5'2). He's 6'3 and his arms fit around me just fine thanks. He loves me for me... not for what my weight. Seriously... look at my profile pic... that's the day before we got married... his arms fit just fine. And the only reason I ever let him put his arms around me is because his heart was even bigger than his arms...

Do this for you. The rest will come.

*had a double post, but just edited it with another thought*

Okay, you say you were on a bike ride, and yet these immature brats are sitting on their butts calling you names? I hope they were eating something. People can be such hypocrites sometimes.

I am so sorry that someone would be that unkind. Be proud of yourself for going on the bike ride. It is really sad that people are that unkind and shallow. This is a true statement even if you have heard it before, but people who do things like that really do not have any self esteem and they need to make others feel bad in order to feel good. . Lift up your chin, get on your bike and ride. If they are there smile sweetly and wave and keep on riding. You are going to lose this weight and you are going to be so proud of yourself. You are a very cute girl and these guys realize that you are out of their league, that seems to make boys (not men) real angry and they say mean things. remember YOU are better than they are and they know it :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

I have been in your shoes. In high school there were a lot of the guys who thought it was funny to call me names. Fortunately there are some good guys in the world and some of them even go to your high school.

I didn't meet the love of my life in high school and if you are looking for acceptance from small minded boys, you need to get your motivation elsewhere.

I truly feel for you, high school is a very tough time and the skinny girls seem to get all the attention.

Let me tell you from the other side though. I have an 18 year old son. In High school, he needed to lose 40 lbs and he had acne. He is a kind and gentle person who truly looks at the inner beauty of people and not the outside ( that is something I always talke dto him about) There were very few girls that would have anything to do with him because of his looks. Now he is a handsome young man, in college and in the Army reserves. ( needless to say he dropped some of the weight). Depsite what he has going for him, he still feels he won't get a girlfriend because of how he was treted before.

Don't look to the cool guys, the jocks or any of those...... sometimes the geeks are the nice guys and if you give them a chance, they will show you. My husband is a former geek Maybe he still has some in him :happy: ) but he treats me better than anyone else in this world and loves me whatever size I am.

I've always found that sarcasm works best for me. I never really cared what other people thought of me, still don't for the most part.

Called names in school, most people have....I just looked at them and said "yep". Nothing shuts a person up faster than agreeing with them (even if you don't). They get bored quick.

My favorite these days is to just keep asking a question every time they say something ....the question is always the same......, "and your point is?"

I know you are but what am I ...............I'm a little cutie pie!!

That is what my daughter repeated to her brothers. :laugh: :laugh: