Brutal Honesty - What was the final straw?
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When my husband rubbed my belly and asked "Are you gonna work on this sometime soon?"
I was devastated and cried for days.
Awww, Im sorry to hear that, I would be crying too
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Finally got to go on my dream vacation to Venice. Wow, was I out of shape. Those romantic little bridges, were pure torture getting to my hotel room while carrying 30 lbs of lugguage.
the final straw, missing my flight in Paris, I ran WHEEZING all the way down the terminal...
Never again0 -
This pic of me! Plenty of chin. Neck not so much. lol Sad but true.0 -
Barely wanting to leave the house.
Catching sight of my reflection.
Never allowing anyone to include me in a photo - if I die my children will have next to no pictures of me.
Finding it impossible to feel like I look ok, and never having anything to wear.
Turning down invitations to things I'd enjoy, just because I don't want to have to get dressed up.
Hating myself and turning in to someone I'm not - a reclusive, anti-social, loser.
Zero confidence. Zilch. Nada. Nought.
I could go on & on. They're no different to all the other times I've dieted of course, but this time I hope to nail it - even if it means logging my calories on MFP for the rest of my life, lol.
Me too!0 -
Seeing myself heading towards 400 lbs! Wanting to be happier. Tired of how life treated me for my weight. People definitely discriminate against heavy people. I'm not as heavy as I was but I still get mistreated and judged. Looking at photos of myself, almost to the end of the in-store plus size range. Couldn't see myself being a 5x or 6x or not being able to shop anywhere for clothes. Would have been bad, really bad. After size 32, the clothes seem to get frumpier and frumpier. You have to buy sweaters with cats on them, twinsets, solid colors, no style at all! Catherine's is the WORST clothing store. They turn plus size women into grandmas, and they are TOO expensive.
Cat sweaters -Haha! this really made me laugh because I know what you mean! I use to dress really well now I am just grateful if I find something that covers me without making me look like I ran into a charity shop blindfolded to dress myself.0 -
For me it was having to buy a size 20 pair of trousers for my future father in laws 50th birthday last May and when I saw the picture of myself at the party I couldn't believe how big I had got, I went on to lose 2st myself have put about 5-7lb back on over xmas so have started MFP hopefully I will get back on track to fit into my wedding dress in August0
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For me, I had known my weight was creeping up on me, but the reality of it hit me when I saw myself in a family photo with my husband's family during our last visit. I found myself being tagged in a photo on Facebook and when I saw it, I was so embarrassed about how I looked!
I had been making "life is too busy" excuses for too long; new grandbaby from our daughter, then our son was graduating high school ... ooops! Now we're moving ... and our son is heading off to college .... you get the gist of it. lol After I saw that photo, I knew it was time to stop putting everything else ahead of my health.
The final straw was gearing up to do this and my back went out. Ugh! I have spent the last few months basically inactive due to the disc in my back, but I figured I could at least start the changes in my eating habits while I heal up. Less weight on my spine should mean quicker healing. One step at a time!
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A trip to Hawaii and the thought of putting on a swimsuit. I have avoided swimwear for a very long time. It sounds vain compared to everyone else but it was the bottom line for me.0
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A photo from my sister-in-laws wedding.
This is what I looked like in April of 2011. I was 180 pounds, which is far from skinny, but dammit, I wish I was back at that weight.
This is what I looked like in August of 2011, just 5 months later, 220 pounds. That's a gain of 40 pounds in 5 months. Thinking about it makes me want to cry.
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I've always been bigger. I've never been the super skinny girl, always the fat funny friend. But when I moved off campus from college and in with my then boyfriend, now husband, things got out of control. I was eating pizza constantly, drinking constantly, and my weight ballooned from the 190's straight into the 250's. I kept at that weight until I got pregnant in 2009. I ballooned up over 300lbs. I had to have constant sonograms because my weight was a concern and they wanted to make sure my little girl was okay.
I was horrified. Before I was just hurting myself, now I was hurting my baby. After having my daughter (perfectly healthy little girl!) I dropped 50lbs because I had gall stones. I was terrified of surgery and so I stuck to a totally bland diet of nothing but chicken and tuna, no soda, nothing fatty, no dairy. Finally the pain got worse and worse until I went to the doctors and he booked me for a gall bladder removal the week after.
As soon as that was taken out I was able to go back to eating all the foods that were off limits and I gained 40lbs right back. Last year I joined MFP because a friend suggested it. My heart wasn't into the weight loss and so it didn't stick at all. Until last March I saw a biggest loser competition at a local church.
I joined with the best of intentions but still wasn't losing. It took my wellness coach calling me out on my lack of effort to realize he was right. It took about a week of self pity and loathing before I got started again. Since then I've decided I'm done being the fat friend, the girl with the pretty face. I'm sick of worrying everytime someone laughs that they're laughing at me. I'm a singer but I hate being in front of people and knowing they're all looking at me.
So... I'm back, and this time actually using MFP! I've lost 13lbs so far and can't wait to reach goal. I feel like I'm doing it right this time. Everything in moderation, watching my calories and exercising.
I'm so sick of being unhappy with myself. At this point, failure just isn't an option!0 -
I was really beginning to hate what I have become! I left my husband almost 3 years ago, and while he has moved on and is in a relationship with someone else, I found myself too busy, broke, unhappy and fat to date. I'm still broke and busy, and have no real interest in dating, but I feel great and am approaching happiness with myself again, so if the opportunity arises in the (distant) future, I'll have a good feeling about myself and will feel comfortable doing so!0
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In the last year I have probably been asked "when are you due? Is this your first baby?" nothing feels worse than that- also so humiliating when you are with others who KNOW you are not prego...OUCH!0
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i used to be a killer in my younger years..i let myself get up to 300lbs at one time ..then lost 90 and went back to 270..at 50 yrs old i couldnt stand myself any more and i wanted to go through my youth again...couldnt walk hardly, high blood pressure, bad cholesterol level, just looked and felt awful....lost 80lbs so far but man oh man am i ever going through my youth again!!!!! whoohooo i am sooo reaping in the rewards of my hard labor0
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Realizing I've gained 40 pounds in the last couple years. I got down to 150 and swore I would stay there. Didn't happen. When that scale jumped ovr the 190 mark I knew it was time. I have two super skinny active kids and want to be the mom that my boys can brag about how much I do with them0
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I left and divorced my husband. I figured if I have the courage and determination to lose THAT 360 lbs that I can continue to lose the last 130.
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Family pictures in September embarrassed me. I cried harder with each outfit I tried on and couldn't find anything comfortable enough to wear that didn't make my stomach look huge. Between Sept and Dec, I gained another 15 lbs and could no longer fit into the 3 pairs of work pants that I own. Along with those 15 lbs came horrible stomach pain with every thing I ate. After several tests and no ideas of what is wrong, I decided that Jan 2nd I was changing my lifestyle. I started eating my healthier and eliminated most gluten in my diet. Surprisingly, the pain in my stomach went away within the first week. I have lost 11 lbs, my clothes are fitting better and I was not embarrassed to be seen in pictures with kids on their birthdays.
My family is going on vacation in March to Colorado Springs and I am determined to lose at least another 10 lbs before we go so I can be comfortable in the car and be able to breathe going up to Pike's Peak. I love being able to chase my kids and not get so tired at night when I have to stay up to do homework. This is definitely the best decision I have ever made!0 -
I went to the doctor's with my 16 year old daughter and when she got on the scale she broke down into tears. She weighted 198 pounds. We decided that it was time to get back to the gym. When my husband and daughter went there to sign up the gentlemen who signed us up was a health coach. He encouraged us to try a trainer. That first trainer was what made the difference for us. Now the 3 of us train 2x a week and work out on our own another 4 times a week. My husband has lost 100 pounds, I have lost 92 pounds and my daughter has lost 50 pounds. We've tried many diets before, but this time we met the right people and that made all the difference. It's a year later now and we've never looked back. Our lives are totally different and so much better! My daughter has so much more confidence, it's amazing!
I love that you made it a family thing. I decided to do the same it works better when you can support and encourage one another. :happy:0 -
Great thread! I've never really been over weight, but what makes me never want to be is a comment one of my husbands friends made. While talking to my husband about one of their other guy friends, he refered to the other guy friends wife as a Tug Boat! It was then that I decided I never want my husband to be the guy with the fat wife, and I never want anyone refering to me as a tug boat!0
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Brutal honesty?
A romance could have occurred and I didn't pursue it because I was embarrassed by my body.
HOW LAME IS THAT!??
I got divorced almost two years ago. I'm 46 now. Lost everything. Started smoking, drinking heavy, got fat, and honestly felt like crap all the time. I was totally convinced that my life was over, I'd never meet anyone ever again, etc, etc.
I was in a dark pit of self-pity and self loathing. I felt completely unattractive.
Then someone popped into my life out of left field. I was really attracted to her, but I felt like my belly was disgusting, that my double chin was unattractive...you get the idea. My own body was making me insecure.
My post may sound shallow to some, but it's what happened.
I want to look good. I want my self-confidence back.0 -
I met up with some of my line sisters that I pledged with back in 1986. In all the pictures that were taken, I looked like the turkey from the Butterball commercials. That is when I decided that I had to do something. Then, at the beginning of January, my husband told me that he just settled for me (in so many words) and that he is tired of me, and really have no intention of staying with me after he retires in October. Now, that made me really determined, and I started my countdown. Not only will I lose my own bodily weight, but I will lose his overweight stress causing a word. And now, I'm excited about living again. I don't feel like I've been living, not in the past 16 years anyway. God, it felt good to say that.0
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For me, i was sick of looking in the mirror and not recognizing my body anymore. i just never lost my pregnancy weight. it's like this body isn't mine anymore. before pregnancy i weighed 140 and i loved my body. i wasn't stick skinny and i wasn't chubby, i was just perfect. i lived in hawaii and i loved wearing a bikini everyday! it's been three years since i had my daughter and i'm still 180 lbs. i've gotten so self conscious that my poor hubby hasn't seen me naked in lighting for 3 years! i used to be such a sexual person but this wait has made me burrow in my shell and i'm sick of it! i've tried to lose the weight but i always got bored with dieting and tracking everything i ate. but i'm hoping this time i can really do it. i'm trying something new...i weigh myself everday and whatever number the scale says i write on my hand in big numbers to help keep me focused. i just hope it works!0
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checking my bmi for curiosity and it saying obese. in 1 month i have dropped 2 bmi points and am no longer obese. working towards ideal now 0
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Mine was my 5 year old boy! Over the course that he was four he gained a lot of weight and so when his physical came the doc told me she had to test him for Diabetes.....I couldnt believe what I was hearing so I started to take control of what he ate until one day, when I was nagging him that he could not gain any more weight, he looked at me and said: "why mom,? You are FAT" I was shocked at what he had just told me but it was so true. How could I nag him on a daily basis over what he puts in his mouth when I myslef had just reached the obese level! So I decided that I was going to get healthy as an example for my kids and so I am hoping that this physical coming up he will be a lot better!0
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Brutal honesty?
A romance could have occurred and I didn't pursue it because I was embarrassed by my body.
HOW LAME IS THAT!??
I got divorced almost two years ago. I'm 46 now. Lost everything. Started smoking, drinking heavy, got fat, and honestly felt like crap all the time. I was totally convinced that my life was over, I'd never meet anyone ever again, etc, etc.
I was in a dark pit of self-pity and self loathing. I felt completely unattractive.
Then someone popped into my life out of left field. I was really attracted to her, but I felt like my belly was disgusting, that my double chin was unattractive...you get the idea. My own body was making me insecure.
My post may sound shallow to some, but it's what happened.
I want to look good. I want my self-confidence back.
I know exactly what you mean. I mean you have to feel good in order to portray that confidence to others. I am married and just felt disgusting and I felt like my husband would see me as that and evertually would find someone who did take care of themselves. I am only gonna turn 28 so these thoughts should not have even had to be crossing my mind but yup....so no not shallow at all, you are doing this for your self esteem!0 -
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I cannot even hear my husband call me beautiful without wanting to cry, I am so embarrassed.0
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My daughter was born with a birth defect on her skull, she had 2 major operations. The 2nd one was 4 months ago. Once I heard from the surgeon that I never had to worry again about it, I decided it was time to do something for me...I didn't have to be obsessed about my daughter's condition anymore, I have an obsessive personality (not in a weird way) when I find something I like, I jump in 100% So now this is my new obsession....working out and counting calories.....I'm getting healthy and I'm not stressed out anymore.0
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2 and a half months before my wedding i went to the lady doctor to get a prescription for birth control pills. they took my weight, and at the time with all my clothes and shoes on it said 304. over 300 pounds. i knew it was creeping up there, but i didn't think it was that high. when she came in to talk to me, she asked me how long i'd planned on using the pill and if i plan on having children any time soon. i told her we are planning on waiting about 3 years, until my husband finishes his master's degree and has a church (yep, future-pastor's wife here... scary business), because we are moving several times over the course of his grad school work and i want to wait until we settle. she went on to lecture me about my weight (my gyno looks like tinker bell, no joke. she's 5 foot nothin and can't top 100 pounds, to my 5'9 and 300 it was like a chihuahua yelling at a st bernard) in her oh so kind way let me know that if i tried to conceive at that weight, it would be difficult at best, plus.... the likelihood of the pregnancy being viable was slim AND if i somehow managed to get pregnant and carry full term, the pregnancy would be dangerous and the risk of killing me or the baby was a lot higher.
hello scariness. the next time i went in, 3 months later after the first round so they could check to see how my blood pressure was responding to the birth control pills, i had lost 20 pounds. over the next several months i lost 30+ more pounds, for a total of 53 or so.... then lots of holidays and family events (including a death in the family) and travel and such made me ignore how poorly i was eating and i packed 30 pounds back on. which freaked me out enough to get me back on track, and over the last couple weeks i'm back down a bit. 0 -
Two things have done it for me. One is going to the store to buy new dress pants only 3 months after I just bought some because they no longer fit me. The second was standing on the scale and seeing me at 250 lbs. I am 23 years old how could I weigh that much. Everyone says that I don't look like I weigh that much but I sure can tell a difference.0
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I hit my highest weight ever and decided that I was *not* going to buy the next size up in pants. So a friend who lost over 50 pounds pointed me here and I started journaling and my new way of life. I've lost 16 pounds so far (was more until Christmas hit) but need to keep going. Right now I'm waivering and I heard this morning that it takes over a month for new habits to become a way of life so I guess I just need to start a great new habit. I have to admit that I like the way I look now with those pounds off and while I don't want to gain, I'm afraid actually to keep losing and have to go shopping to buy all new clothes. And that is sabotaging me bigtime! I might need another "final straw."
I LOVE how you just keep going!!!!!!! I feel like if I learn that lesson, I will succeed!! AWESOME0
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