Nothing prepares you for this....
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Congrats on your accomplishments! You earned it, don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
I am nearly 40 pounds lighter now than I was when I started working here in my job. When the loss really became noticable, people started asking how I did it. I answer, eat right and work out. The response is nearly always amazement that I didn't use shakes or pills or shots or something else. As one person responded...you mean that really works? The eat healthy stuff and exercise thing? I smiled and answered, yes. Yes, it does.0 -
*Likes*
Also, I stole your graphic as my pc background!0 -
Your story is MY story....I am 5 '6 and am 163 pounds. My top weight was 214.....I have had people tell me the EXACT same things. I got self conscious and started eating more....for fear of what others would say. I do NOT like the negative comments....I wear size 10's and 12's. Far from skinny....but, in my world....everyone is heavy....so I guess they think I need to be too. Amazing how others make you feel....Im sure...without even realizing it. Keep being healthy....Im learning.....
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I can't wait until somebody says that to me XD
I used to get "Eat something already!" all the time.... and I wasn't unhealthy skinny, just normal. That has since stopped. :P
Haha... to each their own!0 -
I know how you feel. I am within about 8 pounds of my current goal and I am also asked about once a week how much more are you going to lose? I always tell them about 10 more then I will see how much more, I will be the judge of when enough is enough.
I never realy thought about it until reading your post and all the reply's but I never once remember anyone saying "how much more are you going to gain?" when I was doing all that harm to my body and taking years offf of it with each bite of crap that I would put into my body. But now that I have taken control of my life and my body I am feeling GREAT and I am sure you and the others on here are too.
Congrats on your new life style and I wish you and everyone else continued success!0 -
The worst thing I have ever heard from people "I wish I had your troubles..." I have to hold my tounge everytime. YOU (they) don't have my troubles. You don't know what its like to work out until you can't anymore. You don't feel the stain that my muscles feel after a long hard day. YOU do'nt know what its like to look at that cupcake and give it your all to just say no. No you don't have my troubles. You don't have them because your not stong enough to get there.
You are strong and brave and determined. Everything every one of those people could be. Don't stop. You look amazing and they can just eat it all up!0 -
When I was at my lowest weight (5'6", 150 lbs) everyone was saying I was too skinny and looking at me like I was sick. The unfortunate thing is I *did* have an eating disorder, but I wasn't "too skinny". That's still a healthy weight for my height. If anything, it's at the high end. The truly annoying part was when my mother made a comment about how good Jennifer Hudson looked in the same conversation where she said I was too thin. Jennifer Hudson's a size 6. I was a size 14 when she said it. I don't think it necessarily comes from a place of jealousy, I think it's just shock at the change. I mean, nobody had ever seen me as anything smaller than "obese", so for me to be at a healthy weight was really jarring. They weren't seeing my size, they were seeing my size compared to the mental picture of me they'd gotten used to. Your friends and family might be doing the same thing. It's probably innocent in motivation, so maybe just tell them so. I told my mom about the Jennifer Hudson thing and she was actually speechless at the realization.0
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Sounds like they are envious of you...iam proud of you.....:flowerforyou:0
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i know right LIKE!!!!!!!!!Where's the d*mn LIKE button?!?!?!
and seems to be an issue with so many people when they lose weight i guess others dont like change lol0 -
I hear you LOUD AND CLEAR! I applaud you on your success and I am cheering you on!
I have a similar experience at work: My coworker about every 2 weeks has to ask me if I have a healthy goal and says things like "how long has it been since you weighed 125???" with a look that because I haven't weighed 125 since Jr. High school I shouldn't tempt it. I am 55 lbs from my goal. 5'2" and hardly model thin. BTW model thin is not my goal, feeling better not only in a health sense but about my own body image as well is my goal.
I believe that the naysayers just need to make "us" feel bad because they can't or won't motivate themselves to make themselves feel better in anyway. I use to take her to heart now I wave a hand at her (literally) and say yes, I have done the research and I can reach my goal. Look what I have done so far.
I believe in myself and I believe in you!
Please remember that you are a great role model for all the naysayers to stop, stare and maybe change their attitude and be inspired. If not oh well you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink.0 -
And here's life's dirt little secret.
People enjoy gloating over our misfortunes.
Some like us more when we are down.
Something like this ^. People are great when you are pitiful and you need them. Once you succeed they get a little nervous. The spotlight isn't on them supporting you as your mentor. That makes them look grand, helping the pitiful. They have to actually look at themself and wonder if you are more successful than them when it's turned around. Does that make them look bad if you have done this, and they havent? An overweight out of shape person that puts eating and relaxing above taking care of themselves can't congratulate you too much. Or, it's making them feel like a slob.
But #1 reason is people don't really know what being fit looks like. There is normal (overweight and innactive; enjoying junk food too often), then there is extreme. They don't know what healthy really looks like. It's a little threatening. They are speechless. I have tried to stop mentioning it in public. Thats why i'm still on MFP months after hitting my goal.
When I was 10-15 lbs from my goal someone taking blood from me at the doctors said "stop dieting and eat!!!" She was overweight and used to sell some weight loss shakes for a living. That was my oddest experience. I was actually going for the top of my BMI range, not the low end for my height, and she was alarmed?0 -
I hear jealously under all those words. Why else would someone not want someone to lose weight? I could understand their sentiment if you were going to the extreme. You are not and your goal weight is not unhealthy.0
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Great post! Just like with anything in life...you just have to do what makes you happy and ignore the nay sayers. Sadly, most of the time it is out of jealousy that say things or act like that.
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I am here, logging in and making progress. After having my kids and an inactive lifestyle, I have some work ahead of me. But I never really needed to lose weight before or tried to tone up as a teenager so I never was in that position of people telling me to stop trying. I didn't talk or worry much about what I ate before about a year ago and didn't pay too much attention to how much anyone else weighed or how fit they were and just figured they were "lucky" if they were fit. About a year ago I joined a neighborhood weight loss competition out of desperation to at least stop gaining! (I actually lost weight and took third place to my great surprise!) Paying attention to portion sizes and really attempting to get my body more active opened up my eyes and my conversation with friends and family about eating healthy and exercising. Looking back I realize that while I never told someone more fit than I was that they needed to stop being healthy or trying, I usually said something like, "Like you need to." Which is demoralizing for them.... I never thought about it before. Just because they were 50 pounds lighter than me didn't mean that their bodes were where they should be or where they wanted them to be... I'll have to adjust my attitude a little bit as I go on and I look forward to one day saying, "Why should I stop trying to be healthy?" with a smile. 0
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And here's life's dirt little secret.
People enjoy gloating over our misfortunes.
Some like us more when we are down.
Unfortunately, I agree with this.
I think you've done a fabulous job, YOU GO!0 -
As you already know we are in the same boat. I am 5'2" and currently 127 lbs, 7 pounds from my goal. Hardly an anorexic weight, but I've been told that I am. I too get those questions, "Are you really still trying to lose weight?", but my new reply will be "No, I am living a healthier lifestyle". I've also be asked "When are you going to stop?" My new reply will be, " Why should I stop being healthier?". I've been close to responding with "When are you going to start?" or simply "None of your damn business." But thanks to you, Fallenangelloves, I am striving to "be the example" and will practice using my two new replies!
"when are you going to start?" LOVE IT.
I have put some weight back on and stalled out my metabo from years of restriction, so I am now 15 lbs from my ultimate goal, rather than 5-6. But back when I was that close, I got all the same comments. It made me feel isolated and ostracised. Everyone's gotta cash in. How about live and let live?0 -
Continue until you reach your goals! You are doing FANTASTIC! Let them continue to talk and make negative remarks because they are going to make their remarks if you gain or lose weight. You may as well lose weight and be healthy to make YOURSELF happy!0
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I got the same responses... " you are too skinny" and so on. Basically they can get use to the new you or move on...0
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Only the cover of the book got upgraded, the words inside are the same.
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You have done a wonderful work during your journey and nobody and nothing can take your accomplishments away. Be proud of yourself! Just do what you have to do to tone up, the rest of the 7 pounds will go away in the process most probably. I'm sure you look wonderful the way you are, but if you feel you still need to lose that 7 pounds to feel good about yourself, why not? It's not like you weight 100 pounds and trying to go even lower.
Personally I just wouldn't focus on the pounds to lose but how I want to tone up and get to it. Who cares what everybody else says! 0 -
Where's the d*mn LIKE button?!?!?!
On Facebook. Go there if you want a damn like button.
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Not too long ago a friend pulled my husband aside and asked if I was okay. "She doesn't have an eating disorder, does she?"
I hear this all the time about my daughter and it makes me sick! When she had the flu, he boyfriend's mom called me about her bulemia. Even her doctor wanted to do blood work to find out why her weight is only 106. Hello??? She's exactly 5 feet tall!
I need a response that says F you in a polite manner.0 -
Thanks for posting this, last week someone asked me" how much more weight are you trying to lose" I said 10 more and she said "why? you are already skinny" and my response was because it makes me happy and she looked at me like I had 4 heads. I don't care it's my body I will do what's best for me. I'm not skinny actually I should maybe lose 15. You did a great job and be selfish put you first they are just haters.0
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I started my jouney at 217 lbs. After I had lost 40 I was getting alot of compliments but had people asking what my goal was. I told them I wanted to lose another 40... That only puts me at 137 and at 5'1" thats not even technically in the "healthy" range. I have been told over and over that I dont "have" 40 lbs to lose and that would make me entirely too small. First of all, Im not even there yet, they dont know what it will look like and second, I should probably lose even more than that. I am having to learn to ignore the negative, listen to the positive and accept compliments. That sometimes is the hardest part of weight loss....0
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I think other than yourself the only person you need to listen to is your Dr. My husband gets the same comments (he's lost 102 lbs) and the comeback is "I'm healthy and the Dr. is happy." What can they say to that?! From the data you present I would say you look healthy and to "IGNORE THE HATERS!" Good for you BTW!
I love your husband's reply of "I'm healthy and the Dr. is happy". Once I finally focused and really began working on my health and weightloss I quickly dropped 23 pounds. Now my coworkers keep saying, "You look awesome. So skinny. But your not trying to lose more are you?" It can actually make me feel guillty and self conscious that I am eating homemade turkey burgers and sugar snap peas instead of the Big Macs and fries that some of them are. I even have a very overweight friend that I told I changed my diet because I was having stomache issues. I was cuz I was full of grease and sugar but that wasn't my only reason for my change. Any talk of weight loss makes her feel like I'm judging her so we don't discuss it. I think when someone loses weight they make others look into themselves and then they feel the need to lash out. Sorry you have to put up with this. It is a weird unexpected minefield you gotta learn how to navigate. Keep up the good work for yourself.0 -
Nops, you're right, I'm like you very near to my goal weight, and like you've said, now I'm starting to look slim in pictures, and say.. "wow, is that me on the pic?!! I know, I'm looking way slimmer than in the last decade, but like you I also want to see how much do I have to lose to still look fit and healthy, because I know I was truly slim, and I still feel a bit chunky or chubby around the edges. However, my husband, who is the one that keeps telling me off for overeating, and putting on weight and thinks like that doesn't want me to slim more than I am now... even though he claims he likes slim women, but then, I'm not that slim yet! I can't believe it! sometimes I wonder whether me , or you, or me and some friends of mine are truly having an eating disorder, in the sense that we keep seeing chubbiness where there is none... I don't know, but something I know for sure, chubby fat people who are jealous and envious will call us vain, and tell us that we pay too much attention to the looks, and they think we don't enjoy life because we count calories!! Yes, amazing! So yeah I can totally relate to what you say!:D0
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Another thought:
When I gained a few lbs back because of the loss of my mother and then appendectomy surgery, I remember fretting to my (I thought!) understanding step instructor/friend about my gain and she said "Well, let's be honest, you needed to gain some, you were too skinny" as if this was common knowlege, nevermind her business whatsoever. I loved that, just loved it.
When folks ask "you're not still trying to lose, are you?" you can always say "I'm happy with my current lifestyle, so I'm just gonna let my body decide where it wants to be"....
But the fact that a response has to be made is stupid. As someone earlier in the thread said, nobody nags people about gaining weight. Why is it acceptible to do it when they lose?0 -
Way to go! What a great success!
As for the rest of the world. Forget them!
Be healthy for yourself! Your well being and contentment. Let everyone else take care of themselves.
As for what to do now that you are close to your initial goal? Been thinking about that myself as I am a little under 20 lbs away from my goal.
The way I figure, once I hit my weight goal, I will set a new goal. Perhaps, to eat less meat, maybe some physical challenge like doing 100 push-ups at a time. Regardless of what the goal becomes, it will require an ongoing effort on my part to stay at a healthy weight and keep up a healthy life style.
Life is a series of endless challenges. I just consider my self lucky that I get to determine what some of them will be!
Best of luck finding your challenges!0 -
Congratulations on your great achievement.
I know how you feel and have had a few hurtful / negative comments made as I get closer to my goal. I know that even though I am getting closer to my goal weight I am still not at the end of my journey to be healthier and work towards toning. The worst thing I have had someone say is "the more you lose, the more dead you look" ........ I decided from that moment that I am not going to listen to what other people tell me.
Congratulations again to you, keep up the amazing job and thank you for the thoughts and motivation0 -
Congrats to everyone here who is improving their health on their own terms!
I'm only half way there and already have people question why I'm still killing it at the gym etc. Ironic that when we need the support the most it starts to fade. It is truely helping me realize the power I have to control my destiny regardless of what life dishes up and how much MFP has helped keep me motivated.
~keep it skinny!0
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