Stop complaining!

I get what you are saying, but I think the vast majority of people who do this ARE depressed, or else they wouldn't be doing it, kwim? I sometimes find myself posting things on FB that I later look back and see are negative or may be depressing to other people. But if they know me at all, they know my brother committed suicide a few months ago and it's very difficult to find positve things to think about right now. I guess if I post something depressing, it's because I want some support from my friends. Of course I try not to be a big whiner b/c I have a therapist to listen to that stuff, but not everyone does, so they try to find an outlet for their pain.

Also, I get what you are saying with your example of the "men who rape their wives" as something to really be depressed about. But 1 out of 4 girls are molested at some point and a slightly lower number for boys, and someone commits suicide every 17 minutes, and a huge number of children are abused and neglected. These children grow up to be adults with serious problems and with such a high rate of suicide in this country, thousands and thousands of people are touched by this tragedy everyday. I think maybe you need to just look at the bigger picture and realize that most people have serious demons they are wrestling with on a daily basis. That's great if you don't, but then you are one of the rare, lucky ones!

And I'm not above "hiding" someone on FB if it gets to be too much, not because I'm trying to hate on them, but because sometimes it seems that they aren't actually taking any steps to improve their lives. That is probably what annoys me more than people complaining about their "real" problems.

The world is full of snivelers.
And people with such toxic attitudes want to spread their misery.

I am fast to cut from my life those who can't seem to live well or find happiness.
At the end of the day it's not the world that is so despairing and hopeless; it's them.

I want happy people in my life - not a bunch of bonehead depression cases who see every glass as half empty.
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Agree!

I don't believe it is a pity party, and I am 100% sure you also have days when you complain about something silly on Facebook, whether you'd like to admit it or not

As for your comment on depression and it not being serious, do not talk if you do not know from experience. Depression is something real and in a lot of cases, can end in fatal circumstances.

That is all.

FART HUMOR ALWAYS CHEERS ME UP!

I think I know what you mean. On FB, one of my nieces is CONSTANTLY whining about her baby. She doesn't have any people skills...one of her other aunts lost a baby to SIDS and I'm sure misses the baby every day of her life.

Having a healthy baby is a good thing, and babies that wake in the middle of the night are NORMAL.

I was about the same age as my niece is now, when I had my first child. I also breastfed, commuted 90 miles roundtrip daily to work, pumped breastmilk at work (TMI for some sorry) and had no family help nearby, outside of my husband.

But, I don't mention that, (and honestly didn't complain or mind at the time, you just have to do it sometimes) I just read her post and move on, or ignore it. Still, then she complains that no one empathizes with her complaining!

So frustrating, but I don't say a word. What is there to say? I have a friend who's in the burn unit of our hospital after a kitchen accident. HE IS NOT COMPLAINING!

It's taken me a loooooooooong time to understand that the biggest complainers in my life do NOT have the biggest problems.

I get what you are saying, but I think the vast majority of people who do this ARE depressed, or else they wouldn't be doing it, kwim? I sometimes find myself posting things on FB that I later look back and see are negative or may be depressing to other people. But if they know me at all, they know my brother committed suicide a few months ago and it's very difficult to find positve things to think about right now. I guess if I post something depressing, it's because I want some support from my friends. Of course I try not to be a big whiner b/c I have a therapist to listen to that stuff, but not everyone does, so they try to find an outlet for their pain.

Also, I get what you are saying with your example of the "men who rape their wives" as something to really be depressed about. But 1 out of 4 girls are molested at some point and a slightly lower number for boys, and someone commits suicide every 17 minutes, and a huge number of children are abused and neglected. These children grow up to be adults with serious problems and with such a high rate of suicide in this country, thousands and thousands of people are touched by this tragedy everyday. I think maybe you need to just look at the bigger picture and realize that most people have serious demons they are wrestling with on a daily basis. That's great if you don't, but then you are one of the rare, lucky ones!

And I'm not above "hiding" someone on FB if it gets to be too much, not because I'm trying to hate on them, but because sometimes it seems that they aren't actually taking any steps to improve their lives. That is probably what annoys me more than people complaining about their "real" problems.

I am very very sorry for your loss. Losing a loved one is hard for any reason, and suicide makes it more complicated. (I lost a cousin to suicide some years ago, and cannot imagine losing a sibling).

Again, I'm very sorry.

im thinking that your FRIENDS feel that maybe THIER PERSONAL SOCIAL NETWROKING SITE is the only place they can let out thier frustration, and maybe that you as a FRIEND would understand that and either A) over look it, or give them some FRIENDLY SUPPORT. I doubt they considered that one of thier FRIENDS would take thier griefs and bash it on yet another social networking website. Maybe what they are experiencing is "THE WORSE" for them. We all handle situations better. Example: My 12 year old son has a bad heart, he needs a pacemaker... 29 out of 30 days I handle this just fine while we wait for specialist approvals, insurance approvals and numerous appointments, however, sometimes, theres 1 day a month that I need to vent, cry, and even complain... I JUST THINK GOD THAT THE "FRIENDS" ON MY FACEBOOK ARE MY ACTUAL "FRIENDS"... I would be very disapointed to find out that I had a FRIEND like you who bashed my complaining on another social networking site.

Wow ooooook.

No doubt. Some of you guys are going out of line with this.

I don't believe it is a pity party, and I am 100% sure you also have days when you complain about something silly on Facebook, whether you'd like to admit it or not

As for your comment on depression and it not being serious, do not talk if you do not know from experience. Depression is something real and in a lot of cases, can end in fatal circumstances.

That is all.

^^^^^This!!! If you've never had your life touched by depression, you shouldn't even bring it up because you don't know what you're talking about. My MIL is severely depressed and she has bipolar disorder. This is a very real thing. She has tried to take her own life on several occasions and has actually succeeded and had to be brought back to life in the back of an ambulance. She complains about her life almost daily, but I LOVE her anyway because she is a good person that just happens to be suffering from an illness that she cannot control. When she calls me to complain about whatever it may be that day, I listen and offer support because I LOVE her and that's what we do for the people that we love.

Man, I agree people shouldn't complain constantly, but could your example be any darker? I'd rather hear someone complain that he or she is feeling down because they went on a desert bar binge, than contemplate a nefarious rape-your-spouse-then-make-her-abort psycho. Jesus, throw in some analogies about people beating baby seals and you'll really make my day!

Yep, "unsubscribe" them. You don't see their updates but they are still your friend. My fave fb feature.

Step 1: Get up
Step 2: Walk away from the computer
Step 3: go smoke a doobie
Step 4: Drink a beer
Step 5: smoke another doobie

Now all should be better

LMFAO....that would definitely give a new perspective to things!

Man, I agree people shouldn't complain constantly, but could your example be any darker? I'd rather hear someone complain that he or she is feeling down because they went on a desert bar binge, than contemplate a nefarious rape-your-spouse-then-make-her-abort psycho. Jesus, throw in some analogies about people beating baby seals and you'll really make my day!

This

If you've never had your life touched by depression, you shouldn't even bring it up because you don't know what you're talking about. My MIL is severely depressed and she has bipolar disorder. This is a very real thing. She has tried to take her own life on several occasions and has actually succeeded and had to be brought back to life in the back of an ambulance. She complains about her life almost daily, but I LOVE her anyway because she is a good person that just happens to be suffering from an illness that she cannot control. When she calls me to complain about whatever it may be that day, I listen and offer support because I LOVE her and that's what we do for the people that we love.

So, just because someone doesn't know someone who suffers from it or they personally suffer from it, means they can't talk about it or possibly know anything about it? :huh:

Anyways... Depression is a mental illness, but it's also something people need to take responsibility for. Depression is something that can cause the person who suffers from it to become very selfish and oblivious to the other people in their life. If you coddle that person and constantly give sympathy every time they cry or threaten suicide, all you're doing is enabling them to continue wallowing in their illness. Depression becomes an excuse for a lot of people. It becomes a reason to not try, not do, not care, give up. It's far too easy for those who have it to just let go of all care and fall into a pit of despair. Only they themselves who have depression can take the steps necessary to overcome it and learn to cope. I have it, my father suffered from it his entire life along with bipolar disorder until he committed suicide at the age of 47 years old, overdosing on his Lithium. My mother enabled him to wallow in the mental illness, treating him like a sick child and allowing him to walk all over her for 25 years before she divorced him. Yes, he did in fact kill himself a year later, but can my mother be blamed for it because she was sick and tired of putting up with it? Does the fact that she kicked him out and said she'd had enough mean she didn't love him? No and no. You can only try for so long to help someone before they have to help themselves and stop depending on others to solve their problems. You can't force feed a person medicine any more than you can force them to get therapy.

Yeah gonna take you off my friends list. I go on here to get support from my friends on here if I'm having a bad day because I have a lot of issues myself. This just made me feel like ****. Thanks!