T.H.E. (Trying Hard Everyday) TEAM ~ Week 19 ~ WELCOME!!

Adopt4 - I agree with Anita - Dang Men SOMETIMES. And I don't even have one full time. I wish you didn't have to be so mad right now. I think you are a true saint with the boys and everything. Those boys are blessed to have a mother like you. Hope you get a better day on Saturday and Sunday.

Anita - so glad you checked in. My heart goes out to you and these six weeks. Keep the lie of communications open with your hubby - good long talks ahead. Stay focus and remember each and everyone of us are here. My daughter's husband works on road for six weeks at a time and she has 4 under the age of 9 at home. I talk to her quite often

Healthymom - good job on digging the bike out. good ides. I have one out to my dads - after I get this walk completed maybe I will check it out.

LI4G - Good idea on convincing Morgolis that money actually is saved if he isn't coming home. I may have to share that witrh my married kids.

Couldn't sleep fore some reason so I am up. Thinking about going for a walk. It is like 2 am. Hope u all slept better than me.

Sorry, adopt4, that you had to do the "woman patiently waiting" thing. I was never good at that sort of thing, which is why I'm single now...
I was the type to throw all of their things out on the front lawn. :laugh:

Most of my doctor tests are finished for now, but it will take the body a while to recover. That's okay. I've got all week.
All that's on my schedule for the week is my daughter's birthday, then a family reunion on Saturday. This will give me a chance to "freshen up" my merchandise for the store.
I did post a few pictures of my "stuff" in my profile, but got too tired to put much effort into posting...

I'm hoping to get my new desk today. Marble top, upper and lower shelves. Then I can get this computer set up right. Yay!

Going to clean now. I need those "vigorous housework" exercise calorie credits.

Sorry, adopt4, that you had to do the "woman patiently waiting" thing. I was never good at that sort of thing, which is why I'm single now...
I was the type to throw all of their things out on the front lawn. :laugh:

Most of my doctor tests are finished for now, but it will take the body a while to recover. That's okay. I've got all week.
All that's on my schedule for the week is my daughter's birthday, then a family reunion on Saturday. This will give me a chance to "freshen up" my merchandise for the store.
I did post a few pictures of my "stuff" in my profile, but got too tired to put much effort into posting...

I'm hoping to get my new desk today. Marble top, upper and lower shelves. Then I can get this computer set up right. Yay!

Going to clean now. I need those "vigorous housework" exercise calorie credits.

I checked out your pic's that is some pretty cool stuff.. very colorfull

sheila

Well HE is sleeping in... but I decided I'm NOT going to miss this class again, next chance I could go is next Friday, so I got the boys up early, fed 'em poptarts to tide them over for an hour or so till I can make them a real breakfast, and we're off to do my step class. I ended up eating 2 poptarts and a glass of milk last night - because I waited for dinner and thought I'd have more cals by going to the gym, I was STARVING last night, so dang it I was way over cals and up to maintenance cals. Hoping to work off some of those extra cals so maybe I can break even today.

It's hard to be mad at someone for a crappy schedule when its' "work", you know, but he controls his own schedule, and when he comes home he either vegges in front of the tv or plays Mafia wars on Facebook...

Leave him alone with the boys for the day? Last time I left him alone for 2 hours with them... youngest son got bleached... time before that, they used pancake mix to make snow on their train table, mixed it with water, that stuff is like cement... I'm too SCARED to leave him alone for more than 2 hours with them! LOL My boys are, creative, you might say.

Time to go, hopefully the class will brighten my mood!!! Love you guys!

Wow...I'm going to rename some of you the "weekend warriors"!!!
I can't keep up with all of the exercising you're doing.
I walked home from the grocery store. That was enough for me. Daughter (age 12 this week) didn't think she could do it. She had to tote one bag of groceries. I pointed out that she was young, muscular, energetic...Sheesh. What I wouldn't give...

Thanks for the compliments on my "stuff." I feel like I'm kind of spoiled, in a way. While other people are going out to work 9 to 5 (or worse), I get to sit home and paint.
Sometime this week, I'll get busy and take pictures of my current creations. Most of the stuff I've posted is long gone. The table and chairs went last week. I'm kind of shying away from doing much with furniture. Too hard to store it, for one thing, and too much bending and twisting. Now I mostly paint on fabric, because I can do that sitting...

Anyway, everybody enjoy the weekend!
Sheila...You husband sounds like a marvel. Glad you found each other...

Hi everyone I'm looking for a great team to join and this one seems to fit me
T.H.E. - this I am doing

So my start weight was 285 lbs on May 6/09 and my current weight is 266 lbs as of June 12/09, my goal right now is to get down to 200 lbs by my 40th birthday, working really hard for that

I'm always looking for tips, suggestions, support and inspiration, please feel free to add me as a friend

LI4G - thanks for the info on the shoulder. I don't have any idea what I did but it is sure giving me a fit today. Hoping it passes but if it don't I will go see what is wrong with it.

My daughter has raised her four children from the time they started walking too. They helped with the laundry, clearing the table, cleaning their rooms and keepinng the outside picked up.. I can only imagine what my son is going to be like. It took them so long just to be able to have one - I am anxious to see what he and my daughter- in- law are going to do.

Buffets are the hardest thing...
But I think I may have said it last week, and I'll repeat it. I read somewhere that the way to handle a buffet was to only put 2 or 3 things on your plate at a time. That way, you're paying attention to what you're eating, and...Your stomach has a chance to register fullness before you make too many trips. Most of us are taught to finish what's on our plate, and we tend to load our plates at a buffet. So then you get into the mindset..."All you can eat!" Not likely we'll stop at one plate.
I haven't tried it yet, but I will. Next buffet, I'm only putting 2 or 3 things on my plate, and I'll let you know how it works out for me.
I tried doing the "small amounts of everything," but that didn't work so well...

I do think that it's probably okay to cheat occasionally, but my own experience is that you have to undo the "cheat," and that takes a few days. I try not to cheat now, because I want all of my effort to go into losing that pound or so a week. I'm tired of losing the same pound over and over again...lol

Anyway, going to bed soon.
Hope everyone has a lovely Sunday. Wishing you sunshine!:flowerforyou:

Hello all....I love all the advice on raising the kids. I thought I might be too hard on my kids....but now I do not feel so alone.
For the past 3 weeks, I have been using smaller plates and bowls and I really do feel like I am not getting smaller portions this way!! My plate is full. Maybe it is a mental thing, but it seems to be working. I hope you all have a wonderful Sunday. I took a day off from the gym today...legs were hurting..will be back at it tomorrow. Take care!!
prayerfulmom: I really want to invest in the padded shorts or seat cover for my spinning class, hoping to have the extra $ next week, how long did your 5K take, have you been training or do you run on a regular basis? I am training for one in 6 months.

Good morning, everyone...

I got my new desk. It's actually not a "desk" - it's an old hairdresser's work area. Marble top, upper shelf. Fits the bill just fine, and it has "character." That's right in tune with my decorating style. I will never be accused of being ordinary.

My exercise will be housework again today. I doubt if I'll get out for a walk. I'm trying to pace myself this week. Birthday for my daughter mid-week, and big family reunion on the weekend. It's our first reunion in about 40 years. I'll be seeing cousins who were babies the last time I saw them...

Funny, the bit about kids letting on that they can't do something. I never let my kids get away with that one. If they say, "I can't," I usually come back with something like "OMG!!! Are you missing arms? Legs?" Then I'll pretend to check them out..."Hmmm...Everything seems to be where it's supposed to be. All parts are working...So what you mean is that you need some practice...right?"

It helps that I've worked in group homes with so many kids. Generally, Saturday morning was housework day. They each had a designated chore, plus they had to get their bedrooms in mint condition. There would always be one or two kids that would swish a broom around, or they'd flop their sheets over their bed, and then they'd say "Done." I learned how to be very calm and unemotional, and I'd say "Sorry. You need to do better." So many battles under my belt...
But eventually they'd get it right. My position was always "Life comes to a halt until you get this done." So there'd be no TV, no outings, until the teen finally came to grips with the fact that they had to do their share, and they had to do it right.
I'm a good one for platitudes..."Everyone in the world needs to pull his/her own weight, to the best of their ability"...and "No one gets to ride for free"...or "You can't afford a maid, dear...You'll have to do it yourself."

I think we do our kids a great favor, when we teach them to clean their own little corner of the world, learn how to feed themselves, wash their own clothes, etc. I, too, taught my kids how to sort their laundry, wash their own clothes, fold them...by the age of 12. (Britt's turn is coming up...)
It makes perfect sense to me, because it's true, isn't it? No one should get to ride for free.
It also explains why I'm single...Because I stress this with men, and that's frequently the push out the door...
I haven't met too many men who really understand that word "equal." (Sheila...I think your husband is way ahead of the pack. Yay for your liberated husband!)

Anyway, speaking of cleaning and housework...Better go and get mine done.

Good morning, all. Think I'm going to go to the gym this morning and do a "body works plus abs" which is a free weight class, and then do yoga. Probably wont' burn tons of cals, but that's ok.

Had an epiphany yesterday. Was talking with a trainer about how frustrated I was I'm not losing and it really started when I started seeing a trainer - well what else started right then was doc put me on a new medication, which can cause weight gain... so I'm just treading water here for 2 mos!!! Frustrating! So gonna call the doc tomorrow and say, put me on something else!!! I hope that's the answer, although that's 20 pounds I'd be down if that is the cause. Grrrr.

Anyone can look at my food diary, although I'm not so great at keeping sodium under or whatnot, I'm honest at least. It's kind of an accountability thing for me, which is why I made it public.

Hubby hung my African mask and banana leaf pictures up yesterday. That room still needs more, but at least I finally have my stuff up where I can look at it and so can the boys, although I don't think sons 2 & 3 have any idea those things came from their home country. It's hard to have an African mask decoration when you don't have walls.... I will look for more themed things at g sales to hang on the other wall, or things that at least go with that theme. Still need a corner shelf for my ceremonial coffee pot set. BTW did ya'll know that coffee originated in Ethiopia? I hated coffee... then I went there and it's so GOOD!! (strong, too strong for me, but the taste is not bitter at all).

Good Morning Team..

Well I had a bit of drama last night... hubby and I were chilling by the fire pit with some friends and my son calls.. He is crying and says mom will you come get me .. I cant do this anymore.. I said are you sure he said yes I said your not going to change your mind when i get there are you?? he said no but please hurry cuz if you dont get her soon i am going to hurt her..I said I am on my way stay clam and I will be there.. I took my cousin while hubby stayed home with our frineds and the kids..I got there and he came out with his work uniform and said he will get the rest of his things today....Well today is my nephews birthday party and my son and hubby both had to work.. but my son gets off at 5:30 and hubby gets off at 3... so we have to take him over there and get his things.. She turned his phone off last night and he pays the bill.. she dont work and she wont work because he mother and grandmother pay for everything for her... I love my son and I hate to see him hurting.. but she is mentaly abusing him and he needs to be away from her for a while.. but she is going to keep him from his son.. so i need to help him get joint custody so he can come and get him and spend time with him when he wants.....He dont make much money but she takes every penny and last night she told him she was going to take him for everything he has and that isnt much.. and she isnt going to get nearly as much as she gets now!!! I just hope he sticks to his guns and not get sucked back in!!!
well I am done venting for now...

hope everyone is having a Great Weekend.. It is nice and Sunny today!! yippie...

by the way welcom Lorann glad to see you have joined our group...

Sheila

lorann, welcome, and I'm a lot like you. Messed up my knee early on in life and thought there wasn't much I could do. But... I was wrong. I started walking/jogging (aka wogging) at 250 pounds! I injured a tendon (not my knee, not even on that leg!) so I'm wary about doing it again, so after it healed I started doing step aerobics classes at my gym... now mind you I"m 235 still... by far the biggest person in those classes, can't jump around like a 20 yr old energizer bunny, but I"m getting my heart rate up there and doing my best. My knee actually got mostly better because I strengthened the muscles rather than favoring it. Surprised me but there ya go. So don't think there's anything you CAN'T do because of your size or even an injury.... work your way up to things, take it slow and easy so you don't injure yourself... but you might surprise yourself at what you CAN do. I take pride in being in those classes with the skinny chicks and being weighing more than anyone by over 100 pounds... I don't care. I'm not there to show off or to look at how good they look and how bad I look, I'm there to burn calories and get fit. EOD

You will find that your body will adjust to what exercise you're doing and you'll need to shake it up, make some changes. I started out walking on the treadmill at the gym, man at the speed of 2 I was dying, but I did it every day. Pretty soon 2 wasn't so fast and I worked my way up... pretty soon couldn't even get my heart rate up walking and started the elliptical... 5 mins was all I could do at first... pretty soon 10... now 45 but I get bored so I started wogging... that didn't work out so started the classes.

If you only do stuff at home, have a variety of things you can do for exercise. Do some walking videos (I hear Leslie Sansone is good) and any aerobics that will get your heart rate up there a bit without killing you. You'll work your way into more and more stuff pretty quickly as you get more fit. If you had told me in Jan when I started this I'd be doing step classes by now, I'd have laughed my head off at you. But although I'm still big, I'm more fit than a lot of skinny people at this point!

And yes, the misconception about eating - if you eat less you'll weigh less. NOPE. You need to keep your body out of starvation mode - that's what 1 meal a day does - and you need to keep your metabolism up. Eat ALL your calories at this stage. Well I mean if you're full and you have 100 left over, don't stuff yourself, but you know what i mean. You'll also find you go thru times when you can't eat all your calories and then suddently they're not enough. Your body goes thru cycles. Eat something every 2 -3 hours to keep your metabolism up. And the "not eating after a certain time" may be good habit wise or calorie wise, but from what i've read doesn't really matter weight wise.

Make sure you drink your water, plain water not pop or lemonade, you can add a splash of something for flavor, but that's just water you should count. Of course you can drink anything else you want, but only log the water. At first, if you're not used to drinking it, you'll retain water, but that will go away.

Ok this is long, but there's some tips to start out with.