T.H.E. (Trying Hard Everyday) TEAM ~ Week 19 ~ WELCOME!!

nitag

Hi all..
Oh I wish I had another day off...

Up at 4:30 out of bed at 5 and on the treadmill for 45 mins.. Burned 365 calories..

Anita

manda1111

Hello,

I'm not much of a blogger but I had a nice bit of info to share. My husband and I celibrated three years yesterday! It seems like no time at all. I got him a chain for his weeding ring so he doesn't have to take it off when he plays drumbs and the stuf for an herb garden (he's very into cookig and gardening) and he gor me three massage seesiong with a friend of our. I've never had a massage before and I'm really excited. We finally decided where to go on vacation. We are going to go to Corpus Christi TX about 6hrs from here in Ft Worth. We are staying in a little bed and breakfast and hanging out on the beach. I have never been to the TX gulf coast so I am looking forward to it.

Things here have been quiet. I don't know if I have told ya'll but I'm in the process of trying to get a book published. I have finished the writing part. It get one last edite by my English teacher friend and then it get shipped off to a professional editor before submission to a publishing house. I have been working on this for the better part of three years. Its crazy but the end is finally in sight. I'm hoping to have it ready for submission no later than Chirstmas but that all depends on how much editing needs to be done.

Well that's all for now. Still working out and trying to stay focused. Motivation comes and goes but I always come back to wanting to love myself enough not to give up on myself.
Manda

Lorann

Good morning everyone

At home today (taking a sick day, more like a me day) :laugh: sometimes you just have to do it!!

So far things are going alright for me, eating right, exercising daily, not a whole lot of exercise, but enough for now... will slowly work my way up ... usually burning between 300 - 500 cals a day. Stepped on the scale yesterday and WOW it showed I was down 3.5 lbs ... amazing!! Hopefully it stays that way for tomorrow :happy:

So this is my problem ... you see for many years now, I really don't know how long ... well my whole house has been eating very unhealthy ... I'm talking about chips and pop all the time, take out a few times a week... well you get the point, anyways needless to say everyone in my house is overweight ... the boys ages 14 & 16, the 14 yr old is very active, he is always gone skateboarding and in the summer that boy is never home, always doing something and yet he is still a bit overweight. As for the 16 yr old, well he's different, he spends most of his time on the computer and I can't seem to get him to go do things, they both work part time and I make them walk to and from work just so they get some exercise, especially the oldest... I'm such a mean mother :laugh: My 19 yr old daughter lives on her own and she's not in as bad a shape as the rest of us, she even joined a fighting class to get back into shape .. she only needs to lose 10 lbs .. but then there is my oldest (21 yrs old)... she is soo much like me .... she needs to lose at least 100 lbs ... and I know she really really wants to lost the weight but I'm having such a hard time motivating her .. I thought that when I started losing weight she would realize that it's not that hard... don't get me wrong, she is trying a bit... so my question is ... do I keep on her to exercise and eat right even though she's getting mad at me ... or do I just leave her alone? Also with the changes in my house, as in no more take out and I haven't had chips or junk in the house in over a month, do you think the boys will start to lose some weight as well? (Oh and just to let you know my hubby has been doing really well, he's down 12 lbs)

Anyways some good news is that I've started doing the Leslie Sansone 1 Mile walk at work at lunch time ... yesterday three of my co-workers joined me and they loved it ... so they are going to do it with me daily :happy: Who knows maybe by next week I'll have all of them doing it with me!! :laugh:

Well I didn't do my walk this morning so I'm going to go do that now and then start cleaning this house ... it's amazing how bad it gets by the end of the week :ohwell:

You all have a great day!!

nitag

lorann you get to exercise at work?? Thats great... I only get 30 mins and honestly I don't even get that... I have to take my lunch at my desk and usually someone comes in or the phone rings. I am thinking about taking my tennis shoes and starting to walk. There is a park right down the street, actually its the park I got married at... I just might do that if we ever stop having thunder storms..

I am all ready to go to work and wish I didn't have too.. I want to get laid off so badly.. I just can't seem to convince my boss to do it... :grumble: but trust me when I say I'm trying....

Where is everyone this morning?????

adopt4

Nita, you crack me up... You must not have my, ummm... big mouth, is a nice way to put it, or you would have gotten laid off already if you'd wanted to! LOL

Lorann, I can say that as having been an overweight child and always been pushed, pushed, pushed, it made me feel worse about myself. So for your daughter, I would say "invite" as in let's do this video together, make sure to make it a fun time, laugh at yourselves, etc and if she doesn't want to, don't push her. But always invite to do with you. I know if I'd had that happen.. well, my life would have been a whole lot different. Hopefully it will work with her. And yes, just removing the junk from the house and keeping it that way is good for the whole family. Make sure to fill those places with fresh fruit and veggies for them to snack on, get used to a different kind of snack so they don't sneak in junk food. I was "denied" candy because I was overweight - even though everyone else in the family got desserts and junk food, I didn't - and so it created this unhealthy obsession with candy for me. I used to sneak it, steal it, steal money to buy it, whatever. But if it hadn't been in the house, and was a once in a while treat for everyone - I truly believe I wouldn't have become the sneaky eater that I did. As long as you all "do it together" and your daughter in particular isn't singled out as being the most overweight, I think she'll join with you eventually.

And of course with what I learned about overweight kids as a child, and vowing to do things differently - I have 3 skinny, skinny boys that I'm constanty having to stuff food into, high carb high fat food, just to maybe get them on the growth charts for weight!!!

adopt4

So you all know i'm quite frustrated with my plateau... plus been starving the past week... well I've become rather obsessed with the scale, which is what I was afraid of when I started this journey. So although I will still weigh myself to make sure I'm not gaining, and am staying the same, I"m not going to focus on losing weight for 1 month. I'm going to focus on having fun being active, taking the kids to the zoo, taking the step classes, etc.

I didn't go to the gym yesterday, and way overate. Ate my chocolate bar that's been in the freezer for 5 mons. But now it's gone, and everyone got some, it was a family thing while we watched a movie. No more large size chocolate bars in the freezer - ever. If I put one normal sized one in there, fine, because that's the most I can eat, right, is what's there! So no harm no foul if there's only one.

Today I got up and showered but put on workout clothes. My plan is to take the step class if it's offered tonight - not sure if it is - but also if I get in the "mood" to try out some on demand exercises or yoga or something. I've gotten in the "mood" before but I've been showered and wearing my "cute" clothes, so didn't want to get all sweaty. So today, although I'm clean, I"m wearing workout clothes so I can do those things without changing clothes. If i end up working out six times today - so what? As long as I'm having fun!

And that's my new focus - to ENJOY the activities. To stop focusing so hard on each ounce I need to lose, to stop focusing on how many calories I burn with an activity, but just to do things I want and do my best to eat under my maintenance cals each day. I really want to take those step classes - so I will do that now that school will be out. But I'm taking this month "off" and living life. Then in 30 days - I'll make a new plan. That doesn't mean I won't be here every day - it's just my mental state I'm changing, really. I still have to log ut not obsess over it, ya know?

nitag

So you all know i'm quite frustrated with my plateau... plus been starving the past week... well I've become rather obsessed with the scale, which is what I was afraid of when I started this journey. So although I will still weigh myself to make sure I'm not gaining, and am staying the same, I"m not going to focus on losing weight for 1 month. I'm going to focus on having fun being active, taking the kids to the zoo, taking the step classes, etc.

I didn't go to the gym yesterday, and way overate. Ate my chocolate bar that's been in the freezer for 5 mons. But now it's gone, and everyone got some, it was a family thing while we watched a movie. No more large size chocolate bars in the freezer - ever. If I put one normal sized one in there, fine, because that's the most I can eat, right, is what's there! So no harm no foul if there's only one.

Today I got up and showered but put on workout clothes. My plan is to take the step class if it's offered tonight - not sure if it is - but also if I get in the "mood" to try out some on demand exercises or yoga or something. I've gotten in the "mood" before but I've been showered and wearing my "cute" clothes, so didn't want to get all sweaty. So today, although I'm clean, I"m wearing workout clothes so I can do those things without changing clothes. If i end up working out six times today - so what? As long as I'm having fun!

And that's my new focus - to ENJOY the activities. To stop focusing so hard on each ounce I need to lose, to stop focusing on how many calories I burn with an activity, but just to do things I want and do my best to eat under my maintenance cals each day. I really want to take those step classes - so I will do that now that school will be out. But I'm taking this month "off" and living life. Then in 30 days - I'll make a new plan. That doesn't mean I won't be here every day - it's just my mental state I'm changing, really. I still have to log ut not obsess over it, ya know?

Amen to you Adopt4.. Amen.. I'm so glad someone is feeling like me.. It's a lot of work doing this and to be honest I was/am getting burnt out.. The scale isn't moving but neither have I so I'm with ya sister.. I called me niece and said lets start walking.. So we commited to starting Monday a few times a week.. Going to try to make it fun again and not such a job...

Lorann

whew just finished an hour on the treadmill ... was sweating for the last 45 minutes .. what a workout!! So now for a break before I start to clean :laugh:

Nita - I work at a Youth Healing Lodge (it's like a residential treatment centre) and we are not in a program right now so we have use of the tv room. Even after yesterdays workout with the co-workers they think we should add this to the program when the youth come in on the 29th .... so that will be good, will still be able to do it with them there and get them moving as well

Adopt - thank you ... I will try that ... and as for the others in my house, I always make sure there is fresh fruit and healthier snacks ... we don't have dessert every night, but we do treat them usually on the weekends and we still order pizza once a week ... but now we have salad with it instead of just pigging out on the pizza :laugh: We used to order 2 XL pizza's and finish it all... now we get a large and salad and there is leftovers :laugh:

cyndeebee

Impressive ideas here today.

I agree with you, adopt4, that it's better to take a break than to obsess. When I first started gaining weight, I got somewhat obsessive, jumped on the scales everyday...and had to stop myself from becoming bulimic. Each bite I put into my mouth was based on what the scales said, and for awhile, I even went the laxative route. Big no-no.
So even though I do check my weight more than I should now, I realize that the weight will come off...eventually...if I pay more attention to what I eat.

And...Having said that...I can relate to the child deprived of desserts and candy. Our family was the opposite. Desserts were part of every meal. I can even remember my father telling me I couldn't leave the table until all of my cake was gone...:laugh:
Now that I'm an adult, I realize that I could care less about desserts and sweets. Occasionally, I indulge in a chocolate bar, but that doesn't happen too often.
I'm sure that I don't have a sweet tooth because "sweets" were commonplace when I was growing up. And for the most part, I guess I see food as something we need to thrive.
So...Why am I here? Because I'm no longer active...and I gained weight because I didn't adopt new eating habits to go along with my inactivity. I'm here to lose my excess pounds...and to learn again how to have a healthy diet - for me.

My son, too, loved his junk food. No doubt he saw LESS of dessert because I didn't have a sweet tooth...
I tried to keep only healthy food in the house, especially when I saw his weight go up at an alarming speed, but he reached an age when I had no control over it. Allowance. And he spent most of it on chips and pop. But...I STILL encourage you, Lorann, to do what you're doing...Keep the junk out of the house, keep fruit and healthy stuff on hand. Something else I learned was to make tons of vegetables and salad, but cut way back on the size of the meat and side dish servings. That way, if they're really hungry at supper, they'll have no choice but to fill up on the healthy stuff. Devious...I know...
(My sister taught me that. Instead of cooking 2 large pork chops per person, she'd cook the smaller pork chops - 1 per person...and she'd fill her Dutch cooker with broccoli. She cut back on pasta to one cup per person, potatoes were 1 1/2 per person. It worked. She has 8 kids and they're all a healthy weight.)

And I have a niece - She's 5'1" - and she weighs over 430 pounds. My sister has done everything in her power to try to help her, but to no avail. She's paid out big bucks for personal trainers, exercise classes, a nutritionist, counselors... My niece's doctor has noted damage to internal organs. And even though my niece says she wants help (she wants gastric bypass), my sister has had to let it go for now. When my niece is truly ready, she'll have to take the first step. Part of the problem, I'm sure, is that my niece lives quite a distance away, and she doesn't socialize very much. So she really has no one she feels comfortable with, to get out and do things. But I agree, that putting the offer out there - like my sister did - to share on a weight loss journey, is a good thing. No pressure, but when she's ready, she knows that the support is there.

swignal

Good Afternoon Team,

Holly crap, I slept until 12 noon today I have never slept past 8am ever.. I cant believe when i opened my eyes and the clock said 12' noon... I went into the living room and my niece and daughter was sitting there playing on the Wii and i said why did you guys let me sleep so long they said we thought you were up earlier..

well I must tell you that my son is trying to work things out with his girlfriend because of his son.. so she came over with my grandson on Tues and they spent the night Tues and Wed. they went home this mornig when my son went to work... it was really nice haveing them all there and no argueeing!!! I really hope things work out for them for my grandsons sack they both have a lot of things to work on..

my mother had to go to court today for her car accident in November of 2005.. she hasnt been able to work since and her car was totaled they even had to use the Jaws of life to get her out of the car.. and all they want to give her is 20,000.. which is some bull crap.. and they said if she fought it then she might not get anything.. what a crappy lawyer.. she was between two cars when the car behind her hit her so hard she went 50 yards and hit a nother car.. in a focus they air bags never went off her seat broke right in half it was horible.. when we got to the seen they were still cuting her out of the car..we lived about 15 minutes from where it happened...well lets pray that the judge makes him pay today..!!!!

Okay, I havent been loging my food because of my computer being down..its hard.. but I have been watching what I have been eating.. I have been getting these Turkey brest that is marinated they have been buy one get one free and one package feeds the whole family so I have been getting them alot I really like them its good for us and it is cheep!! and they come in different flavors so like lemon gallic, itailian, rotisary, teryiaki, ect.. sorry for the miss spelling!! but they are all good..so the kids dont complain about eating it.. they say mmm this chicken is good!!! LOL... what they dont know dont hurt them LOL..

okay talk to you later I am going to get moving since it is so late in the day!!!...

Sheila

LosingIt4good

Afternoon Everybody!!!

Thanks for the words of encouragement on the CS issue. Its frustrating and not the first time Ive had to deal with his crap and Im sure it wont be the last. Im just sick to death of being lied to by that office, then to have this happen...its just downright maddening.

Anyway... On to better and more important things right now...I made it up by 8:30 this morning. Not by choice.. LOL I listed some stuff on craigslist yesterday and the phone started ringing at that time. Its all good tho cuz I need to sell this stuff and I needed to get up anyway. Hubby got a call about a job he interviewed for last week . PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE pray that he gets this job. Its a management position so would pay pretty good. He thought he botched the 1st interview but aparently they had to check his background and references and now they want him back in to talk with thier HR people (fingers crossed double time here)

I got breakfast in and went to the track. I walked 1 mile then decided to do 1.5 miles worth of wogging and check my time since I was by myself this time. Tuesday when I went with Shelby, my time was 20 minutes something and I went in the evening. This morning I am SUPER pleased to annouce that my time for 1.5 miles was 16:13, so Im almost there!! Almost to that 1.5 miles in 15 minutes or less and Im sure I can probably do it on Saturday if I dont walk the mile first. The other cool news is my legs done hurt anywhere near like they were, but I still feel the workout. This is cool because once I hit that 15 minute mark, Im gonna be pushing longer running time.

adopt4...I cant get over how much alike we are. Just 2 weeks ago I was saying the same thing. :laugh: I think for me, that enjoying my outdoor time has made a big difference. I was ready for a change of pace from the gym and since our weather has been nice, my motivation is getting better but I am also doing things I enjoy again that I havent had a chance to do in a while. This fall when the weather gets nasty, I'll probably be ready for the gym again, but for now.. water aerobics is about all I even wanna go there for once in a while. (PS. I cant wait till Marty's pool is open..LOL)

Lorann- I agree with adopt4. I wouldnt push your daughter to lose the weight, shes gotta wanna do it for herself. You are the best example for her tho, so if she see's you doing it and asks how...definitely share with her the site and tell her to come join our group! Share with her the changes you see in yourself...for example "Man, I cant believe how much energy i have now that I am walking more often" or "Wanna help me shop for some pants, mine are getting too big". Hopefully she will see those changes and want that for herself, but let it be her choice. Getting upset with her is more likely to frustrate her more and if shes an emotional eater could make things worst. If she isnt into exercising, Id do what adopt4 said to do and invite her to do fun things that dont seem like exercise. Swimming, walking at a local park (pack a healthy lunch and invite her for a picnic) or just anything that gets the both of you up and around and moving. Besides it will give you a chance to spend some quality time together doing fun things. If you like to cook, try having her over for dinner on nights when you have extra's to share so she can see that eating doesnt have to be unhealthy to eat yummy foods. For the other teens (boy can I relate.. I have 3 of them ages 13, 16 & 17 and my middle is anti-vegetables all the way). We used to do the chips, ice cream, dips and dessert every night before I changed things for us. Now, for snacks I buy healthy granola bars, string cheese, crackers, fruit, veggies, gogurt (which we throw in the freezer and make frozen yogurt out of) and nuts. I make dessert maybe once a week now and it is never a reward. The desserts are things that are lowfat and low sugar and they dont even know unless they watch me make it. I sneek plain yogurt into creamy salads that call for mayo....they are none the wiser.. LOL So....sneek stuff in.. they wont know and before you know it they will be asking for the healthier things. I dont buy the junk food for them anymore. If they want it, they can spend thier own money on it and boy its amazing how much less of it they eat.. :laugh:

prayerfulmom

Boy do I have surprising news. I went to have my Resting Metabolic Rate tested. I am above average. Who'd have thought. They see it more with people who weight train. I don't do much of that. But you know I'm crazy with the cycling, running, walking, etc. However, I though for years of fad diets I'd killed my metabolism. I guess all the exercise and all the meals spread out through the day really do help. Anyway, I've been instructed to eat 2000 a day minumum. Not at all what I expected. They are telling me I've been in starvation mode. Makes ya think doesn't it.:noway:

LosingIt4good

Boy do I have surprising news. I went to have my Resting Metabolic Rate tested. I am above average. Who'd have thought. They see it more with people who weight train. I don't do much of that. But you know I'm crazy with the cycling, running, walking, etc. However, I though for years of fad diets I'd killed my metabolism. I guess all the exercise and all the meals spread out through the day really do help. Anyway, I've been instructed to eat 2000 a day minumum. Not at all what I expected. They are telling me I've been in starvation mode. Makes ya think doesn't it.:noway:

Wow, nice!! Where did ya go to get it tested?? Id love to do that if its not spendy.

indianagranny

Hey All

The worst has happened - I hurt so very bad. My friend with cancer who is not accepting it well at all has ask me to let him go. He will not stand by and watch me suffer as he goes through treatment. We have talked for hours on end and to no avail. Today just a little while ago, I let him go. I had to - he would have it no other way. So I keep thinking if I do it and he really loves me, he will be back. But the hurt in me HURTS SO BAD!!!!!!!!!!!!! I told him this and he says I will get over it a lot sooner. No I won't but you can't convince him. WHY GIRLS!!!!!!!!!!!! WHY ME!!!!!!!!!!!!! WHY HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sorry I had to get that out. I have become a talker and not an emotional eater. I am as okay as can be expected but I don't want to start eating. Now I talk it out - going to go walk it out. Be back

aprilrenee71

Indianagranny- I am sorry to hear about your friend, maybe it is just the only way he can handle it. It is a very hard situation to handle and I hate that you have to go through this.

Sheila- you really must of needed the rest. I hope you are feeling better soon. I am so excited about coming up. When will you get your computer back?

Everyone- I seen my dietician yesterday. (spelling) and she gave me my recommended numbers as follows: carbs, fiber, and sugar added as one and not to go over 225g a day, fat-42g, sodium-2,400, protein-56g and calories 1200-1500 a day. I have been doing just about that however, today I did go over my sodium by 200 g. I just hope it does not effect my weigh in tomorrow. I have a loss already but will wait to post. I have a horrible habit of weighing everyday. I know it is not good to do that but just can't help it.

I hope everyone has a loss this week. Looking forward to results..

cyndeebee

So sorry, indianagranny, about your devastating news. It sounds like he loves you very much, but I'm in agreement with you. I wouldn't want the relationship to end , either. Every moment in life is precious. Any time you can spend with a loved one is a gift. I'll pray that he has a change of heart.
I believe that life, and dying, are journeys we all have to take. If we're fortunate, we can have our dearest close by for both journeys. Maybe in time, he'll change his mind. Do you think he'd consider talking to someone about his feelings?
I don't know what his prognosis is, but if he could talk to a social worker in the medical field, or a hospice worker, it might help him deal better.

Whatever he decides, I guess it is his choice. And know that we'll all be here for you. Anytime.

Take care of yourself. You're a very courageous and good-hearted woman. I hope life throws some tenderness your way soon. You SO deserve that...

Big hugs...

adopt4

Indiana, i'm so sorry for this pain. Good for you, girl, that you aren't turning to food. And the adage I've discovered is true - what doesn't kill us makes us stronger. You're a strong woman, you can get thru this.

swignal

Good evening Team,

My sister came over tonight so I am on her computer... Not sure when I am getting my computer back right now...I just have to be patient... I am prob better off saving to buy a new one!!!!

Indiana - I am soo sooo sooo sry you are hurting I wish I could take your hurt away.. You are a wonderful person and I wish you happiness.. Maybe one day your friend will open his eyes and realize that you are by his side and your a great friend... Keep being strong he will come to his sences!!!

April - Not sure when my computer is going to be back from computer heaven but my sister is here on the weekends.. I can use her's breifly.. I am looking forward to our visit.. It is going to be a whole lot of fun..

well everyone hello and good night.. although I might have a hard time falling asleep since I slept in until noon!!! I still cant believe I slept so late!!! that is so not me...

healthymom2009

IG - So sorry you are suffering so. You and he are in my prayers.

Today I went to Walmart instead of the gym - day off. Not really that exciting. Ate pretty much within limits so tomorrow should be a good day on the scale. Proud of myself for eating 2 healthy snacks today instead of eating too much at meal times. We get used to eating a certain amount of food so I am trying to change it to healthier stuff like watermelon or yogurt instead of cookies. Kind of like what others were saying earlier. There have not been chips in our house since I started MFP (5months).

Keep it up ladies!!!!

LosingIt4good

New thread starts tomorrow!!!

Good luck everyone!

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