Were you ever bullied in school for being overweight? How di

I feel your pain. I was an obese kid till the age of 18 and I did slip into bouts of depression. But I have a great set of parents and friends who stood by me through the tough times.

I remember most girls and boys in class being smaller than me. The girls would turn to me to help them out with school troubles, only because I was bigger than them. It didn't feel right then and it doesn't feel right now. I couldn't find clothes that would fit me. The concept of plus size clothing didnt exist in India back then. I would only wear black shirts and lose jeans. M wardrobe was very limited. So I would get teased for wearing pretty much the same clothes.
No one understood that it wasn't out of choice. Not even in college.

And where I come from, being called fat on your face is no big deal.

Until one day, when I couldn't handle it anymore. I decided to drop all that weight. My parents supported me. My parents, being doctors, monitored my weight loss very closely. And here I am toay, healthy and fit as a fiddle and I could give those who teased me a run for their money, literally.

I support people who are attempting to become healthy by just being for them and advising them when they need it. Because I lead no one to tel me that ( my parents tried, but we don't listen to them when we are kids) :-)

I'm sorry to hear about all your stories! People are disgusting, when I was younger I used to wear my sweatshirts all the time, they were comfy and i was dating someone outside of my school so it wasn't like I was trying to impress anyone, my dad would steal them and yell at me telling me that i need to lose weight instead of hiding myself behind a sweater, he always had something to say about my weight, so did my brother, I remember my brother saying I would never want to marry a girl if she was big like you, you know what's sad, is I was only maybe 180 and 5'6 so i wasn't huge, but they sure made me feel that way. Every day I have to remind myself that I'm a great person, I remember my dad saying " you have a great heart, but you sure are stupid. I mean what parents say that??

Well how awesome are you to be able to talk so freely about it! That's really admirable.

A side effect of my upbringing is when I feel friendships (and especially my relationships) are in jeopardy through any conflict, I go into denial. I convince myself there is no problem, even if there is. I apologise for things THEY'VE done just to end the conflict.

My gf is well aware of this and always tells me to stop apologises for her own mistakes.

I think it's how I ended up working in a support environment in IT haha! I want to be able to help people with whatever conflict there is and take the blame!?

Im curious to see how many out there share my same story,

Were you overweight in Elementary school? High school? Were you the target for bullying? How did you overcome it and how does it affect your life today?

For me it was Bulling grade 2-12 and until i was about 21 or so. the height of it being in grade 9, cornered in the boys lockerroom and surrounded by 6 guys with basketballs. "We are about to do this to you because you are fat, you are ugly, you will never get a girlfriend, and you should kill yourself" They then proceeded to throw basketballs at my head until i bled out of my ears..


I know it got bad, but I kind of thank God for my crappy life. because its the things in life that form you into who you are today.

Most people who got bullied (Or at least the ones I know) turn out to be Sweet Compassionate Loving Sensitive people.

So my question is, Have you ever been bullied and how have you overcome?

*I was a chubby child, my mom put me in after school activities in elementry school- around 3rd grade (gymnastics and 'dancing') so I did slim down alot during those years and then I was in a school bus accident mid way through my 5th grade year and had to have my right arm in a sling for 4wks and after that I quit doing gymnastics and dance. through middleschool I was somewhat chubby (5'4 and weighing 150-160lbs) during my highschool years i was very much overweight, I gained 100lbs from the start of highschool until the start of my junior year (my father was in iraq, afganastian, bosnia, iran, ireland & iraq one more time all through my highschool years)

I was never targeted for bullying until I met a girl named Ivalea (i was probably just starting to pack on the weight when i met her) and for whatever reason she didnt like me and she would pick on me and therefore this boy (whom she liked who sat beside me) would pick on me, she would tell him to say things to me and he would and then laugh at me (like "i bet you have some huge stretchmarks dont you?) however, the boy quit picking on me midway into my freshman year and the semester switched and I no longer had classes with Ivalea.

How did I overcome it? my cousin took a picture of me at a birthday party, a hideous picture. I saw it and realized I needed to change (honest, i didnt see that when I looked in the mirror) I lost 80lbs (walking every day, eating meals the size of my fist and meals frequently)

How has it affected me? since meeting my fiance and having a child, ive packed on 30lbs of the 80lbs i lost and im my absolute worst critic. I feel horrible about myself at this weight, I stand in the mirror everyday and I tear myself down. Its not healthy and im working towards correcting it. I need to love myself no matter what the scale says and try to get myself to a better place while loosing weight.

I was bullied from when I was 7, peaking when I was 12 and had to transfer schools (I got gang beaten). My class's nickname for me was 'fatty,' 'the beast,' 'she-Hulk,' 'chubs.'

I would try to work out, and actually developed an eating disorder (bulimia) due to the excessive emphasis put on about my weight. I always thought...if I was skinny, maybe they would like me better? Maybe I'd be better at sports? In grade 10, I was told that I couldn't get on the basketball team because I was too fat. I had to lose 20lbs. I was 5'8 and 145lbs. HOW THE HELL IS THAT FAT!? Seriously!

Anywho, I tried running for a while. I started going after school, but people from my school would see me running and scream out the car windows "RUN FATTY RUN!" or "BEAST!" I guess my nickname followed me.

I also had terrible acne, and my hair color was just...gross. I was a definite bookworm too, and yet I was never excessively smart. Just...different. And driven. I'm the only one out of all those bullies to go to university and graduate, for example, even though they almost bullied me into dropping out. I was also going through my parent's divorce at the time, so high school was absolute hell. I almost didn't make it through. To be honest, I don't even remember most of my grade eleven and twelve years. All I remember are the taunts, the hurts, the snubs, and just...pain. I was cutting at an enormous rate (thank God in places where the scars still can't be seen to this day), just to punish myself for being so...imperfect.

Now, I'M the one all of my friends go to for fitness advice. I'm the one who is going to try and be a cop. I'm the one who can bench press 100lbs. I'm strong, and I'm fit. I'm still nowhere near skinny, and I'm still struggling with the eating disorder, but at least I have a future. And a story. Most of the bullies? They either got knocked up, are at dead-end jobs with no education getting drunk every weekend, high on drugs, or still living with their parents.

I think I've done alright, and I've definitely overcome a lot of obstacles in my life. I'm nowhere near where I think I'm going to end up, and I'm sure that all the suffering I've had to do throughout the first part of my life was for a reason...I just need to figure out that reason, haha. But I'm good now. I'm succeeding. And those bullies and those hurts? Just blips on the radar of my life. I know I'm stronger for it, and better for it. I know that weight can be lost, but a backbone is something that you either have or you don't, and I think I've got a strong one that will get me through anything now.

There's my story. Hope it helps.

Sure. about as long as I can remember. Not just for being fat tho, but also for having a dead mother (I was raised by my grandma, and kids have a tendency to think living with your grandparents means getting what you want every day), for wearing hand-me-downs, for early development as well. I got a couple of beatings from the boys (but it ended quickly. Was quite strong for a girl, and fighting back wasn't expected) But for most of the time, I was "girl-bulled". As in, none of the girls at school would want anything to do with me, and made sure I knew it. I was pretty much totally frozen out from age 6 until about 12, when I got one real friend, and a group of girls that accepted me. But it didn't really get better until I was 19 and out of school.

However, I usually focus n a couple of things when I think about that time. 1: I'm glad it was me and not someone even more voulnerable that was picked. 2: Being the one that was bullied, rather than a bully, means I don't have to carry around the guilt they do. I've met some of my bullies after becoming an adult. They're always sorry, and they never can bring themselves to look me in the eye.

I was bullied in school for my weight, but not horribly so. Just getting called fat *kitten*, whale, and all those names. It doesn't help that my last name is Moore so people used to tell me to go eat more cookies and they just thought it was hilarious. The worst of my bullying came from my older brother. He'd call me fat *kitten*, free Lilly (as in free Willy), and so much more. He'd also get his friends to make fun of me. Also, I remember when I was about 11 or 12, my mother decided she wanted me to be thin I guess and made me "work out" for my food. If I wanted a Popsicle or any kind of snack food, she'd make me do jumping jacks or run in place. I don't think much about it, I think I've just tried to push it out of my mind over the years.