Were you ever bullied in school for being overweight? How di

rovernio

i used to be fat elementary school got bullied by my brothers but it motivated me and now they all want me to teach them how to train and eat (:

mrsmadewell2012

I got bullied alot. It took a toll on how I felt about life and was near that state of giving up. I'm happier now but it still hurts to think about it.

I'm sorry that happened to you. That makes me so angry. :grumble:

Nhiggin

After reading so many posts about people's experiences with bullying it makes me angry and sad. From kindergarten to high school I was bullied for being fat. BUT I on the other hand I bullied others in my class during this same time frame. Its an interesting perspective when you have been bullied and have done the bulling. I felt that I had to bully others to "fit" in and to be "cool." What is so sad is that I always felt so bad for the people I bullied because I knew exactly how they felt.

To this day I still remember the names my classmates would call me. They still sting a little but I try not to think about those awful years. But I think the hardest part about growing up fat was during gym class when we had to study gymnastics instead of allowing me to participate my gym teacher would use me as a "prop." The gym teacher would have me sit on the mat then my classmates would roll over me or I would lay down then my classmates had to jump over me. When I think about it today I get so embarrassed and I hate myself for allowing it to happen. But my family still brings it up to day and laugh and call me the "prop." I try not to let it bother me but sometimes I just wish people would forget that.

During this time I was a very emotional child/teen. I would think about hurting myself or killing myself but I never did because I had such a good support system at home. My parents and siblings really helped without even knowing because I have NEVER talked about my thoughts of suicide or self-harming with others. To this day I still lack some confidence in particular areas but I am still proud of all that I have accomplished!

My words of advice to those kids/teens/adults who are being bullied find ONE person who will be your support system and forget everyone who bullies you. From experience the people who bully others have just the same insecurities and low self-confidence. And you to kids/teens in particular, school is not the end of the world. There is so much to live for. If you have thoughts of suicide ask for help.

Thank you so much for starting this topic!! It is amazing to share and read about every experience!

wittlelacey

I may have been a little curvy and lacked toneage (not a word but it is now!) but I wasn't overweight, or even close. However, until I was 14 I was stick thin. 4'10 and 90ish (or less) pounds, and my brother tormented me with terrible comments implying my weight was an issue. I don't think I've ever been secure about my body because of him. Compared him, I am far more thicker than he is with his 6% body fat, but the comments from him and eventually from my mother are one of the reasons I'm here today, seeing as how the taunting and comments never ended. At 5'0 and 105 pounds, I strive to become thinner!

michellebd1980

Im curious to see how many out there share my same story,

Were you overweight in Elementary school? High school? Were you the target for bullying? How did you overcome it and how does it affect your life today?

For me it was Bulling grade 2-12 and until i was about 21 or so. the height of it being in grade 9, cornered in the boys lockerroom and surrounded by 6 guys with basketballs. "We are about to do this to you because you are fat, you are ugly, you will never get a girlfriend, and you should kill yourself" They then proceeded to throw basketballs at my head until i bled out of my ears..


I know it got bad, but I kind of thank God for my crappy life. because its the things in life that form you into who you are today.

Most people who got bullied (Or at least the ones I know) turn out to be Sweet Compassionate Loving Sensitive people.

So my question is, Have you ever been bullied and how have you overcome?

I'm so sorry you had to go through this! It makes me so mad! I was teased from 6th grade through 11th, then I lost a lot of weight and people actually started to notice that I was there. I wasn't ugly anymore because I wasn't fat anymore! I would get told I was a fat, ugly ***** almost every day of the week and I'd cry almost every day! I'd spend hours putting on make-up and picking out an outfit that suited my body type..... And still was tortured. I had girls who would try to fight me but because I was such a ***** back then, they didn't even come close to fighting me. I'd give them a verbal lashing and be done with it. How did I overcome? Lots of therapy and good friends who'd stick up for me! My older brother and I never really got along but when he heard about all this and or heard people talking smack, he went to town on their happy *kitten*! He told them off and put them in their place. Seriously though, I wouldn't be who I am today if I hadn't put up with all the tourment from back then!

KarmaxKitty

In elementary school, I was EXTREMELY overweight. We had this excercise program school wide that required us to pass certain fitness tests (harder than high school WHY???). I was overweight because of all the steroids I had to take because of a cruddy respiratory system, so OF COURSE that made me doubly unable to pass the running exam. I tried so hard though... All of my "friends" would give me "encouragement" by telling me to pretend I was running to end of the finish lines and that there were towers pancakes and bacon at the end... I went along with it and laughed, but I literally wanted to kill myself every time...AT NINE YEARS OLD...

michellebd1980

In elementary school, I was EXTREMELY overweight. We had this excercise program school wide that required us to pass certain fitness tests (harder than high school WHY???). I was overweight because of all the steroids I had to take because of a cruddy respiratory system, so OF COURSE that made me doubly unable to pass the running exam. I tried so hard though... All of my "friends" would give me "encouragement" by telling me to pretend I was running to end of the finish lines and that there were towers pancakes and bacon at the end... I went along with it and laughed, but I literally wanted to kill myself every time...AT NINE YEARS OLD...

That's so horrible to say that! Way to make you feel worse about yourself... I'm sorry that happened to you!

richmondcowgirl

I was never bullied about my size. Instead I got the creepy sexual advances at way to young of an age. I remember being 10 and some of the neighborhood guys would comment on me having hips to hold on to. I've always had an hour glass figure but as I got bigger the curves got more defined, specially with my hips and thighs. I thinks that's why I play up my top half more than my lower, too much attention there too early

richmondcowgirl

Double post

sadie902

im really 10 yrs old in 5th grade and i really dont get bullied becouse i have good friends that have my back but i know a overweight girl that is a bullie and she bullies thin girls and boys

ArynnOctavia

I didn't become overweight until after graduation, but I was bullied in school for being gay. I think any time someone is bullied for being who they are, it can really affect the victim for life.

I did my best to ignore my tormentors (though sometimes this was really only on the outside-even if I was hurting, I vowed to never let them see that they affected me). I gave them no reaction at all, which was the only power I had in the situation, not to respond. I had enough sense to know that people picked on me because they themselves felt inferior for some reason, which mostly made things easy to ignore.

The only hard part to deal with was the rare times when guys got physical; especially the particular way guys tend to get physical when bashing a gay woman. Even then, I never gave them the satisfaction of a response. The good part was that ignorant losers lose interest pretty quick if you don't give them the satisfaction of thinking they've gotten to you.

I overcame by becoming the best person I could. I moved on, went to college, graduated summa cum laude, and found the love of my life. I'm now working on my health, making my body as healthy as my mind and spirit are.I love who I am, and let go of any anger I had toward others. Who needs that kind of poison in their mind?

ncahill77

I was picked on through 6th grade, I won't say bullied as I was a foot taller than anyone else and obviously bigger, no one wanted to get physical, but I grew up in a family that harrased each other constantly so by the time I was in school having someone call me a name had very little effect. My parents raised me to know who I was no matter what people said, I'm so very greatful for that. I'm not saying it didn't suck, but compared to what most of you faced it was a walk in the park, in middle school I finally got somewhat athletic and joined in with that crowd but I was always protective of the people that other made fun of, so it was ultimately good for me.

xASHYxSMASHYx

When I was about 10, I was chubby and the neighborhood boys started calling me fat mama thinking it was funny. I have never forgotten that. It lead to me battling with an eating disorder for several years.
I also got bullied in high school when I was actually skinny. Some girl decided she didn't like me, and brought three of her friends into the bathroom and beat the **** out of me. They broke my nose, dislocated my jaw, bruised kidneys, nearly strangled me to death and I had deep bruising under my eyes for six months, and permanent nerve damage. They charged the main girl with attempted murder, but because she was a minor, they had to downgrade it to assault.
Something I will never forget for the rest of my life, but I too am thankful it happened, because it's made me a stronger person because of it.

hollyeverhart

I have never really been "overweight" really but I always have thought I was or been self conscious, I remember to this day the day I started thinking about weight, I was in 4th grade, my mom bought me this green velvet dress (hideous sounding now but then I loved it!) anyway I was so happy to wear it to school, I always liked dressing girly/nice, but this boy I had a crush on told me when we were running around the playground that I looked fat or was fat. Ever since that day, I think about it way to much. But I was bullied in middle/high school for looking different, not being overweight, but I still had days where I went home and cried or didn't go to school in general because kids are MEAN and would make fun of me all day for being a 'freak' a 'weirdo' 'creepy' etc... It got worse in high school, I shaved off my eyebrows and started drawing them on, so then the 'popular' girls started calling me a 'tranny' because apparently lack of real eyebrows makes you a man trying to be a women? So yeah, school was a miserable time of my life, but honestly now thats I have been out of high-school for almost 4 years, it makes me happy that I don''t judge people or treat them differently for how they look, whether that be style/weight/etc because I know how bad it hurts to be called names or treated poorly completely based off appearance.

What's more sad is that to this day ADULTS make rude comments about my style/piercing/tattoos/hair when I am at work/shopping/whatever. That to me is pathetic, kids may not know, or maybe were not taught better, but a grown person acting like that is just embarrassing to them I think.. Seriously doesn't the old saying "Don't judge a book by its cover" mean anything to people?

Coco_Puff

Yes, my maiden name was May, so the boys would say in the school hallways, "make room for the Mayflower truck". That was the name of a trucking company at the time. I hated those boys and it really hurt me. I have forgiven them of course, and see them at class reunions and don't mind at all that I've aged better than them.

189andFalling

Hi,

Well, combine being overweight with being the top of the class (by a reasonable degree...) and yep, it does make you very different to the other kids...

I grew up feeling that there was something 'wrong' with me and only had a few friends. Even at university while I had a BMI of 19.5 I still felt really fat. When it came to socialising I just hadn't had the practice other people had. Even so I did build up a good group of friends and met my (now ex) wife.

The relationship with my ex was never that great really. She used to constantly criticise everything and use a lot of emotional blackmail. Guess I just didn't know any better based on past experience. Things are so much better now she is gone.

It's taken me a while but now at 31 things are much much better . There are a few things I still need to work on (weight and increasing my social circle) but believe it or not I'm a glass half full person. Always see the positive side of life. Even a few days ago when I wrote off my car doing 70mph it didn't faze me. I walked away without a scratch or a sprain and just counted myself lucky.

I finished up university with a double first in a science, won a few prizes, and gained a scholarship to do an MSc. managed to get a distinction in that. The job I'm in now pays about double what a guy my age should expect. I keep getting promoted and rated the highest in my business unit (but to be honest I'm never really sure why. perhaps goes back to bullying!).

I have a small but really close group of friends now and we really take care of each other. I've also met the girl I'm convinced I'm going to spend the rest of my life with. We are similar in so many ways it's uncanny. We never argue, fight, moan, criticise, and always have fun together whatever we are doing. She's even as clumsy as I am . All of that wrapped up in a super sexy 21 year old body as well! Can't believe my luck.

Some of the kids who used to bully me are now on Facebook. It's probably a bad thing to say but I'm happy they look old, unfit, fat, not very successful, and 'stuck' in that small town. The kids who were nice are all doing well for themselves and I'm happy for them .

I guess what comes around goes around!

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PhatAndy

I was picked on through 6th grade, I won't say bullied as I was a foot taller than anyone else and obviously bigger, no one wanted to get physical, but I grew up in a family that harrased each other constantly so by the time I was in school having someone call me a name had very little effect. My parents raised me to know who I was no matter what people said, I'm so very greatful for that. I'm not saying it didn't suck, but compared to what most of you faced it was a walk in the park, in middle school I finally got somewhat athletic and joined in with that crowd but I was always protective of the people that other made fun of, so it was ultimately good for me.

I agree completely =D

katep2492

I started getting bullied in 8th grade for my weight even though back then I wasn't fat I had a women's body and all the other girls still looked like little kids I was only a size 3. Anyway I was called the elephant girl everyday that year, It caused me to be upset so I eight more then sophmore year I was very sick and gained a lot of weight in 2 years I went from 135 lb. to 250 lb. I felt bad about myself so I went on a diet and lost 75 lb. by december of my senior year. I got pregnant lost the baby and was very depressed and from december to june I put back on 50 lb. then I started getting the blocked number calls telling me I was worthless and I should kill myself, I found out who they were and put dead fish all over their car inside and out, they won't ever get that smell out. I let them get to me and that caused me to eat more, best thing is to ignore them, if you can't ignore them putting dead fish all over there car is just as good!

obolton756

i hate hearing stories like that you got it pretty bad... kids are so cruel sometimes...

i got it too.. more verbally than physically.. my appearance was the main target.. i was never an overweight child... just not as skinny as the rest of the girls.
they used to call me fat.. when i was 15 i had anorexia. i weighed about 5 and a half stone. then when i recovered it went the other way. i gained a load of weight and wasn't happy with my image then either...

i'm now 8 stone and have learned a lot from being bullied. you shouldn't care what others think of you. if you're going to lose weight, you need to do it for you.. not anyone else.

kristenn1989

I was bullied all through school, the worst of it being the 7th and 8th grade when a teacher joined in on it. She made many backhanded comments my way and it got to the point where going to school made me absolutely ill. I ended up skipping 50 days of school in the 8th grade because I was trying to avoid hearing anymore about what the teacher had to say. My thoughts at the time were "if she said it, it must be true. she's a teacher." I never thought to report her or to go to someone for help. I didn't tell anyone about the entire situation until I graduated from that school at the end of that year and I had no desire to report her then and relive the experience.

cathylord

I sure was. Even the teachers called me "the Blob" one year. I was an easy target and it lead to lifelong self-esteem issues. I am still trying to overcome it and I'm now 62 years old.

cm1985

Never really bullied at school maybe just a few comments but nothing that scared me, but my mother constantly tormented me and still does. She used to say I would never find a man that would love me because I was "fat" , then when i found him and got married she says it won't last because I keep gaining weight and he will eventually leave me. My mom did it out of love but doesnt know how much it affected me. I am very shy, I have very low self esteem, and it used to lead me to eat more, because i felt ugly and felt like she was right. So to those moms out there, dont tell your daughters these things. Help them to live a healthy life.. dont torment them.

FYI my hubby is a cutie! He loves and supports me, and helps me with everything and anything!

cm1985

Never really bullied at school maybe just a few comments but nothing that scared me, but my mother constantly tormented me and still does. She used to say I would never find a man that would love me because I was "fat" , then when i found him and got married she says it won't last because I keep gaining weight and he will eventually leave me. My mom did it out of love but doesnt know how much it affected me. I am very shy, I have very low self esteem, and it used to lead me to eat more, because i felt ugly and felt like she was right. So to those moms out there, dont tell your daughters these things. Help them to live a healthy life.. dont torment them.

FYI my hubby is a cutie! He loves and supports me, and helps me with everything and anything!

lilchicksta94

Not too much... a few times ppl said stuff but I had a big mouth and always came back with a quip to shut them right up... like, "you can change fat but ya can't change ugly" :-)