Annoying comment I hear all the time

I have not yet experienced it, I am working to get where you are.

I can understand though why the people around you would think those things. If you have never been the size you are now, to them it probably is really small!

I would just smile and say "Thank you for the veiled compliment; I'll take that into consideration".

Actually I would be a lot b*tchier than that, but I was trying to be helpful. Congrats on your success.

I started responding by telling them my BMI and a sentence or two about where I'm at within that measurement. Each person I've told that to has never given me grief about my goal since telling them. What are they going to do, argue that the BMI guides are wrong.

I started responding by telling them my BMI and a sentence or two about where I'm at within that measurement. Each person I've told that to has never given me grief about my goal since telling them. What are they going to do, argue that the BMI guides are wrong.

I tried this. I got told that the BMI guidelines were wrong. I've now run out of come backs and the inspiration to justify my weight loss. So I don't. I just tend to say it's my body and I'm healthy.

Ignore them. Do your thing. They will learn to accept you at your ideal size in time. Change is weird for some people.

If someone says that to you, say, "Well, I'm just fine, but thanks for the concern."

This. Your body, your health.

Besides the BMI statement, I've found that emphasizing what my doctor is looking for helps. For me, that was changing my lifestyle (nutrition and physical activity) and get my weight within the healthy BMI range so I could "pass" my cholesterol "test". A little humor helped too. The closer to goal, the more careful I was about who I talked to about this work, focusing just on my cheerleaders. For the rest, it was none of their business.

BTW, all your hard work is going to pay off in benefits - health (mental and physical) for one. It is worth doing cause it feels so great to be strong and have a body that is working well. Hang in there, find your cheerleaders and keep them close. You can do it!

Often it is a comment people make when you will end up skinnier than they are. Just get to a healthy place and don't worry about what they think.

I've said thanks I'm glad you think I look great, but I'm working on the areas that only I see when I'm naked. Usually they have nothing to add after I say that. I also add that I want to reach for my healthy BMI.

Lol, I used that too!

People are always telling me how I'm "fine" now, and "tiny" and all these other comments...(which really is funny cause I don't see myself as 'skinny' at all!) Anyway, about 3 pounds ago I posted a pic of myself on facebook, saying "14 down, 14 to go!" - Most everyone had to comment on how I'd look anorexic if I lost 14 more pounds :noway:
It's silly of course, but It did bother me...until I finally said, 'Thanks to the people that think I'm fine how I am, but I don't need the validation, and really, nobody but me knows what I look like Nekkid, so I will decide what my ideal weight is" :bigsmile:

I hear that all the time. I hate it. I've never been more than 160 pounds, but I'm also barely 5 foot, so every single pound shows, and mostly on my stomach. Everyone tells me how "tiny" I am and that I don't need to/shouldn't lose any weight. I usually just try to ignore them and keep pushing on. It's my journey, not theirs.

ALSO - some people have NO conception of weight. When I told a co-worker what I weighed, they nearly fell over, I guess they have a different perception of what that weight would look like.

This is very very true especially of Americans. We are so used to seeing overweight and obese people that many of us have forgotten what a healthy weight looks like.

ALSO - some people have NO conception of weight. When I told a co-worker what I weighed, they nearly fell over, I guess they have a different perception of what that weight would look like.

This is very very true especially of Americans. We are so used to seeing overweight and obese people that many of us have forgotten what a healthy weight looks like.

This is SO true. Also, I think the way everyone lies about their weight skews our perception of what certain weights look like as well. The woman who actually weighs 125 but tells everyone she is 105, is messing up what everyone thinks that weight looks like.

Everyone is different and really all the weight charts and BMI charts that are out there, I believe, are a basic guide. I lost weight years ago (gained it all back, obviously) and I had gotten down to 165. I am 5' 6", almost. At that weight, I could wear between a size 8 and 10 jeans. And supposedly, if I remember correctly back then, if I would have gone by the charts, I would have still had another 15 - 20 pounds to lose. People would tell me I was too skinny and I would tell them what I weighed, and they wouldn't believe me. And I knew girls who were bigger than me and weighed less than me. So you really have to have good judgment.

I can't wait to say I've gotten down to that size again!!! Oh, just once again, to hear somebody tell me I'm too skinny. LOL!

My Aunt is the one I hear this from. She saw me at my cousin's baby shower and (loudly) exclaimed, "OK You need to knock it off now! Size 12, ten, 8, that was OK, but what are you now!? A ZERO? Enough already!"

I was wearing a size ten when she said that to me. (eyeroll)

I get that I look very different, but I am smack in the center of the "healthy" range. So when I say I want to try for ten more pounds, it isn't a sign I'm about to go all Karen Carpenter on everyone. Sheesh.

My mom and boyfriend thought I had an eating disorder for awhile. Hello?? I finaly cleaned up my nutrition choices and portions, and started working out 2 years ago. Lost 15 lbs and that =s an eating disorder, ridiculous.

Obviously they just needed to get over their concept of me. I wasn't that girl anymore. I ordered healthy at resturants, I went for the veggie tray at holidays. I made my planned workouts a priority and would plan stuff around them instead of skipping like I used to. Eventually they stopping watching and keeping track of what I ate in front of them, and the nasty vibe when I'd go to the bathroom after a meal went away after awhile. Now I maintain with the 15 pound loss and they aren't concerned about it. So what changed? Apparently they did.

I really like that so many of your are passive and just suggest you ignore it. I think its a good response, however, I am a firm believer that a lot of people are a-holes, and they think they can be a-holes, because no one ever calls them on it. Well I think you should call them out on it.. in FACT! I think you should make them AS uncomfortable if not MORE uncomfortable as they made you.

They don't care about your feelings, or manners or anything but themselves. They should be insulted and harshly so because, we are perpetuating a society of a-holes. Ever cut off the person that just cut off like 3 people driving in and out of lanes? I have .. and it is sweet! People think they can act like that because there is never any consequences, well it is your responsibility as a member of society to establish some level manners, boundaries and consideration with the people around you... Just saying!

so your at 185 ish...tell them to mind their own business. i'll bet you look fantastic keep ur chin up and love yourself!!

I had this comment the other day..someone said 'don't waste away'. I know I am 'only' an overweight BMI now vs. obese but I still have about 30 lbs until my goal weight.